Drock49:
Hi, everyone, am tobi from ogun state, a tall guy in his early twenties, I'm a stammerer from birth but recently i have been noticing that it's been getting worse, I can't talk anymore in public without the fear of embarrassing myself.

Everytime am on the net, searching for "How to stop Stammering" but up till now, no improvement, I have tried all method, but still no improvement, Each time I go out to buy something, I usually embarrass myself, sometimes I overhear people saying, is he deaf and dumb?

I have few friends I talk to regularly, they do understand but not everyone understands, it wasn't as bad as this early this year or in the middle of the year, I just can't explain, Usually I talk fast, but people advise me to calm down while talking but even though I try to calm down I still end up Stammering, am frustrated, nothing is working, its even leading me to suicidal thoughts, am just tired,

Ignore my typos, am just frustrated

I have good news for you.

Background:

I have been stammering for the past 40years. I can still remember my neighbors laughing at me when i was 3years old because i wasn't as fluent as my younger cousin.

But that's all part of what makes me me. With my stammering I got a job with one of the top 4 audit firms, left to join a top oil servicing company. That's to say I was interviewed, passed the interview, and now working effectively with people. I am a c-suit manager.

The background is to encourage you that your stammering/ stuttering cannot limit you if you don't allow it to.


My suggestions on how to manage your stuttering

These are the few ways i have learnt to manage the stuttering:

1. Have a good idea of what you want to say before you say it
2. Deliberately start speaking slowly - starting from the very first syllable. If you don't feel weird and uncomfortable doing this, then you are not doing it well
3. Carefully enunciate each syllable of every word you speak i.e. make every part of the word distinct e.g. po-pu-lar.
4. Try to have even amount of space between each word and syllable e.g. "po-pu-lar" not "po......pular"
4. Learn to breath while speaking

These are the exercises I suggest

a. Do at least four 2minutes audio recording of yourself everyday talking about different things. Then listen to the recordings and do the needed adjustments
b. Do at least five 1minute video recordings of you trying to market or convince people to buy a product or something. Observe your facial expressions and correct as required.

This should be done for the next 60days until it becomes a part of you.

The sky is the limit (and still remember to pray to God to order your steps).

All the best

thunder74:
It is turn by turn. It will soon get to everybody's turn. Continue to applaud the human rights violation of this government.

Wise words! Most Nigerians don't realise it may be their turn tomorrow. Arrests without proper cause and longterm detention without justification

The problem with most Nigerians is that we thrive on "hear say". Not on fact! How can a 2011 camry be faster than a 2013 accord?! Somethings are just not comprehensible!

Op, see a very brief comparison of the two cars below

Hello guys,

Can anyone suggest ways i can ventilate a house in Lagos.

For example, if you have one of these terrace apartments (duplexes or flats) where you have only one window per room (bedroom and living room hence no cross-ventilation), is it possible to create some sort of mechanical ventilation system.

E.g. a system that ensures that there is constant flow of air into the apartment - fresh air flows in and hot air flows out. I know they use a combination of air extractors and cooling system in the UK.

I was wondering if any one can suggest a ventilation system that will achieve the above in Lagos yet use minimal or no electricity.

This is exactly why they say half knowledge is bad.

Thanks Grandstar for your comments. The author definitly needs to do a lot more studying.

Allow me use the most simple of all the issues - i.e. Gas flaring. The Nigerian government wants Oil Producing Companies (OPCs) to stop flaring gases and to redirect the gas to more useful purposes. They then implemented a law that penalises any OPC who continues to flare gas.

While the idea is generally a fantastic one, "in my opinion", it is tantamount to telling the owners of MrBiggs franchise to start recycling their waste simply because they generate so much waste. Waste recycling is a totally different type of business!

(a) In the same vein, Gas flaring is different type of business model with its own perculiarityies and value chain. It will therefore not be easy for an OPC to delve into it just because a government instructs them to. Especially when our government have been known to be very unstable when it comes to implementing policies that encourage such ventures.

(b) Also, it is an established fact that the equipments needed to redirect and convert the flared gases costs a fortune. Any business man will compare whether it pays to continue paying fines or invest in a white elephant project. Your guess is as good as mine

The question is now why you think the OPCs gas flaring is an attempt to sabotage the Nigerian economy? Wierd!!!

It would have made more sense if you suggested more ways the Federal Government can encourage more investors (Nigerians or otherwise) to invest in the Gas industry (anywhere on the value chain will do).

What are your contact details?

Where is the location?

How much?

What is the rate you are offering?

