UyaiIncomparabl:


Any man that follows and digests what that guy churns out is either a dunce, cannot think independently, a wasted element or all the aforementioned. If a man has to follow misleading teachings from another man in the name of nuggets, then he's probably not fit to be a man in the first place. You guys should try to take a rest. Let this guy enjoy his marriage.

"If I've seen further it's because I stood on the shoulders of giants - Isaac Newton"

John Does tweets are based on real time experiences from several people who are in the institute of marriage but are suffering in silence because of the societal pressure to "Man up" in the face of affliction. I vehemently disagree with the words you stringed; they carry a subtle distaste to the fact that Joe Doe exposes the silent cries of Men.

It takes a man to learn from his own experience, but an even wise man to learn from the experience of others.

That being said, notice how I tailored my reply and answered your quote without using vile words? I think it'll be wise if you incorporate a similar fashion in your reply.

Cheers to a wonderful day ahead

My 2cents

Hello OP, how do you do? I have read the entire thread and I totally understand the angle you're coming. You're in love, you have made the decision to get married, you're about to pop the question.

First ,I'll start by answering your question;
You can-
1) Ask her directly
2) Tell her female friend or sister your intention; they'll come up with a very good plan independently, and they'll get you her ring size
3) Take her out on shopping to the place where you want to purchase the ring; let her select the one she likes.. then propose to her

Next; when different anonymous people are saying things that are gearing towards a similar conclusion, it means the universe is trying to tell you something... Take a pause, re-evaluate, and try to see sense in what they're saying without being blinded by emotions. Also, follow John doe on twitter... He talks about things most men wish they knew before entering into marriage based on real life experiences


My 2 cents

klassyguy:
I have two lovely kids with my wife - a girl and a boy. My son is six years old while his sister is eight. Both were born here in the US. I’ve done what I feel is right as a father to train these kids, but I know not everything can be done accordingly.

My son is restless. He has the attention span of three seconds before he gets distracted by something else. My mum tells says he is a copy of me when I was his age, but that was in the eighties and the way children were handled back then is totally different from today. He hardly wants to do anything in terms of school work and almost every day I get complaints from his teacher that he does not do his work or he is disruptive in class. When other students are doing their work, my son will be the one falling off his chair or hiding under his desk. His teacher told me he acts out when being corrected. Only yesterday my wife told me the teacher met her when she went to pick them up in school and told her that my son started yelling when the lights in the class started flickering. His behavior got so bad, they had to call the school security officer before he calmed down.

This behavior is really bothering me. I know my son is smart. His pre-school teacher once told me he was the smartest student she had. My son can do complex mathematical equations off the top of his head that even his older sister struggles to do. He has a very good memory and can list off all the types of trains that exist in the US, things that even I don’t know. It’s sitting down to be serious about work that he can’t do and can’t seem to focus on.

I enrolled him in a soccer club to see if that would help him expel his excess energy. At first he seemed to be lazy as he gets frustrated easily, and rather try harder, my son would rather give up and cry. I mostly have to encourage him to put in more effort, and most of the time he does not pay attention to what the coach says. The coach told me a couple of days ago that he wants to move him to a lower group level to see if he can build his confidence there.

I want to believe it’s his being the last born for now that’s worrying him. He seemed to start being a bit more mature when my wife got pregnant last year and he learnt they had a younger sibling on the way, but unfortunately, she miscarried and we lost the baby. I’ve been thinking for a while now whether to move back to Nigeria with everyone so that we can build some sense into both of them (my daughter’s story is another one). I’ve thought of taking them both for an ADHD test, but my wife is against that. The only time my son pays attention is when he’s doing something he likes, and that is when he’s playing the PS5 I got them or watching videos on YouTube Kids.

Any advice would be welcome from parents out there.

Hi, good day. Your son needs a pediatric neurologist to assess him. Thks looks like ADHD, but the history tilts towards High functioning autism. Please get a pediatric neurologist to evaluate him. Confirming this diagnosis will enable you to be able to utilize his narrow but above normal interests and skills

Zee0007:
My fellow nairalanders help me out on this. My immediate elder sister said she can't marry the guy she's dating.

The guy is a successful barber. I love the guy because he seem responsible and well cultured. From the looks of things, he will make a good husband for her.

But my sister shook the whole house yesterday when the supposed barber proposed to her, She outrightly rejected the guy because of his profession.

