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Na waaaooo
Bisbis80, hope u are reading this and sorry I can’t post the girl photos on social media.. You are both in it.
I still keep my comments

Continued from the part 1


https://www.nairaland.com/5711231/should-keep-secret

Morning all
Hope u are all enjoying your March 2020
I have a new one
Someone chat me up privately asking if he should keep shut or talk.

Copied with permission

Sir please I want your advise on this story
I was with a girl back then in school and we used to run things together. We aren’t dating but I was her gate way to anyone who wanted her.
During that time we used to share whatever profit she made from sleeping out with men cause I used to cover for her in school and do most test and make up classes for her. My problem now is all the time we were together condom wasn’t much appreciated at that time so she got pregnant for her suitors and she will abort the pregnancy.
She did this like 12 times cause I used to Followed her to the place pretending to be the owner and when it done on me at the 12 time, I told her am not interested any more and that was how our friendship and runs mode got broken.
So many years I didn’t see her again cause we passed out of Unilag and we both went our ways.
Until last year December when our family was having our thanksgiving then I saw her with one of my uncle that cane to Nigeria From UK introducing her as his fiancé. I was shocked, I greeted her but she ignored as if we never met in this life before.
I had to start looking for her name and photos on the social media to be sure she was the one or not after the party.
I couldn’t fund anything until this valentine she posted on my uncles wall then I was able to get her new name and new identity. I messaged her why is she pretending to be who she is not. She told me she ignored me cause that girl I knew then was gone and the new girl now doesn’t know anyone but her husband to be which happened to be my uncle.
Sir, am still shocked....should I let the cat out of the bag orI keep my mouth shut.
Please help cause I don’t know what to do and am confused.
Thank you
Expecting your reply.

Truthshurts:
Morning all
Hope u are all enjoying your March 2020
I have a new one
Someone chat me up privately asking if he should keep shut or talk.

Copied with permission

Sir please I want your advise on this story
I was with a girl back then in school and we used to run things together. We aren’t dating but I was her gate way to anyone who wanted her.
During that time we used to share whatever profit she made from sleeping out with men cause I used to cover for her in school and do most test and make up classes for her. My problem now is all the time we were together condom wasn’t much appreciated at that time so she got pregnant for her suitors and she will abort the pregnancy.
She did this like 12 times cause I used to Followed her to the place pretending to be the owner and when it done on me at the 12 time, I told her am not interested any more and that was how our friendship and runs mode got broken.
So many years I didn’t see her again cause we passed out of Unilag and we both went our ways.
Until last year December when our family was having our thanksgiving then I saw her with one of my uncle that cane to Nigeria From UK introducing her as his fiancé. I was shocked, I greeted her but she ignored as if we never met in this life before.
I had to start looking for her name and photos on the social media to be sure she was the one or not after the party.
I couldn’t fund anything until this valentine she posted on my uncles wall then I was able to get her new name and new identity. I messaged her why is she pretending to be who she is not. She told me she ignored me cause that girl I knew then was gone and the new girl now doesn’t know anyone but her husband to be which happened to be my uncle.
Sir, am still shocked....should I let the cat out of the bag orI keep my mouth shut.
Please help cause I don’t know what to do and am confused.
Thank you
Expecting your reply.

Over to everyone

Morning all
Hope u are all enjoying your March 2020
I have a new one
Someone chat me up privately asking if he should keep shut or talk.

Copied with permission

Sir please I want your advise on this story
I was with a girl back then in school and we used to run things together. We aren’t dating but I was her gate way to anyone who wanted her.
During that time we used to share whatever profit she made from sleeping out with men cause I used to cover for her in school and do most test and make up classes for her. My problem now is all the time we were together condom wasn’t much appreciated at that time so she got pregnant for her suitors and she will abort the pregnancy.
She did this like 12 times cause I used to Followed her to the place pretending to be the owner and when it done on me at the 12 time, I told her am not interested any more and that was how our friendship and runs mode got broken.
So many years I didn’t see her again cause we passed out of Unilag and we both went our ways.
Until last year December when our family was having our thanksgiving then I saw her with one of my uncle that cane to Nigeria From UK introducing her as his fiancé. I was shocked, I greeted her but she ignored as if we never met in this life before.
I had to start looking for her name and photos on the social media to be sure she was the one or not after the party.
I couldn’t fund anything until this valentine she posted on my uncles wall then I was able to get her new name and new identity. I messaged her why is she pretending to be who she is not. She told me she ignored me cause that girl I knew then was gone and the new girl now doesn’t know anyone but her husband to be which happened to be my uncle.
Sir, am still shocked....should I let the cat out of the bag orI keep my mouth shut.
Please help cause I don’t know what to do and am confused.
Thank you
Expecting your reply.

