ethicallyright:


Even cash gift is disrespectful master.
An expensive wine for the man and expensive attire for the mother is enough.
Your family really has great courtesy. I see why you cannot settle for less.

One thing you should know is that giving women money is a form of putting them in their appropriate place in your life,exactly where you want them.
The moment a woman collects money from you is the day she gets in that position and gives you leverage.
Always do that to women,especially the ones that don't make money on their own but are dependent on a rich husband.

Afromentalist:

No wonder at 32, you are not married yet. Who wants to marry an evening newspaper who neither has good character, youth and to top it all is a leech ?

The guy was even trying sef.

Cc. Transatlanticex

lol no mind the mama.
Na frustration dey do am.

Mariangeles:


Iwu onye mpiawa azu? Don't be a sell out!

I have no reason to backstab you,I just say things as they are.

JovialJune:



Seriously o, the priority for in laws when meeting an intending son in law, should be his attitude, character, how he carries himself, and how respectful and reliable he can be, that's all,

Op' fiance already brought gifts the first time he went to see her mother, which is the right thing to do, if he decides to always bring after that, or not, should be at his own volition, that's all, in fact, some parents will want to go extra mile to feed their son or daughter in law with different assorted food just so they are satisfied, maybe it's prevalent in Yoruba culture only sha, who knows.

No it's not just a yoruba thing oo.
I am an Anambra man 100%,in 2004 after my sister's husband has come for introduction and all,my sister travelled for her studies.
My mom was always sending food to his house,almost everyday.I use to be the one going there to drop the food cos we lived like 2km apart so I know.
Sometimes my immediate older sister.
Then the guy was still struggling(not poor but still hustling),he didn't have a car,my mom gave him one of the cars in the house that wasn't really doing anything(toyota carina II ) just because he saw him untop okada in a commercial town they both do business in(you know how dangerous okada was seen in that era),he used till about 2005 when he bought his own car and returned ours which he had already scrapped(nobody complain!) because he used it for business.
My mother had plenty trucks because she was a trader,my sister's husband stopped paying transport for goods because he can always come home and take anyone he likes and just buy diesel and tip the driver rather than chartering a truck(All because of marriage ooo still at introductory level).
Na em one clown here dey say its igbo culture to always carry gift to their homes bla bla bla...
It's not igbo culture abeg,speak for your clan.
Do you know how stupid you will look to take provisions to go and visit a well to do family?Like you come and park and start offloading rice and tomato with milo
So disrespectful!!!
The only thing you can give these set of people is whiskey or champagne(to the father) or Cuban cohibars if he smokes and maybe clothe to the mom(hollandis) or cash gift.
Anything else is outright stupid and disrespectful for well-off families.

JovialJune:



Honestly fa, I mean, it's annoying there are people taking sides with Op, when common sense should tell them that giving gifts is voluntary, not compulsory, very simple something that doesn't need thinking too hard na,

Different types of people dey sha, dem go dey show themselves small small online, it's a pity this is a faceless forum, we suppose good from yeye people so that people can take heed and beware, chai.

Swears,I would pay top dollar to see the faces of some of these ladies so we could avoid them in the future.
Real bad market,that is why I always look at income bracket of women before trying to have any serious relationship with them to avoid this type of things.
No family that is doing well would expect anything from any of their relations,
Only the fact that you respect them enough to come and visit them is a thing of joy,let alone complaining over the can of malt they served to their guest

Mariangeles:
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Get out of my mention with your nonsense!

How you or anyone think or feel about the Igbos is irrelevant! It doesn't change who we are. A GREAT PEOPLE!

Great people don't beg,neither do they expect anything from anyone!
The way you painted igbo made it look like the exact opposite of what you just said.
Let me just assume you are not in your best state of mind,because the way you keep contradicting yourself since inception is really funny

JovialJune:



Rara o, this thread ain't getting deleted, it should serve as a lesson to others on how to comport themselves and not be seen as hungry

In fact, lalasticlala, mynd44 Seun, front page abeg, very interesting thread.

They can delete it if they want to,we've already identified the entitled,hungry,downtrodden,leeching,poverty stricken women amongst us and their cohorts .
People weh dey complain of ordinary malt weh them give person,yet go dey form useless solidarity for NL.
Na this kind women go maltreat househelp ehn....

