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2buffagain:
This guy, Asking you twice don pass insist.
Answer question.

I just can relate with an average Igbo woman culturally (especially the ones who were born and raised in the SouthEast)

I just can't deal with it, that's all.

The oriaku mentality, the general way of reasoning and the world view of the women is not compatible with me or that of family.

both my parents are Igbo, but just like me, they were not born , neither did they spend like a considerable time there, so you can see that with that, the mentality differ

That's just how I can put it for you

It's much wider in scope, but thAt just a picture.

Yoighaman:
Did you just say this? You are taking about an ex-President, an Obama for that matter...do you know how much he and Bill Clinton etc. earn from speaking engagements alone? How much is the most expensive Rolls Royce? Read the link below, you can also do your research....these guys have the money but just the shallow thinking of a black man (Africans and African Americans) makes them do all these unnecessary displays....it includes your fellow blackman, Mayweather....

https://www.businessinsider.com/barack-obama-michelle-obama-net-worth-2018-7?IR=T

no mind that guy

khiaa:
You people are an ignorant bunch, (this includes 2buffagain) all you do is focus on the poor blacks in America (you never criticize the poor whites who have an advantage for their skin color alone) while being blind to the poor in your country. Why don't you build your country and stop running to other countries to make a better life for yourselves? For your information (you seem to lack intelligence) there are black American doctors, lawyers, engineers, scientist, professors, dentist, physicists, bankers, entrepreneurs, and more(the op will never tell you this because he is trying to paint you a false picture of black America) but you are too full of hate to see beyond your prejudices. Have you even stepped a foot in America? By the way, what is a nigger?

and just so you know, black communities ACROSS THE WORLD ARE IN A MESS. Most of them.


So don't think because you are a black American, you are on a pedestal

Black neighbourhoods are known for a certain reputation (not all neighbourhoods, but a whole lot)

Just so you know, it's black Americans(descendents) like y'all that runs Liberia, and Liberia today is one of the worst run down countries in the world, with a $hithole status, so no chip over anyone shoulder

Black communities in Europe (especially ones filled with Jamaicans) aren't much better

Then African communities (oh lawd) is equally in a mess.


African Americans (and Africans in general) need to step up, and quit being foolish and silly

A good number of African Americans feel they are better than Africans and act conferencing towards them (you know this, so don't even deny) which is fking stupid

A good number of Africans also feel that they are better than Afro Americans (which is also stupid)

What they don't realize is that in America (and the world) we are all seem THE SAME

In America, the color of your skin COULD expose you to racial profiling, no matter where you come from
Diallo was killed and he was from the carib.

Before you open your mouth, the color of your skin has said a whole lot already,

2buffagain:
Why aren’t you interested in Igbo women? I have the same mind but I am interested in your reasons.

I think this is the second time you are asking me
You really want to knw?
If you insist, I'll tell you

khiaa:
You people are an ignorant bunch, (this includes 2buffagain) all you do is focus on the poor blacks in America (you never criticize the poor whites who have an advantage for their skin color alone) while being blind to the poor in your country. Why don't you build your country and stop running to other countries to make a better life for yourselves? For your information (you seem to lack intelligence) there are black American doctors, lawyers, engineers, scientist, professors, dentist, physicists, bankers, entrepreneurs, and more(the op will never tell you this because he is trying to paint you a false picture of black America) but you are too full of hate to see beyond your prejudices. Have you even stepped a foot in America? By the way, what is a nigger?

I never said there are no black successful people

I have black Americans as in laws and friends and some are doing just fine, while one is in jail, and another still in school in Savannah.

The topic on ground are the RATCHET BLACK FOLKS

not all black folks are ratchet, but a good number are, and its unfortunate.

I'm a well travelled person, that's all ill tell you
I can bet that i have been to more countries and places than even you, but I'm not trippin

We have white trash too (dem plenty for deep south) but the topic on hand are ratchet black folks.

eluquenson:
He's from Delta state not Anambra. But the bolded is just the truth about him though.

and you know this how?

So nobody can succeed in Nigeria without getting his hands dirty? ?

That's the prevalent mentality in that zoo tho, so I'm not surprised

Chommieblaq:
The emboldened is the problem with blacks, we don't look beyond short term gratification,what impact will our actions have in years to come.
When the consequences start showing up, we look for excuses and the blame game will start.
Slavery is over many years ago, same with colonial rules, they are no longer excuses!

at last...

someone that understand me.

Decades of opting for section 8 has produced a lot of useless kids who are also producing useless kids

Now the society is in a mess.

