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CaptJeffry:
This is why I fear women pass war front.

No fear only woman, fear men as well who are hell bent in fucvking another man's wife. That's where the fear proper starts from.

If only a prophet had told the mother when shes carrying his pregnancy in her womb, that this child u are carrying will be the cause of your doom and death.

Wouldn't the mother scream at the prophet that he's a liar? How can her own blood kill her? God forbid.

But unfortunately, she gave birth to the one sent to kill her.

God abeg o! May we not give birth to our arch enemies inform of children in Jesus name amen

YoungDaNaval:
I can stake my balls that you're Alexialin. can you do the same?

U say what!?

Your balls will soon leave u

YoungDaNaval:
Am not free from problem and atleast I don't live a fake life unlike you. Keep living in fantasy until reality struck you hard!

You don't even know my life, whether is fake or real. You just run your mouth like an Illiterate tap, thinking u know me and u don't know jack. I laugh at your brain

What a waste time tonight, going back and forth with u. am tired repeating myself..
So Suit yourself! Am done with this talk

Think whatever I don't care.
You have the whole time, obsessing over me and alexialin

Bye!

YoungDaNaval:
Alexialin continue deceiving yourself oooh! Fake life won't solve your problems ooh

No need repeating who I am but, Ask yourself this question

Are you free from problems ?

YoungDaNaval:
Keep deceiving yourself!

You think you are doing me. You are doing yourself.

YoungDaNaval:
My dear I know that you're 30+ and unmarried but I don't won't dispute the fact that you're my paddy. Just stop lieing that you're not Alexialin coz you're only deceiving yourself and I won't fall for that!

When u are done ranting u will focus on your thread .

Unmarried indeed! It should be in your dreams. Confused fellow

And yes am in my 30s no doubt , I thank God cos am growing and not depreciating.

YoungDaNaval:
Shut up! you're Alexialin!!! I hate lies!

Shut da fucvkup!
Are u hallucinating?

What's your problem!
Victorian is now topic of discussion tonight abi?
Lemme tell you, am not your problem in this life, so don't even start!

Mtchewwwww

YoungDaNaval:
Hmmm thought we used to be cool? wetin you come dey bring these kind talk now??

Am Victorian and not Alexialin.

Hanseel1:
...reality is when you log off from nairaland and you realize age isn't on your side..

And in reality, you will realise, u may not even have sperms sef. How much a working sperm.
You think every man called man is fertile, abi? You and ubunja go shock when una log off nairaland.

So Bother about yourself and leave others to theirs.

ubunja:
oh please. just stop embarassing yourself.

You are the one embarrassing yourself.

ubunja:
a woman with an expiring womb thinking men are the expiring ones. lol. ok. if you say so

Do you think you fall In the category of fertile men?

Newsflash! Not all men have potent sperms. While some have zero sperm, as in nothing inside..

And probably u are in one of those groups.

So go and seat down kid!

gypsey:
yea right! it always happens to a friend, doesn't? well.. it didn't happen to my friend they managed to keep all the kids they had and still not married.

If your friend dont want to get married but have kids.. That's their own cup of tea.
Like I always say, what works for A, cannot work for B

gypsey:
Good! i suspect it didn't happen to Anyone, as i ve asserted earlier it's just a story,

A true life story

You don't have to believe it but it happened to a friend of mine.

ubunja:
keep dreaming.

You are the dreamer. E go shock you.

gypsey:
story story! look! i see nothing wrong in making sure a woman can have children before marrying her, Nice story you told there, but it's just a story! accept my sinparty

It didn't happen to me.

So I don't need your sinparty

YoungDaNaval:
Longest time Alexialin! What happened to your previous moniker??

Another person obsessed with Alexialin and mixing us up.

Go and ask her, don't bug me and derail your "dead on arrival "thread with Alexialin topics.

ubunja:
blame mother nature for putting an expiry date on you. leave us in peace.

Lol, na you get expiry date, not me.

And leave women in peace. Stop disturbing us online.

Hanseel1:
with the way Nigerian ladies are fvcking dicks anyhow and having abortions as if there's no tomorrow I don't blame men who ask for such...

she must be 2months pregnant before the marriage is conducted... ✌

You people don't know, u have no control over all these things.
If such plan work with Mr A, it doesn't mean it will work with Mr B.

A guy was dating a young lady, of 23years old. He wanted her to get pregnant before marriage. Then viola! She got pregnant, he said let's wait first til 7months, before I pay dowry and do all the necessary rites of becoming a married couple. The parents of the girl weren't happy but they played along. 7month, belly big and baby is growing
He then paid her bride price, do church wedding in a moderate way and they were married, everyone is happy.

