₦airaland Forum

Mrs.Chima:
Exactly Sis! What kills me about some Black folks regardless where they are from...they think they are different because they pronounce their vowels phonetically different and toes are ultra ashy. If the World would to put a Carrib, an African, Black American, and Afro-Latin in a pool.....the first thing comes to mind is Niggas, not their respective identity.

Black is Black is Black.

this is so true, but i've always wondered if there are naturally light skinned black people, who are of 100% african origin, with not one single drop of European blood.

MsDarkSkin: Sis i could make buku money giving advice....!!

I cant tell you how many times ive recited the bolded. Its COMMON SENSE!

ikr! but also, i've heard of women who will take advantage of the lust they know the man has for her, treating him like a dog on a leash, as he pants, anticipating he "thinks" he is to receive. Like a puppet on a string, he is led allong, and he can blame no one but himself. Assuming that a woman will lay down with him because of the gifts she has received from him is insulting to a woman. in her mind, this man thinks of her as little more than a prostitute. this in turn says alot about how a man views women in general. The attitude of women in situations with men like this are "Use or be used." "Better him than me"

solomon111: @TISABONE
I hope you will not take the views of some nincoompoops parading themselves as Nigerian men on NL,as the views of all Nigerian Men.
We have over 80million Men in Nigeria,but less than 400,000 men in NL,so they do not reflect the overall views of all Nigerian Men.
I for one,have dated different races and nationalities of women ranging from WHITES,HISPANICS,AA, AFRICANS e.t.c. and i have not found them better than Nigerian women,if not worse.
Hundreds of Nigerian men,flock home from various nations of the world to get married to Naija women,after dating and dumping various kinds of women from different races of the world,converting a large number of them to baby mamas.
Does that not tell you anything?
Nigerian men,who have had the priviledge of dating the different nationalities and races of women,know that none of them can be compared to a PROPER NIGERIAN WOMAN.
That is why most of Us,just want to catch our fun,and then come back home.

hmmm this is interesting....what makes a proper nigerian woman....the type u want to marry?

cowgurl: Roll wit d embolden Tisa.

hmmmmm thats what i thought

12 inches!:
I met one girl in camp and was nice to her cos I had extra money to spend then. I didn't ask her out or anything. Jst friendship. We left camp and nw she wants me to be sending her recharge cards and buying her shawarma. A White chic won't do that. That is greed. And it's not as if her parents are poor.
Those are the the things we're talkin abt

sorry but i gotta give my honest opinion, no offense or anything, but she probably was viewing you as a trick. you were tricking on this woman who u just thought of as a friend. that was a very nice thing to do, but if you automatically start giving them money from the gate, then all respect is lost, and she sees you as nothing more than an atm machine.

it's one thing to spoil ur girl, but damnnn, why are u giving up the cash so quickly? ur behavior is the equivalent of a woman giving up the goods after the first date. u were too easy.


definition of a trick

1. . Any man who lets women use him for his wallet. It comes from the term prostitutes use to describe the men who pay them for sex.

2.
a guy who spends his HARD EARNED MONEY on girls just to get the girl to like him or approve of him... there's a difference between taking a girl on a date and being a trick. some guys start complaining about all the money they lost on a girl after trying to BUY them off...

lol u sound really psychotic.

who's heart did you u say you broke?

ovo4u: First and foremost, this topic is all about Nigerian women, so I wouldn't want to go out of the topic in other not to derain this topic, if you want us to debate on the Nigerian men, I will advice you to open a new topic. But the reason I made it indirect clear that the men also have issues to deal with on my previous post is because no one is perfect. I'm sure you know that saying. So if I had written that the Nigerian women have problems and without trying to balance it by saying we the men also have a little or one problem, then it's all seem to be exaggeration. So to make the women feel not too bad you just have to balance the simultaneous equation (so dat dem go happi small)

On the other hand in order for me to answer your last question, I think for a woman to genuinely love you right now in Nigeria without she seeing that you are loaded, your parents, or relatives have money is one of a biggest task for them but it's rarely posible and for this women to feel happy without the confort of the cash, that's one hell of another JAMB question one will ask, which I think I can't get the answer right now because no matter how much love, sex and care you show her without kobo, she will probabily cheat on you even if she loves you, because she is not blind and she must have got friends too from the society and you all know the big role the society we live in do play in our life. I stand to be corrected from the house.