She's in her mid 20s. Please what should we do? She's getting older but she seems not to realise.

The guy called me this morning and pleaded with me to talk to her. What will I say to her, now?

A wider view will be much appreciated.

The frontal lobe of the human brain fully develop in the third decade; meaning most choices we make in our twenties are irrational; choices made without a deep and full understanding of consequences. She'll learn with time that she has made a very costly mistake.

I wish her well, and hopefully the universe has something much more beautiful for her in the end.

Please update us when she's 32

Pecoleee345:

The doctors had no fault oooo.....it was after the surgery they found out he is a JW infact they said if they knew earlier they won't have done the surgery...The top consultant that did the surgery was really angry.

I stand to disagree. I really hope this story is true, because I see discrepancies in this story.

First, before you get a surgery done at LUTH, medical students clerk the patient. The very first rule of clerking is NASAROM. Name, Age, Sex, address, religion, occupation, marital status

After the medical students take the history, the junior resident takes a history using NASAROM as a format. After which,the senior registra takes a history.

This means that the Religion of a patient can never be missed .. especially a patient undergoing surgery. Once you're scheduled for surgery, the anesthetic will also clerk using similar format

It's note worthy that the anesthetics can estimate whether or not a patient will require transfusion and before the surgery, the anesthetic, the senior registra and the consultant talks to the patient especially during the ward round about the need for a possible transfusion...

This story is not adding up.. something is gravely wrong with this story: the decision to transfuse would have been discussed with the patient himself for any major operation that will require loss of blood no matter how minimum... if this happened in a private hospital, I'll understand; but not in LUTH

1stGenAmerican:



Again, he overstepped his authority and committed a criminal act which led to him being charged.
So for what reason would the other medical professionals that witnessed his actions risk their careers and freedom by submitting sworn affidavits? I would not be surprised if one of his colleagues recorded his actions when he returned to the room after his first exit. His arraignment will be interesting.

Yh, true he over stepped his authority.

Going a third time to reconfirm a diagnosis he had already made using noxious stimuli was uncalled for.

Yh, his arraignment will be very interesting. 3rd of March it is�

1stGenAmerican:


You described the test but after SEVERAL tests, her reflexes didn’t kick in to stop the slap like you said happens in a patient who is faking hence her injuries so HOW dare you say he was right to think she was faking? You totally contradicted yourself.

A doctor of his caliber follows protocol, he doesn’t create it. He was on a power trip and went way too far and now he’ll suffer the consequences.

Hi, @1stGenAmerican Good day.

Please read the report again and note the following lines; The staffer said that despite seeing the patient clearly attempting to stop her hand from hitting her face.

So yes, I dare say that she was faking it. This is most likely a case of Munchausen's syndrome. The patient attempted to stop her hand from hitting her face. All reflexes are lost in unconsciousness

If she was unconscious, she wouldn't know that the doctor did a sternal rub. Please read the line below (the victim's own statement);

The victim told police that she was “semi-unconscious” during the interactions but that she clearly remembered Nwabuko striking her and telling her that she was “faking the seizure,” per the affidavit.

A patient who presents with generalized seizures with associated alteration of conciousness of any kind cannot remember events that occurred during the course of being unconscious. Her statements betrays her; she was clearly faking it.

Yes, the doctor was wrong to have gone as far as inflicting injuries to her. He's most likely eccentric, and seeing the patient faking a seizure gave him a good laugh. Wrong, I know, but in the end, he was right.

Yes, a hand drop test can be repeated severally; this is not just because reflexes are easy to miss but also, ones observation of a reflex can be biased. Like I said earlier, he breached the physician oath of "doing no harm". And that's why he got nailed.

Protocol is a very vague word @A doctor of his caliber follows protocol;


We don't know the full story so I can't really tell whether he followed protocol.. but from the statements made, I can make the following assumptions;
1) attempts at resuscitation had already being made
2) IV fluid was already in place (most likely had dextrose saline to correct hypoglycemia if she was hypoglycemic).. her blood sugar was fine
3) she failed the sternal rub test, and the doctor knew something was wrong. He then proceeded to do a hand drop test

I want you to know that painful stimulus is normal protocol for accessing an unconscious patient. Squeezing the lunar area of her thumb with a pen would have been a better option than a hand drop test.

