FTBOY: you have a very good reason. one mumu above you said she's afraid of being a slave or a housewife. the height of inferiority complex! what happened to love before marriage?
as in...anytime I think of that,marriage scares me the more,,the 2 parties just have to make up their mind to make their marriage work no matter what..my parents divorced when I was 6 months,am 26 now...over the yrs,I keep asking"what happened to the love they shared that even conceived me?" it affected me psychologically but I overcame it with God...I don't want my children to go through that @ all...
Some ladies are the architect of their problems...why on earth would u move in with a guy because he spends for you...I have friends that did it but they lost @ d end,one babe for my hostel is still doing it..I can never do it,I wasn't brought up that way.Its called self value... If you respect yourself,that's when a man can respect you..
Howla3: Hi guys in the house, Please I need your advice on this issue. I don't have any girl friend, let alone a Fiancee for now and my mum is already on my neck. It is not her fault though; I have been too carried away by my work that I didn't even have time to socialize.
Where do you think is the right place to look for a wife?
I HAVE JUST SIX MONTHS
HBD,wishing you longlife and goodhealth...all good things of life shall bee your portion IJN..have fun
ibx1976: My people its been two days of laughter mixed with serious talk. I appreciate all the message of support and all the merriment this thread brought.
Every man has his own way of doing things. What works for one may not work for the other. What is the point of living if one does not take risks? I have heard all the warnings but I don't want to regret not exploring every channel in this process either.
The issue of marrying a "stranger" from home is as good or bad as meeting someone in the UK. Its entirely the Grace of God that two people are able to live together in harmony. There are good and bad both in UK and naija.
The fact that a person ended up divorcing a wife they brought from naija does not make all naija women bad.
Its important to build a relationship before marrying but what if you cant due to extraneous circumstances?
I will embark on my journey bearing in mind all the advice (and jokes )
Hopefully I will post again when I return from my pilgrimage
now you are talking,everything is just the grace of God...and HE will direct your steps iJN,just be patient
Eleganza33: Nawa why Una they discourage the man, all those people screaming niaja girls are oloshos you all have mothers and sisters dnt tell me they are oloshos as well,their are bad girls and good ones same with guys. Op why not try the social media like Facebook many have find their partners there,if you are on Facebook their are ladies you must have been admiring for some time now,check the profiles as well for any red flag you can strike a conversation,na so e dey take start o,and don't create any impression that you are rich be humble, another one is if you trust your mother well enough on this issue you can tell her to look for a wife for you or your sisters self,but make sure you screen any lady you will marry.
Thank you jare...NL guys sound as if all the ladies in Nigeria are oloshos...and they are still d same guys that patronize them...all of una pata wey they talk,I pity una.. Op come home abeg I have a good sister for you(Lol)
Babe,I salute you for your courage..am also in the same shoe as you are. In my own case,my younger sister(3yrs older than) got married 4 months ago,u can understand how it would feel? I just decided not to let anyone or anything put pressure on me,I know God is a man that won't lie,allow him to work the wonders in your life...shey"that man" you will be surprised at how easy he will come your way. Just keep on praising God.. To all the ladies in the same situation as us,God will direct Mr.Right our way IJN,we won't miss it maritally cos this phase makes or mar a person. God bless you dear
I usually take felvin a week before I start but the long usage gave me ucler,so I just use hot water bottle to massage the pains..or use Oriki herbal mixture
i created this account a new one for this purpose. i am going to be as real as possible. please no insults. just drop your advice peacefully. i have just entered middle age yet if you see me for the first time you will think i am a jambite. there are many things a man should do at my age i have not done. am yet to start a business. no girlfriends i have not been in a relationship i have no disabilities i have not driven a car 1000 job applications yet no one called me for interview it now looks as if i have no friends Today being TGIF another lonely weekend, when my mates are flexing in the clubs and getting married on Saturdays. nobody has ever looked at me as a mentor and say e.g you have this ability, you will be an engineer. except family members once in awhile but very rarely. people hardly call to say there is a opportunity somewhere lets go for it. i have not had sex for almost 30 years and counting. no cliches nor hommies. still dependent (very painfull). i have never hosted events, already have 1st and 2nd degrees from naija universities. yet no skills. it is as if i have not aquired any knowledge/empty. even secondary school and primary school did not consider me for employment. the more love and genuine interest i show for people the less i get. so far it has been very uninteresting. at times because of too much thinking, i lose ability to sleep for like 3 days straight. i used to think of how i will survive if the people sponsoring or catering for me stops or are unable to. i wonder what i will become.
