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Romance / Re: I Would Love To Contest For Mr Nairaland (pics) by umehmj(m): 10:52am On Jun 23, 2016 |
ernesty20: Eh? And ive been dulling. Please guys and ladies, vote for meee I fine small for face but my body na die
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Romance / Re: I Would Love To Contest For Mr Nairaland (pics) by umehmj(m): 10:45am On Jun 23, 2016 |
wait! them dey give the winners money? miss this, mr that don too much. please if them they pay make i enter too. me i no dey do anything wey money no dey comot inside |
Romance / Re: What A Ghanaian Lady Thinks About Dating Nigerian Men by umehmj(m): 10:47pm On Jun 22, 2016 |
JiggamanGh: what can i say.... i am that charming she a good girl tho and i miss her, especially her twi lectures lol |
Romance / Re: What A Ghanaian Lady Thinks About Dating Nigerian Men by umehmj(m): 10:37pm On Jun 22, 2016 |
JiggamanGh: I had to visit her fbk and get this pix. As funny as it sounds it's no lie man lol. Tho i hyped some of the story, like the whole of tema calling me but they did call lol. 1 Like
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Romance / Re: What A Ghanaian Lady Thinks About Dating Nigerian Men by umehmj(m): 10:19pm On Jun 22, 2016 |
JiggamanGh: maybe i should drop the babe digits or tell you her fbk name, or better still our chats. |
Family / Helping Your Child Deal With Puberty by umehmj(m): 8:33pm On Jun 22, 2016 |
THE CHALLENGE It seems as if it were just yesterday that you held your infant in your arms. Now you have a preteen on your hands—still a child, true, but one who may be about to embark on that section of road toward adulthood called puberty. How can you help your son or daughter deal with this confusing and sometimes traumatic transition into sexual maturity? WHAT YOU SHOULD KNOW Puberty has its own timetable. It can begin as early as age eight or as late as the mid-teens. “The range of normal puberty is wide,” says the book Letting Go With Love and Confidence. Puberty can bring insecurity. Adolescents can be highly sensitive about how they come across to others. “I became conscious of how I looked and acted,” recalls a young man named Jared. * “When I was around others, I’d wonder if they thought I was weird.” Self-confidence can plummet even further if acne develops. “I felt that my face was under attack!” recalls 17-year-old Kellie. “I remember crying and calling myself ugly.” Early bloomers face special challenges. This is particularly true of girls, as they might be teased when they develop breasts or curves. “They’re also at risk of attracting the attention of older boys who are more apt to be sexually experienced,” says the book A Parent’s Guide to the Teen Years. Puberty does not mean maturity. “Foolishness is bound up in the heart of a youth,” says Proverbs 22:15. Puberty does not change that. A young person may look grown-up, but that “tells you nothing about his ability to make intelligent decisions, behave responsibly, exercise self-control, or [display] other measures of maturity,” says the book You and Your Adolescent. WHAT YOU CAN DO Talk about puberty before it starts. Let your child know what to expect, especially regarding menstruation (for girls) and nocturnal emissions (for boys). Different from the gradual changes of puberty, those events begin suddenly and can be confusing and even frightening. While discussing such matters, take a positive approach—that puberty initiates a beneficial makeover that paves the way for adulthood. Be thorough. “When my parents gave me ‘the talk,’ they were evasive,” recalls a young man named John. “I wish they had been a bit more straightforward.” Alana, 17, feels similarly. “My mom helped me understand what was going on physically,” she says, “but I wish she had helped me cope better emotionally.” The lesson? As awkward as it may be, talk to your child about all aspects of puberty. Ask questions that invite conversation. To break the ice, talk about others’ experiences with puberty. For example, you could ask your daughter, “Have any of your classmates started talking about having periods yet?” “Do kids make fun of girls who develop early?” You could ask your son, “Do kids ridicule those who lag behind in physical development?” When adolescents start talking about how puberty affects others, it might be easier for them to open up about their own feelings and experiences. Help your adolescent develop “practical wisdom and thinking ability.” Puberty is not all about physical and emotional changes. During this stage your adolescent also develops reasoning skills that will help him or her make good decisions in adulthood. Take advantage of this opportunity to instill good values in your adolescent. Do not give up. Many