₦airaland Forum

The diet and high carbs food is to blame

That's why you see so many Nigerian male /female with big belle

nwaanambra1:
truth be told - what the fan told him is the honest truth!

charity they say, begins at home. at his home town in ifite-dunu there are so many poor within his immediate umunna that has never seen them nor received anything from them.

lots of poor in his immediate ummunna that he can start his charity by touching their lives.

anyways sha! they are actually hausa-igbo like okoroawusa, mikel, tekno and lots of them born and breed in the north - so he is actually extending the charity to his northern brothers where his allegiance lies - am sure he was talking to them in fluent hausa and fulfude.

Athena4:
There are a lot of poor, frustrated people in this country and you keep throwing this in their face. Nairaland mods na una know wetin una wan cause o. There are lots of young, impressionable youngsters from underprivileged homes up here and you keep throwing this in their faces every single day.No be small time bomb we sidon on top.

unfortunately so

But then, every one is responsible for themselves

gloria34:
U took it out of my mouth. I fear marriage not because i come from a broken home but because i watched my mom sacrifice her life for a man who i Cant confidently say loves her. I know when i get married, i would not want to have a broken home but what if my husband turns out to be like my dad after marriage? It simply means i will live like my mom. endure beatings, working tirelessly to feed my kids and say school fees, watch my husband bring other women to our house etc. D thought of it makes me sick

you got my point

Boys who grew up in such homes (and I kid you not, a lot of boys in Nigeria did) saw such as normal, and when their partners today are having NONE OF THAT, they are the ones complaining that "women have grown wings" and all that bullshit


No woman should put up with such fvckery, and because SO many women have put up with such fvckery, the men have seen it as a norm and that women should put uo with all that because "he has done her a favour and saved her from shame and being an ""evening newspapers"" by marrying her."

Anyways

Gleefreak125:
Well, correcting a child in love by using the rod has been an African way of instilling morals and it's been working quite good till the generation of woke parents came into being.
I'm not an advocate of beating kids like animals but there's a need to correct them using the rod at times. Even the Bible says "Spare the rod and spoil the child".

Wrong again

Flogging people like goats was not "instilling" morals at any time in our history

if that is the case, why is the society filled with so much evil practiced by people across are groups?


Africans have always been morally bankrupt fellows ; just that these days, we can't coceak it anymore

Johnbosco1:
Wonderful piece by OP, if I may...

One of the greatest reasons why we have broken homes I must say, is LACK OF TOLERANCE AND PASSION TO BECOME EVEN that is so prevalent amongst mothers. It has become a Pandora's box with cans of Worm inside that is so much eating up marriages and it seems everyone has failed to comprehend it.

Besides the terrible state of our country which I believe contributes to the rate of broken marriages, mothers on the other hand, seem to have forgotten how important they are to their Children. They have neglected the most important bond on earth, "mothers-child-bond".

While I was growing up, I could point out so many irresponsible men that have had successful marriage because of the breed of awesome women(wives) they had. But today, the so called "responsible men" are not making it to a successful five years in marriage, let alone the irresponsible ones. But why is that?

I spoke to a lady who the husband had accused of cheating and her response to me was in the light of this "yes he cheated on me with my best friend and I felt the need to become even, so I cheated on him with his best friend too". What the heck! What's even more annoying, was that she had with her, their four and six year old kids who were being cuddled by their father while she explained her part of the story to me. I was speechless. I felt ashamed, not to talk more, disturbed. This experience made me rethink in a heartbeat about those days as a child when I watched Mom and Dad argue(never about cheating) and I felt that Dad was always at fault, that there was no shred of guilt, whatsoever on mom. Was my discernment really fair on Dad at those moments? Or was I being sentimental because of this "mother-child-bond" that binds Mom and all of my Siblings together? Whether or not these were the right thoughts at that point in time was not my problem.

While the behaviors of the parents have an impact on their child(ren), mothers however have been known to have the greatest impact. In fact, a family without a mother has had a hugh vacuum no one would ever fill for a very long time if not forever. Children tend to capitalize and act more on their mother's behavior so easily than they will with their father.

Irresponsibility among fathers have always been but what we see now is nothing close to being irresponsible. They are pure "proud fakeass efekefe ungrateful yawoyawo overstylish fathers" who find it so hard to say "thank you" to their wives after eating a meal prepared by them.

It pains me so much when I see many cute couples' pre-wedding and wedding photos on Nairaland/others just to realize that they may not live up to those "early love, trust, happiness and vow". Weeping.... Someone please get me a hanky...hmmmm....wiping my nose, then eyes....

I am sad. I sometimes feel scared of what the future holds. Should I remain single? Should I join the click of men that are producing "babymamas upandown"? No way! I love kids and I can't stand the thought of them not enjoying both their parents simultaneously like I did. I still do. And if my Mum and Dad can do it, I sure as hail can do it, even better.

If you are reading this, this is challenge to you. Others have failed doesn't mean yours will. You can do better. You are far better than them. I wish us courage, real love, trust, "our significant rib". I wish us well.


PS. LETTER TO MY DEAR FUTURE WIFE!!!