i need help from from you guys (nairalanders) as to what to do, if there is still hope. deep down i still believe there is alot to enjoy in this world. it is just that life has dealt me a serious blow.
i have limited network of buddies. no business associates, for God sakes now i ought to be in middle management. it is now looking as if i wasted my time and money going to the university. i am someone who is loyal, i believe in collective success rather than individual success, someone who could stick to the task at hand until it is completed.
it seems i am in a trap (like in a bottle). i have no Godfather or Godmother, no mentors ( the people who should have mentored me have always hated me and wished i failed in life). nothing to smile about. no woman or man in my life to say hello and encourage me since the days of yore. guys i am tired and fed up.
why always me? i am always overlooked and ignored when jobs, promotions are going to be given. why? is it character? i have in abundance. emotional intelligence? yes i have them.
i have been denied so many good things, i dont know what my offence is. because of all these compounded problems i usually visit google as strange at it seems to ask question like when will i be on my own, get married or have a business. it is not funny at all. because of condition, every other parts of of my life has been affected negatively. if anyone sees me now they will not beleive i have been stagnated.
just like everyone else i desire to have a very good job, a business with steady income, get married, have kids and enjoy life like everyone else.
i also have dreams and aspirations to positively impact my immediate community and make the world a better place.
please help a friend.
please nairalanders pardon my grammar. i was not an English student.
you really need to stop been depressed...you need to move closer to God,with the way u explained it...U need to tackle it from the spiritual angle. With fervent prayers and fasting GOD will order your steps and you will fufill your destiny IJN....Remember the word of God" Seek ye 1st the kingdom of God and its righteousness and EVERY OTHER THING(Job,connection,wife,finance,car,peace of mind)shall be added unto you. God bless you
ObiOmaMu: The man identified as Afunsho, took to his Snapchat to share photos of the 15million GLA250 car he got for his wife because she passed her driving test.
Lovely family! Who says Nigerian men ain't romantic?
proddey: I am a 37 year old bachelor and I must confess that never in my wildest dreams did I ever imagine that someday I would be desperate to get married. When I was in my twenties, I used to hear of desperation amongst ladies to get married but I never clearly understood the feeling. I felt only ladies become desperate to get married; I never knew that guys also become desperate at a particular age.
Once a 35 yr old single lady in my former office was crying in the office. She refused to speak on the reason why she was crying until she eventually opened up to one of my colleagues to say that she feels like she might never get married again. Apparently she had tried all she could but no one seems to be interested in her hand in marriage. It was actually quite amusing to me because I used to think that we all have the ability to control our emotions regardless of what we are passing through.
Everything changed about me when I turned 34. One day I was on my bed in my bedroom and suddenly I felt a rush of emotions come upon me so strongly that all of a sudden I just began to realise that I was desperate to get married. I really can’t explain what happened to me that day; you need to actually experience it to know what I’m talking about. By the following year the desperate feeling became like torture and the loneliness was so depressing. I could no longer bear it when I attended weddings to see other young couples getting married. I could no longer stand it when I hear people discussing marriage or weddings around me; I would just stylishly excuse myself from their midst.
In my office they nicknamed me "the oldest bachelor". Trust me, I really don’t find that nickname funny at all. Even when people innocently ask "Hey, why are you not yet married?" or "what are u waiting for?" These are questions that I just can't take emotionally. Naija peeps could be so insensitive at times! I’ve had two ladies tell me that they cried on their 30th birthday because they never ever imagined that they’d still be single at age 30.
I must confess that when I go to church these days, I barely pay attention to what is being preached. Instead my eyes just keep roaming round the church checking out all the single ladies to see which one of them I can poach on immediately after service.
I was meant to travel to the U.S seven years ago but I decided not to because I felt my chances of marrying a Nigerian lady would be higher if I remained in Nigeria. Seven years has passed and still nothing nothing. For those of you who feel changing location, like returning back to Nigeria, would increase your chances of finding a spouse, it is not guaranteed, you had better just remained where you are. Your spouse would locate you there. Your life must continue and you shouldn’t make decisions around finding a partner.
