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I watched it too and I thought I was the only one that was pissed off by the show of shame . They even wore the same ankara - party members I imagined them to be. The same people whose children couldn't go to school for close to two months because their teachers were on strike for insufficient wages. Stupid lots, trading the future of their children, living and unborn! I weep for this nation

ifyalways:
A woman desperate to have a child wouldnt see tru these your points.

In the last one week I've made contact with some orphanages and I found out that every registered orphanage has  longer list of intending adopters than available children. In order words, the desire to own a child supercedes destractor's side comments.That's a good one . 

The process is a bit tasking though (after all it takes 9months to be pregnant with own baby ) - registration with child welfare ministry and all the stuff. 

One of their clauses I disagree with  is that 'single women are not permitted to adopt'. It's good to want the child to grow within a father-mother family setting, but what about those whose husbands divorced for childlessness? Or a woman who never married but still wants to have a child she can call her own?

aisha2:
Most Nigerians and even Christains are just hypocrytes. You adopt, so what? WHy lie or change environment. God ways are perfect. Cant we uderstand that he made some kids without parents and some parents without kids so they could be a balance, so people could adopt and love those kids?

Aisha, it's sadly  not as you think! That't why I have the clause 'The Nigerian Factor'
You may chose to do what you believe is right, but by our culture here 'you are not just on your own'.Some 'elders' will want to know why you brought a 'bastard' into their son/brother's home . That's part of  why widows in certain parts of the country are made to shave their hair and go through horrible things as part of tradition, even in this age .


I also believe a child should be told when she becomes mature enough to understand.

Fineguy, you read my mind. Just the point I was trying to make.

@Poster, from others' contributions so far you ought to have returned the money by now.
Like several others have said, the error will DEFINITELY be discovered, and  soon too. I also think  it's better you draw your organization's attention to it before it's found out, anyhow you choose to, just initiate it. Let me share a friend/colleague's experience with you. We worked in a bank and her salary account was credited twice in one month. She withdrew everything and went on a shopping spree. She did not deem it fit to tell me or anybody else. The following month the error was detected and a strongly worded Memo was issued to her asking her to refund the excess asap or else, !   It was then she wanted to take a loan from me and  If not for God I wouldn't have helped her as I considered her greedy. So, dear one, uphold your integrity. They MAY or MAY NOT  retain you after your service year, it's not all about reward/compensation.  To me, what matters is a clear conscience.

Hi Kathy,
How's the going? Well done oh! I have these questions:

Folic  acid is usually recommended to women trying to conceive, (before and after conception) in order to prevent the baby from having neural tube defect, just suppose someone did not take it before getting pregnant, is the baby bound to have the defect?   


(2) Can a woman who suddenly discovers she's pregnant   increase the dose from the recommended 1 tablet to 2 or more to make up for the missed one? Thanks for being there.

Yes, change environment is it! At least for immediate neighbours. Not only for the couple but for the child's sake.

What actually made me post this topic was the death of 2 women who lost their lives during childbirth recently. It was their first and they were 43 and 45 respectively. The baby of one survived and the other died with her baby . The two were not connected in any way, one was a neighbour and the other a distant relation. It then occured to me that if Nigerians can reason like them in the Western world, women wouldn't have to risk their lives having a biological child at all cost when they can adopt. They will be fulfilled and at the same time give the lives of the eartswhile motherless children a meaning.

Mustay:
too much of touching wid dirty hands

I'd rather do it on my micro

Me too, I do it  at homeon my own or select my plantain and watch the woman do it from beginning to the end!! Yes o, too much of touching with dirty hands .

Mama Boli's hand will take charcoal, peel plantain, turn the boli on fire, collect money (dirty Naira notes ), pick nose and wipe sweat.

Conductor will branch, touch, haggle and leave it unbought. Another person that just peed by the corner without washing his hands will also touch 3 and end up buying 1.  Ijekuje, emi ko!!

I'm sure we have all at one time or the other (even if only in our minds) advised a childless couple after years of waiting to 'go and adopt a child'. Easy as it is to suggest, I don't think it's that easy to implement, especialy by a Nigerian living in Nigeria. You know what I mean?, This is an environment where you're not just on your own

So, after all protocol has been observed and the child is finally brought home, how will the couple tackle the underlilsted challenges:

If they chose to have a newly born (which I personally would prefer), would they tell everyone around them it was adopted or act as if 'madam just born'?

If the child has grown a bit before he's adopted, will Madam say 'oh, he's my little nephew and will be staying with us' or simply 'I adopt him' .

Family members (especially the man's), should they be told the truth?

Church Members (who had been looking forward to hearing their testimonies), how would they be informed?

Neighbours, how many of them will you tell the truth and what will you tell the others?Trust some 'nosy neighbours', they can say a lot of things behind you and conclude you actually stole or bought the child while at the same time appear nice to you!

