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pansophist:
Lol, I deleted it from the first page of the thread, didn't expect it to go to the front page.

why you delete am na?

Leave it there joor

omohayek:
You clearly have no interest in learning any historical facts that might interfere with your self-loathing tendencies. What part of "Algeria was ruled for over 130 years as an integral part of France itself" don't you understand? And had you bothered to educate yourself in the slightest, you would have known that Tunisia and Morocco also benefited from such deep close links with the European states in a way no black colonies ever did, but why let such glaring facts of history get in the way of your self-hatred?

In any case, any city can be made to look good under an authoritarian regime that can force poor people out of sight: that's why Pyongyang manages to present a good face to impressionable people like yourself, who are easily taken in by a few shiny buildings. If Lagos could do what the Chinese have done (and the white South Africans used to do), by expelling anyone without official residence permits, it too would look like an oasis of near-First World conditions, but I don't doubt you'd still be on here whining about how this too is evidence of the allegedly inherently faulty nature of "THE BLACK MAN". There's just no winning with people who are cursed with deep racial self-hatred.

it's not issue of self hatred

it's the FACT!


Let me ask you a simple question

How many African countries have you been to?

How msny African diplomats have you met?

How many African companies have you seen being run?


Yes I know that France occupied Algeria for a long time, and even the crisis that followed, but I'm more familiar with Tunisia tho

I used to think like you until I started going out and interacting with and doing business across Africa


His inclination as black man is his biggest Achilles heel, take that from me.

And it's not due to the fact that he is genetically wired to b like that, he decided to be like that BY CHOICE

look at The fvckery going on in that zoo called Nigeria and Lagos especially

look at the fvckery in Cameroon (I was there and I was ashamed to be African)

what of Freetown?
The president before sold his country off to the Chinese in exchange for a pittance.

You can continue continue foolibg yourself, but Africans like me who knows what s up know

Black folks need to change

pansophist:
You tolerate too much. Since you had allowed her visit her ex at first, stopping her will be harder.
Exactly what I was thinking. What I have noticed about
women is that sometimes, they take actions without
understanding the scope of its consequences, focusing only
on their own frame, and not the whole picture. Like a
chicken happily eating the lined grain in front of her,
unrealising that it leads to a trap she most cases than not,
won't escape from. And if something bad happens, she and
society will blame you for allowing such practice from her,
as the mantle of leadership has been given to you, and you
didn't stand your ground during the waves.
In marriage, some things should be a complete knockout, a
no-go area that must not be tolerated, and keeping contact
with exes should be part of it. These are sacrifices parties
must make for the flourishment of their marriage, and if both
parties will not understand and accept this stone fact, then
they are not ripe for the matrimonial institution. Breakups
are usually on account of irreconcilable differences, making
two people go their separate ways, how come she is still in
peaceful contact with not only one, but more than one of her
exes, even to a point of disregarding your feelings, the
integrity and respect of your marriage, even after repeated
warnings? This doesn't seem right.
You should from now henceforth, sternly make it clear that
you will not tolerate any of such visits again, and make her
understand that there are consequences, which must be
enforced if she tries to test your backbone (which she will).
For the meantime, you may report her to people you know
she has respect for (e.g her parents, pastors, etc), making
them also understand the consequences you will take it she
repeats such next time. A complex problem requires
complex solutions.
Lastly, and most importantly, to be able to project your
mantle of leadership, you MUST make sure that your
traditional duties and responsibilities as are a man are met
(the 5 P's), especially to Preside (lead), protect, provide,
produce and penetrate (good sex). It is unnegotiable. If after
you've done all these, and see no changes, well, I leave to
you to take solutions you deem sufficient and accept that
you can't change people if they do want to. Goodluck.

this advice you gave is the BEST.

AreaFada2:
Actually, people from wretched backgrounds that make it show that anybody can make it. They had to struggle hard to make it. Through small beginnings, perseverance, hard work and a bit of luck. Rich background people never suffered to begin with and therefore do not have the moral position to scold "professional & slay queen beggars.

You do not even have to be a celeb to be fed up with online begging. Many very average people like us are too.