For those of you who got married early or who are still young so you never experienced the pressure to get married, you really don’t know what matured singles are passing through. Sometimes, you find yourself thinking too much and the thoughts can really weigh you down. Matured single ladies cry a lot.
If me as a guy could be feeling like this, I can only imagine what the ladies are passing through emotionally and psychologically. I know that ladies feel the pressure much more. At least we guys don’t have our biological clocks to think about. It gets to a stage that your parents will stop disturbing you to get married, they’ll now start praying for you.
For those of you reading my post, it is my prayer that you all get married at the right time and age and particularly to the right person so that you don't have to pass through the emotions of desperation to get married.
am surprised this is coming from a man....a big AMEN to that,just be calm about it and let GOD do the work
alausaone: I am seriously interested in meeting a good Nigerian girl for something serious, I am single never married no kids no drama, i am a christian and a church type person......looking forward to hear from my God gift soon....
kingsamm: Remember two years ago when the iphone 6 was released, the device was found to have bending issues nicknamed "BendGate". Thankfully, we won't have to worry about the iPhone 7 having the same bending issues the iPhone 6 did, but it has its own problem too.
Less than two week after its launch, some users of the recently launched iPhone(First noticed by Stephen Hackett from 512 Pixels) have been complaining of a hissing sound coming from the motherboard. And now, this particular problem is called the "Hissgate".
Watch the video below and listen to the sound yourself.
This hissing sound is being triggered when the iPhone’s new A10 Fusion processor is being pushed hard by certain games and other demanding apps. At the moment it is unsure if this problem affects all iphones 7s, but according to Stephen, Apple said they’d replace his device after he reported the issue. If this issue is not quickly solved, it could serious problem for Apple just like the explosion issue of the Samsung Galaxy Note 7.
YorubaDemon: I met this girl some week back won't mention her name cause I don't want issues , she was always writing and commenting on every thread , so I sent a pm and she replied I hate email exchanges so I asked for Whatsapp contact and she gave me, went to true caller first and didn't see a name
We chatted on Whatsapp I was still doubting her authenticity , so I asked for her pictures she sent some , they were ugly and local but no wahala I have to know someone first , I now asked for a picture of her holding something that's blue she said I don't trust her and started complaining , I explained my fears and she still didn't next day she asked for airtime to sub, 2500 Na wa but na small money so I sent , she now said BABA THANKS
Girls don't talk like that I got angry and insulted him, he now opened up that I should relax that many girls I see are guys here
I know that you will see this thread , 2500 is nothing to me , but change your ways am too reasonable so I won't mention your name
You were not almost scammed,you were actually scammed...Why would send money to someone you v not seen? Guys should stop encouraging issh like that,,na you buy phone for her? I know if ts your babe that asked you wouldn't sub for her,but you see fresh chic(LOL)no offence
OluMighty01: Good day people. My name is Olumide. I am looking for a girlfriend in Ibadan, and hoping the relationship would lead to marriage.
A little about myself I am in my mid 30s. I am a graduate, but am into the poultry business, and also write stories for publication. I am slim, brown complexioned, and tall. I am an Introvert but can talk when I have to or when I am interested in the topic being discussed. I love reading/researching, music, traveling, and movies. I don't have my picture in my profile for personal reasons. But let's just say I am not ugly, and can't say I am very handsome or anything. I am in-between. I earn a moderate income...I am not rich (at least not yet), but I have great ambitions in life.
About the kind of girl I would love to meet Someone above 22. She should at least like some of the things I like (which I stated above) so we can get along. I am slim, so (for the sake of our future kids) I would like someone big boned and maybe busty. I am about 6ft2, so my idle girl should at least be 5ft5. I like brown and dark complexioned girls.