If baffles me when unmarried men think they know more than married men in marriage matters. I strongly suggest that all unmarried men should learn to keep their opinion to themselves on marriage matters until they have acquired real life marriage experience.

Marriage is an institution that you never truly know until you go into it yourself. Its better to just read and learn from those who have passed through tough experiences and survived it. Not to start commenting on what you have no clue about.

DukeNija:


Bros abeg no vex o, is it your wife who doubles as life partner and mother of your children you are referring to with such disdain?
You seem to be a very angry person who feels he's doing a woman a favor by marrying her. I am not married, but I felt the urge to say I am very disappointed in your choice of words towards your wife. I take care of people who are not even related to me by blood, financially and otherwise and I never feel I'm doing them a favour, how much more my own family.

You sound like you were forced to marry her, like you didn't propose to this woman, didn't buy her an engagement ring and all that, like she was begging to become your wife. I went through your post and I couldn't even find what she did so wrong for you to hate her this much, even up to the point of contemplating divorce.

Using words like "putting her under my roof", "feeding her and our kids" "bitching about everything" is just too disrespectful to your wife and I'm afraid your marital challenges can be traced to your negative attitude towards your her. Please approach your marriage with a better countenance and see your wife as you see yourself by truly loving her and sincerely appreciating her contributions to your home. And yes you need to praise her for cooking, cleaning after you and your child, taking care of you and maintaining the home. Yes, you must praise her. Try telling her how much you appreciate her efforts and cooking, and how delicious her food is and see if she won't be overjoyed and do something special for you.
Women complain a lot, my mom, sisters, gf every woman I know can complain, it just doesn't make them bad people. That's just their way of communicating sometimes.

And pls if you are tired of putting her under your roof, u can send her to me. I have a very large flat with four rooms that can comfortably accommodate her. *Just kidding*

TRUTHTELA:
Its very disgusting that a LOW LIFE FACELESS SCAMMER, and HACKER is claiming that Linda " STOLE " his pictures or whatever he's claiming, he went ahead with some other HATERS to blackmail the Linda Ikeji, claiming that she " COPY AND PASTE OR STOLE THEIR STORY?
What are his INTELLECTUAL PROPERTY? WHO DOES HE WRITE FOR ( NYTIMES? ) WHY DID HE REGISTER EVERYTHING lindaikeji.com &co? WHATS HIS INTEREST?
WOLE SOYINKA, CHINUA ACHEBE, ADICHE, GOOGLE, FACEBOOK, GE, ACADEMICIANS, MEDICAL CO. RESEARCH FIRMS, APLLE, SAMSUNG AND ALL OTHER INDIVIDUALS AND ORGANIZATIONS THAT HAVE INTELLECTUAL are the ones that are suppose to be talking about INTELLECTUAL PROPERTY AND COPYRIGHT, PLS, ALL THESE LOWLIFE ROGUES SHOULD STOP MISUSING THOSE WORDS.
LINDA, STOLE PICTURES AND STORIES, YET NO SINGLE EVIDENCE, WHAT PICTURES AND STORIES IS THE GUY TALKING ABOUT? Bokoharam pix or stories? I expected him to be talking about EXCLUSIVE PICTURES OF WHERE EDWARD SNOWDEN IS or WHO BLUE IVY's Mother is.
No lawsuit can be entertained or won against Linda Ikeji, because, anything u put online is for public consumption. She gives credit and quote her sources. The guy wanted MONEY ( thats what he meant by " CREDIT" ). Thousands of news organisations, repeat news from other sources and uses pictures. Google and Getty images didnt have a problem with Linda, theyre too BIG for such. But, one single guy just woke up and start BLACKMAILING her.
New York times, Chiamanda Adiche, Wole Soyinka, et al, will NEVER BOTHER about Linda, publishing their article or news on her blog, cos they are way BIGGER than her.
All the NOISE about Linda stole his " WORKS", which "work has he done? Is he a WRITER? Is the guy an ARTIST? Is he a MUSICIAN ? WHO KNOWS HIM? AND WHAT AWARD or NOMINATION HAS HE WON FROM HIS SO CALLED "WORKS' ? LET HIM SHOW HIMSELF/FACE LEGITIMATELY AGAINST LINDA IKEJI, then, the world and I will have RESPECT FOR HIM. Someone HIDING ON TWITTER TO RANT ABOUT A SUCCESSFUL LADY, is not going to make him successful. If his own blogging or hacking is rewarding, HE WILL NEVER HAVE TIME OR NOTICE LINDA IKEJI,BUT, NOW I KNOW HE'S A LOW LIFE.
LINDA's blog is down, then what? IN THIS SOCIAL MEDIA AGE AND TIME, LINDA WILL BOUNCE BACK. SHE HAS BUILT A BRAND. EVEN IF SHE BLOG FROM FACEBOOK AND TWITTER, HER FOLLOWERS AND SUCCESS WILL STILL BE THERE. ( IF IT'S NOT PANADOL, IT CANT BE LIKE PANADOL).
LINDA "STOLE" this and that, what I always see her posting on her blog is about celebrities tweet and FB, post, Kim, Beyonce, Flavor, D Banj, Genevive, Omotala, GEJ, PDP, APC, or one LOCAL CHAMPION or the the other, then the rest will be about NUDE MALES OR FEMALES, SO WHAT's their to STEAL? WHAT ELSE IS ON THAT BLOG ? PEOPLE SHOULD STOP HATING INNOCENT SOULS.
LEGALLY, SHE's good and NOTHING WILL HAPPEN, IT's just ENVY, BLACKMAIL AND RUMOR.
Just as the same people that DESTROYED NIGERIA ARE BUSY EXPECTING JONATHAN TO BUILD ELDORADO IN FOUR YEARS, INSULTING HIM HERE AND THERE. Your tribe is home to some of the biggest and most CORRUPT SOULS IN AFRICA, YET YOU'LL BE CALLING JONATHAN A CORRUPT LEADER.
HYPOCRISY, LIES, ENVY, DOUBLE STANDARD MUST STOP, IF YOU GUYS WANT TO MOVE THAT YOUR COUNTRY FORWARD
N:B I'm not a fan of Linda or GEJ, I open her blog laugh at comments and keep it moving ( i have never commented for one day). She's doing good and will SURELY COME BACK BETTER. Gej, is a failure, but, FAILURES SHOULD NOT BE CALLING HIM OUT EITHER

