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Why Men are scared of Marriage this days?

It's not about being afraid of Responsibility, we do take care of our Siblings & their Needs, including Girlfrends.

It's not about being a coward, we can father a child out of Marriage.

Truth is Marriage no longer live up to the hype we were condition to believe, a Man can break free from the fantasy: they fell in love at the Farm, school, working place got Married & live happily ever after. Beautiful in Theory.
A man can break free from this Hallucination because of his natural inclination to reason using what he Observe in the society. But not a woman cus of his emotional nature. We all know the old saying; during free time men talks Politics and Sport but for Women is Feelings & Children. Now in Europe successful Women are freezing their egg, not because Of their career, but cus of no man deem himself ready to commit and the are face with IVF, single motherwood, bringing a child into this world with no father or Lonliness. Look at CR7.

Marriage now is like Nairabet u pick the odds u are sure of, but at the end only few good Testimonies.

Marriage is Uncharted Territory so don't tell me you have a perfect wife untill when life take a dive on you & give her all the power: Money.

victor8269:
Yes, but does Ur passage also mean u should copy Adam's action

if we understand that Timothy very well it says all scriptures is inspired by God,. so when u say Paul, a man who spend his Life crucifying Christian which he latter become one himself was airing his opinion then it raises question not just to that passage but to other passages. As for Adam's case, if u read that Timothy further you will understand that the scriptures is Good for INSTRUCTION for CORRECTION which is where i think the case of Adam fall. you are able to understand that what Adam & EVe did was wrong because you have been instructed & also been corrected.

Kobicove:
Religion is the main reason the African continent is so backward.

Has anyone else noticed that we're the most religious but the least developed?

perhaps God hate development

0955eb027:
Sad but True, in fact you nailed it.
The painful thing about this is how illogical religious beliefs can be; while scientific laws are open to questioning, that of religion is not, its to be swallowed hook, line and sinker.

BTW, i am a Muslim.

dont forget to add that it thrive true emotion, is why we have many female in church than male also the most decieved.


I'm a christian oo

eleojo23:
If a strong atheist finally acknowledges that there is God, his fellow atheists will say "he was never an atheist!" and they will start throwing tantrums all over nairaland

what is the Criteria for Judging that he was Strong?

CAPSLOCKED:
SAVE THEM? LOL.. WHY?

HE INTENTIONALLY JOINED THEM TOGETHER SO THAT THEIR POOR PARENTS AND RELATIVES WILL CONTINUE TO LIVE WITH THE DISCOMFORT THAT COMES WITH TAKING CARE OF THEM.
AND SO THAT THEY CAN FINALLY DIE WHEN THE SURGERY FAILS.

GOD IS AMAZING, RIGHT? NOTHING HAPPENS WITHOUT HIS WILL!

is way easy to criticize your thinking bro, but sometimes one cant help but wonder like you. Are we just an experiment just to prove to the Davil that HE is powerful. Why not just end everything or turn us to robot & save us the heartache. Is all this the Best HE can do?

victor8269:
If you read down, you would notice that Paul we said it was his opinion and not God's opinion

paul opinion realy? And yet the bible says All scriptures, all is inspired by God profitable for Teaching, for Correction 2Timothy 3:16 also Roman 15:4

Was it suppose to be paid for in the first place? Is it not church u call it? Is like after feeding the 5000 christ beging to bill them

The problem with us christians both pastors & members is that We behave as if we have all the answers to all the scriptural questions a curious individual & when we are hook we start attacking the person, call him name but What is wrong with saying u dont knw? U have no idea is the question is bigger than u? Truth is the Religious anwers we claim to have is not far from what/how we are/where program to believ which has been part of our upbringing with no question ask. The whole christianity is center on Faith & Belief is like Love u cant find ur answers from Logical or Rational angle. I mean how will someone Leave 99 sheep on the field just to go look for one. how does this make sense? (Luke 15) But the story was not meant to make sense but the story of Love & Value

hatbricker:
Stupid question, you people should stop giving atheists something to chew on. Christians wake up!

if our light did shone to the world as Christ ask us to, trust me they will have nothing to chew on...lets admit that we have fail so that we can retrieve our step

I think is our perspective towards marriage that is changing with time, base on those we meet, the media, Religious & traditional influence & the way we see marriage from outside is different when we are inside & our reaction could be positive or negative

lonelydora:
It depends on what you call change. I don't believe in long relationship, reason I met my wife in January and did traditional in April then white wedding November. 5 years down and our love is still waxing stronger.

