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i have nairaland pms. the message says to check my email address. im assuming they mean the one that i signed up to the site with. but when i go to that email address, there are no pm's or messages. what is going on? |
i see what you mean mzdarkskin. thanks to everyone who answered my question!! |
Royal-VII:EXACTLY!!!! which is why i had to turn around and tell him no. some people on here say that i am immature and that i need to grow up....and i don't agree with this, but i do know that i need to figure out what i need and what i want before going for the first guy who shows me some sort of interest....and to be honest....im probably not ready for a relationship....which is alot more than most would admit to, because so many people are in such a rush to get into something serious. so when a woman doesn't fit this stereotype that says she should be desperate, all of a sudden, something is wrong with her. smh..... plus on top of that, he could have been a drug dealer, which the more i think about it, the more that i realize that that could be the case. i REALLY dont need that in my life.....but maybe he wasn't. i do agree with some of the posts stating that i judged him. yes, i did pre-judge him, which is what i regret about the situation. but at the end of the day, i have certain standards...but that doesn't mean that he still wasn't a nice person and that we at least could have been friends. you can't win with some people in this world.....i have been called everything from a sl--t to a gold digger... to unchristian. lol. the LIAR is hard at work again i see. but i can't expect people of the world to understand me, because as a christian, i am out of this world. we christians are on a whole another level than gentiles, therefore, i don't expect understanding from those who do not steep themselves in the word, trying their hardest to obey the doctrines of jesus christ, the only living and true savior. but i know that i have, and will continue to make mistakes, therefore i welcome correction, if i know that it is for my own good. "the beginning of knowledge is the fear of the lord. fools despise wisdom and instruction." - Proverbs 1:7 HEY msdarkskin and cowgurl!!!!!!!!!! how ya'll been doing? |
Jah Man: @TisaBone,lol when a woman loves herself then she is arrogant? yeah right. i just know my worth......but i didn't always....so now im very proud of myself. i have come a long way from the out of control teen that i used to be. why shouldn't i proclaim my vow? I want everyone to know what i have vowed, so that if i were to fail ( which i refuse to do) then it would be out in the open. because what ever is done in the darkness always comes to light. and i was never one to shy away from the limelight. ![]() and this thread is very important because men need to know that just because they have a little money does not mean that a woman can be bought. not all women have dollar signs in their eyes... so first and foremost, no matter if he is of ample means or not, he must first be a man.--a good man. and finally...there is no way i could tell my family or friends this because they would all call me boo boo the fool. but thats because they are sack chasers. and i dont have to seek their advice because i can see where it has landed them....with absolutely nothing at the end of the day. my cousin was in a six year long relationship with the dopeman.....he had plenty of money....but where is he at now? in prison....now he is trying to convince her to have a jailhouse wedding, that way he does not have to do his 20 year sentence alone. |
Jah Man: @TisaBone,lol when a woman loves herself then she is arrogant? yeah right. i just know my worth......but i didn't always....so now im very proud of myself. i have come a long way from the out of control teen that i used to be. why shouldn't i proclaim my vow? I want everyone to know what i have vowed, so that if i were to fail ( which i refuse to do) then it would be out in the open. because what ever is done in the darkness always comes to light. and i was never one to shy away from the limelight. ![]() |
OK=2=NV:are you the type of man who prefers them young and dumb? that way its easier to run weak game? that an older woman would balk at, laughing in your face before going on her merry way? |
DailyNews: I am impressed a lot...thumbs up if u are writing this from deep down your heart & with the true fear of God....then do not panic cos u will surely find a deserving mate, just keep being real, make yourself visible to those kind of guys u desire, do not be pompous, cos such men disgust such ladies, do not be arrogant, dress moderately cute & not amorous or too exposing....be committed in the things of God, do not take away prayer...& flee from bad & wrong female friends...they ruin lives...do not even take or heed to their counsel....your dream man will surely locate u sooner...but focus more on your academics/career & forget about men for now & let it come naturally at its own ripe time. don't be intimated by what guys may tell u here, just filter then & take the good counsels & use others to educate yourself. Goodluck dear....I am so much impressed to hear a Nigerian lady say all these. But lastly, do away with material quest, greed & self gratification, they have landed so many one-time innocent good girls into big mess that ruined their lives! Remember, it mustnt be all about money even though comfort is vital...but let not money be your criteria for selection if u truly want to get that ur dream man who would treat u like a queen u are!DailyNews, Thankyou so much for your positive feedback. you see, it is not my intention to brag or see what it is that other people think---not unless they are providing me with positive feedback and constructive criticism. I just seek to stay on the right path, but also, I realize, that because I am young, I do not know everything there is to know about life. and where else to garner this knowledge, than from people who have lived in this world longer than I? Also, I hate to burst your bubble, but I am an an African American who joined this board out of admiration for Nigerian culture, and the strong values that many of you seem to possess, such as in family matters, and religion, often times lacking in mainstream American culture. Anyhow, your kind and informative words are very much appreciated, and I indeed will heed them, because they are wise words from a wise man. |