P.S; Patients with munchausen syndrome often already know the handdrop test; most times, they have had this done for them in the past.. he was wrong repeating the same painful stimulus over and over when he knew he was dealing with psychogenic coma.

I strongly doubt that those injuries were sustained by the hand drop test,.. the force from your own hand will not cause the lesions described... but that's story for another day... I want you to know that patients with munchausen can fake symptoms and injuries

gypsey:
I just hope he is exonerated he has only being accussed.


I took my son to a dentist one time, the dentist ask him to open his mouth ans he refused co's he is afraid of dentists, so i held him down! Slapped him just a tiny bit and shouted at him open ya mouth! eventually the dentist was able to check his teeth, we went home, everything was fine, the next morning very early there was a knock on my door, i was the police and social services apparently i assaulted my son at the dentist. I was arrested eventually the case was thrown out by a judge.



So i know what that doctor will go through if he gets outa this case he will never ever be the same doctor again, he will follow every medical procedures and keeps his mouth shut.

You realize that you were most likely reported to the social service by the dentist yh? When a medical professional sees a case of suspected child abuse (by acts performed by the parent or guardian at the consultation room or physical signs such as bruising), the medic is bound by law to call the social service; with or without prove or validation from the child

This is called the "Hand drop test" and it's used in the emergency room to determine whether or not a patient is faking unconsciousness. The idea is that when a patients hand is about to hit his or her face, a reflex will prevent the hand from hitting the face in a patient who is faking. This will save a patient from unnecessary interventions.

The sternal rub too is also a test used to know the degree of unconsciousness in a patient.

The patient was clearly conscious because an unconscious patient will not remember the details of events that happened while in an unconscious state.

Clearly, this said patient has an underlying psychiatry condition.

The doctor shouldn't have gone to the extent of inflicting injury because the oath says " do no harm". That's probably why he was arrested... But that aside, his medicine is sound.. he was right. She was faking

Learn to give a Bleep about the little things that matters; learn not to give a Bleep about the many things designed to make you feel less than yourself. Do this and you'll know peace.

adioolayi:


It is Gelatinisation


Any process that involves heating up a complex polysaccharides is Gelatinisation.

It involves heating the polysaccharides up in liquid that leads to the swelling and breaking of bonds..

Like Starch...Like Garri

It is Gelatinisation

Thank you. I just learnt something new

blackmamber:
Hello room. I bought this Boston terrier for 450k about 7 months ago.
Suddenly I started noticing discharge and blueish stuff in his eyes plus red too (only in his left eye )

I took him to the vet immediately and they gave him meds and injection but I noticed nothing changed

I have gone to different vet within this 2 weeks and they kept collecting my money and nothing is changing

Please if you’ve gone through this before I would love to know how you treated it. I don’t want my dog to go blind

In addition.
I called the seller and he said the same thing happened to his mom and it disappeared but he can’t really remember what he used because he used a lot of meds and applied alovera inside her eyes

Brother, don't waste your Money on vets..most of them are just out there to collect your money! In as much as they have the right to charge you, I'm a strong believer that they should charge you only when they know exactly what's going on...

I'll tell you what's going on with your pet and you're going to pay me because no consultation is free.

First, it's really simple;
1) there's a family history of similar condition (happened to its mother) ; this is why it's extremely important to know the pedigree of your dog; Know the family history of diseases before purchasing
2) you own a Boston terrier.

Your pet has a condition called corneal dystrophy; it's an inherited disease common to this breed of dogs. I don't want to go into the details, but the summary is that there's no cure.
Your dog is genetically predisposed to having materials getting deposited within the outer layer of his eyes. This can cause reduction of visual acuity and subsequently early loss of vision.

Ulceration due to the changes in the corneal can cause superimposed bacteria infection which can accelerate blindness. The discharge is a sign of an ongoing bacteria infection. You can do the following;

1) get chloramphenicol eye drops apply twice in eyes three times daily for 5 days
2) saline drops; apply twice in eyes three times daily before each chloramphenicol drops .. then continue PRN even after the 5days of chloramphenicol eye drops

The above will reduce the progression of the disease

Treatment is replacement of the corneal. I don't think any vet in Nigeria does that. Corneal transplant in human medicine self isn't something you see done in Nigeria.