young people seem reluctant to talk to their parents about puberty, but do not be fooled. “The adolescent who pretends to be uninterested, bored, disgusted, or stone deaf may be memorizing every word,” says the book You and Your Adolescent. “My parents were very supportive when I went through puberty, especially my mom. She took the time to explain everything to me. I knew exactly what was coming and what to expect, so I never felt shocked when I hit that stage. On top of that, my mom made sure that I always felt comfortable talking to her. My parents made the awkwardness easier for me to handle.” —Marie, 16. “My parents worked with me. For example, they tried to respect my privacy because they knew the whole experience was embarrassing for me. The fact that they weren’t announcing it to others was helpful too. And they talked to me about what was coming before I experienced it.”—Joan, 18. |
Romance / Re: What A Ghanaian Lady Thinks About Dating Nigerian Men by umehmj(m): 1:40pm On Jun 22, 2016 |
lol...my experience with dating a Ghanaian babe Ghanaian babes see worship naija guys literally. to them it is like hooking a yanky dude. the babe was all over me. she will call on the phone and i will speak with her, her sisters, her parents (to my surprise ) and indeed to the whole of tema that cares to talk to this naija dude. they are so needy: the babe follows me bumper to bumper on all social platforms and always tagging me like in all her uploads. if any babe comments on my pix na cry be that. she doesn't waste in pikin fights with my female friends. again, they are pretty cheap to manage. all that an average ghanian babe wants is to come and see Lagos and probably go to whizkid and psquares shows. My Ghanaian babe travelled all the way from tema to come see me and most importantly to see Lagos. guess how much it cost me? ....it cost me just an invite. shikina. but heh, i did gave her a great time and memories. i ran when she got back to Ghana. dunno how it happened but every babe in tema was calling for an invite to come see lagos, psquare and whizkid. what's up with them and whizkid and psquare sef where is lalasticlala? 109 Likes 6 Shares |
Health / Re: Men Share Your Experiences Coping With Male Pattern Baldness (MPD) by umehmj(m): 1:22pm On Jun 22, 2016 |
waywardpikin: mid twenties. i won't have it lol. none of my elder bros are bald |
Health / Re: Men Share Your Experiences Coping With Male Pattern Baldness (MPD) by umehmj(m): 12:29pm On Jun 22, 2016 |
waywardpikin: yea he damn hairy all over the body. i noticed men from my mum's side don't have hairs and are mostly bald. I'm glad i didn't catch their baldness too |
Health / Re: Men Share Your Experiences Coping With Male Pattern Baldness (MPD) by umehmj(m): 12:03pm On Jun 22, 2016 |
if na bear-bear you dey talk i would have related to that. i no get bear-bear. the little ones coming out just dey scattered and scanty. binu. the hairs on my head full well well. if only i can transfer some to my face, all this small small girls will know im not dia mate and stop making silly passes at me. *logs out to go rub kai kai in the face* |
Politics / Re: Checkout Aisha Buhari's Meaningless Response To Gov. Fayose (screenshot) by umehmj(m): 1:10am On Jun 22, 2016 |
MosakuAW: oga you need to go and educate yourself on what twitter handle confirmation is all about. the tweet above is from a confirmed handle. share a pix of your supposed original twitter handle. In the mean time, shut up. 3 Likes |
Agriculture / Re: Any Idea Of Where I Can Source For Ogbono And Crayfish @very Cheaper Rate by umehmj(m): 5:16pm On Jun 21, 2016 |
TheBizMsn: 200 litres. as for price im still comparing quotes. as for now the best quote i have is 4k for 20 litres |
Family / Re: Betrayed By My Blood Sister And Fiance by umehmj(m): 8:01am On Jun 21, 2016 |
did he try to hit your sister twice? all this while you two are together is he showing your sister any kind of special attention? if your answers are 'no' please forgive and by all means forget. it's a one time mistake and one he won't try again ever, atleast with your sister. you said the little brat is wayward. who knows weda she been disturbing your man to have a taste again and he refused, leading to her blackmail. 2 Likes |
Agriculture / Re: We Supply Palm Oil In Large Quantities by umehmj(m): 8:00pm On Jun 20, 2016 |
Keziehenry: how much is 25 litres can of oil? i need the prize plus your location. i have to come see what im paying for first hand. subsequent purchases can be sent. get back to me ASAP |
Agriculture / Re: I Need Garri Suppliers by umehmj(m): 7:54pm On Jun 20, 2016 |
hello, i can supply you high quality okwo mgbo garri, both yellow and plain white. if you are wondering what okwo mgbo is, its a popular garri market in ohaukwu LGA of ebonyi state. their garri is the best in the whole east. make inquiries reach me through umehmj@gmail.com |