OK=2=NV:lol why must men that all women become desperate after a certain age? u men are just good at trying to convince us to feel that way. i pray that the lord finds me a sacred mate, but i REFUSE to be a fool, be used, or take crap from anyone. if i follow what i vowed to god, which was to stay celibate until i marry, and to never date any man over seven years older than me, i believe that i will save myself plenty of trouble. twice in two days time, i have been tested on the things that i said that i would not do. and i passed them. this is only the beginning as the deceiver only comes to kill steal and destroy. It's hard trying to do the the right thing, but i know that my rewards will be abundant and overflowing! God is my provider!! |
DailyNews: From listening & mixing with ladies of different class- poor, rich, average, I can tell the following y u turned him down:i am in no way insecure. im a quite a pretty woman, im just tired of old dirty men trying to take advantage of younger women!! besides, I want a young, flyy guy around my own age. |
Mynd_44: Why don't you just put a dog in the story? Maybe then I will not be this aggressivewhat in the world are you over there babbling about??/ ![]() |
mcnepow: U turned down a guy pushing a benz OR u turned down a guy way too old for you??both. he was too old, although i was tempted to give him my phone number. perhaps if he could afford the car note on it, then maybe he would have been able to take me nice places and do nice things for me. but then i reminded myself that all that glitters is not gold. usually older men always either have a wife or girlfriend at and the only thing a young woman could ever be to them was a plaything, then they go back home. im not in the mood to get my feelings hurt. plus, just because he has money, does not mean he would have been generous with it. so in my eyes it was a lose/lose situation. |
and all of you men on nairaland say that women are gold diggers. I must admit, it was mighty tempting, but he told me his age and i flipped. at 23, a 34 year old man is way too old for me. but for some reason i feel like i did something wrong, or that i should have given him a chance. but at the same time, this gives me the strength to resist other men. I can always tell them "look, i turned down a guy who was pushing a mercedes, what makes you think that I would put up with your mess?" on the other hand im scolding myself. What is wrong with me!!! I feel like im self sabotaging or something. |
I wanna say thankyou to my dearly departed grandpa Mitch, for setting an example for me, of how a person with morals and dignity are to conduct themselves. Grandpa, you taught me how to stand tall on my own two feet. You showed me the meaning of unconditional love. You did what you didn't have to do, and raised me, in the twilight years of your life, when you should have been relaxing and chillin. Yet you loved me, and you kept your promise. You made it until I turned eighteen, and then your job was done. I miss you terribly. Although you are not here physically anymore, you are forever in my heart. love is something that never dies. |
[quote author=OK=2=NV][/quote]go read some smut then!!! my intention was not to s--xually arouse. |
forget it! you guys think this is a joke when it's not!! ![]() |
Mynd_44: I wish I could hate on you out of jealousy but what you wrote up there is just silly(I read it again). It does not include anyone taking his dog which puts this in the range of false advertisement and the story is just off. Please edit/modify it or just write another oneshe took HER dog. he has another dog that is his. and how is my situation silly? |
we didn't really do anything. he just ground his jeremiah against my cathy, aka dry f--g, but i pushed him off of me. |
190: he should lure the dog back home with BONE!!come on you guys! this is serious! just remember the next time YOU need advice. Don't get mad when u get the same type of silly responses, when what you need is help. |
Mynd_44: Yeah. And this story sucks. The OP is not a writer but at least you should be able to articulate your thoughts nah. Nonsenseit's not a story....but since u think of it that way, you must be intimidated by my literary prowess. that's alright though because haters do nothing but motivate me to stay on top of my game and continue to take strides to make myself even more of a success than I already am, so that my name rolls off of people's tongue, the bitter taste of envy choking the person utters my name. Don't Hate! |
OK=2=NV:lol of course i am a female! why would you think that i was not? |
