₦airaland Forum

gentleiphy:
Ha this people una want make i talk again...ok..Sir Sukkot i tuale o o ..i dey salute...you really spoke well and with your vast knowledge about America and England it surprises me you talk about racism in those countries and forget about the same in Nigeria in another guise called tribalism which is more dangerous than the racism cos racism is people of different nationality with different skin colour but ours is same people..same colour..same garri and yam.Can a yoruba man be voted as a councillor in Imo state?..can an Hausa man vie for a governorship post in Lagos for being a Nigerian and not from the north?..can an igbo man enter an office where a yoruba man is the HR person and another yoruba man enter seeking for a job and the job is given to the igbo man not minding who qualified most?...do yoruba landords in lagos rent thier houses to the man from the east ?..why is our central goverment in abuja having issues of..the next president must be from the North,east south or west...do you know how many yorubas were killed in Kano after the sagamu hause yoruba riot? have you seen videos of how hausa butchered people from the other divide in Nigeria?have you witnessed any tribal/religious crisis in the north where the white man is left alone while a fellow nigeria in killed along with his family...have you not heard of quota system in nigeria where whether you sabi am or not na una turn...have you not heard of different cut off point in JAMB for different divide of the country?Victor Moses is hail and hearty today playing football in a country UK who took him in when his parents were killed in a Nigerian religious crisis..they didnt see him as black meanwhile his own people same black made him an orphan...today Victor Moses and his little kid brother will never want to settle back in Nigeria..i grew up in the North and witnessed many of the tribal/religious hatred killings where corpse littered the streets and pigs feasted in human decompose...black against black..brothers who sing national anthem together..

Again...if you say that the Nigeria you love and dream of is the one where until you are a billionaire you cant enjoy steady light except you live in lekki then i think we have a problem really.Or until you have money you cant have tennis court around you....hmmm...this are just common and basic things governments provide out of your tax payers money in other western countries which Nigeria also collects same tax without providing you same.Bro if you are happy living in lekki and feel good seeing others live in shanties in ajegunle and the poor suburbs then it means you enjoy Nigeria because you use your wealth to oppress the poor meaning in essence the good leaders to lead Nigeria out of the dungeon like Bollinger rightly observed is a long long thing if we all think living exclusively for us alone in Lekki means Nigeria is ok.

Well said.
Yoruba peeps can be MP in U.K. but will kick against same in Lagos

That is the kind of people we are in Nigeria/Africa and that is why we are the most underdeveloped.

Your last paragraph is spot on too.

chibuzorAbia:
Shameless people. Go home!!! 99% of your people are tenants here. Sooner or later we will drive you out!! We need just one major political crisis, just one.

What type of reasoning is this

Why the bickering between Yoloba and Igbo all the time here

The last time I checked, Igbo people are not the only ones who live in Lagos, so what is the issue

DICKtator:
si le pays va vers le bas, chaque tribu se former leur propre pays comme l'USSR et la vie serait certainement aller .........

mdr

Nigeria ne vais pas gâte.
Pas de tout

DICKtator:
No I beg to differ!!

When in Rome, do as the Romans do!!!

It doesn't necessarily mean you agree but playing safe and respect for your body's culture is necessary.
At least ,in the south when a King dies, aren't people advised not to go out at a certain time?

Not saying one should drop his religion all in the quest to fit in but for security reasons and to gain strategic advantage, "morph" into your environment.
You can carry a branded alcoholic beverage in Nigeria on the street and drink it but it is illegal in some foreign country. Would you flout that?

Don't mind them.
In Lagos, as you said, if an Oba dies , people are advised to stay indoors to avoid stories that touch, yet they will not talk about that one.

Everybody cannot reason like you, and not every society is like the one you came from, that is why it is always better to conform reasonably when you are in any society.

I also blame many parents for instilling this bias in their children (especially ndigbo)
Thank God my parents were not like that, and I have gone to see for myself.

ghostmist:
so you expected your friend to start squatting like woman like they all do over there abi??

just tell him to become a Muslim na..? just because he chooses to pee like a man, they are offended...

what rubbish!!

gerrout joor...!

Sorry to say, your line of reasoning is very poor and silly...
The north is this and that yet Igbo people like is are still trooping thete in their thousands to live and do business.
You are wiser than all of them going up there abi?

