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TV/Movies › Re: BBNaija 2019 Live Updates (Big Brother Naija 2019 Thread) by Tripitaka: 2:23pm On Apr 04, 2020

AmazonHippolyta:
Olofofo olodo.
I said for the rest of the year.The remaining 8 months so how does 8 months translate to 12 months

Awon dumbery you are the one who contradicted yourself did I ever deny that I will not buy you data?
I only said follow my T&C I have been saying it since last week.
If you fail to do so before 7PM then shut up and stop begging.Because the offer automatically ends by 7

You do not introduce T&Cs in the middle of an agreement; you do that from the outset. Any such move is a pointer that you were either never going to keep your end of the bargain or lacked the resources to.

You wrote/bragged that you will buy his data for the rest of the year and he has taken you up on that. Now it's time to walk the talk.

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Romance › Re: I Was Blackmailed Of Rape:true Life Story by Tripitaka: 7:53am On Mar 31, 2020*

project8:
my brother I understand you, I consider their young marriage before I forgive her,in fact the panel chairman had to personally beg her husband if not d man was ready to chase her.
Yes u are right my heart is my weakness but personally I don't want to be a reason for someone's misfortune knowing fully well its her doing.bros I have progressed ever since that incident. I have ganered a lot of respect each time am around.parents use me as example to their kids.some parents even send their boys to come for counselling

There's everything wrong with this statement. Actually I find it quite disturbing.

There's a reason we have correctional facilities despite every religion preaching forgiveness. You are certainly within your rights to forgive the woman, but you have done humanity a huge disservice by failing to set a precedent. Other wrongly accused people after you may not be as lucky while every fake accuser after this will be emboldened.

I always say that there must be consequences for bad behaviour. Deviants must be made to pay for their wrongs. Thank God you're not a lawyer as you would have let Orji Kalu, Evans and Clifford Orju walk free. Do you realise that there are thousands of innocent people languishing in prison because they were falsely accused of rape? Now you had the chance to make a loud statement, but you sacrificed it on the altar of "estate counsellor".

Ask yourself, what if you weren't living in an organised estate, but somewhere in Bariga or Somolu. You think you will be alive to write this post? The woman was out to ruin your life and your family's reputation, worse so because of an altercation she had with a third party. Do you realise your family would have been homeless had that woman not confessed? Do you realise that your siblings and parents would have been tagged for life?

I even find it quite funny that you now think yourself a role model. In your words "parents now send their kids for counselling". Is that the price of your dignity?

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Family › Re: Introvert People. Share Your Experience by Tripitaka: 9:09pm On Mar 30, 2020*

I was introverted growing up, but I've been making conscious efforts to break out of that box and I love where I am now.

When i was younger, I couldn't maintain eye contact; I always walked with my shoulders dropped; I could freak out when in the midst of more than 5 people; I was constantly scared of expressing an opinion without wondering what people would think; in class, I would never answer questions even if I knew the answer as i didnt want attention on myself; I was also very emotional. A whole lot of weird stuff.

Now I'm older it's different, though I'm still more of an introvert than an extrovert in the personality spectrum. Now, I'm more assertive; I can maintain eye contact forever; I'm still a bit shy and don't like talking to strangers unless there's something About them; I only express an opinion if it's necessary, otherwise I won't say a word; I never want to be the centre of attraction even if I've done something spectacular; i do a lot of introspection, lol my partner thinks I overthink things but I think I'm a natural thinker; I do not have a loud personality, but a strong one; it takes time for people to warm up to me as I'm a little bit closed up; small talks irritates me, if there is no actual topic, then count me out; I don't want to come to your party, but I want you to invite me. Even if I attend, I'll certainly leave in 15minutes.

Finally, I'm no longer too emotional, but more empathetic.
I'm still a work in progress.

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Crime › Re: Femi Owolabi : One Night Of Slaps And Torture In The Hands Of The NPF by Tripitaka: 3:24pm On Mar 30, 2020

Hi, Davidcorleone10. Please I'd like to send you a message. How can I contact You?

Romance › Re: Samsung Galaxy S9 by Tripitaka: 1:32pm On Mar 30, 2020

luvyaself95:
The op na joker na lol

bigkuba:
really a big joke, when I got a neat UK used S8 plus for 75k

Unfortunately, you're not in the position to tell anyone how much to sell their wares. What if I told you I got an S8+ for 63k?