All I need to know about any woman is about 80% of the characters I can/cannot condone. I don't need ages to confirm what she may hide till marriage if she wants.

Once I am okay with her sex life, cleanliness, religious life, cooking skills, education level, family background, I'm ready to walk down the aisle, no time to waste.

and these things u are ok with change over time sometimes base on the pple & things she or u come incontact with & most importantly the Media & it influnces or will i say shape our values....long b4 now what me & u knw of sex is missionary method now u can think of Different style even party.

lonelydora:
It depends on what you call change. I don't believe in long relationship, reason I met my wife in January and did traditional in April then white wedding November. 5 years down and our love is still waxing stronger.

All I need to know about any woman is about 80% of the characters I can/cannot condone. I don't need ages to confirm what she may hide till marriage if she wants.

Once I am okay with her sex life, cleanliness, religious life, cooking skills, education level, family background, I'm ready to walk down the aisle, no time to waste.

and these things u are ok with change over time sometimes base on the pple & things she or u come incontact with & most importantly the Media & it influnces or will i say shape our values....long b4 now what me & u knw of sex is missionary method now u can thank of plenty style including party.

lonelydora:
It depends on what you call change. I don't believe in long relationship, reason I met my wife in January and did traditional in April then white wedding November. 5 years down and our love is still waxing stronger.

All I need to know about any woman is about 80% of the characters I can/cannot condone. I don't need ages to confirm what she may hide till marriage if she wants.

Once I am okay with her sex life, cleanliness, religious life, cooking skills, education level, family background, I'm ready to walk down the aisle, no time to waste.

and these things u are ok with change over time sometimes base on the pple & things she or u come incontact with & most importantly the Media & it influnces Behavior....long b4 now what me & u knw of sex is missionary method now u can thank of plenty style including party

Guestlander:
Whether you are a tribalist or not is the question here. What I'm saying are documented facts. You only need to counter my points with facts rather than trying to insult me.

Documented i agree with u, but as for being facts hmmm, who made it so? Is it because someone u trust frm ur place said so or someone i admire from my place say so?

sweerychick:
Good evening viewers! i have this issue has been bothering me, and i dont know if i can cope with it anymore particularly now we are making plans to settle down after my NYSC.

My man is too attached to his mum almost like an addiction. at first i was cool with it because his dad is late and i like guys that are close to their mums, but my man own is creepy and freaking me out. he calls his mum almost every hour, morning, afternoon, evening and even midnight calls.

One day his mum complained of headache, he almost left his office just to buy his mum drugs despite his mum telling him it's not serious, when i tried confronting him about this he told me that his mum is his soul and if his mum dies he would die along with her too, with all seriousness he told me this.

I've been very uncomfortable since that statement from him and it's making me have a rethink whether i can cope with him as a spouse.. please advice me..

i think you are in Relationship with a mummys Boy. How many of his Decision comes from mummy unkownly to u? If u cant put things under control now u wounldnt during marriage, cus mummys boy will always need mummy approval in everything. Try & get a book by Steve Harvey "Act Like a Lady, Think like a Man" it will gives u a good perspective on how to handdle it

loomer:
But truth be told, there's no reason why husband/wife, bf/gf should pick up the other person's Mobil phone.

is there a Reason why they shouldnt?