frozen70:
Am already done with you

No fight please
We are all trying to learn here.
We aren’t Kids
Let’s act and be matured
Thank you all

There is no point keeping secrets
If he or she doesn’t love u for saying the truth another person will.
It’s good to be good.
That secret of killing someone pass my head ooo
E go better make u go confess to God and the family of the person.

Lamanii22:
Some secrets are better left unsaid...

Like what secrets

True and genuine love is needed here
Forgiveness
Understanding
Patience
Endurance
You can name them
The important thing is to have a good foundation that no matter what happens both parties will always fall back to their foundation
Let the truth be told
Invite
What someone will leave you for is what another will need to have you
Let the truth be told
Happy dundsy

Still more

Opebellgmail.com

There is more

I saw a post on FB
The guy was about to get married...it was everywhere.
Just about some few weeks to his wedding...he hanged himself to the fan.
Everyone was worried...a lot of RIP every where. Then I started trailing the story based on the last note he wrote that wasn’t published
“Am sorry I made a big mistake and I didn’t tell you before now, now everyone knew what I am”

What could warrant this messages
One of the friends name withheld narrated that when they were all in boarding school, in the night they go to the farm and assault the female goats(animals) and one day they were all caught and expelled. This was long gone until one of the wife to be brother dig the hold of the past and accuse him openly and that's when hell got lose.

In this case is it had been better for this secret kept and swept under the carpet or tell the wife to be on before they started falling in to each other.

I tire ooo

nautybride:
Some issues are better left as secrets while some should be discussed.

Can you explain that better.
We need to know....I nee to know
Thanks

Today I was at the filmhouse to watch a movie title “Can you keep a secret?”
There while waiting I met two guys talking. The first guy was telling his friend “If not that am married to her(his wife) already...all the secret am getting to know about her would had stop the wedding”
That’s a case of regrets in a marital situation.
I automatically guess what’s happening....the wife the guy married had a lot of secret she didn’t share to her husband before getting married and later after the wedding..some of it or all of it started popping up and the guy is feeling regrets marrying her.

Now my questions is
Is it better to keep a secret to someone you want to marry or reveal it.
Also is it better to reveal it before or after the wedding?
Up to you....let’s hear your opinion

Mzflexydeeva:
Over the weekend I had the privilege to attend a couple’s wedding anniversary. It was over 40 years of marriage. While the couple and kids danced and had merry I kept an observant eye trying to figure out within me how 2 strangers managed to live that long together looking all happy and equally having their kids all around them looking like this one big family.

Then something happened. This in itself helped me conclude that indeed for a marriage to be successful a woman had 99% of the hard work to do and this is also guiding my conclusion in this write up.

It was time for dance, dance, dance and lots of people came out to spray the couple just to appreciate them. Since I was close to the family, I was part of the money picking committee. In fact I was the coordinator. At the end of it all I counted the total money realized and was about to hand over to the daughter of the celebrant when she whispered.

“Who do I hand over the money to? My mum or my dad”?

I quickly answered your mum of course. The men don’t know how to manage money more so women are better at financial matters. She laughed and looked at me saying “I would have given my mum but I know she will give it to my dad who may just keep it all to himself so I have decided to share it into 2 half and give them both their share. I was amazed at such wisdom as I walked away to my seat thinking how fair that decision their daughter had made was. Later that day I called my friend to congratulate her again and praise her for being so wise but to my surprise she had something else to say.

Just as I finished praising her she said, I did as I thought was just for my parents but to my greatest surprise as I handed over the money to my mum and explained to her she rejected it. I heard myself shout “what” over the phone. Just then my friend said, my mum refused half the money and asked me to hand everything over to my dad at this point my voice could be heard by others around me. See me see wahala, what’s my own? Na me get money?

Then my friend continued, my mum said she wasn’t going to be a part if that sharing. Give it to your dad she said, what ever he gives me I would take and if he gives me nothing so be it. He is my husband after all. On hearing this I told my girl I would call her back as I need to check on somethings.

