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There is a girl that I met about 4 years ago, we rhyme and honestly speaking she's the kind of girl I want to marry please. She has everything that ticks all the right boxes fro me. The only concern is the way I met her.

It actually happened that we met when I and a friend of mine had a 3som with her., that was how we met. No doubt in the younger phase of her life (as with most girls) she made some friends who had some bad influence on her, however she has since grown pass that, and she's got every right morals a girl should (I have very high standards and believe me, she ticks those boxes)..

My only concern was just how we met, in fact, my main concern is just that my friend that knows about that, that's what's holding me back.

I need candid advice please, what should I do please.

Thanks for your advice as they come. Stay blessed.

35k, very serious buyer

Brains yes!, but honestly, I can't see the beauty

missimelda01:
If I manage to tell you a plain NO, it means I am not attracted to you.. it's not going to change after you ask the second time.

I want to dm u

Nbote:
Most countries.. Even some immediately quarantine anyone arriving from risk countries

Shut up, there is no country on earth people are tested on arrival stop being ignorant. It's only temperature check that is done..

mmsen:
You people reason like drug addicts.

True

OtemAtum:
Lol. I've said this before too. When we are losing our religions but still loving fictitious Jesus, this is what we say. But eventually, we let go fictitious Jesus and face the reality of life squarely. That time is coming.

Very true!!!

OtemAtum:
When I started declaring my mission and also the mission of nature to fizzle out religion and make it appear microscopic back in 2016, some people were thinking that I was mad. But now I can tell you without exaggerations that this Corona Virus occurrence has helped millions of people lose their faith already. When I Otem began this Otemic journey, a friend of mine laugh at me and believe the pastors and Reverend fathers of Nigeria above the truth I was fishing out raw. But now, fast forward to four years later, he is the one now criticizing religion more than myself. He has even gone abroad to see it more for himself. It's a matter of time, Shadeyinka himself will be delivered from the shackles of religion

shackles indeed!!! That's what it is..

shadeyinka:
I don't understand how some people can be so myopic. There are two separate laws that govern the universe. The physical laws, and the spiritual laws.

Spiritual laws will not quench your physical thirst and hunger for food no matter how spiritual you are. And no matter how rich you are, it doesn't absolve you from spiritual consequences.

Corona virus is physical and unless the physical laws are broken, it would require a physical solution

So all the people that are barren, with HIV/Aids, amputated limbs and people with various infirmity that the so called men of God claim to heal, what do u have to comment about that? Those ain't physical right? How are those different please, educate me.

KaBabs1:
Unfortunately, it'll take years before the average religious person in this country and in the rest of the world to see the light. I remember having a convo with my brother earlier in January about how this is the popular pastor that was jailed by the Chinese government back in December, Wang Yi's window to prove them wrong about the Christian God's supremacy over all powers, principalities and diseases. If our current world really works as it were described in the Bible, this pandemic is the perfect opportunity to convince the whole world to turn to Christianity. But as usual, God will cower in his cloak of invisibility and watch the scientists save the world as they've been doing since time immemorial.

invisible daddy!!!


Lalasticlala... please I need wider opinion on this please.

Dantedasz:


None of the yearly pastors forecasts called predictions were able to forsee the closing down of world economies by the Corona virus!

None of the spellbinding and miracle touting men of God has been able to cure one case of Corona virus.
This pandemic is a true test of religion. Cure one person suffering from virus,after all some of them have claimed to raise up dead people and grow amputated limbs.

hahahahahah Pope wanted to try it by praying with some persons, few days afterwards he came down with flu symptoms... he was lucky he tested negative, afterwards the pontiff commence mass on TV, hahahah

Bacteriologist:
Will they listen?

Religion is a cop out. No system depends on mass deceit and dishonestly like religion does.

Coronavirus has come to humble all world religions.

You can choose what to believe but you cannot choose your facts.

We have put this in the face of theists time and time again but they won't see it.

The fact remains that superstition cannot solve real life issues and times like these reveal it.

When knowledgeable people talk, u can sense it miles away!!! You are a sage bro!!! This is as apt as I could have asked!!!

Quote of the day "you can choose what to believe but you cannot choose your facts"

"superstition cannot solve real life issues,and time like this reveal them" ...
Well done bro, remain blessed, we need intelligentsia like this, to make Nigeria move forward.. well done.


Mr vega100

So I have kept telling people, you can choose to worship anything, or profess any faith you choose, that's fine, but one thing we all have to accept and appreciate is a single truth; all those are for self gratification and to gladen yourselves, but in the real world those exercises holds absolutely no place, it doesn't in anyway determine nor does it change the course of events...

An appropriate anecdote to further entrench my opinion is the recent happenings on the world stage, viz a viz the Corona virus pandemic. It is no longer news the world is currently on a standstill, with economic, social , educational and even religious activities all grounded...

