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Tinder? Lol |
bukatyne: Somehow, I could sense a thinly veiled misogynistic tone; misogyny in the context of contempt and not necessarily hatred. His text painted women as being in a state of helplessness and inherently lacking the gift of choice. |
Romangalactic: This is quite an interesting POV; one that is prevalently relatable (even though there's a whiff of misogyny). In romantic relationships, men are mostly characterised as dominant while women are deferential, cases of dominering women and subservient men is hardly the norm but an exception - an exception to the rule. The power in the choice of a partner or spouse lies mostly with the man and as is always said "it is the man who chooses a spouse, the woman only has right of refusal". I agree that men should not be intimidated into settling for less, but no one should be intimidated into settling for less anyway. If you want a voluptuous woman, then go for it; you want a housewife, go for it; you want a wealthy man, go for it; you desire a six-packed man, go for it. Only problem is that women have the little issue of biology to contend with while making these choices as they may not have the luxury of time - one that a man has in abundance. |
Flier:This is a complete fallacy. |
QueenMelinda:Bravo, on this groundbreaking observation. I hope you're proud of yourself. |
Ifyyy25:Hello. Where do you live? I ask because your story sounds like that of a family friend who lives in Kaduna now. |
I'd go with Thomas Hobbes who said that man is inherently wicked, evil and selfish and that they are willing to hurt each other for the flimsiest reasons. |
bukatyne:At this juncture, there's nothing left to say. |
I do not think the woman's qualms is with the daughter; actually it is the man that she despises, the girl is simply collateral damage. She probably serves as a painful reminder to the mother of a terrible decision she took in marrying the father, worse so, the fact that you said she feels helpless. There is no anger worse than a subdued one, so you just unleash on the available target. Perhaps she got pregnant for the man and had to marry him. The pregnancy begot the girl. To her, if not for the girl, she won't be in such a beleaguered marriage as hers. This is my conjecture. In a typical African family setting, there is a thin line between training and abuse, but somehow we have come to extol, normalize and institutionalize the latter. The popular line is "You cant love a child more than the parents", while forgetting that love is always conditional and can be predicated on certain enabling factors which if absent could point to a mirage of love. In the name of "training", a host of African parents bring to bear their marital frustrations, government vexation, perceived spiritual failings and financial inadequacies on their children and call it training. What do I think you should do? The logical me would ask you to stay out of it; self preservation trumps every other need (I'm sure you've read of cases of false child rape). The emotional me on the other hand would ask you to talk to the woman, NOT the husband. If you talk to the man, it will further cause problems in their marriage and you will be blamed for it. Talk to the woman, tell her you understand how children of nowadays are (you can even lie that your nephew behaves in same way). But remind her that the girl is still young and would learn. You may also need to point out certain positive traits you've seen in the girl like how she does chores that other kids of her age may not be able to do. In all, do not court controversies with your neighbours, its never a good thing. Unless you're up for it. |
SyrusdeHansome: |
Smithkafors:Can you please be kind enough to tell us the license that costs 5billion naira. We're talking about a clearing agency business and not some medical engineering patent. |
Nadesh, your ignoring game is legendary. Lol |
No thanks to our pocket motivational speakers. Ignoring or wishing away a problem will never put it out of existence. Instead, it further complicates the inevitable decision making process. It is better to think and make a bad decision than sit back and let things go to ruins becaise we have erroneously chosen not to think about such problems.Thinking about a problem also sharpens the mind and elevates our rational thinking process. Admittedly, there are times you should let things take their natural course, but this wouldn't work in every situation. Heck, the decision to let things take their natural course also involved thinking about the problem and reaching such conclusion anyway. |
The statement quoted the judge as saying, “The court hereby sentences you to eight years imprisonment on count one. You are hereby sentenced to eight years imprisonment on count two and the years to run concurrently.I'm against embezzlement of any form, but our politicians who steal billions and manage to return a couple of millions are allowed to walk free. The joke called Nigerian Judiciary |
A woman never goes to pick a groom, it is the man who does this; the woman only has right of refusal. This is the traditional stance and he who seeks must provide. No man worth his onion should/would let a woman singlegandedly fund his wedding unless he is willing to (inevitably) wear the skirt in the marriage. Weddings, aside the fanfare is a symbolic event and one whose organisation will probably set the tone for the marriage proper. I also can't help but wonder how a man who can't fund his own wedding plans to provide for his family. |
My heart goes out to the young man who needs a community contribution to get married. Perhaps he will need a local government contribution to feed and cater for the family . . .a real disturbing cyclic circle. |
TushiPree:Oh, well! |
Sweetpink:Mercy drove a BMW X6 before the show and still has it. You wouldn't know, would you? |
In all of this Ella-Jaruma-Mercy-Venita brouhaha, the major takeaway is that a host of Nigerians lack integrity and are averse to accountability. If you do not want to give account of how you spent money, then make your own. When people give you handouts, it behoves on you to give account of how it was dispensed and spent; you owe them that much. It's an obligation. Accountability is essential to sustaining relationships and shows one to be a worthy steward whom can be trusted. Accountability is synonymous to integrity and the lack of which is a deal breaker in any relationship. Mercy asked if she does drugs. That and the likes would be the only possible way one can spend millions of naira in a matter of days. I gave you money to tend to your mom, yet you won't let me see her, visit her nor even speak to her. If that isn't shifty, pray what is? |
stephleena:You know I find it curious how you keep referring to Venita's failed marriage. The hypocrisy of womanhood boggles the mind. |
Romangalactic. Please how do i do this calculation, I'm pretty confused. |
cindyspice:Lol. You expect common sense from someone who has been having full blown conversations with herself? Remind me of the first symptom of insanity. |
Let's take a look at it this way: You're pricking one vagìna, while your girlfriend is gloriously riding two cócks. Both you and your friends make financial contributions to her life, while she (typically) doesn't spend on you. She has the enviable privilege of comparing and contrasting between you and your friend; a privilege you don't have. You go to sleep at night bemoaning the betrayal while she sleeps preety. So, how exactly are you using her? Before you refer to sex, know that both genders equally enjoy sex, just that one is more expressive than the other. |
There may be some of them. But with as most things "Nigerian", expect a lot of nepotism, bribery and favoritism before one can make the grades there. |
Ebenezer2O2O:Lalasticlala Dominique the post is wrong on all levels. Rule 2 and 3 |
The day I won a scholarship organised by my Town Union in Lagos. The result was published on the same day we wrote the exams (to prevent any shady dealings). It was around 3pm when they concluded proceedings and I called my dad to tell him I was one of the 3 successful candidates. He was still in the market then, Ladipo market. The moment I told him, he started shouting and calling out to his neighnours "heeei bia nu oo, nwa m win scholarship ooo", I bet out of excitement and elation he had forgotten I was still on call. He kept shouting and I could hear people beginning to gather round him. Nothing beats making your parents proud. I'm overwhelmed by emotions whenever I remember that day. |
Angelfrost:Yeah. I couldn't stop staring at Tiffany all through the movie. The Lady was damn attractive in the movie. |