He has stated his price, if you're interested, then make him an offer. But if you're not, why don't you leave him alone? It's not that hard.

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Family › Re: My Husband Has Said I Can Quit My Job If I Want To. by Tripitaka: 11:20pm On Mar 28, 2020

FreQ:
I visit medicare regularly. Also a practitioner please and please it's better you form a day care centre at home and charge 100naora daily per student as an alternative income than expose yourself to risks

Really? You know why Africans seldom excel in their fields? Because they enter it for the wrong reasons. When you made the choice to become a medical practitioner, you must have envisaged a time like this. No?

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Family › Re: My Husband Has Said I Can Quit My Job If I Want To. by Tripitaka: 11:08pm On Mar 28, 2020

At this time, the country and humanity needs you the most, don't let them down. Remember the reason you took up the profession, which I believe was to serve humanity.

Yes you're a nurse so this probably doesn't apply, but The Hippocratic Oath goes thus:

I swear to fulfill, to the best of my ability and judgment, this covenant: I will respect the hard-won scientific gains of those physicians in whose steps I walk, and gladly share such knowledge as is mine with those who are to follow.

Family › Re: Simple And Reliable Business Opportunity by Tripitaka: 10:19pm On Mar 28, 2020

adeakin777:
Hi Tripikata. Apologies for quoting you here. I would have sent a DM but i could not find the hyperlink to sending you a mail. I admire your writing skills and would like to be friends with you, if you don't mind that is. We could communicate via email.

@OP, my sincerest apologies if i derailed this thread in anyway.

Hello. I must admit that I'm flattered. I have sent you a dm and will be glad to connect with you.

Romance › Re: Removed by Tripitaka(op): 6:58pm On Mar 27, 2020*

zmpp:
it's an interesting read. your argument was solid. why did you remove it?

I'm sorry. I had to move it to the family section.

Family › Re: I Hope I Dont Reincarnate As A Nigerian Woman by Tripitaka(op): 10:50am On Mar 27, 2020

Mizwisdom:
Secondly, as her husband has chosen to be a public Dog what is she doing to protect herself so that she can live long to take care of those kids? hope she has stopped all sexual relationship with him or at least ensures he uses a condom?

This right here is part of my grouse. If the woman were to become a "public dog" would the man be advised to "protect" himself or just kick her out? Would the man be advised to just ignore her and focus on his kids? Would the man be advised to pray for her? Double standards much?

I have seen a woman become very self-critical and easily guilted into being responsible for her partner's irresponsibility and both accepting excuses from them and making excuses for them.

Trust me, this goes beyond having a career and job. The woman I referenced in my OP came from an upper middle class family and well informed but somehow she feels she can't leave nd I totally understand. There can be a primal feeling in a woman's body that she is safer with a man by her side, sometimes even if the man, in reality, is hurting her life. Crazy stuff.

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Family › Re: I Hope I Dont Reincarnate As A Nigerian Woman by Tripitaka(op): 8:20am On Mar 27, 2020

crackkhaus:
He who pays the piper dictates the tune...

Probably so. Main reason I question the symbolism of the bride price system. Subjugation or domination over wives is reflected right from the process of contracting a marriage whereby a man pays a bride price for his wife hence making her his personal property acquisition. The bride price for me symbolizes outright act of transfer of woman’s rights from her family to spouse’s family.

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Family › I Hope I Dont Reincarnate As A Nigerian Woman by Tripitaka(op): 2:35am On Mar 27, 2020

Feminism, feminist? What does that even mean? I'm not sure I ever used that word. In fact, it doesn't form part of my vocabulary.

I'm also not for the emasculation of the man nor for the whittling down of the authority of the patriarchy, but I'm certainly against poisonous patriachy. Nature has put the man in a position of authority, but this must be dispensed within the bounds of wisdom, common sense and great sense of responsibility. After all, to whom much is given, much is expected.

There has been so much focus on female marginalization, inequality, rights, societal rejection, sexual harassment and discrimination, with all pointing to the larger society, while everyone conveniently ignores the "carnage" going on in Nigerian homes and families where the wife is practically a second class citizen.

