i think that a relationship started online has a better chance of surviving if the goal is not to start a romantic relationship. say for instance the intitial purpose is for networking purposes, and then an attraction develops from there.

I've heard it said that men cheat cheat for no particular reason at all, but just because they can. Women cheat because they are not getting the attention that they need at home.

If this is the case, why so people say love is blind?

I'm talkin to you buffy.

No disrespect at all, but um... Seriously u are coming across as very bitter like someone who you catered to (like a real man should) hurt you badly.

U Don't have to confirm or deny what i. Have just said, but if my hypothesis is correct, you need to get past that hurt and pain, because if you come across a female who is more deerving of that presidential treatment, you may end up Mis-TREATING her instead of giving her what she rightly deserves from u . I beg of u to quit thinking so negatively. Not all women are the same, and although few and far between, good women actually exist out there. Don't you forget that daddy.

MsDarkSkin: "It's tha thuggish ruggish boooone!"
what up Tisa? lol missed you hun...

*off to read replies*

Lmao!!!!!! U are stupid!!! But Just been maintaining while at the same time thriving
in this real, dirty, sexy world. Switching it up from grinding, to chilling. Living life to the fullest, takin it day by day while formulating a master plan!


I missed u too mami. And I'm glad to be back in our favorite little virtual reality called nairaland!!!!

when i say I will love and cherish a man who provides and does what I need him to do for me, ( cooking, cleaning, etc.) he will always know he is appreciated, and he will receive a simulated love that will feel just like the real thing.

But a question to all people who are in their thirties and beyond...... Is it wrong to love what a person does for you, and because they do what they do, you show them love, but you are unable to actually feel that deep of an emotion? After all being in love doesn't sound like much fun.......Idk...... Just sayin......

Also, it depends on the type of person that you are dating. It is the responsibility of both parties to feel one another out, to discern whether they possess qualities such as selfishness, whether they are ungrateful, and so on and so forth. These personality traits will obviously put up a red flag as to whether your love, affection, and attentive nature will be truly appreciated. If you still jump into A relationship with a selfish person, knowing full and well that that is how they are and always will be, then the fault lies with you and only you, if at the end of the day you end up feeling used up and drained dry,

2buff:

Because it happened "the other day". If this happens often enough you would take it for granted.
Unless you're one of those 30-ish+ year old women I talked about earlier who may have the maturity needed to appreciate such things from their men.

2buff I did not have the desire to read through all of the posts , just wanting to add my two cents. I get what u are saying because as time wears on a lot of people do tend to take the things done for them by people who love them for granted. But you see , I am not the type who could do such a thing for the simple fact that once a person comes in contact with someone real after years with posers, you never want to go back to being treated a way that you know that you don't deserve.

Besides, although I'm twenty three and he is twenty five, both of us have been through a lot, and are not for games. This is a real man I'm dealing with, and I would never mess a good thing up.

And lastly, I could definently appreciate a man who caters to his woman, living only to make her happy, because i myself was raised by a phenomenal man whose only desire was to put a smile on my face. He cooked, he cleaned, and if he did not feel like making dinner that day, even if he was out running errands, by the time I would come home from school, a meal from one of my favorite restaurants would be waiting for me. ( as a kid I was partial to quiznos subs. Lol.

The point I am trying to make is that I enjoy this type of treatment, was raised on it, and a man who fits the description will get shown nothing but love and appreciation for me. I would always love and cherish him, and he would never feel as though "mission:make my woman happy" is all for naught, and in vain.

ayosmiles: I used to have this girlfriend I loved so much that I would go to her place, sleepover and cook her breakfast. On weekends I would help her tidy her room before takin her out. When she left me, I thought she felt I was too attached but now she's back beggin me to come back, sayin she made a mistake and no guy could care 4 her like me.

Guys, is it wise to do those things for your woman? Girls, will you appreciate a guy that does that?

i don't think that there is anything wrong with it at all. a male who caters to his woman is the ultimate man. he is secure enough in himself to know that cooking and cleaning does not make him any less of a man, but that taking care of his woman ensures that she is happy. if his woman is happy and pleased, she in turn will do her best to please him back.

I got cooked breakfast the other day, and the gesture was very sweet and clued me in to what was in store if I play my cards with this particular guy. A man such as the one described in this post wants his woman to depend on him totally, fulfilling all of her needs, so that she will want no other but him.

190: There is no better way of having a lady stay committed to you

except via BEATING!!