Rubbish.

deliveryboy:
Photos taken with two different cameras, all camera men edit their photos afterwards, it's part of photography. BTW, if our youths are as analytical in sciences and economics/finances as they analyze celebrities, employers would not always say they are not employable, use your skills wisely.

Honestly speaking.
The way youths analyse and keep tabs on these celebs, it's worrisome

schboy3:
Menh.... menh...., ah have alot to write ooo

Buh for now, please just know that our ATM card is no lonqer workinq outside niqeria. It stopped work since Wednesday 12/10/16.

So please everyone should take note.

Will type ma expérience at ELUBO broder later.

Jesu!!!!!!!!!
The cards have been blocked again?Why the policy inconsistency from CBN?

PDBonline:
So how will you respond if Amanpour of cnn asks you that "It seems you can't lead your wife, why should Nigerians listen to you?"

The society Amanpour comes from, men don't "lead" women.
So your question is invalid

Nasman:
One thing am very sure of is that Aisha Buhari will never ever side with the South to disgrace the North. You guys are very funny, everything time there is a small confusion you jump in to support someone thinking at the end of the day, that will side with you and put his hatred campaign on the Northern way of life. You have failed in #ChildnotBride, Rahama Sadau, Shia Muslims, and now Aisha Buhari. The last thing this people need is southern support. Give your support to Leader of iPod in your so called zoo prison.

Can you explain yourself?

And why are you dividing the country into north/South?
Are we not one country again?

AreaFada2:
Lol. His father was not an AH. Yes, he was pushy. He was a perfectionist. If not for that early push he would never have become the perfectionist he was. Look back at his song arrangements, lyrics, instrumental, flow/delivery, choreography. All at the zenith of possibility in the arts. It was a blend of immense talent & hardwork/perfection.

I say this because far more African kids suffer far more abuse for just meal & roof over their heads. Most African kids of MJ's generation "seriously chop cane" for flimsy reasons like taking meat from the pot, going off to play football and minor things. Without any level of extra support from parents or guardians, aside the usual ones.
The issue was MJ lived in an environment where parents are vilified for smacking & correcting kids. And Western raised kids use that standard to judge parents.
If same rules were strictly applied in Nigeria, 80% of parents would lose their kids to social services & 50% of them may end up in jail.

We see 9ja parents losing kids to the govt/social services for smacking or leaving them to go shopping & neighbors call the police.

I was beaten seriously by my parents, relatives and even neighbours (you know how it was then, when a neighbour sees you committing, and he whoops you in public before your momma finish work at home, lol)

However; I don't think I'm gonna whoop my kids the way I was beaten tho...Smacking is not the only way to correct kids.

And besides, with all the smacking, why is the Nigerian society in a mess?

Do not compromise discipline, but that violent smacking, and pushing and etc?
Won't do it.

And BTW, I still think MJ father was an asshole.

AreaFada2:
A lot of good or not. Jackson himself admitted he had no childhood, in fact a very sad one. So he had a failed childhood. It affected every aspect of his life. It is even on tape. Jackson is the very ultimate example of bad childhood.

I doubt if you followed his career better than me when he was making hits then. I even had the chance to be in his live concert 24 years ago.

MJ father was an asshole, that is the principal reason why he had a bad childhood.
There is nothing wrong with being a child star, all the child needs is some supervision from their parents, that's all.

hardbody:
Amusing.....

I don't enter the UK with a visa, does that tell you anything?

I was processing Canadian immigration visa up till the point of my final interview in Ghana. Some female canadian friend punched me when she said she could not imagine a black skinned lawyer in the streets of quebec. I instantly discontinued my immigrant visa application.

The fact you are either constrained or challenged and will settle for anything does not mean we are all cast in the same mould. Chart your course and run with it.

Enough said, or need i say more?

Black lawyer who was probably trained in English wanting to move to Quebec, a French speaking place with a different legal system?

I bow for you o

Excuzeme:
You are so wrong and so one-sided!

Let me use a few examples to illustrate how wrong your assertions are:

1.) take the case of divorced Nigerian couple and Divorced Western Couple:
In most cases, the divorced Western Couple (DWC) still maintain a level of decency between them. The ex-wife does not pick enmity with the new wife while the ex-husband can even play golf with the new husband. The dont see their "going separate ways" as a do or die affair! These set of people seem better to manage the "emotions' of a break-up

Now, take the Divorced Nigerian Couple (DNC) scenario: The divorce is so bitter that they remain an enemy for life. this enmity is even transferred to friends and other family members! The ex-wife must not see the new wife anywhere without making trouble, all her life, she blames the new wife for her divorce and seeks to do her harm, till she dies! She poisons the mind of the children against their father and more-so against the new wife of her ex-husband. these set of people seem not to be able to manage a break-up. It is CULTURAL.