Below is my phone number for anyone interested- 09059434872
Guy you would mould this babe for yourself o cause no one is perfect...lol
thoth1: "My people suffer because of lack of knowledge". Its no longer news that people are now making money on social networks with the same phone you are holding right now. But you see, FEAR is what is making you remain where you are. FEAR of being scammed by people, FEAR of failure,what if it doesn't work and you lose? You hear words on the radio like economy meltdown, recession yet you are busy spending time on Facebook, Whatsapp, Twitter etc, doing something that will not fetch you money to the extent that you don’t find friends who can chat with you because they are busy looking for money here. It has not dawned on you yet that technology has taken all over the world and people are making money without moving out of their rooms. They recieve alert and its not by fraudulent means. We dont save money now, we Invest money( because the money is losing its value fast) and hence creating an avenue to bring revenue to us. To know more about how to make money online and get involved in this opportunity, Drop ur email and phone number and i promise to get back to you. Mine is kasarachi56@gmail.com 08134537728
Oliviaarims: There's a thread on FP right now (supermarket boyfriend) that's generating a lot of controversies... Her boyfriend wants sex, she doesn't and somehow she's scared of losing him. She's wondering whether or not to give in and a lot of people are bashing her on the grounds that she's received financial favours from him and as such, it's only fitting that she returns the favour by allowing him have his way.
Well, the truth is that this sort of issue would always be a problematic one, all thanks to the status quo obtainable. A girl dating a guy expects him to foot her bills, and he in return expects to screw her whenever he wants.
Now, this is what I have to say about this. We all need a reorientation about how these things should work. First of all, each individual must decide what he/she wants to be... Celibate or sexually active. After that, you decide if you want to be in a relationship. And by relationship, I mean a proper one that's defined. But before you go into any relationship, you must first honestly answer these questions.
*Why do you want to go into a relationship? *Are you sure you're ready for a relationship and all the hassles that come with it? Commitment, time, sincerity, misunderstandings, compromises, etc. *What do you want out of a relationship? *What are you bringing to the table? You definitely should have something to offer. * State the rules from the beginning. Don't start what you can't finish. *Keep your relationship private and don't compare that of others to yours. Your friends don't need to know that your man doesn't get you take you shopping or to exotic places or gives you money regularly or that you cook for him with your money.
It's high time we started getting our priorities right. For the girls, stop going into relationships JUST because you need someone who'd foot your bills. When you're in a relationship, don't make demands. In a healthy and proper relationship, you should be open and free with each other such that at every point in time, he knows what you really need and would assist if he can... Of his own volition, without you having to ask. Ask only when you're in dire need. Your needs are really not his responsibility. If he's the type that never does anything without you having to ask, then it's up to you to decide if you can deal with that.
If you're sleeping with him, it should be because you want to...because you like sex and don't care about abstinence. Lol. And not because you feel you owe him, or it's a way to keep the money coming.
And you must also keep it in mind that most guys are very much interested in sex. As a matter of fact, it's the one major reason why some of them desire to have a "girlfriend." It's the trophy for the chase. So, before you accept any guy's proposal make it clear from the get-go that it would a total no-sex relationship, except of course you are ready to play ball. Don't be fooled by the looks of them, even if he's your youth pastor. Lol. Should he walk away, oh well, there's no cow on the ice. But stick to your guns.
Very importantly, an ideal relationship should be hinged on "give and take." You shouldn't always be at the receiving end. Give too. Get him tangible presents, not only on his birthdays. Shower him with love. Find out what his problems are and see if you can help in any way. You should be someone he trusts to tell about his plans and goals in life. It shows you mean something to him and not just some mere existential entity. Go out of your way to do things for him sometimes. You may not be able to do much financially, but do something once in a while when you can... And of course, there are other things you can do. You can always think of things you can do for him. Kpanshing alone won't do. If that's all you're offering or all he's interested in, then you belittle yourself. Walk away. There's but a time allowed for foolishness.
At every point in time, we must assess and reevaluate our lives. There's so much I want to say, but...
Finally, in my very own highly, tremendously, "subjective" opinion, ABSTAIN and develop a tough skin. The benefits are plenty, whether or not you're a virgin. Don't start counting dicks in their droves before you make the decision. Allow them guys f*ck themselves. Lol. We'll begin to have some sanity after then.
as from this minute,you are my favourite nairalander....thumbs up for you babe
[quote author=Oluwolex2000 post=49229590]Having seen how Linda Ikeji is flaunting her rich wardrobe and other accessories on Instagram, and of course the follow up reactions from the ladies, I decided to make this picmix.
Now my question to the ladies is, whose show-off inspires you the most? A or B? Kindly drop your comments below and share with friends.
Family / Re: What Are Your fears Of Getting Married Or Being Married? Singles ONLY by Titilayooni(f): 4:35pm On Oct 07, 2016 
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