I wish you and your pet goodluck

Remember next time you're purchasing a pet; ASK FOR THE FAMILY HISTORY OF DISEASES

Disclaimer;
I'm Dr Victor; I'm a medical doctor, not a veterinarian.. I deal with human diseases.

NwaAmaikpe:




They see their founder, I see an angel doing reverse cowgirl.

The fact that I also saw this before reading your comment is scary

atorioke:
Haemoglobin is within the right range.

Then the comment was: Normocytic; Normochromic cells seen/RBC.

It means your red blood cells ( the cells that carries Oxygen throughout your body) is normal in size (normocytic) and has enough hemoglobin (the pigment that helps the Red-blood cells to carry Oxygen. Thus normochromic)

Please visit your doctor with your tests results, as a good PCV or Hb or peripheral blood smear does not exclude the absence of a disease. We treat based on clinical symptoms.. the tests just aids diagnosis.

Thank you

FalseProphet1:

She's a blind witch!

Blind witches are people whom their ancestors dedicated to their deity without their consent and most times before they were born.

You can either experience good luck or repeated tragedy during your encounters with them cos there's always a demon attached to them at birth after the rituals to enforce certain covenants in their life.

If you don't back off now, you will experience a higher level of frustration and end up comitting suicide.

This I have seen.

I really enjoy reading your posts!!!!
They're very foolish but extremely hilarious.. how you come up with these gibberish still amazes me

JOACHINpedro:
After workingout on Saturday i came back to see that my landlord's hen had put to birth.( You know what I mean)
As a nature lover I had to sharperly take some few shots and the chicks posed very remarkably fine.


Nature lovers Pls rate the photo.
Note- i filtered it a tiny bit

This is lovely! No filters on it next time please

MMotimo:




Excuse me? Did you just say YOU give ME something to think about?
You, a person that has failed to grasp the basics of evidence? The basics of how this rapist has been convicted on the strength of multiple pieces of incontrovertible, scientific evidence?
You, the person who called for fingerprint evidence to be re-presented and examined on national TV 4.5 years after the commission of the crime?
A person without the intellectual capacity to understand basic scientific evidence and think critically?
A person who lifted a food pic off the internet and lied that he cooked the food on a thread in the food section?
A hustler self proclaimed jack of all trades but unemployed master of none?
You, the professional Nland poster who also owns a wholesale and retail okrika shoe business, is a tracker, runs a writing service and sundry other fictitious businesses and has the time to post on Nland all day, everyday?
A person who is a demonstrated illiterate because only an illiterate uses dictionary words that have no bearing on the message when you are unsuccessfully trying to impress. Free tip - nothing screams illiteracy than improper use of “big” words
A person who heard about a fictitious $150k and promptly cast his lots with a convicted, unrepentant child rapist?
Same you who came on here to state that the trial transcripts are “confidential?”
Same you who disgraced yourself with that ultra-cringeworthy response to George Chidi which only served to highlight your embarrassing lack of social awareness and inability to understand basic sarcasm. Same you who has internet access but has no idea of the stature of that man in Georgia’s journalism?
You, a person that does not understand the implications of the FBI and GBI being part of this investigation? You think these are Ariara police and lawyers?
You, the person who would take on the mantle of online advocate for a person whose lack of good judgment and poor choices led him to life imprisonment after just 2/3 months in the US?
You, the person who does not have enough intelligence to know that collaborating, assisting a felon to break incarceration rules by posting stuff online could come back to haunt you?
Listening to you on this thread, is it any wonder US and Asian jails are filling up with your type? You think your village tortoise sense is superior to properly constituted justice systems?

Ogbeni, YOU are not in a position to give ME anything. There is nothing I can take from criminals and their associates. I simply have nothing in common with such people. God bless you.

John 11 Vs 35

shedybaba44:
Hello nairalander, I jus got married march this year, honestly am bored already .

The truth is am an only son so the whole pressure of getting married from my family made me got married although I love my wife she is beautiful, sexy and intellectual but I just miss the bachelor life.

I feel I entered marriage too early am just 29 although am well to do, with my own business and from a well to do home also... but am always feeling marriage is slowing me down business wise and exploring.

Sometimes I just feel like I want to leave the house and do what my fellow friends that are not married are doing.

I am scared I might divorce soon....cause honestly am bored the whole marriage thing just tire me although I go out with my wife and all that...

Please what should I do..??