2.) Again, let us see the case of Western Couples (WC) and our Nigerian Couple (NC) in a marriage setting:

In the Western Couple, the wife may be the primary bread winner in the family, it makes no difference since in most cases, all their expenses, from mortgage to groceries, is spent from a joint account (those who have lived outside Nigeria will attest to how the Government/Banks force you to have a joint account, without which Mortgage you can get). The WC dont fight over such things. In terms of Education, it is free so none of the couple can say "l educated you" with my money! If they are not married and live together, they both contribute to the cost of rent and Bills. The go to restaurants and both pay their way.

Now, come to the NC situation: The man is expected (culturally) to provide all financial requirement, even before he considers marriage! he is expected to pay bride price, which the WC dont pay (in some parts of Nigeria, the cost of that Bride price is enough to buy a house! ).
In a marriage setting, the "husband" is expected to provide all the money (even if the wife is working, its a matter of culture and honor!). Education is not free hence some parents see the husband as an "extension" of their parental responsibilities - he must "train" his wife and this cost much.
Another dimension is that the Nigerian wife is not able to manage "success", unlike her Western counterpart.
While a Western woman will still maintain the "cultural, marital norms" in her marriage, even if she becomes wealthier than her husband, the Nigerian wife see her "new financial status" as a sort of "Liberation and Power to revolt".

She sees it as an opportunity to "turn the table" and "re-order the cultural and marital norms" of the marriage.
She does this in the most arrogant and audacious manner, daring the man to do his worst!

What she forgets is that marriage is like a CONTRACT, it is consummated with an "UNDERSTANDING OF THE APPLICABLE RULES AND NORMS", based on the cultural environment (Nigerian) the couples embrace.
Problem starts when the woman runs into MONEY/POWER and then seeks to change the "status-quo" or "Terms and Conditions" of the marriage contract!
The Husband naturally, will say NO!
More-so, the change which the wife seeks, is ALIEN to their culture.
But notwithstanding, because of where she is (America), she is able to FORCE her wish on the husband, and even goes further to PUNISH him by stripping him of all his assets and his dignity.
The end -result is why some Husbands take law into their hands.

So, the problem is not that of the Nigerian man but that of the Nigerian Culture, which most women (and their parents) seem to enjoy and buy into, only for the woman to want to "change the contract", once she is in the Western world.

BTW, Men need to understand that the "Standard Nigerian wife" is long-gone!
The world is a global village now and the women in Nigeria are actually worse (in this regard) than their counterpart born into the "Western Culture".
A Black Woman born and bred in America grows up with the American culture (including respect for anyone carrying a gun! ).
Such women cannot stand a Black man born and bred in Nigeria, due to the cultural differences.
Such women MUST marry from the pool of Black men (if they chose Black) in their environment

Same goes for the Nigerian man born and bred in Nigeria. He should marry form the pool of Nigerian women..... but he must KEEP HER in Nigeria!
The problem arises when he carries his Nigerian culture abroad, (He is still a Nigerian man, mentally and psychologically), then in other to continue to perpetuate his Nigerian mentality/Culture in his new domain, he erroneously think it will work-out if he IMPORTS and marries a Nigerian woman (who is a Nigerian, psychologically and mentally) into the new domain.
The "Imported wife" then realise that she can CHANGE her culture, change the norm of the marriage, by ADOPTING the CULTURE of her new domain, to the chagrin of the Husband who still holds dear to his Nigerian culture (since that is what he hopes to live by, upon importing a Nigerian wife).

Solution: if you want to live abroad, marry a woman born and bred there. It wont guarantee you "anything better" but it will ensure you know what you are getting into, from the onset, so that you are not duped in your marriage contract, as the imported wives like to do.

Your analysis is wonderful

abeg we need update o lol

falopey:
No. The moral of the story is don't bother to come to Nigeria to pick a wife. Pick a wife there in America.

Many Nigerian wives realize their "potential" once brought to the US. Some of them do worse thing to their husband even more than what an American woman would do. Just to prove a point to their husband that they are no more in Nigerian system where husband has upper hands. So they over do it and drive their husband crazy.