Or let ask the house here: What do you think would make a Nigerian woman who genuinely loves you happy?

i dont know. im not a man.

luckgames: I am not turn the conversation around
Really
You need to call me

has ur heart ever been broken? if so, how did it make u feel?

luckgames: I call you speculation -- queen
Margaret Mead is American Cultural Anthropologist
You know what you need to do to make you a better person

what does that have to do with this topic? this isn't about me, so don't turn this conversation around. lol, nice tactic though.

luckgames: I am sorry
Great
Have a great day

u too

luckgames: I call you speculation

lol that's not my name. maybe too inquisitive, but truly, i mean no harm.

luckgames: Spectator is unacceptable
Talk to people
The things you hear in different communities Nigerian and the Caribbean
If you have first hand experience let me know

my name is not spectator. Call me Margaret Mead.

ovo4u: Sometime the truth hurts but it very obvious to say, this nigerian girls themselves know they are golddigger. Almost 80% of them will care about how much a man worth and how much she can get from him when they are in a relationship. Should I say because of poverty or greed? hmm They eat and grow big stomach and refuse to do sport, I know girls doing sport is not really that nigerian thing but they need to do something about eating and getting fat on tommy.

I'm not going to admit that we nigerian men are the best but if someone is doing something wrong and you don't correct him/her, then they will keep doing that same poo. So that why most people are trying to use this forum to change or educate the Nigeria girls. I think there is love between the nigerian men and women, if not we will just ignore them and their poo but because of this love and that we want them to change so that we have them all to ourselve, that why we have to educate them here and let them know they are wrong. On my side, I think I prefare an africa women to any other races, be it nigerian or any other type. Poster I do hope my reply helps you to comprehend why we are being harshly to our dear and lovely sisters. But I still love you guys but you guys just have to let that ego out, you know what I mean.

So are you saying that Nigerian men have issues they need to work on as well? What exactly do you think Nigerian men need to do, or not do? What do you think would make a Nigerian woman who genuinely loves you happy?

luckgames: Yes,You are very correct, there are unique issue to Nigerian interpersonal relationships between men and women
There are unique issues between Caribbean men and women( foreign people in the developed countries)
Anger about what B
I am very bless in my journey
The world would be better place without lying B like you
You think you can manipulate the world, Keep trying

so ur saying the issues you have just described have never directly affected you, and you are merely a spectator in this Nigerian mars vs. venus tug of war? has it affected people around you? what actions have occurred, and what have the reactions have you observed?

luckgames: Yes there is greedy in all society
But it come down to the ratio of greedy in all society
Bernie Madoffs is in jail
The ratio of greedy in Nigeria is very high
If Bernie Madoffs was in Nigeria, Do you think he would have been prosecuted ?
Lot of White women are supporting their husband mentality and emotionally who have loss their job
Nigerian people that is a major problem, No support
The issue here is not one size fits all concept but what is the majority ?

ok so there are issues uniquely Nigerian in interpersonal relationships between men and women. why not have an honest heart to heart. beneath anger is pain and hurt, and one would not feel pain unless the actions or opinions of a person did not truly matter. I sense Love ,thinly veiled as hatred....maybe even a cry out for attention?

Now i might be wrong, but thats just my opinion

ecolime: Real men don't abuse (physically, verbally or in whatever form) women.

well how does a real man treat a woman then?

AA's like money too, some have no scruples and will obtain it by any means necessary. I suppose, though i am not sure, that the 419 scammers have no scruples either. just as the AA drug dealers, and the AA strippers, etc have none. White people are greedy, and there are so many Bernie Madoffs. The world drug trade is controlled by the Columbians (or at least used to be) They don't care if a drug mule dies from a fatal overdose caused by balloons which burst, that these individuals have ingested, often for paltry sums. They don't care if said drug mules get caught and have to spend all the rest of their days behind bars. Then there are the brothels in India, where children are sold into prostitution, often times by their own family. I could go on and on. Greed is a trait that all humans share, no matter what race or nationality.

luckgames: You can say that but not just women
We do have some bad men too
both hands have to help wash each other for it to be clean

this isn't a phenomenon exclusive to Nigerian men and women though, but i understand a little better now. The same way AA women say all AA men are worthless and dogs, and how AA men say they're sick and tired of AA women's attitudes, and that that's the reason they date white women

how come black folks never seem to be able to get along...it doesn't seem that way with white people, asians, or hispanics.

luckgames: [/b][/color]

People's life Experience
The Bashing is coming from lot of people that live in foreign countries
Lot of things are changing not for good but bad
There are great transfer of culture form TV to Nigerian people
No it's not a mind game but people mad has hell

so basically all of the things that Nigerians, male and female, were taught go out of the window once they settle in a foreign country, and courtship is played by different rules? Women are not required to be demure, but have more freedom than ever before, so they do as they please and take what they want from men, uncaring of their feelings,leaving behind a trail of broken hearts?