This really got me thinking... what is happening to marriages today?

Now I am summarizing some of the things destroying our marriages inspired by the woman in this encounter.

Love is not enough to take that life decision called marriage. Marriage should be a decision carefully thought out. Not something rushed into out of peer pressure or social intimidation. Not a decision made by friends or family but one for which one has carefully sat down to weigh the cons and pros. Having said that, it is still scary to see the level of broken homes arising each day.
Divorce is not a solution to marital problems but in itself can cause more harm than good. Although I am not a fan of divorce but when sanity and safety is at stake I fully Stan.

1. Finance: most times the issues caused by finances in a home is out of greed, social validation and peer pressure. A woman should understand her husband’s financial capability and live within such. Do not be tempted to live like your mates are living resulting in unhealthy pressure of your spouse. Men should be hard working and proactive. Do not be the type that believes I own my wife and all she owns. The easiest way to loose a woman’s respect is to misuse her finances.

2. Patience: This is by far the life one of marriages. Patience from either man or woman. Patience is what will keep you when she is nagging, what will keep you when he starts keeping late nights

3. Understanding: To be able to live together,there has to be a certain level of understanding of which once the understanding is compromised the marriage can as well be over.

4. Love: what exactly is Ione? Love isn’t what keeps 2 people together. Love is what brings them together

5. Forgiveness: once you have the spirit of forgiveness,your marriage is bound to sail with less friction. Forgiveness is so important in marriage that if partners can’t forgive each other they can not be cohabiting. Infidelity, disrespect,lack of control and all what may become irrelevant once the spirit of forgiveness visits you.

6. Interpersonal relationships : this involves the level of friendship. Once you consider your partner a friend you will never feel cheated rather you will see you both as equals not also neglecting the place of each one.

7. Sensitivity to the feelings of your partner: the ability to tell what your partner is feeling is a special gift. A gift that allows you to leave in harmony with everyone. The feelings of your partner should never be taken for granted. Women like it when you can tell at every point how emotionally stable they are. Men love to be seen and treated like babies. Do it and when it’s time to be happy, your home will know no bounds for love and happiness.

Let’s help save marriages and teach people to remain married unless in cases of domestic violence by either party.

8. Trust
When trust fails....everything fails
Love and all start with trust
Trust is very important

1. God as ur foundation

With God....all things are possible
If God is your foundation....ur marriage will be unstoppable
Lesson I had learnt
There is still more

Victoronah1:
Okay, so I wanted to get my girlfriend an iPhone xr, I ended up getting her an iPhone x mas. I hope she loves it. I'll have to lodge in a beautiful hotel, and buy lots of red flowers and red candles and set it up. I'll make it very warm and nice for her, she deserves it by the way, also I don't care if we break up tomorrow the money I spent can easily be gotten back.

Here are the things I got for her:

1. iPhone xs max
2. Apple series watch 3
3. And ear pod.

Then got myself apple mac book which I don't even know if I will be using cause I have a GTX 1080 laptop I use for my video editing. But anyways I've never used a MacBook, I heard MacBook are good for Editing so I will have to test. I want you to follow me on my journey till 14th night.

I'll keep updating this thread if I buy any new thing for her but until then happy valentine.
Also what will you gift your girlfriend or boyfriend on Valentine's day? Or husband or wife any

Hello Bro
Maybe it’s only me ooo but I knew u are lying.
Can I ask you a simple question...
What happens if she broke up with you a week later ?
Like what will u honestly do?

Bro....
You know try at all
Considered she was the one that did that to you
I know what u might have done but all the same it has happened
My advice is don’t even think of still going on a relationship with her again
You don’t deserved her
Just find how to apologize and let her know u are sorry
If on her own she feels she could forgive u and move on then u are lucky but don’t even push it
That relationship is dent already
U just need to clear the stigma and start with someone else
I wish u good luck
Am I making sense

Can someone or anyone share the process of reapplying
I need the step please.
Thank you

NGOs can I reapply if am refused a visa please
I need the steps
Thanks

Truthshurts:
Hello all
My client just got a refusal based on 2 reasons
1. That she won’t come back to Nigeria after her study and
2. She has family over there in which she dodent

What is the best next thing to do cause Canada is her only alternative.
Please reply
Thanks

Is there no one to prefer advice for this situation please

Hello all
My client just got a refusal based on 2 reasons
1. That she won’t come back to Nigeria after her study and
2. She has family over there in which she dodent

What is the best next thing to do cause Canada is her only alternative.
Please reply
Thanks

I just did. Thanks

AceRoyal:
It's a far greater compliment to be respected than to be loved.
I sent u a pm, kindly respond or WhatsApp me via 07053331484.