Today, an event took place that opened my eyes to how rotten the mind of an average Nigerian man has become. A female relative called a family meeting on her husband. At the meeting she revealed that the man is a serial cheat and grossly irresponsible. She tabled how He refuses to spend time with the kids but can stay out with friends till 11pm, how He won't let her keep friends nor join associations but he has membership of 4 different clubs, how he wants unfettered access to her phone while his own phone is on face recognition. This same man didn't let her pursue an M.Sc, because he believed she would become recalcitrant and refuse to do his bidding. In his defense, the man said he adequately provides for the family and the woman should focus on raising "her" kids and not his whereabouts. According to him, as long as he provides for the family, nothing else matters. But he forgets that the cardinal role of a patriarch is "provide and protect". Protection not just against physical harm and aggression, but also against ridicule, reproach and shame from your actions and inactions. One even accused the woman of embarrassing the husband by calling for that meeting.

Then I wondered what would happen if the woman did a fraction of what she had accused the man of doing. Would people's opinion remain constant? Mind you, at this meeting of 5 men, only 1 condemned the man's infidelity, albeit in passing. One man even loudly wondered whether the wife thought the man will be sleeping with just her simply because he is married.

A man once told me "If I cheat and my wife finds out, she can go. If my wife cheats and I find out, she will go". This powerful but disgraceful statement, puts in perspective, the unenviable position of an average Nigerian wife. Helpless and ridiculed.

One would easily say "walk away", only if it was that easy in a society where the odds are stacked against her by default, where marital rape is not recognised because the man owns the woman, where a woman's honour is hugely dependent on her silence and complicity, a society where marital abuse is rationalised because the man has the right to "discipline" the wife.

In my next life, if I must be an African, I hope i don't return as a woman.

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Romance › Re: Is It Right To Stay In His Apartment For 3 Weeks? by Tripitaka: 2:33pm On Mar 25, 2020*

kings59:
Post UME those days ehh. My female coursemate pleaded with me to allow her stay for 2 days that her room is filled already with post Umites.

She stayed two more weeks extra since her name came out on the first list. She started her registrations, payment of dues... I later found a good hostel closer to school for her, there she started living alone with her roommate.

I'm trying to reconcile the emboldened quotes. How can a "coursemate's" name come out on first list again?

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Family › Re: I Hate To Say This by Tripitaka: 2:19pm On Mar 25, 2020

Mariangeles:
The bolded will only fill you with bitterness, anger and resentments, making it harder for you to move on.
The more you hate them, the more you love them.
The best is to forgive every hurt they caused you, give you heart time to heal, so it can be healthy to love another deserving person purely.

It is one thing to forgive, it's another to forget. To forgive is human, to forget is divine. One can't just wake up and decide to forget pains brought upon them by someone else. The question is, when you remember, what emotions does it stir in you? Revenge? Regret? Gratitude?

Why it's important for him to remember the pains is so he would appreciate the pain and misery he would be getting back in to should he reconnect with the ex.

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Family › Re: I Hate To Say This by Tripitaka: 1:55pm On Mar 25, 2020

CokeBar:
Call her, talk to her, tell her you miss her...

If you both can get over your differences, forget the past and be happy. Your next girlfriend wouldn't be a saint either.

There's no shame in letting her know how you feel. If she doesn't feel that way anymore, in the future, you'd know that atleast you tried your best.

Trust me you'll feel better.

Btw, donot rush into another relationship. If possible, work out your relationship. If that isn't an option, get comfortable with being alone

It is hard but doable.

OP, I'm really optimistic that you didnt heed this advise. When ou break up with people, never forget the reason for your breakup. As a matter of fact, whenever you think about them, also ensure to think About the reason you broke up with them. If you were good enough for each other, you wouldn't have parted. The fact that you're emotionally needy doesn't suddenly make them good enough for you. Do not drink poison just because you're thirsty.

I tell people, no matter what your ex brings to the table, there are people out there who can bring triple of that and more. The beautiful ones are not yet born.

Whatever you do, do not forget how toxic the relationship was. To heal, you have to constantly remind yourself how worthless, hopeless and helpless they made made you feel. If you make that call, get ready to be emotionally manipulated by one who now sees you as emotionally weak.

Give it time.

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Health › Re: Coronavirus: Anambra State Govt Announces 3 Isolation Centres by Tripitaka: 9:36pm On Mar 24, 2020

Massive sensitization still needs to be done in the villages and hinterlands.