The challenges are numerous, I could only put down some. Please let's thrash this issue by adding the likely challenges you can imagine and let's also profer solution to them.
Bless you.

Thanks for being there, Surgeon/Krush.
Glad to say that all those random pains have disappeared just the way they came. Though the thigh pain is still there but I've deliberately removed my mind off it. Generally, feel a lot better now. Am most grateful, brother. May God reward your labour of love. Cheers

titi4eva@gmail.com

May the good Lord heal the baby. amen

I wish you goodLUCKY

, quote Surgeon ,
, Well, remember the nerves of pain are found in areas of the body tissues that can then be traced backwards to the Spinal-cord at the centre, whence it travels up the Spinal-cord to the brain where the stimulus is registered as conscious pain. The fact therefore is that any damage along any point of this Nerve pathway, could then be interpreted by the brain or "felt" as though coming from the source of the nerve ends i.e. the body tissue.

Your damaged Nerve branch/bundle, was actually coming from your thigh tissue area, hence the brain assumed the pain was coming from there.

Time will definitely re-oganise the injury and heal you up. How is the pain today? 

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@ Surgeon, thanks a bunch. My condition has taken an alarming turn. After my post at this forum I visited a teaching hospital where I was asked to do Urinalysis (Appearance – Draw, Others – Negative), Widal (Insignificant), WBC (48%), and  MP (Negative). I was referred to Physio Dept and the doctor’s assessment was  close to yours. He said he would treat my back/waist and the painful thigh would go with time. Ive been going for weekly therapy and have even  bought a lumbar support.

My condition has worsened instead of improving and I now have  an intermittent menthol-like feeling on my back even if I’d  not rubbed  balm for days! I have occasions of rheumatic-kind of pain on my hands and legs, arms and neck. My wrists are a bit swollen and the doctor prescribed Gflox and Provimin. I now suffer dull headache which wasn’t there when it all started. I have random  pinching sensations in my body and I don’t know why. Meanwhile, the pain on the thigh still persists and is even more severe!

My question is “isn’t there further trouble-shooting that I can do to detect the cause of these conditions?”  The doctor I saw at LASUTH  said Ive done all the tests I should and a nurse friend concurs but I still believe there’s more to be done. I’ve hitherto been a very healthy woman and it’s obvious something is wrong somewhere.  Someone should help me please.

PS: _{Because am in my early 40s, I google searched 'menopause', the symptoms appeared similar, I beg, I never born o}

Most of those 'fallings' are hoax. It's only a few that are real. How have I been able to differentiate? When a minister begins to predict the kind of feeling you will experience after he prays, like: 'the holy spirit is here now, some of you will feel electricity, some will feel like ice water is being poured on you', etc, then be careful! When the minister begins to push you, if you fall it's a hoax. A spirit-filled minister of God needs not touch you before you will fall, that is if you must.

Has anyone ever noticed children rarely fall under the anointing? And pastors don't bother to push (force) them (they fit spoil show ).

And like someone has posted earlier, in most cases its the same set of people that fall all the time. By the way, what's the essence of the fall anyway? I tire o!

kikik:
i had 2 surgical abortions in the past 4 months and i`m not willing to go through the same prosedure.Can you please advice me on any herbs i can use to have a safe abortion.I suspect i should be 2 weeks pregnant as my breasts are getting swollen and i have a metallic taste in my mouth.I used a condom but it somehow leaked and i just don`t know why i`m getting pregnant every time i have sex.

Thank you

_{OMG! What some folks are looking for is the same some other peeps are geting rid off!. God, wither are thine eyes}?

candy:
How about calling every woman who is older than you aunty and every male uncle even when they are not in any way related to your parents

Bifo nko? You want to call them by name? Abomination!!! Words like 'uncle, aunty, brother and sister' have been borrowed from English and have come to stay. Besides, can't you call your mum's friend or your friend's Mum 'Mummy'? Are you related biologically? A-beg, no-tosh-tradition o

atutupoyo:
This sun is firing me,
One Ice cold water.

Yes o, plus "ice water tutu re" (ice is 'tutu' in Yoruba so that is tautology)!


If I borrow you my book when will you return it back to me? (using borrow in place of lend)

What's return back?

I will 'sound' you now you will cry!

Kathy, Thanx for the enlightenment.

KarmaMod:
Hello Kathy

I see you asked someone whether they you pantyliners in regards to their question about candasis. Are you implying that using them causes that?

I also need clarification on that. Does use of panty liners cause infection? Thanks.

This is one thread that should not 'die'.

solu4u:
i think prevention is better and cheaper than cure

@solu4u, how, in definite terms, can one prevent cancer in general?

@aisha2, are the vaccines available in Nigeria now? Pls update us.Thanks

This is a nice one. In other words, chewing pawpaw seeds regularly may keep typhoid fever at bay.