I advice using BELT!!

and the saddest thing about this post is that he is probably so serious.

funny, but i've read no mention of emotional abuse, which is just as damaging to a woman.

hey, online friends are fun to make. i had me a little online boyfriend who sent me money for my birthday one time. he was crazy though, and ran a background check on me and found out where i lived. that was kinda scary. i'll never do that again

Even If a person is not attractive, if they. Feel good about themselves it makes me want to give them the time or day. A positive person who is not necessarily good looking but loves. and accepts themselves is indeed beautiful

i've done some soul searching and have admitted to myself that the reasons for my actions go beyond wht i initially thought them to be. anyhow, i just came on here to talk it out..... u guys shouldn't be so harsh on me though. if it weren't for the crazy akatas, (moi, ms.chima, and mzdarkskin (i think she akata )this whole forum would be dead!!!

Despicable-VII:


Now that sounds mature and Intelligent....

So what is your justification for not giving that man a chance to "prove" his worth as a human being?...

You did not give him a chance, solely based off your prejudice criteria regarding "guys with nice cars"...

Do you see the ways of your Error?

...The homeless man living on the street




....And the man who owns a G6 Private Jet....should get the equal opportunity.

..But let's be real...how many of you sisters honestly truly feel that way?...LmL

he was 34, im 23, and he was too old for me. the last time i ended up liking an older man, my cousin told me all about him, and that he was a married womanizer

a man's net worth is not important. i am more concerned with his worth as a human being.

it doesn't matter how you spelled it, you still called me a b--tch. and you have also said some other horrible things on here to me in this thread. i usually dont respond to people like you, but i just have to tell you what a despicable person you are.


......waits for the ignorance to continue......

Royal-VII:
This woman took 3 dayz out of her life to go onto the internet and discuss this man's car.

As if this is her Life accomplishment and most prestigious achievement in her 39 years on this earth

..Meanwhile the dude who drove the car is riding around somewhere and probably does not even remember Talking to this betch. LmL

and here i was trying to give you the benefit of the doubt, and now im a b---tch.

whatever,.....god bless u too.

Royal,

how in the world have u racked up 200+ posts in less than a week?

booqee: yeah right? ur post is not only silly but stewpid as well, no offience.
Are u saying dat if a young 26year old 'bill gate', even with a good behaviour and character comes to toast u, you'll say because u don't get swayed by material tinz and wealth, u would shove him off like a trash can? huh? C'mon babe stop deceiving urself, Or are u dat addicted to poverty??
so in essence wat ur saying is dat if a young dude of lets say about 26years with good character but no cash, infact very poor, comes looking for ur attention, toasting u. U go gree for am abi?! Simply because he's young like you and he's got a good behaviour tisabone i fink you musta been high on cheap weed b4 posting dis. Walahi!

If it was a bentley, you'd probably have gone to CNN to broadcast it? huh? Dis is pure shitz dat you've posted on nl oh, cos i don't know what u want me to do about it, i should give u a standing ovation cos u turned a benz guy down?! i'm only wondering how it made front page. Mtcheww.....

yes i would, if he is trying to get somewhere in life, if he is trying to pull himself out of poverty, the answer is yes.


but if i meet a man who is already established, and is a nice god fearing man, then he has a chance as well.

money is not the issue here....its the content of a person's character.

many men think that cars, clothes, and jewels give them that extra edge with women, and that is correct, it does, but just because u have these material possessions does not mean that a person will automatically put up with any crap that this person throws their way, just because of these things.


although too many women do just that, staying in emotionally and physically abusive relationships with a "rich" man, who gives her black eyes, and the latest christian louboutins.... at the end of the day. its not worth it....


but i know the real reason why for the most part, its men giving me a hard time about this post....

men like to think that they have power over women. and now that i am a woman saying that the amount of money or material things a person has does not matter, then i am taking away a certain type of man's power. The type of man who values the things he has, and believes that in order to get the woman he wants, he has to have these things to impress her.

i have taken away that power.

if that is not going to impress a woman, then what will?

i mean, my d--k is small (don't get mad if this applies to you).....what else do i have to offer??


how about love

compassion

warmth

sincerity

these are the things that a woman really wants....


at least that is what a woman who is not a selfish gold digger wants.

ZUBY77:

what else are u if not the things u mentioned above?

Why do ugly girls always put up this morality crap?

a human being is what a woman is.

pro01:
That is the best part about being a rich or even fairly comfortable man: options galore! You get women aplenty. . .if this one says no, the next (more beautiful) one down that same street is all too willing and happy to jump on your diamond-encrusted d.i.c.k. No man can get every woman. Not even P.Diddy can get EVERY girl he sets eyes on.

