₦airaland Forum

highcollide:
Where did i say it's a woman's role to clean the house? Do you have problems with comprehension?


You talk like a man plays no role in a child's formative years. Who is likely in charge of finance?
How the phrase "dead-beat dad" come about?


If you cannot have a discuss without name-calling, I will leave you to yourself.

highcollide:
Your argument is weak. Comparing nation building, scientific discovery and innovations, war fighting etc, to cooking and home cleaning done by women is stupid. Men are 99% responsible for pushing society to this level. The house chores women complain of are what they use in testing the mental status of a person in a psychiatry. If they want to know if a mad person is recovering, they tell him to do some house chores.


Feminism is hypocrisy. You want equal rights and still want to maintain the benefits of being a woman.

That's greed!

AngelicBeing:
Market is good, but Jubrin Alsudani from Khartoum has inflated the price of goods and services in Sudan aka Nigeria

wetdick:
this is flaw.it like saying all women are good and all men are bad, so i need to be good to get the already good women

but how come a good man or a nice man is seen as boring by many "good" women

why do this "good women" love the bad men that abuses them then reject the good men then complain that there is a lack of good men.

wetdick:
i am not down playing any thing done by women, do not forget that to nuture a child, a man needs to provide for the woman or the child will die or starve. men are the ones who built society, they are the disposable and they are the one still doing the hard jobs in society, a woman can decide to sit all days and wait for the spoil to come without doing anything or lifting a fingers. for any society to develop and be better, it needs more men doing the hard jobs and building things to make life better.

wetdick:
yes patriarchy is what developed countries, guess who built the airplane, the ships, the electricity you use, the house you use, even the economy theory and models to improve society, who invented government,who fights in wars, men, infact men built civilization.

Joromi12:
lol. If u want peace then u hv no business with wat he does with manhood

Amberon11:
We know the struggle and the fact remains that you diaspora Nigerian men can only deceive yourselves.

While I was schooling in Europe I got to witness first hand how you men behave abroad. The fact remains that most of you are broken records and nothing to right home about. You all rant about how Nigerian women are bad and bla bla bla but how many of you are good? Are you husband materials yourselves? Drinking,
partying, clubbing and frolicking with different white women even when married is what you people do on a regular so don't act like the Nigerian women are the problem.

LordAdam16:
Bravo.

One of the few posts I've shared on NL. Thoroughly covered everything. I was going to type another epistle of this nature, but your post is sufficient.

Imagine in Oklahoma, a man has only 6 months from date of birth to test paternity of a kid. An hour after that 6 months elapse, you're responsible for that kid regardless of what the test says. So you'd still pay child support even if the kid is not yours.

As for things changing for Nigerian men? If I hear. Has it changed for men in the Middle East, in Eastern Europe, or in the Asian behemoths (China, India, et cetera)? The population of NA+EU is less than 1 billion. The world's population is 8 billion. This Western standard is not as and will never be as prevalent, especially with the identity politics been played now.

That's why China, Russia, Saudi Arabia, UAE, Hungary, India, et all are all advancing and becoming wealthy countries, but never abandoning their patriarchy. It's not by mistake. It's why Jordan has the highest female literacy rate in the ME at 92%, but men still decide how their wives and children participate in society.

It also explains why Muslim parents protested a school teaching their children about LGBT topics in the UK and the media couldn't say sh*t, but if Christian parents had done same, they'd be called bigots and homophobes. If you give women a meter, they'd take a mile; and lots of cultures have understood this around the world and as such are gleefully accepting and celebrating their patriarchy.

Bottom line: When in Rome, do as the Romans do. And if you're a woman, the Western world is the best place to be. But don't be surprised no one else wants that BS in their backyard.

Also for the men, if you're in the western world, accept it for what it is and do your best to make your country livable, so you can make your own rules while living in comfort.

-Lord

Angela777:
Hmmm, my story is similar to yours but I am an American and he was a Nigerian I brought to US.
It is always like that, if we are honest givers, cheaters and takers see it fast and use us. Sorry about your marriage

khiaa:
The bolded is your problem, gain about 300 pounds and you will have to beat those Nigerian gorillas off with a stick.

