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help a broda with a past question too abeg.anytnblue@yahoo.com

RUN bro RUUUUN!

we are paying the price for interefering with the balance of nature.but it couldnt have been helped since the human pusuite for knowlegde,and that-which-is-best is unending.the institution of marriage is becoming overrated lately.with all the fight for gender equallity(feminism)...and heavily misrepresented by alot of women instead.in an evolving society as ours it was bound to be that women would taste independence and therefore would not require a man or marriage to form an identity and purpose for there lives and so would be the spread.life is getting more competitive and complex in the male world anyway.many men would give a leg to hold on to there ego instead than to end up in such situation with a woman.with so many unstable marriages and divources people unwilling to get married,late marriages,children born out of wedlock, the institution of marriage is taking a graduall fall and it couldnt have been helped.might just end up for the good of all anyway

De Beauvoir: 'This one' means what exactly? Why refer to me as 'this one'?

a tigress too! You can retract your claws back sister.the brother is armless.

Uyi Iredia: I hope not. I know Ann Coulter can be needlessly b*tchy but this is in very poor taste. I'll check her site to confirm. The writer funny. UNILAG students don't_or hardly if they do_engage in credit card fraud. For fraud, especially Internet fraud, go to LaUTECH.

you seem to know her that well then.and you seem so certain that unilag dont do credit card fraud.

na lie before.third world cunts.you guys being defensive but your corrupt government giving you such image has never giving a rat a.ss about you or how you percieved them let alone a foriegn country.truth hurts

wow! you are going to be a father now man.congrates.

Chomzy19: u fink they are nt real because u blieve everyone is like u; truthfully i dunno d kinda circles u move in buh frm where I come 80% of men will simply walk away to cool off, ignore her for smtym perhaps b4 warning her sternly never to try such sh.t, or will simply restrain her b4 d slap ever gets to their face... So d comments abt playing calm are more real to me actually than d ones of tying her up n beating her; but heck dis na naija everybody hs gat d way they roll; if playing calm is nt ur style don't assume most pple dont play calm

and you move in circles of men who take readily to being slapped by women.peharps i should throw the question to these men instead.the kind of circle of women they move around with.very strange.would there be anything that would make you slap your husband? This is an untinkable madness

De Beauvoir: You have made a number of comments that led me to think you believe in male superiority. Anyway let's just clear things up now. Do you believe in gender equality or not?

ah! A feminist...this one.how long have you been fighting the course?

Chomzy19: lol... Wonderd if I had said sth
So over to u Male champ what would u hv done if u were d man?

you were picking the young guy on the immaturity of his comment but its strange that maturity too isnt requested of a wife.or what do you measure maturity with? Well dont ever try your luck slaping a man.most comments here about playing it calm arnt real.

such happenings are inconcievable.its not just cause of the "my pot" theory, alot certainly built it up to that level.no man who has any sense of selfworth would EVER! let whatever it is build up to that level of abuse.just like saying that union should never have been.

Sunglow: And what if I quote you,what will you do?

very amusing.you realy have it bad for him.have you met him before?

lorretta u: Come here
*hugs him*
*apologizes for past harsh words*

Hope that takes care of the grudge

i was actually doing poorly at it.*hugs back*

DailyNews: Troy!!! We are here to learn and interact man, not to find love cos.....

my bro your head is there

Chomzy19: HEy! Calm Down Man!! I don't get where u re coming from... What exactly ws it in my post dt made u respond lyk that? Put a cap on dt Tongue? Give d dude a break??

just didnt seem good to dismiss the youngstar like that if he was realy one.its not much of a big deal.i just added fun to it.

lorretta u: Yes I'm single
No I don't have fantasies (well except to win the billion dollar jackpot )

As against your very 'wise' perception that I might be on the way to marital frustrations,I can tell you whole heartedly that you're wrong.I can ask many women you have raised responsible kids and the answer would still be that I can do it.
I don't need to go far to ask
I've my mom here as a perfect example.
Career mom.
Great kids
Happy home.
I could begin to count the number of women who I know have done it and I won't be done by tomorrow.
I have no fear for the future. Worry about yourself and your wife
I'll be fine. Thanks.

i try not to see some of your perspectives cause i grudginly share them.see it as a complement if you wish.

lorretta u: In any case don't accept any slap from any woman without giving her serious reproach(don't beat her up o)
Except if she's your mom. You know you can't yell at your mom and you can't slap her back too
Just the quiet "momma I don't like that" complain.

lol.i actually meant the o.p .He had the slap long time coming.it wasnt just because he deeped his hands in the pot.i actually wanted a better insight from you as a woman.

DailyNews: Darling Lorreta, take this home: every successful man is a sexist and thinks the Adam's way!!! They are only feminist when they want to sell their brand, product or political campaign! Only failed men fantasize of marrying a woman richer than them.