Is it normal for a guy that is young and just married to feel like that

please advice

Pinch yourself, you're only dreaming.. I can assure you that when you wake up, you'll be an unmarried man!

iamL:


Ok. Himaelf and the others should send their hard evidences to chatnet so that everything can be worked with not personal judgment and vindictiveness.

They're not obligated to do such. This discussion really should come to a close. I've done my own research and I'm sorry, nothing can beat the DNA evidence. DNA doesn't lie. It's either you did it or you did not. There's no Inbetween. I was thinking of a contamination or a secondary transfer of DNA. But trueallele is the peak of DNA evidence; it's gold standard... Even a contamination will be detected.

He didn't even file a motion of contamination or secondary transfer! His filling was to contest the validity and accuracy of DNA testing; questioning the source code of trueallele! Guys, please close this thread. It's an embarrassment to our intelligence.

I appreciate the efforts of chatinent and daintyprincess. It's good to give one the benefits of the doubt. but in all honesty, he has abused that benefit by not being honest with us.

Please, let's stop being a rape apologist!!! Especially when it comes to child rape. This could be your daughter! Your sister! Your wife! Imagine this man doing those dirty and Vile things to her! It's painful, it's horrible, it's a nightmare! Put yourself in that little girls shoes; she has been traumatized for life! Imagine her coming to nairaland, rereading this thread, seeing some idiot questioning her virginity! She'll experience that trauma over and over again by mere reading these.

Every comment that supports Mr Bah encourages pedophiles out there! Mr Bah walking down the street as a free man endangers every 13 years old female!

Bah remains in Bars and that's period!

1stGenAmerican:


I am a woman but since you have volunteered to say what you believe about me, I’m going to return the favor.

I believe that you are a repulsive, male-identified rape apologist who is thirsty and desperate for validation from perverted males and pedophiles who harm children and others who speak of children in a sexually explicit manner. You have demonstrated this behavior since you stepped into this thread.

You are the type of woman (and I use that word loosely to refer to you) that will call your young female family member a liar if she ever comes to you and tells you that a man molested or raped her. You are the type that will question her, degrade her, blame her, say that she wanted it, and take any man’s word over hers regardless of how much evidence is present.

You are the type to purposely place a vulnerable young girl in a very dangerous position, ignore her cries for help, and place all blame on her.

Not only have you sat in this thread staunchly defending a man that you have NEVER MET IN LIFE but you are also agreeing with and echoing the sentiments of a revolting poster who obviously doesn’t have an issue seeing children and his YOUNG FEMALE RELATIVES as intimacy gadgets.

How dare YOU call ME vile and tell me what YOU believe about ME, as if the opinion of someone lacking as much character as you are matters. I weep for ANY young girl that will ever be forced to seek empathy and look to you to protect her.

How dare YOU challenge ME to prove something to YOU when YOU are not fit to wash mud from MY tires.

Your actions have proven that you are lower than a python’s belly.

so much energy in those words... Omo

MMotimo:


I have a distaste for potopoto but I’m more than willing to make an exception in your case because I detest perverts and predators.

I already know your name and location but some of us know how rules work. Notice how I deliberately only quoted what your not-at-all-smart self voluntarily posted on this website? Please go ahead and confirm your name and location, I would gladly capture it for eternity and your confirmation would just be the icing of the cake. Getting your name and location wasn’t that hard because perverts like you are never smart.

Zero reasoning skills yet you’re ready to go to court. Assuming you found an actual lawyer jobless enough to take you on pro bono, where would you find the money to file papers or finance anything? And to say what exactly? Who dash monkey banana? Your posturing is visible to all but your delusional self. Listen to yourself abi are you also a drug addict? Is your mind permanently muddled? You have a long established history of highly inappropriate, unsavoury posts on this website in relation to females, adult and child. I’m working hard on getting some information about the US embassy tip line and tip lines for other diplomatic missions in Nigeria so that in the very unlikely event that you ever gather enough money to apply for a visa, you can at least be asked to elaborate on your online opinions on the victim blaming and shaming of a violently raped minor. A case that was duly tried and decided in a US court. If you think I’m bluffing, go online and see how online posts have come back to haunt applicants.