....now he wants to pick up where we left off. Me and this guy I was involved with ended things on a really bad note. for a full year we didn't talk. for a little while I hated his guts for how he treated me, but as I grew and matured, I realized that I had to take responsibility as well for the direction the relationship eventually took. Anyhow, we have a mutual friend. Me and him decided to go to the Marriot to see about renting a hall b/c he wants to have a party. It was a total setup, because I had no clue that this guy I dealt with worked there. We walked around and he showed us different rooms, and we eventually ended up outside outside, where there is this beautiful waterfall, and marble gazebo. We just sat and chilled for a little while. I was quiet, and just listened to their conversation. Jawanza (our mutual friend) wanted to wait for him to get off work, so that we could chill. I was like, whatever, it's time for me to forgive him, because i dont want him to think that I still care that much about him to still be angry. Before we left, Jawanza came out with a vase of flowers from the hotel counter and was like Chris said to take these. I thought it was really tacky, but at the same time it tickled me. all of us went over his house and played video games and sang and rapped. Finally, we went outside and walked the dog, and he sent Jawanza home. I knew what was up, but I kind of did want to talk to him. To be honest, I missed him alot, and was really hurt by his lies and deceit. I chose not to talk about the past, and of course he tried me, and was like "what are you trying to do" I said absolutely nothing. He tried to kiss and feel all over me, and I told him "No!!" really forcefully. He just smiled, but afterwards, he kept his hands to himself. For the remainder of the time that we chilled, we laughed and joked, and I could never remember us having that much fun when we were kicking it before. But then he had to ruin it. I went up to go to the bathroom, and when I come back out, he picks me up, and throws me on the couch, and starts grinding on me, and I must confess I was completely turned on by his aggressive behavior, but then I caught myself just in time, and pushed him off of me, and then went home. He'll be back, this much I know, but he knows about my new life, and that I am a Christian, and no, I dont plan on going to his house, because he obviously can't behave himself. How do I maintain control of this situation? What steps can I take to keep from giving in, maintain my dignity, and for him to respect me? Im not sure if I want him in the same way that I wanted him before, but I can't deny that the sexual attraction is still there. I am extremely apprehensive, because what if he and his girl get back together? Where does that leave me? Should I just walk away, and leave it alone? What does he truly want from me? Is he just biding his time thinking that he will eventually get sexual gratification? I am so confused!!!!!!!!!!!!! |
queensmith: abi, they dont even know what they want. She should be a porn actress and at the same time love the sex? Because they told him that porn is meant for women. They think beating a woman for 10minutes is good sexx? Dont worry he will soon learn. He can marry a prostitute but I don't know how far that will take him if he doesnt like her work!lol. what nerve! they want an energizer playboy bunny, but they tire after round 1, then roll over and go to sleep! |
fellis: Qualities I want in a wife:one time i read a book, and the man said he couldn't stand the thought of his wife blowing him with the same mouth that kisses his children. which leads me to believe that if a woman is spectacular in bed, (one that you consider wife material) then the next thing you know, you will be wondering how she got to be so good in bed. then you will start to get insecure, wondering who and how many she has been with before you. then you will start pressing for the answers, knowing that you really dont want the truth. then you will start making accusations that are unfounded. and then she will be a heaux in your eyes. what you want is a girlfriend. because im pretty sure that u would not be comfortable with your wife being a freak, and instead would go get your needs met by someone else. hell, everyone knows my journey in maintaining my celibacy, abstaining from sex until marriage, and im accused of being a nymphomaniac for thinking about sex!!! It's as if a woman isn't supposed to want to get laid as much as a man, when ![]() |
fellis: Qualities I want in a wife: |
fellis: Qualities I want in a wife: |
fulaman is 100 percent right. at the end of the day whites don't care where you are from. the more education you have, the more willing they are to tolerate you, but at the end of the day, you are still a n***a to them. this does not go for all whites though, but for the whites who have superiority complexes. it would also be a grave mistake to believe that any white person is your friend |
when i worked in sales talking on the phone trying to convince people to buy stuff, every single time i ever talked to a man, he would always say "i have to ask my wife first, i can' sign up/buy this without her permission." So one day, i outright asked one man "I thought u were the man of the house, you don't need your wife's permission." and he replied "You don't know my wife!" So i think that men act like they wear the pants in a relationship when actually i think its the other way around. men don't mind taking the passenger seat as long as nobody knows! also, i myself dont want a submissive man, i just want a sweet man, who is gentle, loving, attentive, and caring, and doesn't have to prove every five seconds that he's this alpha male, continuously beating on his chest and roaring to prove that he is in charge. |
joeydozzy: Op there's an examplebut amusing nonetheless |
why would anyone want to have a relationship with someone who knows nothing about life? that's what "innocence" means to me. i think they would be a bore to be around. except in certain cases, where a man intentionally goes after a younger woman, for precisely that very reason. she knows nothing about life, therefore it is easier to run his weak game on her, and mold her into his dream woman. as far as what type of hold an innocent man would have on a woman? honestly ive never heard of a woman ever preying upon the innocence of a man, because thats not what women want. at least thats not what i want. |



. [b]She must want it as much as I do [/b]and be an expert at it, although I also want her to be a decent and well-behaved person, but somehow I still want her to be a p[i]o[/i]rnstar in bed.