Now don't get me wrong: I love seeing successful women, but I will never intentionally marry a woman richer than I am. If she becomes while we are married, fine...though she can't be smarter than I am in making money.

if my future wife ends up being a career lady, fine...her money is for she to take care of herself and her parents who trained her and if she wishes to contribute in taking care of the family, that's her decision and won't stop me from performing my desired duty- providing for my family.

But I repeat: I can't intentionally go for a rich lady just to marry a career or business woman, never...if she ends up one, I must strive to surpass or equal her before going to the altar.


Only failed men plan their future on a woman

dude your've made use of "my future wife" enough here to earn yourself a few Awwwws! I give you a dozen of them unbehalf of the blind single girls here who obviously can't spot a good man.

lorretta u: Lmao

well i dont know what to make of your explaination but that slap has been long time coming for sure.i've violated the "my pot" rule in many a woman's kitchen-heck even mama-put but i never had much more than a mild reproach.

lorretta u: Most women have been trained to believe their place is in the man's bed and and the kitchen alone.
And as normal human beings,they exercise territorialism in the little niche they have come to see as all they can achieve in their lives.
Trust me,if such women had opportunities to live out their hearts dreams and achieve their childhood goals,they'd be less fanatical about 'their' kitchens
They'll obtain fulfilment from their other endeavors.

such that even there husbands are also forbidden? But i have also experienced the "my pot" situation with a woman who had her own school?i believe thats a career

lorretta u: Most women have been trained to believe their place is in the man's bed and and the kitchen alone.
And as normal human beings,they exercise territorialism in the little niche they have come to see as all they can achieve in their lives.
Trust me,if such women had opportunities to live out their hearts dreams and achieve their childhood goals,they'd be less fanatical about 'their' kitchens
They'll obtain fulfilment from their other endeavors.

such that even there husbands are also forbidden? But i have also experienced the "my pot" situation with a woman who had her own school?

carefreewannabe: Another thread that has turned into a gender battle and feminism debate
Nigeria is discussing what other countries stopped discussing 50 years ago

its not a gender battle.and even if it was, browse the internat its a serious situation there and they are very much deep in it right now like it just begone.we havnt even gotten started here

would a lady be so kind to explain "my pot" to me please.

here we go again

Amaaskia: Hahaha aww. Did I hurt you?

Is your heart bleeding?

Aww. So sorry! I didn't mean to hurt your feelings, I'm simply stating reality:

You are a "foolish" man.

she-beast

DailyNews: My dear, in as much as I respect your opinion on this...let's face the truth here- most women tend to lack respect for their husband or man when they are the breadwinner of the home or when they earn more than their spouse.

Naturally in Nigeria, women expect more from a man- they expect their husbands to foot at least 80% of the house bills if not 90%, and when their husband isn't meeting up to that expectation, with time, the woman's respect for him will start witnessing a dwindle.

Men don't care if their wife comes from a wretched family....what they care most from their wife is respect, humility, submission and emotional support. But women care more about their hubby's financial support, emotional support and ability to provide and fend for the family, and it is a natural trait.

That's why men don't misbehave or mistreat/maltreat their wife when they are the ones earning higher or providing everything. But its always different when the woman is earning higher or is the breadwinner.

Maybe it may change in the future...but I would advice any young man wishing to marry in Nigeria to please strive and pray to have a good means of income, and also save for the rainy day cos most women don't wanna know that you were once comfortable....most care about the present and current situation cos their memories are mostly short lived.

So OP should try and figure out the root cause of his wife's action to avoid it from reoccurring and not just dwell on retaliating.

dailynews my man i like the way you take your time to write.

DECOtech: Hey!!! ...he has not asked him to hit his wife back. Or are u saying he shld brood in hunger? ...what's ur point exactly?

am not in support of physical retaliation either.just that if my WIFE...the only woman i possibly would've bared all to can find the courage to reach for my chin, then what else would be left of me worth respect.if his story is real, i pity him

Chomzy19: Posts like this is d reason Y 'Advice threads' in d family section shld never make frontpage. It attracts d attention of a lot of kids who brings dia BF/GF mentality into d equation.

Op I hope u've seen d reasonable advice given to u on d first page. U can also chill out on very funny threads here in nairaland, mayb dt funny meme's thread by kslib, giv u both d tym time to cool off, then sit her down n discuss wat d real problem is, cos u might fink its just wat u narrated here bt I assure d problem is deeper than that, it might b accumulated, she jst lost it today. Also mk sure u let her understand that u don't respond well to physical violence, she shld find better ways of communicating her angers

put a cap on that tongue lady give the dude a break.....Oh what the heck o.p just knife the b!tch already.

[quote author=Mynd_44]Before people come here to tell you to retaliate and assert your leadership, locate the nearest buka, order for some amala and ogunfe and go somewhere you can be until night or when you are calm and your anger has subsided[/quote]