Nigeria too is tending towards becoming a failed state in the next decade and a half if we don't nip certain things in the bud now.

but short sightedness and myopia will not allow foolish nigger Nigerians to see it.
promotion of instant gratification, promoting wealth without work, etc etc

Daeylar:
How old is the daughter? If she is less than 18
I just hope & pray his daughter grows up knowing that her father is preaching trash and no matter how much a man spent on a woman's bride price, it doesn't mean she was a slave which was bought and has to do whatever her buyer says. Neither does it mean she is not equal to her husband or any man.


Stupid man.

Bride Price has a SIGNIFICANCE

especially when the price was heavy


Tho I don't support abuse, you cannot claim equal rights or act in certain manners, when your bride price was HEAVY.

It's the SIGNIFICANCE


But with women who add value to a man's life deserve better

Ohraykon:
All i know is dat naija ladies don cast if u are good loving man look outside u would be appreciated.

Not all Naija girls are casted tho.


But a good number are

ZombieTAMER:
I know what you mean... But some people combine businesses... You know what I mean

I know what you mean

tstx:
Luke i said earlier.. Nigerians want what they want..

Have you ever wondered why celebrity news grace Nairaland front page more than every other news? Have you ever wondered why any topic on tithe almost always make front page?..... Have yiu ecer wondered why Nigerian music all have one tune? Have you ever wondered why all Nigerian rappers gave switched to the pon pon style of music Bro. Nigerians want what they want.

You sabi jare

It's a reflection of the sick society

tstx:
Nigerian Musicians only Sing what the public want to hear.. Don't blame him, blame The irretrievably dumb masses

GBAM

Mindfulness:
Same applies to people who are from the so called intact but dysfunctional families.

yep

kenzysmith:
Format tins this guy dey do serious ritual sales boy kor sales man bawooo

and you know this how?

Section 8 has it's own part too in this mess.

There is now an incentive to have fatherless kids and the govt (and the unfortunate father) will reward you for it.

So why be useful in life, when you can have four kids from three different men and get the "benefits"

What these niggers fail to realize (and it's a common trait amongst blacks worldwide to not think long term) is that these actions will have serious consequences in future in our community.


To cut them some slack tho, mass incarceration also played its part.

jantavanta:
There is 400 years of separation between the not-so-desirable Black American woman and the Nigerian desirable.

During those centuries, America built it's prosperity by practically wiping out an entire race and zombiezing them into the mental state of The Living Dead.

If we are attracted to America's prosperity, we have to understand that Black Americans fought slavery, fought Jim Crow laws and fought for Civil Rights to make America conducive for us to emigrate into.

I am not asking anyone to be attracted to the ungroomed large-tattooed "badly brought-up" incoherently-dictioned sort. But at least, be empathic as you maintain your safe distance. Their minds are being damaged by a school curriculum and broadcast media that tells them that they are a Nobody in History, so they are living out that classification.

Making excuses for these pathetic lot.

Even during the brutal era of Jim Crow, black folks were not this useless in America.
the men were largely responsible, and had families that they fought for.
we had black doctors, engineers, lawyers, we had Thurgood Marshall and the list is endless.

If they did not crack during the jim crow era, why is the family unit in that sub culture done for after Civil rights?

They are the ones damaging themselves (along with Section 8 too)

No excuses biko.

Black folks were equakkt dehumanized in Africa by colonialists, so its not as if we as Africans had it rosy either.

Bidobado1:
100 percent right. One almost beat me up in a strip club in New Jersey just because I refused to touch her fake ass.

you don't mean it

HardBishop:
who can trust a anambra person?. their business successes is often attached with juju.. he must have a covenant with an occultic kingdom.

chai. from sales boy to billionaire.... hmm. something is fishy

what's this one saying

superior1:
He made a huge cash off zenith, illegitimately but smartly

How tho?

Ejaisky:
The hatred is beyond GEJ and Buhari. It is the fault of the Igbo parents, they told their offsprings bad stories about the Yorubas.

Yoruba patent taught their kids bad stuff about Igbos too

I grew up in Lagos, and I know what I faced growing uo.

So don't make it seem like a "one sided" thing.

The older generation shamelessly taught hate and pettiness to the younger ones, and even more shameful is that the younger ones who should know better don t

tyson98:
It's not New we that lives in sagamu knows them and they don't hide it too

you don't mean it

Timil:
This get rich quick of a thing is killing this country, everybody wants to ride the fast cars, build mansion and live a flamboyant lifestyle just to show off and flaunt to impress people who are nothing but pencils in the hand of the creator.