@Pip lord
@Dapo4u,
Thanks guys. A doctor at the hospital where I had the injection also mentioned something like nerve injury/inflamation and that it would go with time.

@Gentle Jack
@Pip lord,
The same doctor was reluctant to tell me the name of the injection. He suspected I might want to make trouble, who wouldn't?

Another doctor (at another hospital)  had earlier given me atesunate which I refused to take having just treated malaria. Out of desperation  I started  taking it on Friday and funny enough the pain is easing off by the day. ^{Whao, wish I'd started earlier and I hope it brings a permanent solution.} Praise the Lord, somebody.  [b]Thanks ye all[/b].

Abeokuta Grammar School
1984 set

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BBHS Abeokuta,

Nulli Secondus.

Class '85 set.
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Ilugun Boy, did you know the likes of Kola Goloba, Tunde Adewuyi? They passed out in 1984. Any clue as to where they are now?

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Nulli Secondus.

Class '85 set.
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Sorry folks, This is the update. From what I gathered, someone else close to the lady  read the  posts and somehow linked it to her, printed and showed the comments to her. She confronted the guy but he denied. She threatened a break-up. He did not press too hard for reconciliation .Things were no longer the same.  He went out of circulation. She wailed, moaned and sulked . Vowed never to trust men again.  She later met a friend of the guy's who confirmed the guy was  a clerk with Lagos State Govt  years ago and was running a diploma program in one polytechnic. That he was relieved of his job in Tinubu's days and so couldn't finish his academic program. (He did not know he was begging though )

Investigation at other quarters later showed he already had some kids by about 3 ladies, two in Lagos and 1 in Ibadan . My lady had no other  choice than to thank God and she wiped her tears. A broken engagement is usually said to be better than a broken marriage. Needless to say she has carried on.     He hasn't been  seen at his dutypost (roadside) for months now.  

In a nutshell, the marriage DID NOT hold. Once again, accept my apologies.As a matter of fact, since the thread had been pushed backwards I'd forgotten about it.

I appreciate everyone who has responded to this post. 
One love.


_{Uptil now, its still a misery to the lady and her family who brought about this revelation. Maybe some day in future, when the lady is happily married with kids, then I'd let her know I did it.}

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please, there's a website where I got the summary of second chance, but i 've forgot, its mystory.com or something, can someone give me a lead?
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@ Larry O,
Go to http://www.telenovelastories.tv/

Cheers.

@ Poster, in my judgment, between Angela and Isabel, Angel is more beautiful. Between Isabel and Valeria, Isabel is da bomb.

all rodents are RATS

enviness

Yes, I saw the padlock somewhere over the weekend but I was in a hurry I couldn't listen to the sales person.

How does it work and how much does it cost? If you can't say it here, mail me at titi4eva@gmail.com

Kile o lese, Olorun mi Kile o lese? What can you not do, oh my God?
Ehin ti e da aiye atorun kile o lese? You who made earth and heaven
Kile o lese, Olorun mi ki le o lese? What can you not do, oh my God?

tale julo Olorun mi tale julo Who are you not superior to, oh my God?
tale julo Olorun mi tale julo Who are you not superior to, oh my God?
Ehin ti eda aiye atorun tale julo You who made earth and heaven
Tale ju lo Olorun mi tale julo Who are you not superior to, oh my God?

Thanks and God bless

luck007:
actually that is the way we live our life in naija, weti concern una, if you people don't like it so don't b talking about it.
he DON DO FOR UNA OOO!!!!!!!!!!!

@ Lucky, no vex biko. Am almost sure everyone of us is 'guilty' of one of the 'offences' or the other. Ive identified several of them that I say/do too. So, no offence meant.

I have these in addition:

Evevryday (everyday)
each each person
As Yorubas, we must add 'o' at the end of every sentence, be it Yoruba, English or French eg 'Come here o', 'Goodnight o', 'Comment-allez-vous o'

Cats are manipulated here in Nigeria. Witches change to creatures like cats when they want to go for their meetings. (Don't ask me how I know pls)

Some cats are innocent but depending on the location, a large number of Nigerian cats are not 100% the ordinary cats you see physically. There are a couple of them in my neighbourhood, in the dead of the night you'd hear their footsteps like human's own, accompanied by their cries (not the characteristic mews but baby-like cries) (this signifies their departure to meeting, I suppose) About dawn you'd hear the same sound (which logically asignifies their arrival). Almost everyone in the neighbourhood is fully aware of these regular occurences. Am not being unduly superstitious but some cats (not all) are evil. I simply hate them.

And this one too,

Seun - Titi are you NOT a man? (of course Titi is a woman)
Titi - Yes
Seun - You mean you are a man?
Titi - Ah-ah, am not a man now, can't you see?
Seun - But you just said 'Yes' to my question
Titi - (now confused) Ehn, now, abi?

Many people (mostly students ) don't know they should give a 'No'answer to this kind of negative question. What a pity!