So many wretched girls and families on this site,embarrassing hard working igbo weh no send you or your fiance money.
Igbo families(especially moms) who go out of their way to make sure their sons are settled and their daughters marry good men that will cherish them are the ones who will expect gifts from her man anytime he comes?
Igbo culture to leech of a boyfriend?
Ha!
No wonder they keep eating dry plantains morning afternoon and night.

Trayceey:
You're so dumb. Just because u have access to internet via operamini free mb, you have the liberty to type trash. I'm guessing you are a teenager who comes here to catch cruise, so I won't waste my time and energy on u

lol okay.
Lol @ free mb.

emmaodet:





Baba how your side now? Compliment of the season.

This thread sweet me die i swear, i just dey laff since

Omo dey alright.
The thread just dey help expose all the worthless women we've got on NL.

Mariangeles:





Let me ask you this question as nwaafo Igbo; can you visit your in-laws empty handed?

Answer honestly...

Yes.

Mariangeles:


I don't know about the others, but in my tribe (Igbo), that's how things are done.
You don't go to your in-laws bare handed.
It is not an act to be proud of.

Speak for your clan,we don't do that where I come from and I'm also igbo.
We are not beggars and we like to hold our heads up high,
Giving should only come from the givers own volition and not some silly expectation,
Atleast where I come from.

jaxxy:


It’s actually a direct 2010 model. 03/10 manufacture date. Thx

Post the VIN

This is so 2009 ehn.
Round exhaust tips and those fucking rims gave it out plus the interior.
I know those foglights are aftermarket too.
Happy sales.

Trayceey:
I'm not a poor woman u fool. I can feed you and your entire family for ages. This is not about being poor. It's about doing the right thing that culture demands. we are Africans

Are you sure you really wanna do this?
Cos I'm ready when you are.
Feed me and my family( a whole my family ooo) for ages yet your mama dey want kill herself say your fiance no buy bread for am?.
Why not use that money weh you want use am feed me and my generation buy your mama provisions keep for house na
And somehow its from this miserly,miserable existence that you wanna feed my family(really rich ) from?
My eldest sister got married in 2004,in 2003 when the man came for introduction,he wore shorts and was empty handed.
You know why?There was nothing he could bring that we don't have and he knew it
What you could have done sef to even cover your bf is send some money to your thirsty mom and claim your bf sent it,but instead you fought with him over it,maybe because you and your mama don plan as una go share the stipends weh the guy suppose bring,
Yet a bottom feeder like you wants to feed my generation?

Chujor1634:
Your mentality and that of your mum is so annoying, to think that you had to even call him him instead of talking sense to your mum is the height of it all.

Swears
I always tell people to avoid poor women as much as possible,it's for reason like this.
Personally I'd rather die single than have anything to do with this class of women.
Bread for that matter,Ha!

Lol more examples of the independent women that cococandy and co have been preaching about that litter everywhere in Nigeria.
One was even telling me yesterday how U25 women with good careers are everywhere in Naija,that I should change my circle
She almost stab her fiance because the guy no buy her mama bread.
Can you believe this?
Imagine what will happen if you marry his one and somehow forget to drop food money in the morning...

ethicallyright:

Amazon has its headquarters at Seattle. I've always had a plan to revolutionize e-commerce when I'm done with creating a conglomerate in Africa. Such investments from an African should be done in an environment where e-commerce is already the norm so that other venture capitalists do not replicate the technology in the U.S during failed trials in Africa . I wouldn't love to reveal much here without a non-disclosure agreement.
But I'm really a thinker.
Which African American mother would not be proud of her daughter associating with such an ambitious African man in a place where what all their black men do is to put their pants below their waist like there's a trophy that accompanies such unrefined prison behaviour?

Sure,it'll be every Nigerian mom in the US delight.
I think they are tired of marrying Jamaicans,Akatas,Congolese and Gambians out of sheer lack of options.
You'd be hot cake amongst Nigerian communities especially in the Northern parts of the US.
Texans don't feel that depraved like their northern counterparts.
Kudos man,Goodluck.

ethicallyright:


You're very right master.