Begging is not even the main thing but the sense of entitlement most of them have. Most are absolutely uninterested in your suggestions to them of how they can become more productive and independent. The rudeness that follows is appalling. They feel too big to start small. Also very nauseating is the purpose many give for asking for money. Like our GO has asked every youth to pay 10k for a church program, my friend who sells clothes just showed me one nice pink dress selling for 9k, my phone is bad, I need to replace it right away, etc.

Of course where people have serious issues like bereavement, serious illness in the family and so on, that's understandable.

true sha

omohayek:
Actually, you can blame it on colonisation. Algeria was run as part of France for over 130 years, with more than 1 million French settlers by the 1960s. It therefore received a far greater amount of investment than any of France’s sub-Saharan colonies ever did. Given such facts, the true wonder is that Algeria is now only barely better off than Nigeria, a testament to just how badly the Algerians ran their country after getting independence.

You need to stop rushing to blame “the black man” for any and every shortcoming you see in Africa today, as a little historical knowledge will make clear that there is absolutely no type of dysfunction on the continent which hasn’t been seen elsewhere in the world, even in Europe as late as the 19th century. A lot of Africa’s problems really can be laid at the door of the European colonisers, even if such whining does get tiresome to hear at times: all the European powers deliberately set out to keep their black subjects under-educated and divided, as they knew their rule had no hope of lasting otherwise: this isn’t mere conspiracy theorising on my part, but well documented in official papers of the European rulers themselves. It is therefore no surprise that the divisions and under-investment in human capital during the colonial era have continued to have terrible consequences in the form of incompetent, kleptomaniac rule by buffoons supported by masses of tribalistic semi-literates and outright illiterates.

MOST OF AFRICA'S PROBLEM IS THE FAULT OF THE BLACK MAN.


I do not deceive myself.

And yes, I know the history

you can continue to blame the colonialists but hey, the inclination of black man is destructive (we seethat everyday)

What we should talk about now is how to reverse our self destructive tendencies and move forward

And Algeria is FAR ahead of Nigeria in everything good

The infrastructure is far better

etc


A trip to Tunis will also show you how far behind Sub Saharan African countries are (most)

grandstar:
The schism between the Hutus and Tutsis must be observed through the eyes of their Belgium colonisers.

In Belgium, they have 2 ethnic groups: the French Walloon and Dutch Fleming.

The French Walloon who make up 40% long dominated the country politically and treated the Fleming's who make the remainder 60% like 2nd class citizens

During World War 1 for instance, many Fleming soldiers died because they did not understand the orders of their Walloon superiors.

It was this policy they brought to Rwanda and Burundi was genocidal consequences.

true sha

But still...


Black folks have been designed and conditions to destroy each other (and they condition themselves the same way too grandstar )

I travel across Africa, I see these things all the time.

Even in the African diaspora, they are snitching each other


I have given up on my people mehn......


I associate more with those from other ethnicities to learn from them, and it hurts me that my people have the potentials for greatnrss But choose to be useless

ba7man:
Its quite annoying when you realize we have lots of individuals that have stolen enough money from this country's coffers to single handedly finance projects like this.

Now imagine if they never stole that money but used it judiciously to develop cities round the Country...............

We won't be where we are.

very very true

monies stolen in Nigeria since 1977 is mind boggling

One third of that money would have done something very good

Elliot2:
You won't believe people are really facing hard times until you read their obituaries. Three years ago while I was serving in Kogi State I saw what hard times could do to people. I couldn't move an inch without someone meeting me to beg,of which most times I did give. And there was this particular old man that stood out among them; he always asked. Man was always looking hungry. At a point I stopped giving. It didn't take more than a week before he died of hunger in his room. Funny enough, this old man always prayed that God shouldn't allow him suffer further,and that he should die a peaceful death and not one of ill health.

true that...

poverty is bad

BabangidaHamza:
From where this company is to my house is 500metres.. This company has been in existence for more than 15yrs.. Its an assembling plant industry not a manufacturing industry.. We call the place Gidan FIAT

That is a good development

MrBrownJay1:
as sad as it is to admit, you ae absolutely RIGHT about the above....the reason some animal human being like that would even have the audacity to even claim such nonsense is because Nigerian men are foolishly driven by big tittays to the point that they would disegad basic common sense, and treat such above woman like the greatest woman on earth ***spit on floor***

its us men that put such hideous women on a pedestal, where they now act holier than thou. the reality is that without all them push up bras and whatever is holding her fat stomach from exploding that dress, this woman would be considered common.