I have complete disgust for rapists, pedophiles and their apologists/ fellow perverts. You con add hungry and indigent to your own profile. Listen to your kati kati incoherent outbursts “A mod is officially and automatically an umpire.” Is a mod also automatically a pervert to allow your kind roam in cyberspace spewing nonsense? Where exactly did Justwise “connive” with me? You lot just throw words around with no idea what they mean. This thread must be the highlight of your perverted self’s current existence. You get to publicize your most heinous convictions to the applause of fellow perverts! Shebi you should have stuck to the line of jobbers seeking a $ windfall as online agents to spread the convict’s agenda but no, your perverted self could not resist regaling us with your innermost, sick fantasies. Deluded, hungry rat like you forming lion online. I know there are many more sick perverts like you on this thread, you are just more foolish than most.

If you had an iota of basic, human decency, you would bury your head in shame for the nonsense you posted about that child but the Naija jungle cyberspace has made it possible for deviants like you to paste comments like yours on mainstream websites instead of the dark web where your co-perverts abroad reside.

You are a textbook example of a failed educational system and you con add congenitally uncoordinated brain cells to your case. On one hand, you voluntarily posted your personal information online and “don’t give two bleeps” but on the other hand, you are asking Nairaland to protect your information. Where did they tell you they would keep your info private?

Easyyyyy .. Ahn Ahn... I'm cryingggggggg in here

mysticwarrior:
she disappeared and another appeared to continued from where she stopped, we are watching.

Sighs. They're both different individuals who understand how the US justice system works. They don't make conclusions based on sentiments. They work based on evidence, and honestly, all evidence points towards the defendant being guilty.

I'm sure that 1stgenamerican has no ties with GeorgeChidi as Georges attention to this thread was as a result of David Hundeyi who said he should look into this case.

Personally, I'm still searching for light in this case.. like I said before, something isn't adding up.. the story isn't complete

GeorgeChidi:
Alright. Enough.

I'm George Chidi. I'm an investigative journalist of Nigerian descent, living in Georgia. I write for The Intercept and appear on local television in Atlanta. I am familiar with Douglas County, criminal justice issues in Georgia and the mechanisms of the Georgia Bureau of Investigation crime lab.

Google me. I'm easy to find.

A friend contacted me to take a look at this. The claims of Adedoja Bah do not stand up to cursory examination. He was convicted not as a matter of mistaken identity, but because DNA found at the scene matched his own. He's arguing that the tests were flawed, but a court ruled that they were not: the testing mechanism is the gold standard and the very best available. Here's the ruling: https://www.cybgen.com/information/admissibility/Bah2019.pdf

I would be the first person to advocate for someone convicted out of racial bias in Georgia. It exists. But that's not what happened here, and certainly not in Douglas County, which is not the rural banjo-playing south. It's a relatively affluent suburb of Atlanta that voted 2-to-1 for Joe Biden last year. There are parts of Georgia where justice for a Black person can be immediately questioned. Douglas County isn't one of them. It's the Nigerian equivalent of Ota or Lekki when talking about Lagos. He's trying to make it sound like he was arrested in Maiduguri.

The Georgia prison system is, indeed, terrible. It is unsanitary and dangerous -- and extremely so for people who commit crimes against children. His life is legitimately at risk. And so, I can imagine why he would look for some way to get out of prison.

But he did it. He's guilty of the crime. His protests are self-serving lies by a man with nothing but his life left to lose.

George, thank you for the time taken to look into this case. Truly appreciated. David said you've done your research and that Mr Bah isn't completely honest. But my question is that in view of this evidence, is it possible that he was framed? Is it possible that his DNA was implanted on the crime scene by someone behind the scene?

Yes, arguing that the test is flawed is a very dumb move because it's Gold standard. But I'm just looking for a possibility of this being an innocent man.

daintyprincess:
Hi Vicksbaba

Sent you a mail.

Seen! Check your mail

Powerhouse, please contact David Hundeyin. I've reached him on Twitter and he's now aware of your case, but I need you to personally reach out to him.

achillesfoot:
Myself and 1st GenAmerican had a clash cos I said black youths are the real lazy youth. I didn't respond back to him/her cos I knew whoever is behind the screen is biased.. Now back to this powerhouse, I put it to you that you have done something to the US Government to pin you down, now how did I conclude this? you said you made numerous phone calls to Japan, China, Malaysia and u claimed there are all your family, that's where you shot yourself.. Powerhouse, I agree with the police that you belong to some kind of International crime whatever.. Well welcome to America and next time use your head.. Purchasing 6 Suvs in one day when you are not in the Treasury..