Naija4lifeYank:
This is more than apt.
This will be my only post on Nairaland. I'm only posting so no man goes through what I went through.
I live in the US.
My marriage crashed when I came home to marry a Naija-based angel. I never planned to come home to marry. I trusted my friend's report of good behavior from his family member not knowing he knew it was all a ruse. It was a planned job.
My father died from medical complications and having lost my mom much earlier, I came home to bury him. The Naija-based lady knew I was now an orphan used all her wiles to pretend to love me. Pretended to be helping to fill the void left by my parents and I finally agreed to marry her.
I was earning well over $180,000 a year and had luxury home and luxury car.
She arrived and within 1 month, I knew I had made the mistake of my life.
She demanded a luxury SUV since I had one and I told her it didn't make any sense to have two gas-guzzlers in the home. She immediately went into a tantrum. This was someone not contributing anything to the home financially. I got her a brand new Honda Accord. She wasn't very satisfied.
She started buying clothes. Every weekend it was a bill of $600 for clothes. I told her that's not how we spend money in America, she kept going. Always complaining. That she didn't have enough clothes. She is Igbo, so I paid for all the wedding in Nigeria. her family probably contributed only her wedding dress.
So I was starting to think who is this clown that I married.
She got pregnant and then started threatening me with potentially divorce & Child support if I don't do things that make her happy.
One day I got back from work (4 months after wedding) and she had been entertaining another man in the home that I paid all the mortgage on. I knew this because somebody had used the ipad at home to view his Instagram and Facebook and forgot to sign out.
I confronted her and she denied it. She started taking calls from all manner of men from Nigeria, sometimes going to the bathroom to talk to them
Fast forward, one day she told me her cousin from Nigeria was coming to our city in Maryland and could he stay in our home. I found out that the guy was not her cousin really and shut it down. She started saying by US law the home belonged to her and her kids. I told her I had a baseball bat and if she had 10 heads, she should bring the "cousin" to come visit.
By the time she had our son, she had become a full-fledged monster. Refusing to cook, etc. I did most of the house work and had a cleaner come clean the house.
I divorced her shortly after. I had to start paying her child support until God came to my rescue and the Judge decided I was the better parent and I won custody of my son.
It was the worst experience of my life and I lost so much. Her family was in on the whole thing. I assume they were so greedy to want my home
Before anyone asks, I never cheated on her. or hit her.
She did everything those women do: she called the cops to the house during an argument. I was so worried she was going to lie about physical abuse that never happened. I lived in FEAR in my own home. NEVER going to that state of things again. I'm free now.

For those who say the wife took a loan for school, so how did you send her through school, most times you co-sponsor the loan for the wife using your credit
I'll never be married again (I'm still in my thirties) and NEVER marry a woman from Nigeria again.

Angela777:
I did no matter poor, black and no papers, he was very insisting. It didn't end well. And I will not take the same risk twice. It's what happens, many get burnt and no more dating or marrying a Nigerian man.

Angela777:
So true. Women in America learnt the Nigerian man is possibly scam and wants us for papers, now so much information online about it. Also not all American women go into interracial marriage, many educated women are picking from their level guys and if they don't find any at similar level, they prefer being single.

Sholaystar4me:
interesting thread, as for me nothing will change bringing my gf that I have had for many months in Nigeria before man moved and still have till date. let me buy a land here shaa
















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Angela777:
The thing is as a Nigerian man abroad, you wish the best wife for yourself. Then first, look at yourself and ask yourself are you the best or the good one? You want the woman submissive and doing all housework and, will she be the housewife and will you support her in everything?
Because if she is working full time and having kids for you, she will come home tired and is she still responsible for all work at home and with kids? Will you practice the so called Nigerian "culture" having other women and being naturally polygamist? Will you expect your wife to shut up and accept you going and having sex with other women? Will you be very bossy to her and her should be very submissive as similar to a Muslim woman? I don't think it will work this way in America even with a Nigerian village submissive girl, not for long, America teaches freedom to kids and women. If your wife goes to the doctor for any reason and the doctor notices she is sad, they will ask her if you are to bossy or do you abuse her, your own kids will tell at school how you treat your wife and even if she is submissive, your own kids will call 911 if their mom cries. The marriage in America is different, it is not Nigeria. If you are willing to be faithful and you find a woman who is educated and is your best friend, doesn't matter the race, it may work better than any childish plans to pick a submissive one or to mold her your way

cococandy:
You’re really taking Nairaland ramblings of ignorant folks seriously?

People who have reasoning faculties still understand that they can find good women anywhere. Nigerian women in USA are hot cake. Don’t let some heart broken urchins on Nairaland tell you otherwise.

These ones probably got left behind hence their painment.

RTSC:
See as dem spoil market for Nigerian based ladies.

The ones that scaled through earlier to Yankee or Europe would be thanking their stars they left before the market got spoilt.

uuzba:
Nigeria is a country with very watery values.

cococandy:
You’re looking for who to subdue and dominate

E go red for you.