Close to the 9th month, she had complications. She was rushed to hospital. Doctor was like the babies have to be delivered , no more waiting for the due date, cos her water has broken. She did all her best to push but the baby in her womb is not coming out, they realised the baby was in a breach position, quickly they decided to go for Caesarean. A lady who laboured for hours, then later had do thru Caesarean the next day. Doctor opened her up, and carried out the baby but look and behold they notice the baby is dead.
They stitched the wife up, called the husband we are sorry but we've lost the baby. Wife cried uncontrollably, husband was so shocked. He couldn't even console his wife. His resentment towards her was just building
He stormed out of the hospital with tears in his eyes and called his mum, sisters and. In-laws to go console His wife and he just can't take this anguish. He left to only God knows where. The newly wedded wife was so bitter and sad.

She said upon carrying a baby for 9months, labour for 24hoirs, then her vagina and belly cut to remove a baby they thought would stay. And the pains of the aftermath effect of cesaerian? Ha! God why us? Where did we go wrong?
But that's how it went down. Nobody has control over it. No mater how well u calculate and plan how ones life will be.. Most times it doesn't work that way.

You are planning your own, Nature and unforeseen circumstances are planning theirs alongside yours. So what will u do?

Divorce her immediately?

ubunja:
if you believed your own words you wouldnt be so emotional about it.
and dont makw the mistake of supporting each other as girls coz you wont marry each other. unless you're lesbians.

Am not emotional about it but I detest when guys like yourself run women down all the time.
We ladies have to support ourselves and be there for each other. And If its paining you, hug transformer.

ubunja:
and you imagine at 35 with 5 yrs to go to menopause, rich and unable to marry average men it will be easier? will you compete with the nubile succulent 21 yr olds who are oven fresh?

and having a baby at 39 where will you get the time to raise it. when the child is 10 you're 49. imagine Parents Day at school as her friends ask your daughter "Sandra is that your grandma?"
c'mon khady. see sense.

I have an imam in my office building, he's 69, but his first daughter is 25, she recently graduated from law school. His second daughter is 23, and year 4 in the university. Another of his daughter is 20years ,in school as well. Then his son, is about 15years old . And he has only one wife!

So tell me, didn't he marry late?

Cos I spoke to him, how comes his kids are this young and he's way above matured, he's elderly. He said well that's how God wants it and he cant question God. Cause by and large, he started making it late in life. So where other parents of his age are waiting for their grown up children to starts bringing things home for him. He's still paying school fees.

So that's it
you don't blame anyone who married late. Most times its not their fault. They simply don't want to marry early and start begging people for money to train kids and to feed.

ImaIma1:
Abeg shift!

Only unintelligent people will be labelling everyone according to their age. "Ladies in their 30s".."men in their 20s.

Unfounded statements

Don't mind him, even creating thread about it.

Whether he likes he or not, ladies in their 30s and 40s will marry and marry well wit kids popping out on the first year of their marriages. He can't stop the what's and desires of another man.

So op speak for your self and keep clear from ladies, 30 and above.

Nobody tie u to marry any of them.

Jman06:
As usual!!!

When they make a blunder they resort to insults instead of taking corrections.


Bye bye to you.

Charcoal calling pot black.

You started the insults first.. So it's now paining you. Lol

See your life? Confusionist.

Don't bye bye, keep ranting there.

Jman06:
You are the one who is either arguing blindly or doesn't know how to clearly put your thoughts into writing.

You should have simply typed that Ifunada has bad attitudes and for that reason she's finding it difficult to get a mate.

Na you sabi

Keep wailing.

Am done with your dumvb arguments.

She try

She's a fighter.. She didn't give up on herself, even when everyone gave up on her.
Some women can storm through any weather and condition.

But some male graduates out there are seated duck at home waiting for a plum job, looking lean and begging for money to eat. Instead of them to accept some low jobs for the time being, or do some contract menial jobs or even learn a skill like barbing, baking, plumbing etc to make ends meet. They rather wait like celebrities at home for that job. Well hunger never beat una well! And they have a comfortable bed in their house to sleep, if not? They will do everything possible to change their joblessness.

Jman06:
The problem here is that you seem not to know that there's a difference between being strong and being arrogant.
If you say ifunada is arrogant, does not know when to stand her ground, is meddlesome, is hostile, that means she has a very big attitudinal problem. But, you tried to associate her with a strong woman due to her attitudinal problem. You now went on to start typing that she should learn to be weak, to act delusional even on things she has knowledge of e.t.c, that that is how Nigerian guys want their women to act and all that, I now replied by typing that all Nigerian guys really don't want dummies as wive, that some of us actually want our women to be strong and able to stamp their feet on what is right.
Let's stop going back and forth on this argument. Just know that there's a big difference between being strong, stamping your feet on what is right, not allowing people to use you as doormat and having bad attitudes.

