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[quote author=foyeks2001 link=topic=353725.msg4949359#msg4949359 date=1258546721][/quote]Abeg make I follow you laugh in Mongolese wait for who go come laugh in Taiwan substanceless musiq of dis era, free myself jo |
Of people, change and customs. Both sides of the divide have their respective merits I must say; while we have the trend common with celebrities and the noveau rich we hardly hear of public declaration by wives who being married from poor homes demand for a side-by-side father's name existence with their husbands,b] It begs the question: Is father's name rentention solely 4 a class, considering we are in the 21st century! Or we have folks from the other divide who do it but for whom public relevance of their right to father name allegiance is but a wish? Besides with modern trends I fear that some men would for their convenience create similar scenario to fall in line with modernity. [b]who is saying we wouldn't have men who'd rather decide against wearing symbolically their marriage ring as a sign of the times[sub]in their desire to froilick with mamacitas?. [b]My fear is where the middleground will be in the near future. Women marrying and remaining in their father's house apparently is not very distant, who would say marriage as a tradition we have come to know would be what it is today. Something tells me the stake will get higher and people will continually define 'it' as they see convenient. Perhaps very societal, more evolve than we know today. To each his own. |
shileowo:Principles and cherished values needn't burn with time,and only the desparate define such as a function of time, more so your purported qualities will also depreciate with time and if one was to accept another becaue of such they might as well dump when that happens! Selcet values, not physical traits. You may never meet your march but your values will endure. |
, of course with good reason, none should settle for less methinks, but shouldn't be found wanting of their prescription either |
chaircover:Surely not even Bill Gates! Neither Warren Buffet. Na calamity be dat. |
@poster They are already a kind of eagle-eaglets, powerfully advanced beyond the mentality of anyone 17! Should they replace the current Eagles? That is the crux of the matter. For one none can say if they will be as successful as they now are because a lot would have changed. Their opponents for sure, so too their drive. Discipline is what we lackthe feeling of we don arrive. Most are in the game to rid themselves of poverty first, and once that is achieve most hardly care. The feeling of I don arrivesee the present Eaglesif 9ja like make dem qualify. |
chaircover:perhaps Oghuvbu should have put internal and external in quote to give some clarity about his/her view. Will be crazy to think otherwiseespecialy for this kain hard times |
Fhemmmy:Fhemmy, both parties have always known how the other felthusbands know that their wives need the kitchen support and will reward them for sharing in that responsibilty. Getting over the psychological barrier of the kitchen being a woman's domain really helps . The problem is doing it on a consistent basisperiods when one is not happy/stable emotionally can be challenging, a man who's just had a put down from his boss would need good reading by his wife as soon as he steps through the door, the same too, for a woman. So timing is critical here. If one has a wife that is not football crazy such a fellow needs to plan how his b4-match time hours should be used to ease off household chores so as not to be seen as not pitching in. Marriage in its entirety is for conflict resolution of the individuality that resides within each in the relationship. What one used to do when they were single apparently needs to take second seat and should only surface when it wouldn't affect their partnerin this case help tidy the house b4 the match begins. The problem is some married men live an unplanned day-to-day lives, something they used to do in their individual lives and weren't rebuked!. If we must live happily we must plan as men and share our plan ahead of time with our wivessomething tells me faithfulness has a role in all of these ![]() |