MiaB:
If all you broke asses want sex in exchange for payment, go to a brothel and pay for it

it takes two to tango sister. If u dont like the dancing step change the Music. If it is in Nigerian men DNA, then women in Europe will also complain, instead Nigerian men are being accused of marrying for green card. You want to knw those who are the cause? Look at the Mirror. But there is a solution. Before He start the spending tell him no sex... Or give him Sex before He Start the spending or spend on yourself as he spend on himself. The relationship will still go on, is Love not the matter of the heart? Beside all dis wahala is cause by the fact that Africa is Diagnosed with high level of POVERTY also our unending habit of puting a price tag on 30 to 40 minute of Sweating(Sex) all because of delusions that we are Religious & our myopic idea of " a Moral society" Blinded from the real Enjoyment that comes with two persons comming together INTIMACY. MONEY & SEX eveytime, Outside Africa u dont face this shit in Ralationship. Africans should grow up. This is 2017. U are either in or u are out u can't be in the Middle or u will be spit out.

MrsPhysics:
Nagro is the best. They do nothing.

am not proud of Governmen Npower programme cus i think They can do better than this but i thought this N power was suppose to be tip of an iceberg, to show our Ancestor leaders that the Youths can be trusted to take Nigerian leadership to the next level. Hmmmm Just to be clear, for Agro to be the best. YOU HAVE TO DO NOTHING? i give up my thouhgt about the future of this country. He whom little can not be trusted with, dont make the mistake by trusting him with much. N power workers earned more than corpers who are suffering all over this country. Even though Npower organization & set up is a mess, are we certain that our leaders are not watching our attitude towards dis Npower? Tomorrow we say they should handover power to us that means Aso Rock go dey empty & CBN co clossed down........."I am the punishment of God...If you had not committed great sins, God would not have sent a punishment like me upon you" Genghis Khan. Our Leaders are punishment we deserve...... So don't envy France & the likes. Nigerian Youths need reality check

emmasege:
Obama, Cameron and their partners in crime aggravated global terrorism by this singular act. Hope Trump minds his own business and does not go the way of Obama.

please in the case of Nigeria What did we aggravate? In Boko Haram & fulani Herdsmen. Here in social media, Is funny how we always feel we have all the answers and know how to make tough choices/decisions that comes wilth one of the most Difficult job in the world. People will always say na condition make Crayfish bend.... Abeg na only crayfish dey water? They claim to do it in the name of Allah, question, is that what the Holy Book says?

emmasege:
Obama, Cameron and their partners in crime aggravated global terrorism by this singular act. Hope Trump minds his own business and does not go the way of Obama.

please in the case of Nigeria What did we aggravate? In Boko Haram & fulani Herdsmen. Here in social media, Is funny how we always feel we have all the answers and know how to make tough choices/decisions that comes wilth one of the most Difficult job in the world. People will always say na condition make Crayfish bend.... Abeg na only crayfish dey water? They claim to do it in the name of Allah, question, is that what the Holy Book says?

MrBrownJay1:
Nonsense.... A family is a TEAM, and unless you tell your teammate about your weaknesses etc (so that she will fully be able to make the team stronger, and score for the family), if not, you are just fooling yourself with a stranger in your losing team.

Furthermore, only a very weak insecure man would not open up to his life partner, in fear that she may use it against him in the future. Here is a clue: this is YOU, are you ashamed of who you are?! What kind of man is that?!

No wonder so many people divorce, when people think like you do.

life is about perspective, i think this post is more about question than answers. What is the level or degree of your wife maturity? Everyone will always claim to be matured but when Life call upon their maturity by trowing them out of ballance u see a growed up kid. Someone is even adding money to the post, why? Either from his experience or from someone else experience. Some women the moment u tell them all this, ur home will never remain the same. Not many women can handle the truth, they are Delicate creatures, mostly dominated by emotion & move by Desire not by reason. We read about end of marriages here in Nairaland over Trivial matter.... His Dick is to big his Dick is too small & this happend after 10 to 15 years of Marriage. Not everything in Life is black & Wife sometimes a satisfied Lie is better than an aweful truth. So the question still remaind before u decide to tell ur wife all ur secrete how dependable is her Maturity?