Dear future wife,

If you are reading this, I promise to give you all the love and attention in the world that I can give plus 100% of my vow.

Please kindly cross my path IF you are ready to give all to me

Yours future Hubby,
Johnbosco

It's not fair putting this on women tho

We should have NEVER made it seem OK for men to be "irresponsible" or have a free pass btw.

Now the women have had enough, and everything don scatter.

The day a lot of men retrace their steps, things will turn out a whole lot better

xendra:
then you must be crazy o, pregnancy doesn't count? that's first of all the most important part and we carry it for 9freaking months of not sleeping comfortably for most. so shut up.

you are missing the point

getting pregnant is a biological thing

This thread is talking about the roles of both genders

Being pregnant is a biological thing that ONLY WOMEN CAN DO

so that does not count in this case

Not that it's not important, but it does not count IN THIS CASE.

Newboss:
People need to know that a ring is not needed to create a family

If you have a child, you already have a family

Good or bad is up to your parenting skills

too bad a lot of Nigerians don t seem to get that

Having a ring on your finger does not save one from gekbg deadbeat

infact, most deadbeat parents wear rings

xendra:
ode, when last you carry pregnancy? our role can never be equal, women do more

what does bring pregnant have to do with anything

Men are not biologically designed to carry babies

So that does not count

MahatmaGhandi:
Very biased kill all men mentality. Are there no bad women and mothers out there two? The problem with society is not just a challenge caused by irresponsible fathers, it is a catastrophe occasioned by bad parenting. I hate this propaganda of "only irresponsible men hurt society" irresponsible women hurt society too. Humans have been degraded over the years, it is not a gender issue.

you have said it all.

Irresponsible people every where

Gleefreak125:
Family values have been lost for some time now. In fact, the country is lost at the moment with no particular goal or direction. What's baffling is the rate at which this decadence is happening. Too many woke and irresponsible boys and girls everywhere with misplaced priorities. Many lost their values growing up, they were taught right but the Internet and other factors influenced them negatively. Nigeria and the whole world is a lost cause till we return to the foundation and purpose of creation.

I agree with most of what you said

apart from this part

"They were taught right"

That's a lie

Most Nigerians were not taught right.

Beating kids like goats is not equivalent to teaching right.

bigkahuna704:
This Is Why There Are A Lot Of UnStable Individuals Out The. Society Is Changing So Fast We Can Hardly Keep Up. Just When You Think You Have Seen It All, Something Surprises You.

yea

the family unit has been compromised

otokx:
Why have the service chiefs not been sacked? This thing is getting out of hand.

That's the problem

It's a useless govt

pansophist:
My brother the matter weak me o. The way naija men don reduce their masculinity de disappointing, no wonder naija women value them only for their money. Every idiot can make money but representing the qualities of the male is not something you "hammer" or "land upon". It has to be worked for.

Happy New year Ugo

Happy New year to you too.

Masculinity indeed

Many Nigerians have a warped definition of that concept

What do you think about the concept of masculinity?

Posterity70:
What brought up this story now ? I think before the Ironsi and Fajuyi execution, There was the Belewa and Sardauna's Execution. Hence to get our History right, We have to start with what Ironsi and Fajuyi did. Please teach Your Children that violence beget violence
And the Bible Says that those Who live by the Sword shall Die by it.

Did the bible also teach that people frim the same ethnic group as bloody coup plotters should suffer a pogrom?

Like the ones Igbos suffered after Ironsi dem were killed.

Till today, wicked, evil and satanic black monkeys in this fvckin $hithole still justify that pogrom, and history is intentionally omitted from the curriculums, to keep the masses dumb

He who kills by the sword dies by it, FINE

I dont see much problem with the "counter coup" in a way.

But to kill innocent people on the street who had NOTHING to do with the messs that was going on in the political space is a crime that Nigeria continues to pay for with blood.

1miccza:
100% spot on, the only problem is Nairaland has been heavily politicized and it now plays the piper's tunes

unfortunately so

superlightning:
immature people discussing what they know little or nothing about.

somehow i thank God Nigeria is suffering under this jihadist government so that their brains can be reformatted. Nigerians are so so myopic. exaggerating ironsi's mistakes won't conceal the hate and envy you lots have had for sincere and honest men like ironsi and fajuyi.

ironsi's only crime was not executing the couppplotters immediately and also, that he was IGBO.

anybody saying otherwise is just a zombie.

You have said it all.

pansophist:
Also, men should start being men, because the amount of spinster in a given society is directly correlated with the men-of-value society has. Men these days are so effeminate. Aggression, ambition, strength, physically fit, with an impenetrable frame, to name a few is something that is lacking in today's men. And these are the very thing that attract women to men. Women may settle, but a man should be desired, complimented with the femininity of a virtuous woman, not settled for.

oga panso

so you dey talk for this kind matter....