lbotus:In the business of being married and working to have a happy home there is hardly any room for ''volunteering'' from any party to the agreement as each SHOULD know the strength of the other and accpet that for continued peace and harmony to thrieve it would require them to go the extra mile every now and then. I read a lot of comments in here and apparently some folks are still caught in ''pretimes'', periods in which the definition of being a woman was akin to accept the second role, spare tyre if you will. Times have changed. Boundaries shortened by technology, information more accessible than before and job 'fillability' not limited by sex! If as a woman you desire a particular kind of school for your ward and your husband can't meet the bill, there is noting wrong in talking about your desirecos u are a stakeholder in the business of raising your child[ren]with your hubby and both discussing all financial possibilities that will result therefrom before going for or against it. The woman who KNOWS her husband knows his financial capabilities as well and need not be told neither asked! Man enough? in a dynamically changing world you want to define ''man enough'' in terms of meeting another's need 100%! All of these stakeholdership or absence of one happen because of unnecessary bravado by some men, men who know they can hardly meet all the demand of their homes but like a proud peacock refuse assistance. It doesn't make anyone more man because they provided all their family need financiallyas they could be failling in other little aspects of emotional disrespect and diluted self-esteem towards their better half. Shared responsibility gives the woman a voice as she is a contributor in the venture. Her self-esteem is bettered as nothing is handed her her worth is valued by a reasonable husband! Especially if she's the type that doesn't llet it get to her head. |
Sbeauty:I read your reply and many others<amebo and osisi's> and believe you will findor have found the kind of man who fits your advocacy. While it is true that the man is the head of the family and by position must seek to better the welfare of his lot it is not out of place like Chaircover continually has been advocating that the working wifesupports her husband give a handeven when not required in the business of partnering her man. I hardly can see a man who when told during courtship, ''you will bear the brunt alone'' will proceed to engage any such woman her beauty irrespective. The dynamics of marriage continue to evovle and now includes the once stay-at-home wife be up and financially supportive of her man. If women were asked in all honesty if they would rather keep their money and encourage strife or share responsibility and keep the peace in their homes by so doing am sure the latter would prevail with most. Chaircover's view I think like many other's before me have said, is insightful. There's so much within our control in marriage and so much outside our control as well. There are wives and there are good wives. Some only have witnessed their fathers' bear the brunt alone while growing up others see how much stability panned out from shared responsibility and are willling to tow that line. To each his own. |
otukpo:, with women who just wouldn't zip up ![]() |
Orikinla:[b] an affirmation that change is the only constant thing as our civilisation continually evolve; has it changed for the better? Depends on who you are asking. Like you said many don't have literally the waistthinning from hunger and severe deprivation by a ruderless leadership to handle the economic changesharsh in 9ja [/b]staring them in the face ![]() |
TGIF, laugh it off, ![]()
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Afam:Well, am not a rich man by any meansI no fit reject millions unless I get pass to pdp and hammer lol , and lol, there has never been need for any summon let alone courage to do so, maybe in your court[ :Dsub]after all you don find me guilty before from previous post[/sub]you frankly have delighted me long enough with your presence and it's heartnening to know your type exist in this country, . |
Afam:See posturing I am trying to imagine you with a personality[b]''you cannot offer to pay [b][hundreds of millions that I roundly rejected based on professional integrity'' after that statement . Am not interested in your percieved intergritybecome Afamophobic , adds nothing to my human content neither value, if you like reject $10 billionna ur cup of coffee b dat. Just keep a handle on things bro, am sure you are worth the millions you reject ![]() |
Afam:No, I don't. You are not suggesting cos you have none Only generic theories, common sense knowledge and roadsideikoku solution. So you should know, materials on alternative energy and its applicability are prepondorant, all over the internet and at a snap. Currently have someone installing a safe-mode switch system that can shut out my ''power hungry loads''tanx for this term sha when PHCN goes out while keeping the manageable loads afloat. My discussion with you was to see if you could profer a better option than am currently installingapparently not . Oh by the way my batteries are German3, 180Amps. All this is possible because I can afford it, the many 75%chappies/folks below the $1 mark can't. That is the crux of the matter, the many who need it for their saloons, shops, and petty trading businesses! You can keep your N10.00 analogy now, mr facts. |