Every woman desires to be the mother-in-law of a celebrated young man.
Right now women in high places want me to be casual friends with their daughters.

I'd be the most sought after bachelor in Africa when I achieve my goals.

Amazing thing is future MIL won't know it's me. Just a humble Nigerian billionaire investing in Seattle and its environs and he comes in contact with a young lady. Both parties begin a romantic story that spans across continents...

Is there any particular reason why you'd pick Seattle,Washigton to invest or where your very very youthful Nigerian bride,of Nigerian descent(probably Igbo,from Imo state) will come from?
Just curious.

ethicallyright:


I laughed till I literally blew water outta my nose.
Thought your daughter was seven - eighth. Really find that Beyonce- Jay-Z relationship appealing because of the 13 years age gap.

Secondly, this is my account not an alternate
It's important to add she'll be an adult by then though...

Funny thing is,when you become that man you want to be by then,she'll even he the one pushing her daughter to you then,picking the clothes she would wear on her first date with you despite the age gap.
We know how society works,especially limited societies such as America for Nigerian women
You know it actually calls for celebration to find a Nigerian guy dating a Nigerian girl in the US right?
They so limited they now date Congolese,gambians,Akatas,Freaking jamaicans and all sorts of shitholeans and the funny thing is they try to pretend it's normal and how much they like it
So imagine how happy she'd be having a well to do Nigerian man for her daughter for marriage in say 15 years.
Lol,just overlook her initial gra gra,its all part of the plan.

ethicallyright:


I said it earlier. I know what I want - To gap my future wife with over a decade. My future wife should be in the age range of Cococandy 's daughter (not a pedophile, just futuristic).

I know you guys think I'm stupid but I have a plan.

The other two girls throwing tantrums up and down in this thread have soft spots for my master , only if he would dignify them with attention...

This is the beginning and end of it.
You nailed it!!!
If you keep up with this speed and doggedness,I'm sure you will get a girl like cococandy's daughter effortlessly and society will endorse it.
You've got good eyes man!!kudos.

ethicallyright:


The bold is the advantage of manufacturing a rarely produced commodity in Nigeria and subsequently monopoly.

Your income is technically fixed because you fix the price, have no business with what happens at the bottom of the food chain and experience consistent demand.

I know you have monopolistic plans when you begin manufacturing.

The bolded is true,but then you'd only experience this at the earlier parts of your boom.
Because eventually people will always get to start admiring your business and jump into it and bring unhealthy competition to your business.
But it's still an added advantage for you because before people would have entered into it ,you've accumulated enough money to use to fight off competition and keep your products #1 in the markets.

Yes I'd love to have monopoly,but then you know no government will just hand it to you na.
They'd like to hide it in act clauses so it doesn't be too obvious to the public,like they did for Dangote.
The clause was no one will import finished cement no more but must manufacture here,he was the only one with that kind of capital so it chased all of its competition for sometime while he accumulated so much wealth.
Now before the competition could go look for cash,recoup and cone back to set up their own plants,he had already made so much that pushing him out of the markets is impossible.
He has more capacity,money,market share,access to credit,equipment and team than y'all.
So how do you fight a competition like this?
Truth is,in any business you do or discover,you've got to start preparing for rainy days immediately you get your first break.
It must come.

ethicallyright:

I really did put in a lot of work. Earned both in Dollars and naira as a freelancer and researcher.

I've always had a certain perception of businesses that create virtual products (not real) or provide services. I think they give higher return of investments because of low capital and high disposable income. Linda Ikeji's blogging business (whether she's into other shady deals or not) is an example of what I mean.
For instance, you'll be left with limited disposable income since you always have to purchase wine which you'll sell to make profit. If you earn 50,000 after selling a wine you bought for 70,000 at 120,000 naira, you'll need another 70,000 naira to continue your business at that level and have stocks or at least 140,000 to expand your business, buy two of those wines and make a profit of 100,000. Linda Ikeji buys her domain once and that's it...

I set up my entire platform with less than 10,000 Naira in 2018, including the logo and website ( I only bought a domain and hosting plan for the website).

There was nothing I could have traded for 10,000 naira. To me it was like planting 10,000 naira and harvesting a million.