Oh my oh my! If only you had done your research on what plagiarism means, you probably wouldn't have typed this.

Goddex: [size=14pt]Our media is so biased. Fashola bought those two bulletproof tinted range rover SUV's for 300m naira each.

Our South West media refused to report it but instead concentrated solely on Oduah and expected her kinsmen in South East to keep quiet. Tribalism is our biggest problem.[/size]

Why are you guys quick to jump at every rotten meat tossed at you. You look for every opportunity to scream tribalism.

If the Media reports a case, it is tribalism
If the Media does not report a case, it is tribalism

Why can't we present our argument in clear and concise terms? Must we always lean on the excuse of tribalism?

Orishirishi!!!

The question is who is to blame?

i. The journalists who give noise makers like these audience or the publishers who publish them for lack of better content
ii. The social media that ensures that some nonsense (from people who have no value to add) makes news
iii. The youths who only celebrate noise makers and people with money (irrespective of whether they are thieves and or people with questionable character)
iv. The Oil Companies who continue to dish out millions of Naira to people like these (for the sake of peace) instead of directing the money towards projects with lasting social and economic impact
v. or The Nigerian Government who lacks the will to fight corruption and try people like this for treason

Summary of facts:

Angola:….-…Population:... 18,498,000 people……-….Size:…1,246,700 km2 (481,354 sq mi)….-…GDP.. $118.719 billion
Nigeria:…-… Population: 174,507,539 people….. -….Size: ….923,768 km2 (356,667 sq mi)…..-..GDP…$292.028 billion
Lagos:….. -…Population: …..9,019,534 people…… - ….Size - …….3,474 km2 (1,341 sq mi)

In plain English, if Nigeria earns $100m and spends it on 100 people, Angola earns $50m but spends it on 10 people

These are however nominal values because it has been confirmed over and over again that Angola is one of the most expensive countries to live in the world. It citizens cannot afford to live in any of those “for show” houses.

Did you ask yourself why there is no sign of life in any of those estates?

Besides, Lagos is half the population of Angola crampled in 7% of Angolan land. i'm sure you agree thats a major strain on resources.

*we all know that the Nigerian population is debatable, so i dont expect any intelligent person to overflog that dead horse*

Nigeria is the only country where her citizens go online to rubbish themselves, their leaders, and their nation. Little wonder why other countries treat us like trash!

What is truly appalling is the level of ignorance displayed by the so called leaders of tomorrow. Blatant display of ignorance seems to be bliss on Nairaland.

I suggest you look up the standard of living in Angola and the living conditions of its citizens (may be that will make you appreciate your country better).

How much?

I truly fear for this nation!