Only emotional wussies would waste time bemoaning one ugly duckling that prices herself out of the market. . .when thousands of[b] premium females [/b]around the corner are begging to get your attention. In any case, I've noticed that the hottest and most desirable chicks are often the easiest catches for rich guys. The less fortunate ducklings often try to over-compensate for their inadequacies by putting up a fake veneer of morality and 'hardness' and all that.

you speak of women as though they are merchandise instead of human beings....which alot of of men see us as....a trophy, a prize, a breeder, a child-bearer, something to hop on top of at night and mas---turbate inside of.....a punching bag.....everything except a woman just as deserving of the satisfaction and contentment that all men seek. let me hear about a man settling for something THEY dont want....yet it is almost a given that a woman should be "grateful" and "thankful" that any man shows her attention.

everybody needs somebody.....but NOBODY should put up with BS just so that they can proudly proclaim " I have a man" which is what a lot of women do, because they fear loneliness.

women, we are better than that....we need to focus on our OWN wants and needs. its about them pleasing us, treating us right, proving to us that they are worthy....not the other way around.

because as we say in the AA community. " I can do bad all by myself."

yes, i am a real woman, an upstanding citizen, god fearing,and i won't settle either. rich or poor, black or white, if i don't have a good feeling about him, he does not get the benefit off the doubt. animals in the wild dont give predators the benefit of the doubt. no, when they sense danger, they run for the hills. that nice looking "catch" could very well be a wolf in sheeps clothing. i trust nothing except god and the instincts that he has gifted me with. he was not the one. and i was not going to let the shiny veneer sway me from making the right decision for ME.

my post isn't silly. let this be a lesson to all men out there, that just because u have the bling and the right cars, and mansions, don't expect a real woman to fall at your feet worshipping you like some GOD. not all women are gold diggers, and a man must have more to bring to the table than just his bank account. he treated me with disrespect. it was very subtle, but he was disrespectful all the same, as if he expected me to say how high when he said jump. forget all that!!! i have my own, no matter if its more or less than the next person, and im not going to sweat anyone over their material possessions. i dont care if bill gates wanted my number, if he was not about the right, i would just as quickly send him on his way too.

Scash: sorry, anoda question. Why did you ask for his age? Someone you just met.
I put it to you that you are tellin a lot of lies on this thread

i asked his age because i wanted to see if he fit into my seven year rule. plus i wanted to ask him on the spot, so that he would not have time to make up a lie, or if he was lying, because he was caught off guard, there would be a little hesitation.

lol....lies? again i ask, to impress who?

according to you guys my story isn't all that spectacular anyway........but wait!!!!!! its up to over 6000 views!!!! quite a boring tale!!!

oh yea,

and the more i think about it, the happier i become with my decision.

he approached me when i was in my car, and told me to take down HIS number.

after i asked his age, i tried to explain my reasoning, and he totally cut me off before i had given him my full explanation....


he had two strikes against him

the third (his age) took the cake.

MsDarkSkin: Tisa, I'm doing good girl. Where/how you been?

BTW Sis, take my advice >>> don't even respond to some folks on this thread.

When some people "cyber dislike/hate" you, NOTHING you do or say will change their opinions of you. They are bitter to be bitter. You said what you said for open dialogue. If they want to judge you BECAUSE THEY HAVE NOTHING BETTER TO DO,
then make it be THEIR problem and their problem only.

as for the topic: Big ups to you for ignoring that shallow hal.

i've maintaining. same story, different day. lol.

its amusing to me that now people are questioning the validity of my stories and saying that they are a figment of my imagination. lol. that is soooo gay to lie on a faceless forum...i mean really, who does that, and whom am i trying to impress even if i were?

everyday to me is a new, exciting experience, and me, being the natural story teller that i am, share my adventures with others...my life is literally an open book.

so many people are constantly trying to hide their true colors. and to a certain extent, i understand why. people will always have something negative to say, so alot of people dont want to put themselves on front, stage, and center, lest they find themselves ridiculed. but as long as you stay true, and stand by what you say, and accept who you are, who cares what a hater has to say. this is my life, and im gonna live it to the fullest. if you have input, whether positive or negative, im going to absorb it, discard the bs, retain useful knowledge, and keep going with the ebbs and flows of life. I keep it 100 percent. im not hiding behind some fake internet persona. I'm real, undiluted, uncut.


hate me or love me!!! the choice is urs!!!