It's more hurtful to be hurt by someone deliberately hurting you to get at you than someone doing it not because she wants to get back at you for anything but just doing it because it's what entails in the system.

Very true indeed

ItsMeAboki:
The real parasites know themselves - and if the cap fits, wear it.

I see

As long as you are an adult, male or female, so what you wanna, as long as you understand the consequences, and know how to mitigate them.

Nigerians and holier than thou attitude.

merahki:
@ OP and everyone on thread...hey...and howdy?
Has/is anyone been able to go/on the go/ still planning to go?
Updates please
I am like a junkie with / about this thread...and trip
You all don't wanna know how much/ often I check in here, even the Abidjan and Ghana and any WA thread here.....including the ones just asking for exchange rates

During my recent travels I met a Liberian. I am sure he was wondering why I was sucking in all the info I could get out of him about his country. Oh my God he probably thought I was planning to marry him!!! Even after learning he was married!!! I really delved!!!
Oh for mortification!

(Musing to self)....well, nobody ever comes on here again....might even make it my travel diary...is this even legal on NL? Hijacking somebody's thread to type my rubbish? Especially when one cannot start their own thread, cos, well, because they dunno how to, and are too lazy to learn?
Okay, I will stop now

Maybe people are not too keen on travelling because of the pitiable state of the currency.

I hear a rumour that it is only ecobank ATM that is working there. (Ghana/Ivory Coast)
I hope that is not true; because if it is, my bro don enter one chance, as me GTB e carry go.

Hope GTB is working too o.

schboy3:
So finally ah qot to the park dis morninq, and true true the price was 40qhc , mais..... Na me qo clear maself for the broder, Infact the ride will just stop u at the qhana border, and head back (ah quess)
It's a 11 seater ride, so ah don't think clearinq maself at the border will be much of an issue, because at least someone in the ride can help me out.

Ah had to withdraw 250qhc dis morninq (YES ATM are workinq) so meaninq ah have about 200qhc and N10k naira cash with me.
Hopefully the ATM will work over there, and ah can also chanqe the naira first to settle some minor bills.

We left kaneshie around 06:45am, ah just don't know we qonna reach.

Ah had to qo back and read from paqe 4, when @syevel(somethinq like dat) went on his own journey, so hopefully ah will have to apply one or two tins from his expérience.

Moi french understandinq is about 30-35% cool, and ah also can read/understand it, so ah quess ah wont be havinq too much of an issue with the lanquaqe.

@ify, @ugosample, abeq make una assist ooo, because the last person that went was complaininq about the hiqh cost of hôtel. Please can u recommend where ah can qet moderate raté, and aqain....... emmmmmm, any other input will be appreciated.
A bientôt

Honestly speaking, I don't have a hotel in mind now that is budget friendly

I wish you safe journey once again bro...
And thank God your card worked because if it didn't

Shine your eyes at the Elubo border though, you will need to.

Allee90:
Hey you Infidels, start packing from our territories.

For real

ItsMeAboki:
Its no longer a dream but a reality in progress - watch this space for confirmation very soon.

You have the guts to call the ND parasites?
Are you ok at all

ifyalways:
Are you people living in the moon or just not travelling in recent times hence the surprise at the exchange rates?

1000 ngn has for over one year now been LESS than 9 GHC. It's always hovering btw 7.5 and 8.9 GHC.

I beg to disagree @ifyalways

I was in Ghana in December, and the rate was 16 to 1000 and in March this year it fell to 11.5 to 1000.

This is my own experience sis
It used to be 20 GHC.

Very bad

Scholes007:
Stop spreading lies this is not about nollywood movies, what you said is not true.

Oga, don't be mischievous, deep within you, you know this is true.

I know plenty cases in my village and other places, and real life experiences.

schboy3:
So finally...... It's was sunday 09/10, havinq booked ma ticket à day before, ah had to leave home early (3rd coach tins)
Because of the rain in laqos, 1st left around 9am, 2nd by 10am, while 3rd (ma coach) left by 3pm ......
It wasn't à small tin ooo, Infact ah even had to chanqe ma departure date for Monday, because it's was DAMN late, buh moi frère had to still ask me to chill, and since no one boardinq the 3rd coach (about 30) has left.

Ok ooo, so finally we left the park by 3pm, and qot to the niqeria into benin border by 6pm, spent like 20-35mins with the NDLEA, and less than 20mins at the border, (NB: we didnt cross on foot, we stayed back in the coach).

qot to the benin into toqo border by 9:45pm, and everywhere was dryyyyy , and YES... we came down and crossed on foot, aqain since it was sunday and late, ah quess that was why it went effortless, unlike other days, and we spent less than 35mins there.