Agriculture / Re: Any Idea Of Where I Can Source For Ogbono And Crayfish @very Cheaper Rate by umehmj(m): 7:23pm On Jun 20, 2016 |
please where can i buy red oil at a cheap price. wanna buy in gallons |
Politics / Bombshell!!!!! What Nuhu Ribadu Said About Goodluck Jonathan by umehmj(m): 12:06am On Jun 17, 2016 |
Malam Nuhu Ribadu, the former EFCC chairman, and governorship candidate of the Peoples Democratic Party, PDP, in Adamawa state during the 2015 general election, said that former president Goodluck Ebele Jonathan is the only president that a single act of corruption cannot be traced to him as an individual. He also said that Jonathan is the only president in recent years who did not allocate a single oil bloc to anybody, not to talk of himself.Ribadu who disclosed this in response to a question on why he believed in Goodluck Jonathan, during an interview with Premium Times, said, “First of all I know him (Jonathan) fairly better than most people. Secondly, I also know a little bit more than many people in this country. Thirdly, I am an unrepentant advocate and believer in the unity of Nigeria. I respect people no matter where they come from.” The former EFCC boss added saying, “People say a lot about him (Jonathan) that is not true. For instance, I don’t think that a single act of corruption can be traced to him as an individual. I know that he is the only president in recent years who did not allocate a single oil bloc to anybody, not to talk of himself. And these are the areas where you can tell corruption in its true colour. He did not allocate oil bloc to himself, family or friends up till now. He also did not give a single marginal field to himself or anybody else even though he is the only president that comes from the niger delta where the oil is coming from....... I know for a fact that President Jonathan does not have a single property anywhere abroad or any huge business in Nigeria. He does not own a university and none of his children are schooling abroad. It is therefore so unfair the way he is being painted because of politics." dailymail.com.ng/nuhu-ribadu-speaks-goodluck-jonathan-unknown-saint/ 3 Likes 1 Share |
Education / Re: Sometimes I Wonder If All Corp Members Are Actually Graduates by umehmj(m): 11:34pm On Jun 16, 2016 |
Hausa babe. ah! not surprised. she tried ni 1 Like |
Career / My Cure To A Broken Career Heart by umehmj(m): 7:14pm On Jun 16, 2016 |
It is painful when we fail to land our dream job after much preparation and hardwork. It is even more painful to loose a job we love so much. It often leaves us with self doubts and too many questions, especially when we have given in our everything into the job. So today I'm going to discuss what to do when you fall in love with a job and don't get it. Or, when you get fired or laid-off from the job you love. How do you survive the feelings of loss, disappointment, and failure? You brain fires with non-stop negativity while it searches for the answers to the questions: Where did I do wrong? How could I have convinced them I was the perfect candidate? Is there any desperate measure I can take to try to change their mind? It's no wonder why most people can't get out of bed the day after they lose the job they desire. Love hurts. There's Only One Real Cure... I wish I could give you a technique to get the employer to magically change their mind. Better still, if I could only create a way to erase the painful memory of not landing this job from your memory. I can't. Only one thing will ultimately help you get over this loss: a new career love. Here's What You Need To Know (WARNING: You May Not Like It!) 1) Vent to a trusted advisor - and only that advsor! It's very important you process your feelings and get them out of your system. You can't keep your hurt inside. Find one person you trust and respect and let it all out. However, don't cry in your cereal or glass of wine to every friend, family member, or colleague that will listen. You don't need people to feel sorry for you. Plus, like it or not, when people hear you didn't get the job you loved, they'll assume you did something wrong. I know that sounds terrible, but it's the truth. People judge you in your ability to be resilient. You need to keep your public image in tact because these are the same people that you may need to lean on for references and recommendations down the line. Don't let them see you fall apart. You are stronger than you know! This is just one job in a sea of opportunities. They need to see you aren't overly affected by the loss. 2) Get hyper-social. Instead of locking yourself away in your home and licking your wounds, force yourself to get out and network. Your brain needs to be occupied with constructive discussion. You are the career company you keep, and right now, you aren't good company by yourself. So, try some of these: Go to an industry event. Start a discussion on social media channels about your area of expertise. Reach out to ten new people in your field and ask them to connect on LinkedIn. Set a coffee or dinner with an old colleague. 