Some of them still believe that corona virus is some government sham to siphon funds, while the others believe it doesn't affect the black man.

Crazy stuff

Romance › Re: Is This A Spiritual Problem Or Sexuality by Tripitaka: 8:48pm On Mar 24, 2020

There's absolutely nothing wrong with you. It happens to the best of us. You meet a girl today, you try to be in your best behaviour and all, you make her laugh and wow her in more ways than one. Inwards, you think she is "the one", then you proceed to exchange contact and that's it.

You call her once, twice, thrice. You even text a couple of times. But then, you notice the excitement is gradually diminishing. You lose interest completely and even her calls begin to be a bother.

Going after a girl slmetimes is more like going hunting. The excitement is top notch until you catch the "animal" and then realise that it's all bone, not enough flesh, but you still enjoyed the adventure. It's an ego thing. The capture is the reward for your ego and also a validation that you can "get em", a validation that you have the charm. So, the moment you secure the capture, you move on to the next one.

It isn't fair, but it happens.

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Romance › Re: Is He Interested In Me.? by Tripitaka: 5:34pm On Mar 24, 2020*

"Is he interested in me?" Clearly he is.

If you have a job, just like him and a family too, it means you can at least afford to buy your own lunch. Your "kind" colleague also knows you can buy your own lunch, but has decided out of "kindnesss" to take that responsibility upon himself. What a sweet soul.

You know the thing about chasing married women? You don't go all gung ho, you have to be as stealth as possible, dropping subtle clues everywhere hoping that the woman picks up on them. The food, airtime and handbag are all clues. Clearly it worked, because you now know he likes you, I also believe you like him too (certainly you do, spare us the BS).

The problem with cheating in women is that they go all emotional, leaving a shìtload of evidence behind. No wonder your husband doesn't trust you, he already sees the potentials and tendencies. You event even started cheating, but he already feels it. You see?

There's good and bad news anyway. Bad news - At the end of the day, you will lose your marriage and job. Good news - you'll have the handbag as a memento - a reminder of when you veered off the path of sensibility - that's if it hasn't started peeling by then.

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Celebrities › Re: Prayer Cannot Cure Coronavirus, Dont Test God – Comedian Alibaba Warns by Tripitaka: 3:02pm On Mar 24, 2020

Will they listen and adhere? I doubt so. A typical Nigerian Is more emotional than logical.

Family › Re: I’m Pregnant For My Sister's Brother-In-Law. I’m Scared To Tell My Sister by Tripitaka: 10:17am On Mar 24, 2020

IMASTEX:
Your points appear hash but with several underlining facts. Social media is buttered with edited lives where many pretend & presenting selves as a saint when ditching opinions. The lady knows what to do, she is only seeking the best ways to accomplish that & perhaps some little confidence to implementing it. A day like this would have somehow be envisaged when they decided to swim completely unclad & frequently since they live together. Nigerians are what they are with so much preferences to religion but in the true sense far from what religion truly represents in practice.

I completely agree with you.

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Family › Re: I’m Pregnant For My Sister's Brother-In-Law. I’m Scared To Tell My Sister by Tripitaka: 5:31pm On Mar 23, 2020*

One would never understand how stupid and out-of-touch nairaland is until they post certain questions.

OP, mine may not be a popular opinion, but you are within your rights to have an abortion if that's what you want and feel is best for you. You wear the shoe, so you certainly know if it fits or not, so don't be cajoled by the hypocrisy of Nigerians. If you want an abortion, talk to your sister or parents about having it, as no one, even the guy has the right to tell you what to do with your body. But You must also not pin parental responsibility on the guy for a kid he didn't consent to having. You have done nothing wrong by having sex, but you have done everything wrong by having unprotected sex knowing fully well the possible consequences - a consequence that you are unprepared for.

Virtually everyone here castigating you will not let their teenage daughter or sister keep a pregnancy out of wedlock, if the decision was theirs to make. A study by PMA2020.org stated that an average of 3million abortions takes place in Nigeria annually. Yes, the same Nigeria where a probable 97% of Nairalanders hail from.

You must know that the decision to keep or abort that pregnancy is a life changing one - either positive or disastrous - a decision that you would live with for the rest of your life. You must also know that abortions pose a threat to life, especially when not done by professionals.