I don't think you've read and understood all have been saying so far.

You are just arguing blindly.

Anyways that's your problem. I don't have time arguing on this topic. No use.
Bye.

Pusyiter:
Thanks dear, your specie is rare.
Will holler you when I enter yonder

Thanks dear

No probs.

Jman06:
My dear, just read yourself!!! So a strong woman now means a domineering woman

You are the one mixing up your argument. You typed initially that Nigerian guys don't like strong ladies like Ifunada because she holds her own opinion on issues and does not allow herself to be pushed, I then typed that such attribute is not really a bad one for a lady. You now went on to start linking being strong and knowing where to hold on to one's superior views with being domineering. Do you even know what it means to be domineering
How many times will I state it for you to know that there is a big difference between being domineering and arrogant and being strong, standing up for one's rights and holding on to one's superior opinions. Or are you implying that doing the above is tantamount to being domineering and arrogant

My dear, maturity is not by accumulation of grey hairs but by accumulation of experience ( Abraham Lincoln).

When I said a strong woman has to show some weakness, I didn't mean she should allow herself to be walked on. I didn't mean she should appear helpless, I didn't mean she should allow men take advantage of her. I didn't mean she should be crying at any slightest provocation.

Far from that.

All I meant is this : everybody be it weak or strong personalities, we all have our weak moments and there is nothing wrong allowing someone u claim u want to be with, in seeing such weak moments. There is nothing wrong if a strong woman appears soft wise and appealing when passing across her thoughts to people.

Ifunada does not appear soft. She appears bossy and in fact she's trying too hard to stay relevant. Even when she talks, she has the air of I know it all and am tough. Where as she doesn't know it all and she's not that tough. In fact nobody knows it all. Except God. And no body is all that tough all through but someone like her put up airs to show she's a bad assz strong woman.
Which is a no no for a typical successful man who knows what he wants in his woman.

Pusyiter:
So therefore, it means person wey dey chop cat
Really, it means a cat with nine lives!

Wow! That's one hell of a meaning..

Nine lives! U over try! I hail o!

Jman06:
This is why many men would keep getting tricked by some ladies who pretend to be what they are not just to rope men into marriage and then unleash their real selves.
Mind you, I wasn't referring to domineering and bossy types of women, unless you are trying to imply that being able to stand on one's rights and defending one's self rather than crying and acting all vulnerable now translates to being domineering and bossy.
A lady being able to stamp her feet on what is right and not allowing herself to be pushed around like a dummy does not make her domineering and bossy.
What every sensible guy should be looking out for is a lady who can use her discretion to know when to assert herself and when to listen to voice of reasons. This is because men themselves are not perfect decision makers. If God had wanted women to be all docile and doormats for their husbands, he would have created them with no brains and created men to be perfect decision makers.

Sorry to say but you confusing yourself and confusing the whole issue of a strong woman showing some signs of weakness.
Showing weakness does not mean, every little things she has to cry and appear lost and foolish. Or be a doormat for every Tom, dick and harry

A domineering or your kind of strong woman you've been hammering on since yesterday, does not know when to assert herself and when not to. Trust me, we don't listen to voice of reason, most times . Have been there before. When I was like those type of strong domineering women u are talking bout. Back then I see myself as no man dares oppose my authority and vision. Back then I talk on my high horse and if u are not up to my standards, I look at the man with disdain or mock him with words and eyes . Back then, I had a masculine voice and I felt I know it all. Whereas we learn everyday. Back then I felt am always right and it has to be Me me me.
That's exactly what ifunada and most strong women out there portray. And that's what u claim to love in a woman?

Honestly with your write up, you are mixing up what u claim u like about a strong woman and no nonsense woman.
And lastly am still a strong woman but in a soft, womanly and approchable way. Unlike my past behaviors.

Inbetween how old are you?

Pusyiter:
My dear, thanks for the enlightenment. Your hubby go enjoy you dey go but no show him your color oooo
Abeg, what is Pusy in your language?
If you can tell me, I will tell you the iter in it. Nothing strange about the name it is a question of nomenclature

Lol, my color no longer exist again.

But pusy in my language is pussycat.

So what's iter?

Jakasibo:
Why is this girl still being addressed as "Adesua Etomi" without her husband's name

Cuz she's well known as Adesuwa etomi, which has been a brand name for years. It's stuck in almost everyone's memory. People relate and accept her more with her maiden than her new husband's name. They like her more with Etomi than attaching Wellington.