You don’t want chores as a duty but I’m sure you will want her financial contribution as a duty. You never start. Life go hard you so.

Okuda:
if you marry a well behaved white woman, you would not be missing anything from their naija counterparts except the food and sometimes the naija jokes. but thats all to it I swear.

BaaleOko:
The dilemma I'm facing now, I dey based in Yankee and I have pretty much achieved everything a young man can have for an ideal American dream... e remain to find wife but good women dey scarce these days( maybe the good ones are hiding, or I'm not just looking hard enough). Mumsy dey tell me make I go Naija find wife, been communicating with lots of beautiful and amazing (at least online) Naija girls back home, each time I bring up the idea of marriage and I tell them I'm in Yankee...they always seem too excited than necessary, as coded guy wey I be, I already know reasons why. I'm just too scared to take any chances cause marriage ain't no joke... I guess I'm better off just finding a Nigerian girl based here in yankee.

PeacenLove2:
By the time you reach 50 and you still think age is on your side because you are a man, OYO is your case. While your mates are done raising their kids, you are just starting from day care and your kids friends asking if you are their grand pa.

You hopefully would have made a lot of money and you clinch one small geh, you delude yourself she married you for love. Serious OYO is your case.

Better respect yasef and take that bold step. The earlier the better for all sexes. Tomorrow is not guaranteed. Sieze thel moment.

Lordofthewest:
It's already happening ghana is planning to kick them out, the same sh*t they do to Yoruba people in Lagos is what they do in Ghana too.

KunleyY19:
So far an Igbo man is on that ticket it's bound to fail in the north...PDP will be wise to go with SS or SW which is more acceptable in The North...

Buhari's Performance this second term is the major determinant if he performs creditably well then the opposition is dead...

ubee:
Mr man the community of people that make up his followers and friends on social media, people that read his articles, plus your ghana friends that know him, plus everyone that knew him before his death combined are not even up to 0.00000000000000000000000000001% of the world population. And did i see you talk about the govt of his state acknowledging him Hahahaha you are funny. Why wouldn't they? Such a high profile aircraft tragedy that resonated round the world occurred and you expect his state govt won't be aware of their basic responsibility to acknowledge the death of a son of the soil? It doesn't mean he was widely known in his state or country. Far from it. Lets not drag this thing further. I've explained in my previous reply the context to which i used the word "popular" and showed you the significance of how i followed it up with that second word "famous" to simplify it for people who might not understand. I also challenged you to look up the definitions of "popular" in their broad terms from the best online dictionary's like Collins, merriam webster, and chambers and you will see that my saying he is not popular is in order.
Good night.

P.s : if possible pls take yourself out of the zombie community of Nigerian youths that loosely use the word "nigger". Let us for once in this country be our own people, and stop our copy copy lifestyle of shamelessly adopting the bad and ugly of western lifestyle

ubee:
You are obviously the type who feels validated in life by posting on forums and spewing unprovoked insults.
You lack basic understanding in english communication. If you check a standard dictionary and read to understand in broad terms the meaning of the word "popular", then you will see that my statement was in order. And as if i knew that someone that's slow in comprehension like you would read my post, i followed it up with the word "famous" to show that I'm talking popular in broad societal terms.
Heck what are we even talking about, you charlatan you claim he's popular abi? Popular where? What percentage of Nigerians and Canadians knew him before his death? He might not even be popular in his own faculty in the school he taught in Canada. You should just go sit down for corner.

ideylaff:
That's a picture frame and the message and picture was super imposed on it... can you not see it

Why will you frame his last message and also within 24 hours... that lady does not look like someone who just lost her husband..

lastly what was the picture taking for? To show the world that they have lost someone and still look cool. Makes absolutely no sense to me

ubee:
It's so sad and i pray for divine fortitude for the little girl to overcome this tragedy.
But i must say that the late professor's wife is obviously vain for posting this pic.
The little girl did not ask for, nor does she need this exposure. The only priority for the widow now is to be a rock for the girl and help her through this difficult time.
The prof was not popular, he was not a celeb the little girl was not known either and had her privacy and annonimity intact, then her own mother uses this tragedy to thrust her into the spotlight? Its just a silly act by the widow.
Even the most famous people on earth shield their kids from the media when tragedy strikes.
The woman really messed up.

ifyalways:
How did they know? They went to their social media profile, lifted their picture, gave it a caption and ran with it.

People that are mourning? Nigerian press and bloggers have no regard or ethics. Anything for traffic.

So distasteful

AngelicBeing:
Lol at wannabes airlines