Honeypot ko, saltypan ni!

broda how far?

ça fait longtemps

Big breast dey sweet na, abi you no know?

BUT

you are right

Nigerian men are probably the most foolish men in this world when it comes to that dept.

you see how they fawn over women, you will be shocked

Married men stalking "fine gehs" on this forum and other social media channels, spending money finishing and all that just because of women

I trust Ivorian men

If you no wan baguette et une bouteille de mineral, you sre on your own

Come see how the Nigerians carried that jaga jaga attitude across Africa

Naija men are the reason the women run their mouth

delugajackson:
Nigerian ladies and their entitlement cum materialistic-mentality. All she mentioned was money, cars, clothes and all. She doesn't even realize how stupid she sounds. Don't you think we men deserve better? A man will offer you all these and all you can give in return is your over-stretched pussay?

Back in the days, it was easy to find a nice girl, and settle down without stress. Nowadays, all we have are a bunch of entitled, materialistic, money-hungry hoes parading themselves as girlfriends and wives-to-be. These are the type of ladies that end up with fraudstars, ritualists, and drug pushers. They never end up nicely. I await the day that tragedy will befall you. I will read your story on Nairaland with a devilish smile on my face. Oh, what a day that will be.

don't be a sadist smiling on the misfortune of any pls.....


Forget all these ladies

Good girls still dey...

But men no day look their side


It's what will put them in trouble they are looking for

Just look at the calibre of people wanting to lead our Senate
Nigeria is FINISHED

ifyalways:
@Topic, America is soulless. Most Americans are a paycheck away from being homeless and destitute. Like clockwork, ypu must pay for everything as at and when due , no stories or you'd see yourself in the cold streets.

In Nigeria and Africa generally , your landlord will be termed heartless and wicked if s/he gives you a quit notice after owing rent for one year.
People can cook up a story of how their great grand mother died and armtwist or guilt trip you to write off their debts.

Such stories dont work in US.

yes indeed.....

It's a cold world out there

Africa on the other hand take advantage of each other And cheat each other

that is why one can stay in a house and refuse to pay rent

or refuse to pay obligations

Sheriff19:
God bless you bro. Honestly you have taken these words out of my mind. Nigeria is really in trouble not only because of our politicians but because of our mentality. I met a man in Australia sometimes last year, who told me he had an intention of establishing a small start-up(Nigeria ) in 2016 through his brother who happens to be in his final year (Nigeria University) during that period. He said after discussing his plan with his brother, he (his brother) advised him not to even think of coming to Nigeria not to talk of investing. That he is not willing to manage any business or set-up for him (despite the fact that the money was on ground that time.) he said all he wants was to leave the country as well. The man said he as almost finished his saves now and he said he felt he made a mistake by taking his brother advice. What we don't know is that most of these countries are on the alert for Nigerian in their embassy, for you to secure VISA (with that passport is very difficult) you will be hearing some furnish questions, imagine after submitting a letter of admission from a university abroad, the interviewer still ask you what you are going to do in the country and that you should also get a reference latter from someone staying in the country. Our passport is one of the weakest because everybody want to travel but the reality is that many will not have the opportunity to do so. OP, actually one of the best experience and education in life is to travel and which will make you to see things from different angles, you are more assured of a better life and working condition abroad than Nigeria. though, I have never been UK, but you will definitely have a better life over there. However, the British build the UK and no body we build this country for us. Just after you might have settled in UK try to also contribute your quota through professional practice or whatever means to assist the country (not only by sending the Pounds ), all of us can not leave the country you know.

Nigeria is done for and finished

That $hithole cannot develop again in our lifetime

FACT!

The multitude who have either left or are planning to leave are not all stupid

We have seen the direction the country is heading, with the serious brain drain and the overpopulated of idiots in Nigeria

But for those who are still in Nigeria l, i hail una o

Chizuru01:
Stop listening to white men. Stop making them feel like God.

Learn good things from them and leave the rest to them.