Afam:No offense, my home energy needs are greater than the only-inverter and roadside battery solution you have profered. I can't imagine not being able to recharge my batteries beacuse PHCN is out for some days and I am left handicapped by the non-installation of solar panels nor a gen set to ease up charging. Thank you for all the trouble, I prefer a full-option service that's why I listed my home items so we could be practical instead of theorizing with pure water satchet and helical energy bulbs. |
Afam:The guilty, in your court and by whose judgement? I hardly have insulted you, at best been sarcastic While alternative energy is good and pays for itself in the long runin a country alien to manufacturing and producing save oil What you are advocating makes relatively little economic senseblabbing to the many poor in Nigeria who look for the little 300-750 Naira to refuel their ''I pass my neighbour'' and keep a shade of light at night. For any one to totally rid themselves of PHCN and instal required inverter-solar panel-cum battery system will require huge capital outlay. That's why I advocated for banks to come in and make it work by offering monthly EMIs so that chaps can dopss, pay small small without bearing the huge capital brunt. And you think it's all about winning an arguement? kai! Pls, Judge Afam, free me abeg ![]() |
Afam:[b]Ego: '' your sense of your own value and importance, "psychologically. it is also the part of the mind that is responsible for your sense of who you are, hmmm! |
Afam:And it took you how many post to discover that am all that? Like Ajankekoko said, áttacking another's persona is your favourite pastime, carry on. I hardly have come across anyone without an ego, oh! Except of course mr. facts, AFAM-you. It wil help if you can trace the ''e'' section of your dictionary and try to find the meaning of the word before using it, especially for someone who claims to walk other people out of his. You are at best intriguing. You spent more than required post to call me all manner of names, yet in all of that time can not put up a your so-called energy solution program for me to analyse if it is worth the trouble of engaging your mind. So sad ![]() Mr, Afam, I have no qualms with you as a person, why should I? Hardly know you Abeg free me ![]() Please no need to misrepresent me,''there is no cost effective solution for your items''. Never said any such thing only your perception, and that Mr. Facts is not reality. Engineering is not about fancy words nor phrases otherwise space shuttles program wouldn't take years to build. I question the viability of the inverter system based on the absent buying power of the most people who'd need it. It is common knowledge that in the long run the installed capacity will break even for any such size system installed, but how many of the poor in Nigeria can afford to set up solar-panelled system requiring a huge capital outlay for a start? To make matters easy so that we have a guide, I posted some of my items in my home so that we have something to work with and sought to knowplus my ego o! practically how best an expert like you would go around my problemat least na wetin NL dey offer us , you then gave an example with energy bulbs and made an assertion that 50% of my energy requirments would be saved ifwonderful practical solution replaced all my energy hungry loadsanother capital intensive outlay lmao, when i dey try to talk say big money will be required to set up an inverter system convinient for my comfort . A case of house dey burn pour more fuel! . Anyway, having listened to your diatribes and jibesAjanlekoko have you covered thorougly when it comes to your knowledge width. abeg free me ![]() |
Afam: AjanleKoko:I did sense it too, very elementary indeed! |
ono:Lmao. Maybe na sake of say after today na fiam! Una no go see am again. I happen to reside in PH too but my area has relatively more stable electricity than yours. Perhaps something being done about the problems that the indigenes hardly know about? Anyway make u njoy am properly and hope things move on from there ![]() |
Bishopking:Bishop technology transfer is it. The Asians are doing it, we too can! |
AjanleKoko:Yes, Ajankelo, but what happens when the makers move on? It is easy to buy Volkswagen Bettle but what happens when Volkswagen moves on from Bettles to Golf? Keep buying? How about learning to make Volkswagen from the makers? I mean we can get them as condition to instruct in our schools to do the bit-by-bit break down on th technicals and adapt ours from there. Won't hurt. So that when they move on, we too can progress without being helpless like we currently are. |