If we did believe all those spiritual activities (as most folks call them) determine the course of events and chart the course ultimately determining what happens in the temporal world, it should follow or perhaps logical to think that Churches, Mosques etc would not all be closed, neither would the Muslims most sacrosanct holyland Mecca be closed, nor would their Hajj be called off. All prayers in Iran currently called off and people are counselled to stay at their homes and pray

https://time.com/5796035/coronavirus-saudi-arabia-iran-islam-mecca/

https://www.japantimes.co.jp/news/2020/02/28/asia-pacific/science-health-asia-pacific/saudi-halt-muslim-pilgrimage-virus-brings-global-dismay/#.XnSU4NbTVoo

On the other end, the Vatican (Christains most holy land, the sanctum sanctorum of the papacy), wasn't left out , as mass gatherings have all been halted, and for the first time easter gathering has been called off, all events called off and sermons being delivered via visual media channels, and people being encouraged to do their activities from home, tune to media channels.

https://nationalpost.com/news/world/italy-rome-vatican-outbreak-coronavirus

Back home here, we are not left out, as legislations are underway to ban public gatherings particularly religious gatherings of more than 50 persons

https://qz.com/africa/1821361/coronavirus-lagos-nigeria-shuts-schools-ban-public-gatherings/

What this demonstrates I believe is a universal truth, that in the real world all this prayers and religious activities we all practise is just a simple exercise to help gratify your minds, keep minds working and hopes alive (especially in a hopeless country like Nigeria, saddled in endless despair) , but in the real world they hold absolutely no place and doesn't in anyway determine or change the course of events, events play out based on the individual and collective practical, objective and pragmatic effort we all put to make things work. It has nothing to do with prayers and other futile religious exercises.

N/B: A food for thought, I believe will make objective minds reflect within ourselves and understand some basic truth that the world revolves around, I do not expect this to make bland fanatics reason like sane people though, it never happens!!! ..


Yours truly,
Vega 100.

raker300:
Lies!!

Adekunle was a war criminal that specialized in killing civilians.

He was later arrested by Obasanjo for the Asaba massacre.

Adekunle was tried on the grounds that he could not kill a single biafran soldier but specialized in killing civilians.

Adekunle was stopped at Asaba while he tried to cross into onitsha which was his first war encounter and was dealt a huge blow.

Adekunle was dishonorably discharged and left to rot away.


Even at his death, no Nigerian leader/representative attended the war criminal’s burial.

Don’t distort the truth to support your narratives.

The records are there for everyone to see!!!

Where do you kids get all this your stupid stories from?? What kind of stupidity is all this. You see a story and start writing nonsense you know nothing about. Na wa oh!!

Malawian:
Hehehe. I heard Fela once did a show where he bleeped one of his dancers live on stage.

never happened

Radiography if u know what's best for you.

Akunwafor:
The generationbof bad ones are gradually disappearing.

A day will come when we'll have only graduates in the force.

the problem with Nigeria is more of character, not certificate.

Maclink288:
Whao
please bro how healthy is this? Hope it doesn't have adverse effects

No it doesn't.

Adanne7:
OP, Writer! you are sent from the pit of Hell to discourage young ladies from staying Chaste/ virgins in this already Perversed and promiscuous Generation. with your Fake testimony.... Ur myopic mind and eyes can not see and read stories of successful Virgin women with good character in marriages!
After checking up on the Ops profile here, I just smile


Op even needs a psychologist.... Someone that sleeps with people girlfriend/wife...is that one person...

Below here is the. Mr OP/ writer's testimony!

'''
Please Help, I'm Getting More Interested In Fcking Other People's GF by Vega100: 6:28pm On Feb 24
Hi, I'm a man in my thirties, not into any concrete relationship, not seeking any commitment... I'm getting more interested in fvcking other peoples GF, or just flings, nothing concrete..
I am very well financially stable!!! So that's far from the problem.

How can you help me please..'''

My opinion!
House pls before you take a random advice from some one. Always do research on the ''strength of their Character''

My penny..Op has no moral jurisdiction to even counsel a person.


U don sell ur destiny inside woman laps...come here dey yearn....

Hhahahahahahahaha na wa oh!!! Hahahaha

prekumohtim:
�AVOID � A BAD � MARRIAGE �

After salvation, the most important choice you will need to make is who to marry. This choice is so important that if you miss it, you will suffer for long, if you get it right then you will enjoy forever.
A bad marriage can affect every other area of your life. This subject is so important, so many married people are hoping to be single again so as to make the right choice. If you are single please don't just be in a hurry to get married, you have the best opportunity to prepare for it. For two people to come together to live in peace and harmony, they must agree spiritually, mentally and physically.
Just like an elephant cannot marry an ant so also a believer cannot marry an unbeliever.

If an elephant marries an ant how would they live, if a goat marries a fish where would they meet?
You must look for a Godly man or a Godly woman to marry, nothing can beat this. The devil's primary target is the family. He knows that everyone belongs to a family and if he can make two wrong people meet then he has succeeded affecting the community and nations negatively. Ignore your age and the pressure for a moment, the pressure in a wrong marriage is far worse. God has somebody for you but you must set your priorities right.
What do you need in a woman? What do you need in a man? Marriage is not about what you want, it is about who you need, that will make you better while you make him better. It is about destiny. That is why you must know your purpose before you get married. Genesis 2:18. You must pray before you choose. God knows the best person for you, it is only wise to seek His will. It is very easy to know God's will when sex is not involved.