Note I didn't make over 1 million last year but my savings got above that last year. (I had a little above 1 million in my account last year)

Exactly,same with employees.
And you've also gotta include what we keep or lose to inflation as purchasing price for lots of goods will skyrocket.
So in essence,a person like me can't make some kind of careless purchases unlike some people in my income bracket but say is an employee.
An employee in my income bracket will easily buy some things that I can't, but many people will assume he is richer just because of the things they see.
Keep your money,always be liquid,you'd always see opportunities,but will you be liquid enough to grab it when it comes?This is where a lot of people fail because they would have used the money to buy one water logged land in Ondo hoping that someday(maybe in a 100yrs),the forest will turn to lekki
Like those buying places at choice areas of lagos have 2 heads.

ethicallyright:


Listening to my father instead of the advice of TransAtlanticEx would mean following the advice of a man who is satisfied with a 2008 Toyota Prado instead of man who may not even be satisfied with a 2021 G-Wagon.

Listening to my father instead of the advice of TransAtlanticEx would mean following the advice of a man who believes that prayers can heal Nigeria's economic woes instead of a man who believes that production can help us require less dollars for imports and even bring back more dollars from exports thereby increasing or at worst maintaining a sound dollar reserve.

Listening to my father instead of the advice of TransAtlanticEx would mean listening to a man who would advise me to be submissive to a woman for peace to reign instead of a man who would teach me how to avoid domineering women.

Listening to my father instead of the advice of TransAtlanticEx would mean listening to a man who would rather I buy plots of land at an undeveloped area at 25 years because others are doing so instead of a man who would tell me the need to have cash in the bank at such age and work hard at building luxurious Country homes when I earn billions.

I'm neither a lost sheep nor a naive young man. I know the path to take to where I'm headed.

Masterclass!
Round of applause man.
You've not got to let people define you,know who you are,your taste in life and work towards achieving it.
I made some mistakes as a young naive man,but I'm glad I'm still young and energetic to correct them whilst still in my youth.
When I say Nigeria youth are unproductive and lazy ,they always come for my head and start blabbing.
A country of 200m people whose future and welfare still depends on how well oil is doing in the market is enough to tell you about its people(lazy,not creative,naive and stupid).
A country whose youth think or measure their strength of their economy to how much naira exchanges for dollar in the markets should tell you that all the universities in this country need to be scrapped or made independent,So as to generate it's own optimum running cost and even be a money spinner to the FG.
Subsidising education is the stupidest thing anyone can ever do,because it is a determinant of a country's middle class.
Education is suppose to be luxury,not necessarily a right.This is why the Nigeria graduates today are nothing to write home about,overly stupid and will be poor for a long time if things don't change.
A working/productive man is never to submit to a woman,on no condition!
Cash at hand is king,have you ever wondered why all the people doing land banking always end up in penury or most times the land appreciation don't always meet them alive?Because they are stupid!
You bought a piece of land at 2m,keep for 20 years and it appreciates to 10m and the fool thinks he/she had made profits?
What happened to inflation wiping off a huge chunk of that money over the years and worst still the time value of money for the 2m in 10years?
Anybody that knows this should never partake in fixed income especially in developing economies where things are subjected to change randomly.
I like the path you are towing,will love to meet you someday man.Nice!

ethicallyright:


I've known these for quite a while. I can't even marry a lady in my age bracket. There's time for everything and for me , time to marry is at least 14 years from now if things do not go as planned. If things go as planned maybe two or three years earlier not more.
I pity my friends who think otherwise.

I want an age gap of at least a decade between me and my wife. I know you dropped out of school and I must commend your decision as a very timely one.
I got admitted into a Prestigious Law Faculty in a competitive Federal University at 16. Just a semester left for me before Law school. I couldn't take the dropout path even though I found it necessary in my third year. That was me living my father's dream (He's a senior and respected lawyer and would love to attend my call to bar ceremony for bragging rights).
I've started a massive Internet project before but failed woefully after investing a lot. I learnt from my mistakes and started working hard and saving for a comeback.
I made a little above 1 million naira last year despite the pandemic. It was my highest earning year through my online trade. It was neither forex nor cryptocurrency- I don't follow the multitude.