China do copy Technological knowledge from America but left them their GAY life for them.

only if you know the number of gay Chinese

They are probably more than any other country on earth

We should all learn good things from other cultures sha

And leave the bad

Because why add another man's bad to your own bad?

Nigeria has done that and the society is FINISHED for that

Freedem:
Nigerians lack sense.
Stop worshipping rich people with big cars.

extreme poverty in the land is to blame

Tofax:
In a world that celebrate material things over self dignity and self Worth. Alex, it'll be difficult for a lot of people to believe that you actually refuse a 2018 range rover. But, I know a lot of girls like you still abound and I'm very proud of your decision not to compromise. No man in Nigeria will give you such a gift without any ulterior motive, or them no see any guys in BB Niger to give out such a gift to? I'm a fan of yours and i'm Proud of You.

exactly!


there are still ladies like that

Like one who left a lucrative job became she did not want to mess herself up with Dem ogas.
in Lagos
in hard Nigeria

Dignity still.dey

But no longer encouraged

GonFreecss1:
Simple. I found out that making money can actually be simpler. Investing should be very boring. I can see a trend in the Nigerian market. I don't like that trend at all. Only a few companies defy that trend so far. I don't like speculating, I don't enjoy buying and selling, I enjoy buying yields (i.e. investing for dividends and compounding), I am not a TA man. Just the fundamental basics, if it is undervalued I buy. I don't like selling (apart from recently).

interesting

BECALMBECALM:
When people are running away from Cameroon. Bro you better look for another country.Cameroon is not good now.I have alot of friends there.

exactly!

Cameroon is now a worse country than Nigeria

Biya has led that country to the abyss

ElsonMorali:
Madam, why bring it to social media or are all your friends only on social media?

People should understand that most folks rejoice secretly when bad things happen to you and feel envious when you're winning.

Keep your _shit to yourself, whether good or bad.

true that

AngelicBeing:
l concur

I know say you go concur

grandstar:
Though it's the biggest in terms of GDP per state, it does not reflect in the lives of many of it's citizens.

Many are poor and housing is expensive. I feel too much regulation despite it's wealth is holding it back

Yea

The homeless situation is embarassing in California

A WHOLE CALIFORNIA

grandstar:
What you said is true referring to the refineries.

The broom that swept the first wife away is waiting to sweet the new one away

yes indeed

Xano:
“Under the marriage Act, there is no requirement for maiden name and there is also no law which permits the children to use their mother’s maiden name,” he said.

The most important section.

did the law say otherwise?



like did the law state that a WOMAN cannot keep her maiden name?

If that is not the case

then the law is ambiguous

ElsonMorali:
Not stopping anyone from doing whatever...just stating my own opinions and preferences.

Better

ElsonMorali:
Why would a lady want to keep her father's name after marrying?

Doesn't she love the husband enough to want to share his family name with him?

Where is the unity in the family when the husband and the kids bear a different surname than the woman of the house?

I'm not sure I'll want that for my family. If you don't love me enough to take on my name then move along. There are probably others who would love to.

yea

that's your choice and you are entitled to it

Those who want to keep their maiden name after marriage should br left to do so too

And for men like me who don't mind, we should also be left to our preference

Tedpgrass:
The individual context, not a blanket rule, should colour the final decision..

I know of several female professors who still bear their maiden names but bear their married names at social events. Its based on understanding and compromise.


A robust discussion should be held prenuptially so nothing comes along as a surprise. Your environment, religion, career prospects and prevailing social culture all have a bearing.

If there's potential fluidity in your situation dynamics, a double-barrelled name might be an adequate compromise.



Egos should be sacrificed at the altar of overall family progress.


.

true that

Omoluabi16:
Well it's not a big deal, and yet it is. The most important thing should be a happy and successful marriage, but it's a bit odd if I and my kids have one name and she has another.We are a unit so should have one name. A woman bearing her Hubby's name has never been an issue so I wonder the need to challenge this.

your choice is also good as well

A married woman is not less of a married woman for keeping her last name

openmine:
Just like what the female lawyers said, its optional!
Just don't insist....ask if your hubby is okay with you adding your maiden name with his surname!

If he agrees,fine but if he doesn't,then there will definitely be a problem!
All these issues must be resolved before the couple get married to avoid unnecessary ego play!