You lifted these words directly from my thoughts...

I ask again Mr Olaniyi, what was the nature of your Job in Japan? You said "business" what kind of business? something is not just right

.

This is a lengthy read. I've been following this thread as a silent observer. To be very honest, all evidence screams that Mr Olaniyi is guilty. In as much as I want to move on from this story, something is off.. something is not right. @1stGenAmerican; can you try looking outside current evidence? Mr Olaniyi had 6 SUVs; he was obviously very wealthy. My question is "what was the source of his wealth?" Was he a member of a crime syndicate? Things didn't go well with his dealings? Did he mess up with the wrong people in high places who Framed him with evidence that are irrefutable? The act was committed, but by who? A black person who's part of this crime syndicate?

Mr Olaniyi, let's start with the basics. What was your means of livelihood in Georgia? Before Georgia, where were you, and what were you doing?

Idamond:


Good day Nairalanders! last week i went to do correction of name in port Harcourt customary court, so after clearing what took me there I decided to visit one of my lawyer friend who's currently working there for the past one year now. So on getting to his office we were discussing when he showed me a hip of file that's about to sign for divorce, I was shocked cause the file I saw was more than 1thousand. I try asking him why all the divorces he couldn't give me genuine answer..
that made me so scared of marriage, because of my curiosity I have to research to get at least a little knowledge why marriages crash so i realized the marriages of this days are base on sight(money, sweet shapes, sexy this and that), husband and wife don't have this agape love for there partner..

let here from the PROs!!

I'm no professional, so I'm sorry to disappoint you but you're going to hear from me @ let's hear from the pros

So here's the thing, there's a wide variety of reasons why a marriage ends down the divorce lane, but I'm going to be brief you on the most common causes;

1) Ignored Red flags; I often tell people that earlier in a relationship, the feeling of Love in ones heart clouds the logical reasoning in ones brain. In other words, the reason love is said to be blind is because it tends to make us to overlook the flaws in our partners. These flaws can be that very nimbus that tilts a long term relationship/marriage down the divorce lane, because when the mirage of love fades away, the main question is "can you live with your partners flaws?". Trust me, those flaws are often present earlier in the relationship, they're often glaring; most people choose to deliberately ignore them, some vehemently believe that their partner will change in time as the love waxes stronger, but let me tell you the truth; Any flaw you see in your partner today in your partner will be amplified by a 100 during the course of marriage; be it an anger management issue, a religious inclination (an atheist, agnostic, a fanatic), a spendthrift, a womaniser, a firth, and so on. So the answer is simply a question; if these obvious/ not so obvious flaws are amplified in my partner by a 100, will I be able to stay or will I walk out? This question alone during courtship can make or break a long term relationship


2) Postpartum/Postpregnancy changes; pregnancy is a journey towards motherhood, and childbirth brings about the joy of parenthood, but sometimes, the pregnancy brings about changes in women that Men do not understand. Some adapt to these changes, others can't just cope. A typical example is something will call Postpartum depression in women after child birth. Men should be educated about these things, and that's why I'm a strong advocate of men attending antenatal clinics with their wife especially during the third trimester of pregnancy.

3) The rush to put a ring to it; "my friends are getting married, I have to get married". Marriage is now a competitive sport that everyone's jumping into simply because everyone is doing it. This applies to both the male and female gender. Every weekend, there's a least two of your guys getting married; this puts a subconscious pressure on you, that you rush into it without adequate planning; if you fail to plan, you plan to fail. Like all commitments, you should have short term goals, medium term goals, long term goals; a timetable for how you want the ship to sail. Rushing blindly into the river of marriage without having a map to guide you through the navigation of the storm will wreck you in little to no time