Afam:Mr Afam, I no dey yarn rhetoric. It was quite easy for you to harp on energy bulb like it was something new, and I ask to be educated from a pro like you lisiting my household items as an example in this beautiful concept of energy efficiency of yours and you choose to talk about office and rhetoric when the real issue is how people can meet the huge capital outlay and rid themselves of the ineffective monopoly that is PHCN. It is no shame to say you don't have a solution to my list other than me replacing my items with more recent items that have been designed to be energy efficient. But to just come here and give an example about energy bulbs as the all-in-all in eneryg effeciency and power alternative gives me an impression I would have missed my way if i made the mistakeof locating your office in Lagos or wherever. You strike a big man pose with your dismissal and it is funny . I mean for someone who serves the public and walks them out because they try to find extensively what knowledge the specialist holds is baffling. See mr name caller, am a coring engineer*not that it is important*, an aspect of drilling that has to do with formation evaluation. We have a system where I work called the Soft-Catch, and if some client comes around and throws a poser beyond the common knowledge of the ability of the device to handle the specified stated capacity, It is an opportunity for me to expound beyond what is known commonly and keep him interested in what I think he doesn't know. Every good salesman does that because (s)he takes advantage to sell off their products when challenged to do so. I don't recall asking you to calculate the energy saving ratios for the energy bulbs, yet you did to elaborate your point to a perceived novice. Now the bar was raised and I said show a ''limited knowledge'' me how the same rule can be applied to my list to make me more energy efficient, and you disappoint me with your bravado by not walking the talk and harping on how you'd walk me out of your officeas if na wetin go put food for my table . Please nobody is an embodiment of knowledge and you shouldn't feel like you are exempt. NL is a buyers-and-sellers online market and if you genuinely have any thing to sell beyond what is common knowledge you will need to go beyond just talking and start walking. Energy efficiency application beyond energy bulb is my interest, especially that which will save me lots of cash without much capital outlay. If you get am offer am, not to dey blow hot air |
@ all, I think it is very vital for our country to start to talk about technology transfer by education first before applying any such innovations. Part of the problem we face as a nation is absence in skilled manpower. It is poignant to state here that the colonial transformers served by Lord Lugard and co are still being run in some states*RIVERS* after 49+ years! The problem with this is the maker has moved on and we didn't copy/transfer the know-how on how this thing was built. The huge price is a premium for an old junk . as a simple manufacturing and prodcuing knowledge of such items would have employed people of our nation and beaten the per head production cost down. The Asians are doing it and we must do it. It is also a sure way of keeping the jobs down here. It is not rewarding in the long run to be a user of prdocued goods, it is best to learn and take ownership of produced goods especially when maintenance is such a thing we suffer in 9ja. |
Afam:Pure comedy gold! I listed my household items that serves my comfort and convenience*Vavavoom looks at his list to see if there was any 60W bulb and and you said I should go energy efficient by replacing those items, I was hoping you'd make your at least 50% assertion reduction on the listed items by pointing and showing me how, instead you pick to lecture me on energy bulbs an item that isn't on my list! I would accept if you need to research more instead of this energy bulb bravado you are trying to pass as on. Energy bulbs are easily replaceable and aren't capital intensive Mr. Facts man. It is not my worry as all of the bulbs in my house are energy bulbs. You will get me dancing on the floor if you can get beyond the small fries without my needing huge capital outlay. |
Afam:. We are talking huge capital outlay and you are saying I should first replace my energy hungry loads?<no b money be dat again> I know it sounds good to be techiee savvy, to buzzword about energy efficency program and hungry loads baldderdash but the resulting systems from such switch will still require INITIAL OUTLAY which is prohibitive for the most people in Nigeria. And by the way I didn't see your recommended energy efficeint alternatives to my listed ones. E go good of you fit point me in that direction. Please while you are at it factor in my convenience and comfort in your energy program. |
