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Dear members...i am of the type that says NO to bringing marital shortcomings to the social media but I just realized why others do so.
I formerly got married on Tuesday 18th April but we are already headed for a bitter divorce.

To cut the story short, the whole issue started at the ground of our traditional marriage(Igba Nkwu).
On arriving her dad's compound, I was stunned to realize her mother didn't make the provisions of which I paid her for.
The DJ wasn't on ground, the canopies were just 3 and looking dirty, the chairs were not up to half of what i paid for. There was no light, no microphone, no decorations, the few food cooked were not served to guest and I was devastated.
Out of anger and dissappointment, I started lashing out at my wife and she broke down in tears begging me for forgiveness.
We managed to forge ahead till the the ceremony ended and we headed for my house.
As our tradition demands, the newly married bride sees off her Aso ebis and return in the evening same day to welcome visitors. But alas, my wife went and never came back till Friday evening.

I queried her on her whereabout only for her reply in a harsh manner saying "where do you expect me to be", don't make me angry"
God!! I couldn't believe it as it made me more mad in anger so I asked her to return to wherever she's coming from and leave our son behind(yes we already a year and 10 months old son). I actually made this decision to save face else how do I clarify the absence of my wife and son to visitors and well-wishers trooping in to see them?
She hurriedly dashed into the room and picked her phone and stormed out of the house. Now her mother is accussing me of taking her daughter's son from her and stripping her of her belongings.

Now my wife is saying she's no longer interested in the marriage likewise her people(her father is late). I am still fuming with anger that I am at loss of what to do. I am not prepared to raise my son alone neither do I want him to be raised by her mother alone.

Should I initiate a peace move and apologize to her or should I move on with life.....I am seriously confused and fuming with anger that I was shortchanged and offended and still expected to offer apologies.

deleSayo:
Since I married my wife, we noticed signs subtle signs that my family dont like her.

From day one of introducing her to the family, my elder brother's wife treated her with so much disrespect and everyone else followed suit. We ignored this and proceeded to marry.

For trad wedding, I gave money to my parents to help purchase the items for her bride price but on the day,  I was pained to see that the items were significantly incomplete (my wife noticed this too and kept it in her heart). She later told me that she saw my parents looking bored at the church wedding;as if they couldnt wait to leave. I was surprised because I saw that too but thought my wife hadn't noticed.

When we fell pregnant, they failed to acknowledge my wife's pregnancy throughout until the birth of the baby. Furthermore, my mother failed to show up for omugwo, leaving us alone to care for the newborn child.

All these things have built up resentment in my wife. She takes out the frustration on me. Things are so bad that my wife has completely isolated herself from all members of my family. She refuses to communicate with them or attend any functions.

Recently, I got wind that she is making secret plans to abscond with our baby and go live with her mother who is based abroad. Please I dont want to lose my wife. She's the best thing that ever happened to me but I can see clearly that she now despises both me and my family.

The marriage is in shambles. She believes that I failed to defend and protect her. not that I didnt feel the pain. Its just that I didnt know how to handle the situation. Please how can I resolve this?

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Adanne9110:
But come to think of this,how will a lady be trust worthy to a man without saying "NO" to others? The same set of people thatwill say trust no lady,will still come out to say "why did you say no to the second man..in summary,are u encouraging ladies to double date,cos i cant imagine a man meeting his girl in a fastfood with another man ans gladly call it a harmless date,definately not a naija man.

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Pearl005:
OMG!!! you guys should just make up your mind already.... So, you want HER to mention "friendship" after which you will be shouting Friendzoning Upandan !

Juliearth:
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southniyikaye:
oya naw baddest daddy.
This is exactly what happened when two people fall in love.
Mutual love,mutual understanding,mutual respect.

Not all these the husband love the wife and the wife partially love the husband

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OK oo make I dey my lane then
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U?

dopedude:
Imagine u r in a serious relationship with a girl whom you have engaged, and she is being open to other options as you said, how would you feel if you find out?

Oladokunst:
@toks2008
Well finally its obvious you have some serious personal issues going on with you, my uncle dated his wife from jss3 and latter got married after 11years of dating.

I have a 5 years relationship also and we are perfect ,I never had any break up. Because we dont go online to rant over our grieve ,if you have any issue with your babe talk to her.

Put your self in a guy shoes,a gentle man jejely,has a relationship and he loves his lady, so because he never marry am,she should now be opening option to suitors...

Abeg if you finally find out,how will you feel?

I almost had an heartattack the first time I saw a guy texted my babe a love message and of which she didn't even know who sent it.

Baba,find your own babe dont break people relationship because you are grieving ,if she is taken ,go somewhere else.
Thank you.

Oneday82:
U make sense my dear. At times the kind forming u get from them will like shuu. I know of one 7 years still in a relationship

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You are a dead meat if Nadia cheats on me

EBBari:
Its obvious this guy is campaigning for dull nairaland girls to agree to him so the said open stuff could make them also open to him, which in returns gvs his lazy and non commitment lifestyle an opportunity to explore multiple well.
Or
That girl his bn chasing 4 weeks told him "am tkn". E pain am reach him brain which resulted to this trend.

FILEBE:
Exactly! Toks2008, you goofed on this one big time. You keep on saying you don't mean it for women to be unfaithful or flirty. How can't that be? when the options are open and you let every Tom, Dick and Harry endear you while you are in a serious relationship. If you are in a serious relationship, work to see it become something rather than seek for options here and there and might end up being the city slut. See ehn, ladies know how to deal with issues like this. If they find no future with a guy, they are entitled to leave. You don't have another date while you are dating someone. It defeats the whole purpose of love. You can just advise ladoew to know when to quit and not be finding options. It is called cheating and that's how it starts. Same ways guys leave their options open and have multiple girlfriends and at the end of the day, they will choose one or none from them after being intimate with them.

Toks2008. you should know better than this na

bassette:
My angle with Toks' advice is that many ladies would read it wrong n go south

virtuedagirl:
When you eventually decide to keep the guys you fancy as friends,let say two of them,the start with constant calling,asking you out on dates,sending you lovely text messages,sometimes you are with your main guy the other call you talk for 15 minutes or you tell him to call you back later. What will you guy be thinking,will he still trust you enough to make you a wife with this attitudes,if he should do the same by keeping female friends he fancy and thing like that will you love it so