It's a two way thing tho.

a lot of young men and women today no dey try

Mishaya:
And he posted this on social media probably with his real account and picture. So your wife no go see this post know sey your salary don increase abi?

no mind am

Etinosa1234:
Arsenal don pick form.. Arsenal don pick form....we nor know say na jamb form dem pick

lmao

sidneyj:
those one will pay them than Nigeria teachers hmmm
Master and BSce holder collecting 15k
and they will be scared of loosing the job...... tufiakpa

abi na

So sad

SAMBARRY:
of course there is nothing we can do about it that's why we laugh at your kind and we're able to spot the "I just arrive doobayi.I must show them

How you wan spot ibile borrow po

If not by their fruit


Waking up early In the morning to loiter around the streets and be showing your fellow razzo,with 5 big rings on the finger and panda big chains with 50cent picture on your t shirt to show your true ibileness

LMAO

SAMBARRY:
anybody that tries getting idiyotic with me,I try and show them their stoopedity

LMAO very funny

but on a serious note, I don't blame the hordes of people, especially youths fleeing the jungle $hithole called Niggeria.

Especially young people

AngelicBeing:
Don't leave Nigeria, Buhari and Atiku will make things better, even me, l am tired living outside Nigeria, l want to relocate back to Nigeria, Nigeria has 24/7 light, security is topnotch all over Nigeria, dollars is crashing, it is 70kobo to one dollar, Buhari is the new president of the G7. Nigeria roads are the best in the world, better than the US AND EUROPE, Nigeria is the best country in the world and it is the current headquarters of surplus food

LMAO LMAO lmao


hahahahahahaahahahahahahhahahaha!!!!!!



It's too late for that bro...

I'm now a part time resident in this $hithole, and have been that for some time

if not for certain things, I for don cut ties completely

AngelicBeing:
Hian, wetin Buhari and Nigeria do you

My man!!!!!!

Oya do the usual make guyman laugh small this evening na










But on a more serious note, my stay this December has been the most horrible experience

the only plus tho was the fuel availability sha

Now that I'm about to "escape" again, I can't wait.

As I'm typing this message, there is no light, and generator noise no go let me rest.

persius555:
A large number of nigerians who are illetrates, diabolic and poverty stricken are out there roving the street, searching for whom to devour.

Majority are youths in their teenage and early 20s and 30s. It is no more funny

It's not o

Tales of a hopeless country with no future mehn....

venai:
Say No to jungle justice!!!

Just like this, many innocent people have lost their lives.

Around 2012or 2013, I witnessed a guy being caught and termed fake mad man along Olisa Street in Ijebu ode, ogun state. He was beaten and crushed to death with a big stone by a mob, who accused him of being a kidnapper. As we all know, anyone accused like that would not be given any opportunity to exonerate himself especially when he was found to be in possession of two Nokia phones.
Ten minutes after, that's when his master and Co apprentices came crying. We were informed that the guy was a mechanic apprentice sent by his master to go and buy a motor part. His crime was being in dirty cloths while spotting dread hair style.

I repeat, say NO to jungle justice.

Nigerians are angry, hungry, frustrated and mad.

That is why they are always angry on the street, and at the slightest provocation, kill people.

This lynching epidemic in that shithole jungle is a symptom of the mental disease prevalent there...


like how can you burn a human, and go to sleep at night?

uyiekpenn:
I've said it before and I'll say it again. It's not your duty as a man to be financially responsible for any girl's upkeep. Nigerian men created this stupid feeling of entitlement and virus that's quite common amongst 90% of Nigerian females. The only woman I give monthly stipends and money in general is my mom and none other. I don't work under the biting winters or hot summers each day to be feeding one broke ass, lazy, hopeless, useless, greedy, senseless and unproductive female when she's not handicapped or an orphan.

The prevalent mentality in Nigeria as regards relationships are repugnant.

It's in Nigeria I know $hit like this happens ON A WIDE SCALE.

The sense of entitlements is just

chigoizie7:
lol, a woman in my town left the husband tey tey because of Mercedes 190.

now, the ex husband new wife drives an Acura zdx and a 350 4matic.


the other lady ia still stuck with her 190 + the husband is late.



dont trade ur tomorrow for today.

You don't mean it

iamjavadem:
Comparing virginity to losing a kidney? You must be a virgin.

don't mind that novice.

At least person who don fvck is still alive, and is probably happily married today

those who have been killed via rituals, or maimed should be the ones to b pitied

henryhemon:
I hear there are still good people out there that's the sermon I hear every time, thing is it's fucking difficult meeting them. I'm really thinking of ending up single and having my sanity than the joke of marriage n relationships these days. He/she is just a friend have ended most marriages.

maybe you are not searching in the right place

That happens to us a whole lot, we looking at the wrong place

weedfada:
Yea... Me too. Never seen my pops raise his voice @ my mum not to even talk of a finger. Just came back from a fam reunion based on the festive season nd kept wondering how this ppl kept it together for over 40yrs. I guess both parties gotta be 2 peas in a pod for it to work plus having a genuine fear of God.

*kept wondering how these*

Having realistic expectations of a spouse, being quick to forgive and tolerate and not searching for perfection is what keeps them, my own parents your own, and many others out there through the decades.

.However these days, especially amomgst the female folk, there is the elusive search for perfection from their partner.

then they jump from partner to partner looking for that elusive perfection