DailyNews: I don't think I am irascible...ok,

oh im sorry... what i meant to say was you must think[i] I'm [/i]not irascible, because you go from telling me i have a personality problem to conversing with me. lol not that i took ur posts seriously because i dont believe you were saying those things in a malicious manner

DailyNews: Oh, did I? Don't think so darl...lol

what exactly is it that you don't think? im not sure I follow you completely.

DailyNews: @topic, again some do see NL as a medium to vent their anger on the ladies that may have hurt them in the past, as a way of belittling the ones who maybe reading & maybe to also educate/enlighten them for good...it is also possible that some use it as a personal tool/tactics to lower the esteem & respect of the Nigerian ladies for their manipulative motives...but I suggest that ladies reading such threads just take them casual & probably pick vital points to help improve on their inner beauty, which is CHARACTER to say...than arguing or engaging in e-war with guys...remember, in every rumor, there is an atom of truth they say...so use such threads to educate yourself about what Nigerian men hate & love!

Well its mean, and i now understand the hurt and pain you can cause another person with such wicked words. may god forgive us all for our loose tongues.

Also, how can a woman hurt a man? please dont think of it as a silly question, but i really know nothing of these sorts of things. and no im not asking so that i can hurt someone, i just want to know what not to do.

hmmmmm u must not think irascible after all

DailyNews: error pls...disregard...

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i love darkskinned men with beautiful eyes

Not a day goes by where I dont see a post entitled "Nigerian women are so ugly" "Why do Naija Girls have such fat stomachs" or "Nigerian women are all goldiggers" I mean im not Nigerian but I find this offensive. Why in the world are you men putting up these types of threads belittling the women? Is it some type of mind game or something to make Naija women feel worthless? Please in all seriousness i truly want an answer.

cowgurl: Crazy book by a crazy author, pls don't end up crazy as well He's gat a great movie on it too titled, 'think like a man' wit my main gurl in it, Gabrielle Union. Okay on a serious note gurl, I nid u 2 believe in ur hrt of hrts dat watever challenges u'v bin up against won't last forever okay, dy exist 2 mak us stronger, taller & wiser. So u'l b fyn, js kip believin in our Maker cos He neva disappoints n wil neva will.

i see u understand the struggle sista. the only being i look to is god and only god. i know that he will never leave or forsake me. thankyou so much for ur encouraging words!!!

DailyNews: @OP, reading through your post & comments on people's view & advice that u asked for, tells me that u are:
1. Too young & immature
2. You have a personality character problem u need to work on to cope with people.
3. You are too pompous & overrated...in this context I mean u over-rate urself to be too good than others, why?
4. You have a running mouth, and too pompous to apologize to people u hurt, like u used harsh words & fast judgment o n Mrbrown, yet, the guy stayed calm & u still kept pressing on without rendering an apology, thats very bad a character coming from someone who calls herself a christian.
5. You seem to be attracted to only bad guys cos u have in built bad trait which sends signals to only bad folks & picks signals from same group
6. You judge people a lot, which Bible definitely condemned, so refrain from such attitude pls, cos no one is better than others, cos if u attain same exposure they attained to be as bad as u see them, then u may turn to devil, so be careful how u judge others cos u may be good cos u have less exposure towards evil & immoral things.


Finally @topic, flee, let the man find himself a divorced lady or a single mother to cope with or he should start fixing back his life by turning to Christ Jesus, so I would advice u that before u leave him, try & counsel him, help him get saved in Chris Jesus, and help him become a committed Christian, that maybe ur last or first chance of winning a soul for Christ, good luck dear.

so basically what ur saying is that I attract bad people because i myself am a bad person? looks like ur the one judging me. God bless you.

i play the violin, but i want to take piano lessons. A woman at my church teaches the piano, she's booked right now, so I can't take them until August. I sing too, and I have Sonar on my computer, so I make instrumentals on that program. I guess you could say I love everything about music!!!