4) Modernization of our generation with a tilt towards gender equality and equity; I'll start this on a weird note; Sex. Sex is a primary instinct, and like other social animals, we use sex to bond and procreate. The male social animal has females and their children that flock around him, depending on food, shelter and protection. If a male social animal conquers another male in a fight, that defeated male gives up his territory including his females to the victorious male. This was true in ancient times for the human race too until modernization came into place; the daughters of Eve ate yet from another tree of knowledge of good and evil; a knowledge that's punishes the institution of marriage. The primary instinct of men is to be polygamous in nature (hell no, this is not an excuse for "cheating".. it's just a reality) and the earlier this is recognised by our woke generation, the better this modern contract called marriage will survive. Yes, you heard me right, contract. During the relationship, Always discuss these things; it may sound weird, but in reality, it'll go a long way. If you decide to leave your polygamous nature as a Man, and through self discipline, you want to stick to one partner, then you must discuss this with your partner. If in the long run, you betray your words, then the onus is on you. However, if you as a Man decide to lay with another woman, please do it with caution as the modern generation of women are unforgiving. I repeat, unforgiving. Men have sex to dominate, to release the tension, as sports. Women on the other hand have sex to be dominated, controlled, taken or won over. A man who's having carnal knowledge of another woman will be so furious seeing his wife under another man because his subconscious tells him he has lost

A woman who sees her husband on another woman however feels that that woman has something better to offer than her. Her brain tells her ; what do I lose if I leave this marriage? Will I lose my security if I exit? If she's still dependent on the man, she'll have no reason to leave. So kings, please remember, she has to have the feeling of security from you, and only you. You've to monopolize it. There's no equality in this. The rib will dessicate without the main body, and that's how it's supposed to be. The moment you let her assume a position of equality or its resemblance, it's over.

5) allowing external influences to affect homely decisions can destroy your home. Fights happen, and when internal conflicts are resolved among conflicting couple, bonds gets stronger. External influences tends to weaken marital bonds in the long run


6) lastly, shit happens, people fall out, life happens. At times, don't overthink it. Just take your L in peace


I've a whole lot more to say, but I gatu run.

Cheers.

Kobojunkie:
I was particularly creeped out by the reference to his friend always wanting to hang with his kids... not everyone bachelor is like that.

Even females aren't all like that, let alone Bachelors.

That's why I think Op should do a DNA test on those kids.. they're probably his bachelor friend's offspring

Oblongata:
When I was taking my kids to their grandpa few days ago to spend the remainder of their holidays I was so happy! Coupled with the fact that my wife was also traveling the following day, my joy knew no bounds. Finally the peace and freedom I craved was here!

This weekend my home didn’t feel happy! It was sad and lonely. I felt cold loneliness throughout. I tried everything I could to distract myself but I miss my family so bad!

I miss our little quarrels, our eventual understanding and acceptance of each other using truce keeping.

I miss their mum badly. This made me wonder? How do older bachelors cope in this very lonely world? Una dey try o... respect.

Oblongata:

I beg to differ sir!

Merely seeing friends/family that are married then Bachelors know what they are missing.

I have a very close friend who is a 43 year old bachelor and he has turned my kids to his kids...

Dude calls me way ahead of time to discuss how he would celebrate my kid’s birthday (without asking for his help o)

We (Me and wife) tried hooking him up a lot of times but he was very choosy. The last girl we hooked him up with (That appeared to be perfect. 24 year old Young lawyer Who just finished law college) he said she had incision at her back and that was it...

He confided in me sometime ago that he envies me a lot, and that he knows something is missing in his life, which is having a family.

Reason he had been treating my family like his.

Truth is: Bachelor’s know they are lonely, and they miss having a family.

Op, I don't mean to be disrespectful or anything, but just do DNA test on your children, and if possible, run the test against your bachelor friend's blood sample. This may sound absurd, but you see that fatherly love your bachelor friend is radiating? It's a reason to be curious.. ever heard of "alpha seeds, beta grows?"; Alpha impregnate, beta fathers?

Anyways, True happiness is the ability to find peace and satisfaction in ones own company. Once you start depending on other people's presence to become happy, then you're truly lonely. The test of happiness is a very simple question; "when I'm all alone, do I really feel happy?" If yes, then you're truly happy

Capitawap:
I loaned from sokoloan which is just and it's to be due by Thursday. I've cleared another loans already just remaining xcredit.. I called the customer care to eat for an extension till Monday even if it involves paying extra charges but she wasn't gonna have any of it despite the fact that I've been having a clean record with them before.

He practically told me I'm a dead man if I don't pay up by Thursday. No jokes, during the phone conversation he said and I quote "Mr Man you're a dead man if you don't pay our money on or before Thursday".

I understand these guys are extremely ruthless and the calling and messaging of contacts is what I am scared of.

How much are we talking about here? I can assist you, but you'll have to pay me back in a month time.. with interest of course. If you're ready, I'm a DM away