Despite the amount of time some people spend on the internet, they still spew their ignorance (with pride) all over the place. And these are supposed to be the leaders of tomorrow?

You should at least do yourself the justice of googling up Harvard before embarrassing your family and country on the social media.

In case you don’t know, Harvard is not about money. It is about ability!

You need to prove BEYOND REASONABLE DOUBT that you belong to the top strata of achievers - irrespective of your race and age - before you are accepted into the school. Besides, most people use STUDENT LOANS to fund their studies. It is almost automatic.

Harvard is NEVER about money!

Ngozi's children should be celebrated because gaining admission into such a school is an achievement on its own. Why do you think some Companies only employ graduates from Harvard?

Or have you ever heard of an Harvard graduate being “unwillingly” jobless? I don’t think it’s possible!

Invest in your life by spending time reading about value adding stuff. You don’t have to play the internet idiot; leave that to the others.

God bless Nigeria!

I tire O! Tiwa no even try at all... Which kain better woman go say yes to a man who fit put hin shitty-shitty picture for WORLD WIDE WEB.

Anyway, i guess she took the picture... so she probably has the same mentality.

And really, what are the benefits the common man is supposed to derive from listing multinationals on the stock exchange?

Zero! It will only give the fat government officials an avenue to hide their stolen loots in form of shares

Laughing in pain!

The Nigerian Government reminds me of the story of Pharaoh.

Specifically, the part when God hardened Pharaoh’ heart and blinded him from reason. Our leaders are blind to the way forward. They are only making all sorts of blind suggestions which have no ground breaking positive implications for the future.

We all know that our core problem in Nigeria is INEFFICIENCY, WASTEFULNESS and CORRUPTION. And the people in power are at the heart of these problems.

The situation is soo bad that any attempt to improve the already efficient private sector will be killed by the INEFFICIENCIES, WASTEFULNESS, and CORRUPTION of Government. In fact, the corruption of the government is already killing the private sector. Businesses are struggling. Cost of manufacturing in Nigeria now exceeds cost of importing goods (even with the high import duty rates). We don’t produce nor manufacture anything anymore… other than oil… the black curse.

Now, they are suggesting we frustrate the Hen that lays the golden eggs.

Why kill the hen that lays the golden eggs? Why not first of all take care of the vultures and hawks before exposing the Hen? Why not clear the weeds and thorns before pruning the flowers?

Most of the comments above have been on point. I will however look at it from a different perspective.

Did anybody notice that the poster sounds childish and immature? What did she do to make the guy want to walk out in the first place? How was she blocking him from leaving the house? Was she loud, was she bragging, was she "all up in his face"? And then, she decided to run out of the house because the guy pushed her? Where was she running to? The police station?! Very laughable action indeed!!!

What actually shocked me was her eagerness to get in touch with his family. She apparently doesnt know anything about conflict resolution in a family. She sounds like those types of girls who every tom, dick, and harry knows her business.

She has a lot of growing up to do if she is truly getting married in a few months. A lot! All the actions she said she took in her comment have all been wrong. I wish her all the best though!

* know your God, know yourself, & know your partner *

Good stuff @ OP

I find this tread interesting.

Deinde Fernandez has always operated under the radar. The general public (you all know yourselves ) didn’t know anything about him before and after the ovation article other than the divorce proceedings.
The guy appears to be a smooth, smart and well connected operator. He obviously has/had the right connections in oil rich countries of the world. The guy no need subsidy.

I wonder how many more Nigerians like him are out there.

Lesson learnt - it isn’t about the noise. It is all about the result.

Jenkinson is obviously a hired hand for Arik. U dont need to be a genius to know that.

Omojuwa this, Omojuwa that! Like someone said, u can only appreciate his fight if u'v ever lost a luggage on a flight or had ur ticket cancelled for no reason. I dont know the guy. I dont even like him. But i very much identify with his fight.

Arik should sued for damages. And each person shld sue differently.

Who knows the basis for the ban? Is it because they supported Omojuwa or where they also robbed on Arik airline?

These type of drama is unique to our environment. Anyway, the company just signed its death warrant. They just shot their PR kite down. And whether we like it or not, bad PR will always hunt you in future.

@Sunbellar
Do you take ur car to work everyday? If yes, how long do u spend in traffic?

These analysis, if the estimates are indeed fairly accurate, shows that some car makes are indeed more fuel economical than others i.e. if indeed Eminemkayc spends N2,800 fuel per week from Berger to VI everymorning, then the car can do N2,800 per month if he stays in Ikoyi (these offcourse are just estimates, but indeed eye opening)