It won't cost anything to hustle hard and legitimately.

Despite all the scamming, wire wire this folks are still not as made as some of us here not to talk of men like bill gates, dangote.

No mind them

ChiefAzubuike:
Parents of these days sef no dey try. It was even worse back in those days. Some kids with hot temper won't take most of these nonsense from them. While growing up, my dad was always tagging me a failure coz I had just graduated from university with no job. One night na just one high he repeat that nonsense talk and I lost it totally and had this burst of anger. I just carried my load and left his house for him. Nonsense.

you are right tho

a lot of parents in Africa act senseless

Such insensitive comparisons should have NEVER come up, but it's quite often the case

I thank God i did not have parents that compared me to others then

Yuceeluv:
A parent who does that has a lot to learn about parenting.

very poor parenting

bukatyne:
I would have taken your closing seriously if I did not read your whole post.

The earlier you realize that:

Irresponsible fathers + angelic mothers = awesome families and children

Is an unstable model, the better for you. Most of the women in that model were miserable and warned their daughters not to make the mistakes they did and this is the fallout today.

I know a woman who missed it in marriage and hounds the youths to never to do so. Quizzes the girls so hard that they know they can't fail her. Outside, you would see a loving wife to an irresponsible husband; inside, you would she is biting her fingers daily.

Instead of you to tell me to brace up (you pointed out their irresponsibility), you want women to continue enduring in pain.

We have passed that stage and like I always say, good husbands + good wives would make good homes irrespective of what the society is like.

Happy new year.

you have said it all.

Even married women get bugged these days by their ex-boyfriends or stalkers.

Do you think a woman should change her cell number as she starts a new life?

nope

truthsayer009:
2buffagain

How many Black American women have you met to make this conclusion?
Where in the US do also live? Your environment can/may also affect your experience.

I just want a detailed explanation, because I kind feel that the western media is portraying black American women as being all you said but you know the media also portrays all Nigerians as suffering. SO I cannot trust the media on that.

All I'll say is.

No smoke without fire.

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
My uncle came back home to marry my aunt like 38 years ago and they moved to d USA, they are still together today. People of this time are just cowards when it comes to relationships ni. I'm definitely not exempted.

"you are not exempted "

in other words, you are a coward?
O di egwu

lefulefu:
and how will u know d well brought up lady? Dat because she goes to church everyday and attends all night service? Guy forget dat thing. Except a guy has a serious girlfriend b4 he went abroad then he can come back to collect her but guy if u know any babe while u were in nigeria its safer u forget about going back home to marry a naija girl once u set ur foot overseas. If u must marry a nigerian girl then check out the ones in ur host country. My friend aunty who returned from germany last year told us a tale about one well to nigerian guy living and working in germany who died mysteriously once he married and brought over the nigerian babe he met on facebook. She say as soon as d man die na so d babe jus dey rush d man property. Only marry the girlfriend u left back home and ensure that its d girl u really trust and who really loves u.

He whom have ears, he better hear.

if not, stories that touch will be his story

pansophist:
When a Nigerian man who has lived in a western country for a long time comes back home to marry a stranger, if you observe closely, you'll notice that it is a trend that is common with the uneducated ones (you can be schooled and still be uneducated). Even though these folks have lived in an advanced society for long, they are not refined and classy enough to attract women from their host countries. It is classical case of taking a monkey out of the jungle, but you can not take the jungle out of the monkey (purely proverbial, no pun intended). These men want or perhaps, desire women that subscribe to the patriarchal order of man above the woman, and becoming her saviour.

Of all the educated Nigerians (And largely Africans) that I know of, the ones doing good jobs and that have fully integrated tends to date and marry women from their host country, and of those that prefer to marry within their culture, they marry other immigrants in their host countries. For this men, dating women from their host country eliminate potential risk as being used as a vehicle out of her country, and the partner over dependency on them financially, and by extension, her family as well.

My observations.

you hAve noticed the trend too.

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
check your first sentence. Igbo boys will continue coming back home to marry. That's just how it work. I don't know how other tribes operate but I know how Igbos do.

I'm an Igbo man, and I am not "coming home" to marry

Infact I have neve4 had anything serious with an Igbo woman, and by The grace of God, I will not.

It boikw down to individuals really, not a tribe thing

There are SO SO MANY Igbos that did not marry Igbos, or "go home to do so"

So it depends on the person

husbandsnatcha:
Toolz i bet u cant give birth wtout operation...
2much fat

What difference does it make