The moment sex is involved and you want to know His will then He will blank you out.Why? Because you have broken His first Law of NO SEX before marriage. If you have had sex in the past then you need to repent totally and stay away from each other for sometime then you can seek the face of God. Your marriage will not be hell on earth. Your marriage will be honorable in the name of Jesus Christ. Don't marry for sex, don't marry because you are of age, don't marry because you are getting old, don't marry because you are lonely, don't marry because you need someone to support you financially, don't marry because you mistakenly got pregnant, don't marry because you don't want to lose the person, don't marry because of family pressures, don't marry because you like the idea of marriage and admire every wedding gown you see, don't marry because all your friends are getting married.But get married because you want to fulfill destiny. Get married because you want to be a help mate. As a man, get married because you want to fulfill your purpose.God will help you in choosing, please let His will be done in your Life. Amen!

Your comment was making sense until you started bringing that shit about believer and unbeliever made your comment stupid... I wish you could have left all those trash and analyse an issue objectively, it would have been much more appreciated.

emkz:
You believe the cause of her problems is she has grown really fat and unattractive. Is this what she told you, or you are making an assumption? IF this is what she told you, virginity should not be part of the narrative you presented.

You can't tell your childhood friend to fight to force a man to re-love her and treat her with respect. She'd be facing psychological trauma, stress and loss of self-esteem. Tell her to consider getting a trial separation (there is no stigma in that). The kids would be with her of course and that her husband would pay to look after them. Give him the freedom he wants to ravage other women. When he comes to his senses (they usually do), he'd want to get back, then she'd dictate the terms of engagement. Staying with a man or woman who disrespects you either by talking down on you, or bringing another woman/man in your presence is outright foolishness.

Tell your friend (you) to know her worth.

Thanks sir, told her exactly the same!!! Well said!!!

shadeyinka:
My wife was a virgin when I married her and by God's grace we have a beautiful marriage. I've never thought about getting a DNA test for any of my children, neither have I ever remotely thought she could have even had any kissing relationship with any of her exes. I even know some of her old boyfriends and we all have cordial relationships.

I think you have chosen a wrong theme for your writeup. A good marriage isn't dependent on how virgin you were but on WHO YOU ARE and WHO YOU FINALLY GOT MARRIED TO.

Virginity helps when you've married a good man as it foster greater TRUST between husband and wife in situations where
1. Barrenness of the woman comes into the picture
2. Separation due to travel or job requirements is expedient within the marriage
3. When unforseen circumstances seem to suggest infidelity
4. When all your children turn out to look like your best man or your baby turns out to be an albino! LOL
5. Finally, general peace of mind with respect to trust and integrity issues. A lady who kept herself without your watch will most likely keep herself within the confines of marriage.

Well said, I agree!!!

ramon212:
Did your friend meet him when he already had a job(doing well) ?

yes he had a job, but not doing as well as he is doing now.

emkz:
While we need to interrogate the correlation of virginity with marital stability, what did your childhood friend do to trigger such erratic behaviour from her husband? Except he is a mad man, this story is one-sided.

Virginity and stability in marriages are anti-correlated; keeping your body chaste without paying attention to developing your character will not insure a successful marriage. I can marry a prostitute who has abandoned her ways and has turned a new leaf than a virgin with a questionable character.

after delivery of her kids, she's grown really fat and unattractive, I believe that's a major part of her troubles... the man just wants a new wife!!!... she's a good person..

Nairalandmonika:
I wanted to say something stupid to u but I just checked her profile, mehn I couldn't agree less. She's go sweet die.


To the youny girl go to jamb office n complain if then nor answer you, start to read for jamb next year.

hahahahahahaha, funny guy!!!! Hahahaha

samtinx:
lastly no sister would encourage her brother to go for a non-virgin,and no mother would encourage her son to marry a non-virgin

no bro... far from it... u rarely hear parents discussing that with their son whether his bride is virgin or not, no one does that.

FatherBona:
E get one mumu ugly boy wey go dey collect am steady for d area shebi u knw?

I wish I'm that boy!!

Maclink288:
Thanks
I started watching porn at a young age but believe me I've never done masturbation.
I made a resolution not to do that again.
Thanks once more for your contribution

I faced same thing in my sex life, that thing frustrated me as a person!!! It messed me up and sapped my confidence... very bad thing for anyone to face..

What you do, take a little of vega100, it's sold every pharmacy, just take half of the tablet, like 30 mins b4 action.... that won't happen again... believe me, of u don't, that shit will continue and it will mess ur sexual life!!!

It messed me up.

highbee02:
Thanks.


but y did she tell her friends? Y the mockery each time I passes in front of her shop?

because you are seen as a low class!!! So try and improve yourself to erase that mentality from their head.