@ugosample, ah know u qonna ask for exchanqe raté, buh the truth is, those aboki were no where to be found , like seriously......, the only people at the border was the women sellinq foods and drink, etc.

Honestly ah was surprise to see the border as dry as the way it was....., buh ah never knew we were inn for another shocker......

We were still in toqo till around 10:30pm, and it was obvious that we won't be able to cross to the qhana side ,
So we had to stop at a 'more' safe place, and spent the niqht there., well the niqht was crazy and also fun.

So we had to leave our location around 5:30am dis morninq, in other to be amonq the first set that will cross, and also beat the traffic rush, and about 1km away from the toqo into qhana border, u will think u are drivinq into à DANGOTE cément plant.... Wow, no be small tin ooo.

So before crossinq, the exchanqe quys were seeinq around, (NB: we still in the toqo side) and surprisly, the quys refuse to accept Naira , no be small tin ooo, as if they all planned it, no one was acceptinq to chanqe anythinq (CFA/Cedis) for naira, some even bouqht sims for 600h lolz.

Buh on qettinq to the qhana border, where u will have to come down with ur luqqaqe, we met another set of exchanqe quys, and they chanqe for 8.6

Now the main joker is the raté @ugosample,
N1000 = 8cedis 60 penswu.
N10000 = 86 qhc.
That's the real fallinq hand.... N1000 for just 8qhc This chanqe is really really chanqinq everythinq, àh remember ma previous trip around, November, it's was N1000 = 20qhc, God have mercy.

Well, after sendinq like an hour 25mins there, we continued our journey, and finally we qot to the park (last bus-stop) by 1pm. Finally, à journey dat wasn't suppose to take dis lonq, just nose dive...
Well thank God for safe landinq.

So demain (mardi) àh will be headinq to TUDU to check for the STC bus qoinq to ivory coast. And hopefully je vais voyaqe au mercredi.

This was ma qhana trip expérience, expect the ivory coast own, hopefully it will be less stressful as dis.
The naira has really really lost it value, cedis is now far far better to naira.

AWKAABA.......

Huh

8.6 to 1000?

This is terrible!!!!
At least the thing should have remained at 10, now it has gone under.

Anyways, thanks for the update.
It was helpful.

specimenC:
Our flat headed brothers have done it again, this time they have successfully tarnished our collective image as nigerians. The UAE no longer issue visas to nigerians. They have upgraded from drugs to stabbing police men for money.

How are you sure that it is "flat heads" that are responsible for this?

Jacko1:
All this 1 will not unite any nigeria

We shall still all grow into tribalists that we are
I small b4 na

Ma eye don open now..... Seeing afonjas and abokis for what they are
Igbo amaka for life

And you think Igbo peeps are saints? Nobody holy pass

jollymizzle:
Guy cool down na, what if it happens? Eh what will you do. There are no permanent foes in politics, wise men realized this long long time ago.

Exactly

Cutex01:
low self esteem alert, can any Kenyan act go to the US and replicate same?

No country will deport anyone for smashing a phone.
Too much ignorance on this forum.

Realman87:
Obiano has debunked the lies. Rochas is NOT a fool. He is NOT an Afonja. The North CANNOT mess with any Easterner. They know this.
You should be ASHAMED of yourself. Now you want to join the very SS/SE you have always taunted on nairaland. The SS/SE you have always insulted. The very igbos that your Oba threatened and your brothers have always hated. You have NO principles and this is a typical Yoruba problem. SHAME ON YOU. The SS/SE will NEVER join The children of hate. Never....

Don't you think the entire south should co operate for once?

This is the problem with my people.
They fail to understand that politics is all about interest and not making enemies.
Foener enemies in politics align to achieve their aim, when it is a common interest.
And instead of you to understand this, you are being emotional

gahyip:
look if you pass the border between benin and togo is very good and easy the same applied to aflao border between togo and ghana then why seme is the problem?nigerian touts at the borders are the ones exhorting money from their fellow nigerians with the help of nigerian immigration and customs officers who employ these miscrant to harrass and intimidate nigerian then the beninuuse has to buys from us and became even more wicked than the nigerians that taught them very funny right

The corruption is deep in the Nigerian system