AntiWailer:
It has happened .....


The question is not will u encourage her to do sex tape ?

She has done it and she is close to depression and suicide might follow .

So no other option

I will do what I had said..love and embrassed her

There are many reasons to that question
Business
Pleasure
Cutting
Just incase
My own experience
I met a beautiful lady and we share our contacts. I called her and we went out to see a movie. After that we crashed in a joints and we were talking..she started taking about her daughter and for a moment I felt like this lady was married. I asked her about her husband and she told me he comes in and out of Lagos 2 weeks in and out. From that point I just find one excuse and told her I had to see someone urgently .
I left her that day and never call her again
I first blocked her number and every way I or her could reach me then I deleted her.
Can’t forget that day....I felt so stupid why I didn’t notice she was married and she was still having another dates.
May God help us

My name is Alex, I was marry 5 years ago and I have a beautiful son of 3 years Old. I caught my wife cheating some few months to our wedding but I forgave and forget then moved on to the marriage. After my baby was 1 year old, my wife started again in her adulterous ways. I wanted to stop but she said she can’t stop because she is not getting what she wanted in her life from our marriage. Now I wanted to leave her but she is not ready to go. I tried divorcing her but she didn’t sign the documents. She threatened to go away with our son if I leave her. I need your advice

AntiWailer:
Nothing.

My baby will remain my baby forever.

I will tell her how I recorded sex tapes in the past. That her own got to the wrong hand does not make me a Saint and her a sinner.

I am going to show my baby more love. Send her to another school preferably abroad and be there for her till she gets over it.

Fck every hypocrites

Good one
Well said but it’s not easy....
There are somethings u can let go or not but it depends on how it meets the eyes.

I love my child no matter what....that act might even be a punishment for my past mistakes
All I will do is not to let it happen again.
I will take her as a new born
Stand beside her...even do a video with her to help other people having that kind of problem.
There is an adage in my home town which says
It’s better for a child to be lost that to die
If a child is lost....he or she can be found but if she or he is dead....that one is final.
Once there is life....there is still hope
BUT I never prayed this happened to me as a father
Amen!!

JustMellow:
Hello Truthshurts,

For a comprehensive list of documents for SP, you can visit IRCC website to check the required documents for Nigeria applicants or check the first page of this thread or the previous page.

Thus, getting approved depends on how well you package your application and how much luck falls on you in the process.

All the best.

Thank you so much
You have said it all
It’s notvabout the documents but the grace ifGod
All the best to others too

Hello all

I want to congratulate those that had gotten their visa already and to those that didn’t...sorry abt that.
Please I have just 12 questions to ask and I need all ur answers
1. What are all the document you need to submit as a graduate that has served in NYSC here is Nigeria and still want to study another course in canada shoukd submit to enhance the visa approval

2. What are the document that could bring rejection in study visa.
Thanks all

If this phone enter water.......

fearlessigboman:
I would have called this a show off...
But then, this is a normal human being living her life.. Doing what a normal flashy person would have done, "snapping in the mirror".
Then Op and NL management saw this as a jaw breaking deal to post it here and bring it to front page..
How does this affect the life of an average human.
Do you think I open Nairaland because I want to know what Tonto dikeh ate today? Or how Bob risky didn't sleep without his/her clothes..??

I was not forced to open this thread, but due to lack of reasonable thread to open... I just had to pour my mind..

You are very tight....have been wandering why I open this thread too.
Please create a better thread for us jor.
Am following u

Saintdaprince:
Infidelity. Thou shalt not commit adultery but we have failed to heed to God's instructions. The soul that sinneth shall die.

What a shameful way to die. What will that married man answer b4 God on HIS judgement throne?

Just wondering.

He will answer
God I don Bleep up while trying to Bleep
Depart!

Hello zhuys
I saw this image going on around now and every girls are like taking it seriously and some stupid once are posting it.
Maybe it’s only me but I feel something is wrong with guy that wrote this.
Please help me out!!! I don’t want to lose my temper