Afam:I agree with you but how many can afford the start-up capital, the outlay for starters is restrictive to those who'd like to power their homes with what you are prescribing. If it weren't so most would have switched. I tell you something, if banks are sincere enough and can grant repayable EMIs then your system will work effectively. This is what is in my house: 3000 Watts ring boiler • Bath Water heater • 1.4KW Vacuum Cleaner • 2.4KW Micro wave Oven • 1.5KW Electric Cooker • Fridge • 1.4KW Pressing Iron • One 1.5hp LG AC • One 1.0 hp Panasonic AC • 37” LCD TV • DVD player • 3 ceiling fans An inverter system that wil power these like my 12 KVA Gen requires a capital outlay that I can hardly gather at a time without disturbances in my other financial affairs. Take this down to people at the lower rung then you get similar outlay problems. Perhaps it is easier for you to fork out that much but the alternative forgone is not so easy for every other person and so they resort to quick but temporary fix. If I can find the ready capital, mr. Afam, you wont be the one to educate me on inverter-solar panel and battery systems. A lot is at play, scalability, technical know-how, which folks are acquiring(wind, geothermal systems) are all possible but the greatest obstacle remains the short term cost to acquiring the system. |
Afam:yes, cost effective in the long run but how many Nigerians currently in the dark can afford the start-up capital for an inveter that can power their homes? An alternative that can cost as much as the I pass my neighbour and with equivalent service charge is am afraid non-existent. You rightly pointed out we could bouycot the cartel's product by looking and using available alternatives but comparatively how competitive are those alternatives? Keep in mind the aim is power for the non-affluent. |
Fhemmmy:No, we wont invent no wheel, just like someone said earlier, the system is in comatose because people from within the cartel are benefitting and making handsome returns on the sale of diesel*Otedola Femi, sole importer and distributor of the product in 9ja* and heavy-duty generators* enter the Lenbanes(Saleh, Jubaili, Mikano et al) with OBJ & co as major importers* I wouldn't be shocked if the afforementioned are joint owners of the listed firms. It's common knowledge that each consumer of electricity via diesel spends on the average more than 5 times monthly what (s)he would have spent if power was generated and supplied by PHCN. Try working with that figure and cost what it translates to for even 50,000 regular users. Every heavy industry on Trans Amadi industrial layout runs one of Saleh, Mikano or Jubaili on a daily basis! You begin to get why this won't go away. The cartel in power know that privatisation is the way out but won't willingly do it like the case of telecomms. Why we could do without making calls* that's why it was easy to privatise* the revenue that will be lost from the cartel's coffers is mind boggling! 1 in every 3 homes( ~50 Milliõn )have a gen set running on an average of at least 3 days weekly, multiply say 10 litres/3days(minimum) @ 75Naira/Litre. So 750 x 50 million! This wan na for fuel o! Imagine the ones for diesel! Just do that one for let's say 50,000 companies at 2 drums per week @ 26K/drum! The turnover is just staggering. Naim make Otedola and Dangote fall out because of AP. Dangote feeds us rice, sugar and cement. Otedola feeds us pms and diesel. Both utmost monopolist in their various entreprises. No laws to stop them, even if available are set uo by their cronies in government- the cartel who they are answerable to. We are in a quandary, a cyclical mess of scratch-my-back I scratch-your-own. Until we, the suffering stand up and fashion a way to stop these people they wont yield. How we go do am has been the case of many studies on NL ![]() |
substanceless musiq of dis era, free myself jo



. Am not interested in your percieved intergritybecome Afamophobic
, adds nothing to my human content neither value, if you like reject $10 billionna ur cup of coffee b dat. Just keep a handle on things bro, am sure you are worth the millions you reject
an item that isn't on my list! I would accept if you need to research more instead of this energy bulb bravado you are trying to pass as on. Energy bulbs are easily replaceable and aren't capital intensive Mr. Facts man. It is not my worry as all of the bulbs in my house are energy bulbs. You will get me dancing on the floor if you can get beyond the small fries without my needing huge capital outlay.
The turnover is just staggering. Naim make Otedola and Dangote fall out because of AP. Dangote feeds us rice, sugar and cement. Otedola feeds us pms and diesel. Both utmost monopolist in their various entreprises.