Terryindeed:
Una wicked o, una just dey suggests breakup breakup every and everytime, you said it that's she's a good girl except this Fbk stuff, bro from Man to Man, every girl likes attention especially from someone they don't know, she enjoy the attention and making them like her the more is to play their games. Would you be happy if no guy toast your babe? Cmon chill jor. Have it at the back of your mind that she's yours, and your sef stop going through her Fbk unless you wan kill yourself. The best way to get over it is to discipline yourself. The most important is the kpekus n her loyalty to you. My papa say na when woman dey your house na that time she b your own, when she lives, na another person own.

are you serious with this advice? What is the happiness in another guy disturbing my girl if not the worry that she may fall for it & dont talk about Trust cus Trust is an orchid beautiful but delicate. Requiring ideal evironment in order for it to thrive without those condition, it dies. Did u reap the guy post?

ignis:
With all due respect, Op I disagree with your write up.
God does not allow his people to suffer, Christains suffer basically as a result of ignorance.

Hos. 4:6 My people perish for lack of knowledge.

Op, for writting this trash, you are obviously ignorant of the magnificent provisions in the word of God. You need knowledge.

if you say this how can you reconcile this with the case of Job?

Ahmadgani:
he is right
Man u got 13

Chelsea got 5

Arsenal got 3 or 4

Liverpool got none

chelsea got 6 now...do ur research

TheMainMan:
well trophy wise... he does



buh d prob is he played as a right wing back.... though consistent... no one really notice a right-wing back





if he were to b a striker or a winger and more goals to his name... nothing can stop hin

say that to kante

lovelygurl:
Depends on you definition of corruption. Whether you like it or not, more ladies are thinking the way she is. Can you stop them noooope. And you know what? THEY are in Nigeria. Ouch

no doubt more ladies are thinking the way she is. Question is of what good does this thinking bring to the Family? Happy Family? Happy children? look at the divorce rate in America, the kids are suffering yet 'Mothers' dont care dragging their right......realy?

zionmade:
U wont see all those haters here. If its blackmail now u will see dem rushing.
And those who keep ranting prosperity preachers bla bla bla wont also see dis. Blind men everywhere

even a Dead Clock is right twice a day

COdeGenesis:
Ladies distract guys cause the said guys want to be distracted. Everything depends on your mind ,train your mind my brother. Everything is just packaging , how can u be in church and be thinking of such instead of you to concentrate on God and the word.
Some people dont know the purpose of being in church and when you lack purpose your mind lacks direction and when you lack direction
you end up with lustful and vain things.

In other news

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let us not over spiritualiz simple truth..... There is a reason why it is call CHURCH not market, nor Night club. Concentrate on God and the word, is God & the word standing in front of you? how often do u play porn movie while Reading ur Bible? There is an alter call now & all tje Female in ur front We are human & there are things that can Destabilize us. Commot Monkey hand for soup so that person no go make mistake & call it human hand. Even Angels on errand couldnt resist Women. Gen 6:1-6

thesicilian:
Would you have picked up your books and left if it happened in class? Or an exam hall? You just were not ready for church so you looked for an excuse to leave.
In as much as many of these ladies need to be sanctioned by ushers and ministers for their indecent exposures, you just cannot blame others for your own actions and inactions. That is the bitter truth. If you truly believe in Christ, then you'll know that your reason for leaving will definitely not stand on the last day.

The Bible says we should flee from Temptation, Simply obaying the scripture

Thread on POLITICS, RELIGION & SEX, dont expect an Average Mind to FOLLOW the issue to a logical conclusion. & certainly not a woman. Men should know better than to trust women opinion to be rational, is realy not in their Nature. All their argument is fill with emotion irrespective of the fact or evidence before them. That is why it always end with us abusing each other.

Nairalanders never Learned, an open Thread on POLITICS, RELIGION & SEX, dont expect an Average Mind to FOLLOW the issue to a logical conclusion. & certainly not a woman. Men should know better than to trust women opinion to be rational, is realy not in their Nature. All their argument is fill with emotion irrespective of the fact or evidence before them. That is why it always end with us abusing each other.