I realized the confidence that comes with a million naira in your account. There was a girl , my mate , I loved. She was definitely my first love. When I saw I was making more money last year than I ever did , I ordered her gifts just to make her happy and spent on her birthday.

I went back home after her birthday and imagined how stupid I was even contemplating about marrying her in future despite my business/investment plans. That's how it ended. I never spoke to her again. I rejected her calls and told her through SMS to figure out her life.

Wow I like that you finish school ,its very important.
Also I know the confidence that money gives ,kind of hold your head up high lol.
I see ,so what made you make money was weakening naira abi?Because all of a sudden your fx earning increased exponentially in naira equivalence
I don't know why you pet the girl go early though, you could have held longer and enjoy the benefits of your labour before letting go,don't you think?
Me too,all these crypto and fx thing people keep talking about isn't my thing.So long as a business or trade activity is popular,forget it!Its casted already.

cococandy:


How many financially stable men in Nigeria are 25 years old and below? You want a woman to be younger than 25 for you to marry her but also want her to be doing well financially. In the same Nigerian govt system that affects both you and her? How do you propose she achieve the very thing that none of you have been able to achieve?

Do you sound reasonable to yourself when you say that?

So, needless to say, whatever she is will never be good enough. And that’s what you count on to make sure you keep them feeling bad about themselves.

1) If she’s young enough for you, she will be a liability coming only with her “box of clothes” for you to rescue.
2) if she works hard and dedicates time and energy to be financially stable before marriage, she would be too old, rotten and beneath you for marriage.

Do any of you apply common sense to your misogyny before you come to spread it online?


You didn’t have to ruin this young man’s thread, but you did anyway because you couldn’t resist.

Hopefully as I’m typing this, you’ve found a financially stable 23 year old South African girl and are currently marrying her as we speak.

You’d think men who age shame women have no plans of ever growing old. Be careful what you wish for.

Well,men are the ones paying the piper,so they deserve to dictate the tune.
We own the house or cater for those expenses and make the ground comfortable for the woman to come squat in,so tell me,don't we need more time to be able to build all these for y'all to come cling on?
So that's why we usually are past 30 before thinking of marriage.
But for you people,what's expected?Nothing.Just be self sufficient is all men ask from y'all and be below 25 or less,yet it is such a big deal for your gender to achieve.
In SA,it is different.Their educated women are achieving this at that age,no sweat unlike Nigeria.
And they are more feminine and romantic,more than this people,maybe because they aren't starving and living in lack like their kinds in Nigeria.
Now tell me,what will a young man that has toiled so hard to achieve stable income,a house(or decent rented accomodation),mobility(cars) ,etc..gain from marrying a woman past 25?
Because he clearly don't need that meagre support Nigeria women claim to bring(which doesn't exceed stocking up the fridge and cooking 5k okro).
This man can pay for this their so called support effortlessly,So tell me,what will he gain being with a woman who has lost her youth all in the name of working class?
Old women come with a lot of baggage which I wouldn't wish for any young,succesful man.
They are overly jealous(because they feel inferior),moodswings,diminishing libido,body marks(stretch mark and all sorts of skin burns),some even start showing varicose vein,difficulty getting pregnant,loss of lustre,etc...
So why would anybody who has achieved in life want this?
Honestly this people are meant for men with limited options,if you look around you'd see that men who are worth their salt hardly go for these people,mostly struggling ones.

ethicallyright:


I'm 21 and you'll be 29.

Yes,I just turned 29 some days ago.
I like that you are young and smart,very smart!
Very hard to find these days,kudos man.
Remember,don't marry old women oo,no matter their guilt tripping.Its the only advise I can give you since you already know everything else.
Believe me it's worth it!

ethicallyright:


There's a lot to learn from you, Boss.

No,I believe I still have a lot to learn from you too so I'd say there's a lot to learn from each other.

Icentautos:



In Naira Sir

So its ten thousand,one hundred naira?
Read what you wrote again .
Its confusing.

tyup:


1.1Million naira sir

lol you sure about this?

I don't understand the price.
How much is it really?
Or you giving the price in dollars now?