For me,a lady having her Hubby's name does not diminish her qualities,skills or take away her self respect!

And besides,that maiden name she is bearing belonged to her father whom the mother kept willingly!

Its all about communication!

I think that is the key........


choice


Changing the name or not does not mean much

its a cultural thing and choice thing

Omoluabi16:
If you are not ready to drop your maiden name, then remain in your father's house forever. Why are we Even discussing this? All this useless feminist who should be focusing on women emancipation and core issues like Rape, FGM and trafficking will be trying to prove what they are not. They think men are their biggest problem. Their wise mothers and Grandmothers got on peacefully and were fulfilled. Rubbish.

I don't mind my wife keeping her maiden name tho

But my kids must bear my last name


The name thing is no big deal to me

deepwater:
Nobody should blame her at all, she is a bonifide member of chop this life christian assembly (whatever that means!).


All blame goes to MC GALAXY!
He is childish and acted his age. Simple.
He is not fit to be a friend indeed.
Etinosa made it clear in the video that she needed to send someone away and lock the door first before going nude on the internet.
why would you lock your door to go nude on the world wide web? obviously she was avoiding been raped by an intruder into her room.
That was the highest defense she could give herself at the time since she was acting under the influence of alcohol
MC GALAXY got all the signs, the baby girl was drunk, people keep requesting GALAXY to end the call. The guy instead decided to read and echo those saying remove the bra...
All the "I love my body" talk was bullshyt, she is not a nudist, she clearly told everyone in the video that she is not comfortable with her tummy size and apologized for having pot belly - Nudist dont apologize for any perceived body defect
MC GALAXY could have ended the call right away to protect his friend, instead he decided to ride on her weakness to "fame"
sekem, sekem, sekem, yes galaxy sang that but i tell u for free i enjoyed the song but dnt know the fck he was? i am just seeing his face maybe for the first time since sekem! these people have a dying career and would kill to rejuvenate it.

How could you allow your friend run mad in the market and all you could do was to keep holding their cloths as it is being take off and keep calling more people to come and see!

I remember those days at 042, a group mate of mine got so drunk she was convulsing. her close pals where just there laughing.
Ordinarily the drunk girl was my groupmate but we had never talked as we were never friends.
I walked up to her and ask for her address, she struggled to tell.
I got a bike, put her on it and she fell off the bike.
Had to abandon my trip for that moment, joined her on the bike and decided to take to the address she gave.
Half way to the Journey, somewhere around ESBS there was a road block.
042 was hot then, okada no dey carry two persons.
so we stopped, waited for her to get a bit conscious then the bike man carried her alone. I walked passed the check point to join them in front.
We eventually got to her address, alas it was 21states - (Na only men wey don run shows know where 21states dey for OBIAGU, police no dey reach that side)
Imagine returning one of their own drunk into 21states.
I just clear them say i see am for BONGO side and her friends free am there run go POLO so i see am say make i carry am reach house as e be say some ESUT boys don dey look am wan kind eye.

This girl later had the whole story when she became conscious, studied hard, passed external exams and was the first and only to leave the country for further studies amongst those her friends.....the reason was simple, she changed her circle...
All those her friends later moved on to Casablanca and retired as an ashewo



Last Last, someone remind me please which movie this etinosa girl don act, heard about her for the 1st time this morning!!!





Dear Beloved
I am so sorry.
Etinosa - I dont know
Heard about her this morning
Toyin Abraham - I dont Know
Heard about her just now after you mentioned.
I actually dont know these people.
I see them here only and it ends here.
They do not cut across my life in the real world.
I do not have anything in common with them except a breast and a puc.cy
every other lady has one too.
No biggie, wonder y guys go crazy after this shyt
when they all actaully came out from the puc.cy and first hing that was given to them was the breast!
still it seems strange to them even after 40years!!!!

Lol

gift2xl:
THIS TYPE CANT STAY IN MARRIAGE, THERE BEAUTY CONTROLS THEM.

You know it takes two parties ti make a marriage work right?

The era of heaping that responsibility on the woman alone is gone

These days we have so many undisciplined people (male /female) who should not be in marriage

But hey, it's always the women's fault