3) Secure a career "wingperson" so you aren't flying solo. You are going to have a crisis of confidence as you head back out there into the job search. You'll doubt every action. That's not good. You need to be able to check in with someone who can validate your actions and keep you from sabotaging yourself. Find your wingwoman or wingman and use them to keep you on track and accountable. 4) Utilize a methodology to give structure to your job search. Most job seekers are using outdated techniques and approaches to their job search. Even worse, they just "wing it" and do what they think they are supposed to do without learning what actually works. The truth is, there probably was something you could have done different to get that job. But, you can't go back and fix it. You can only learn from your mistakes and move forward. Don't let history repeat itself due to your lack of understanding of what you are doing wrong. Find job search resources that can help you map out and follow a proven process for getting that job. It will help you maximize your potential and give you confidence that you're doing it right. While it won't guarantee you get the job the next time, it will help you see where the pivotal points are in the process and help you to do your best at each one. That's the most scientific way possible to improve your job search success rate. You Will Survive (And Thrive!) If You Can Remember This... While I can't make the job loss any less painful, I can tell you curing a broken career heart is easier than you think. Ask anyone who has followed the steps above and they will tell you when they finally got the next job, the emotional high they experienced was so intense, it made the heartache worth it. "That which doesn't kill us, makes us stronger," is a famous phrase that we should all remember. You will survive, AND you will experience a new level of competency and empowerment that will make you feel powerful and happy. But, that won't happen if you let the broken career heart win. So, pick yourself up, follow the steps above and create a happy ending to your career story! |
Religion / What The Bible Said About Newly Married Men (pix) by umehmj(m): 1:55pm On Jun 10, 2016 |
Came across this in deutronomy 24:5 and i was like whaat?! Personally i think it will be really cool but then, does this apply in today's world? 1 Like 2 Shares
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Romance / Re: Advice: My Babe's Friend Is Tempting Me. by umehmj(m): 11:20pm On Jun 09, 2016 |
i would have told you to go give em what she wants, but then, that's none of my business |
Romance / Re: Favourite Sex Positions In Bed - Nigerians Respond (Very Hilarious Video) by umehmj(m): 11:22am On Jun 02, 2016 |
WhyNa:I'm in Asaba, not some place far from civilization lol. i needed the break |
Romance / Re: How Long Was/is Your Longest Relationship? by umehmj(m): 8:05am On Jun 02, 2016 |
2005-2009 1 Like |
Politics / Re: As Goodluck Jonathan Returns, #gejwhileyouwereaway Trends On Twitter by umehmj(m): 4:19am On Jun 02, 2016 |
we sure know how to turn our lemon to lemonade. we go survive. one comment tickled my fancy tho, that while GEJ was away PMB was away too |
Romance / Re: Favourite Sex Positions In Bed - Nigerians Respond (Very Hilarious Video) by umehmj(m): 3:54am On Jun 02, 2016 |
WhyNa:lwkmd seriously. good to be back. been awhile |
Celebrities / Re: Young Nigerian Man Begs Linda Ikeji To Marry Him (photo) by umehmj(m): 3:12pm On Apr 18, 2016 |
Politics / Re: Dave Umahi Constructing Roads, Re-branding Ebonyi State - Photos by umehmj(m): 2:12pm On Apr 15, 2016 |
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Politics / Re: Dave Umahi Constructing Roads, Re-branding Ebonyi State - Photos by umehmj(m): 2:07pm On Apr 15, 2016 |
i thought this is What you wanted to show us. his finished works.
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Romance / Re: Ladies Can U Date A Guy U Are Older Than? by umehmj(m): 12:52am On Apr 15, 2016 |
hian! in this modern times? oya na op dey dia dey do this one no be my mate till you discover mungo park 4 Likes |
Travel / Re: Air Peace Begins Direct International Flights From Enugu by umehmj(m): 12:49am On Apr 15, 2016 |
peace floating an airline? wow! nice one from them.....and yeah, it's happening. |
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