What do I think you should do? Talk to your sister now! Tell her you're sorry but let her know that you do not wish to keep the pregnancy. Going forward, please use a condom.

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Health › Re: Suleiman Achimugu Is Dead! Coronavirus Kills Ex-MD Of PPMC by Tripitaka: 11:31am On Mar 23, 2020

NCDC never got back to them? Another case of Nigeria redtapism.

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Politics › Re: Coronavirus: Adeboye, Oyedepo, Okonkwo, Adeyemi, Others Hold Online Services by Tripitaka: 9:42am On Mar 22, 2020

Yenefer:
This whole coronahoax is just a test run to see what they can get away with. Judging by the peoples reactions so far....the deep state has us by the short and curlies. And they know it.

That is precisely what all of us should be thinking. Coronavirus isn't what it seems; the timing is too convenient and the numbers don't wash. Follow the timeline, the locations, places most affected, and you'll start to see the picture. Some of it is connected to the Epstein/Weinstein/Clinton/Winfrey (YES! WINFREY) sex-trafficking ring. Weinstein was recently sentenced to 55 years for perving on CONSENTING women and his sentence was reduced to 23 years as the result of a plea deal. Following his sentencing, several billionaire CEO's have resigned and multiple celebrities and politicians have suddenly "contracted the virus." There will be more resignations, more sudden (and convenient) celebrity/politician infections in an effort to save face. 600 people were recently arrested in a sex trafficking/corruption investigation that has spanned nearly 20 years. On the other side of the coin, the data doesn't add up. We have no way to confirm the number of infections and deaths the media is reporting. Just as China has completely manufactured the nature of the virus and their recovery, the government and media are deliberately fabricating the number of infections and deaths to push for a "vaccine" that will actually cause more sickness and death than their supposed virus (which wasn't a virus). Understand this: the vaccine is the actual goal, not curbing the virus. The media is deliberately strewing the data and drumming up public hysteria to push this goal forward. Do some research on 5G frequencies and their effect on the human body, and you'll see China's "virus." Wake up, people. We are witnessing one of the largest scale False Flag psy-ops we've seen in decades. More than 50,000 die from influenza each year and the media is completely silent yet, the entire nation is facing imminent lockdown and the media is pimping hysteria non-stop over a virus with a 98% recovery rate, with zero evidence to support their data. If you're not smelling something fishy by now, you need your heads examined. Stop listening to the media. Turn off your tv, put down the phone, and stop falling for the lie we're being fed. It's NOT a pandemic!

Where did you copy this BS from?

TV/Movies › Re: BBNaija 2019 Live Updates (Big Brother Naija 2019 Thread) by Tripitaka: 8:38pm On Mar 21, 2020

Sweetpink:
I am a moronic element!
I wasn't well raised !!

You're right. Actually, you're spot on. If you weren't a confident morón, you would know better than exposing your ineptitude all day in a thread that has run it's course. All day you collect massive Ls here, yet the spirit of shamelessness in you won't let you see that, same spirit that ruined the fool you claim to be supporting.

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TV/Movies › Re: BBNaija 2019 Live Updates (Big Brother Naija 2019 Thread) by Tripitaka: 7:54pm On Mar 21, 2020

Sweetpink:
Agama is not my head ache..your ugly face is!

Now this is ridiculous! The irony of you calling someone ugly. Everyone now know what you look like and it isn't flattering.

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Family › Re: Somebody Please Help Me With A Job by Tripitaka: 5:41pm On Mar 21, 2020

Keep the faith bro. I wish I could help. I'm sorry.

Politics › Re: International Conference Centre: Obiano Visits Project Site In Awka.(photos) by Tripitaka: 10:17am On Mar 17, 2020*

I would never understand why politicians are exalted for carrying out duties which they were elected to carry out anyway, as if it's some sort of unmerited favour or privilege to the masses.

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Education › Re: Lagos explosion: ‘No student of Bethlehem Girls College died’ by Tripitaka: 10:15am On Mar 17, 2020

Jeezuzpick:
See my chat with him a couple minutes ago.....

They are trying to downplay the effect of the blast so as to keep attracting prospective students. The school is a business and admittance of casualties means that parents may not want to enrol their kids in the future.
Even in the neighbouring communities of Abule Osun, Festac and Tedi the impact was massively felt, let alone a school that almost shares fence with the site.

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