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Pusyiter:
Thanks for sharing your experience. I wish younger ladies would learn.

Thanks dear

Some will learn and adjust, while some won't.
It's all about choices and what we all want out of life.
It doesn't take much for one to see his or her flaws and adjust to be a better person. Stubbornness lead nobody anywhere. And that's the reality.

Ore mi, Pusiter but why did u choose such name sef

Jman06:
The truth is that no one can pretend for too long. If you were really being yourself those times, it wouldn't have been easy for you to change to a different personality. It's either you were just acting up then or you are acting up now. If the former was the case, then you can't really say you were tough and all that, but if the later is the case then it's just a matter of time before your real self shows up again, and it might do more damage then than if you had just been yourself.

I maintain that being assertive on your right as a lady is not a bad attribute provided you don't go about looking for trouble or being wicked, arrogant and inconsiderate. What makes anybody a smart person, not just ladies, is their ability to know when to stamp their foot and when to give in to other's opinions.
We all don't want dummies as partners you know.

Smiles no need going back and forth with you on this topic . Being calm and pragmatic and soft does not make one a dummy. It makes a woman look and feel like a lady with virtues.
I prefer my new me, than the former one. I have a whole sense of peace around me and I understand more about the other person from another point of view. And with this new me, I rarely make mistakes of following the wrong friends or crowd. I talk less and listen more. I don't prolong arguments amongst friends and strangers. In fact no energy for all that again lol
As the years go by and u become older.. There are things one over look and let peace reign
No time jare.
And Truth be told, I love where I stand right now.
And I ain't going back to the old me.. And yea have not given in to your opinion, so am smart and stood by my what I feel is right


So Mr Jman06, I wish u tremendous best of luck in your relationships with tough opinionated ladies. There are everywhere no doubt. So happy dating to them
Nice chats with u.. Take care. Smiles

Jman06:
No body should be authoritative. A man can also speak calmly with wisdom and clarity. Besides there's no hard and fast rule as to how a lady or a man should act or speak. People should just be who they are! The good thing is that everybody has a match in this world, even in Nigeria. It may shock you to know that there are guys in this same Nigeria who love authoritative ladies! The problem is that people fail to find those that match them, instead they try to be whom they are not.

At the bolded, the ratio of such men are very slim that's why ..and such women will search forever to even find one who is compatible with her.
That's why u see most either as single mums or just single at 45.
And it's not a hard or fast rule. It's a simple rule. I was once like that in my teenage and adult age, until I clocked 30 still single and realise am only doing myself. My elder brother called me one day, sat me down and made me realise I need to be soft in interpreting my ideas and conversations to the opposite sex. And he realised I come on too strong when am talking and dealing with guys even when my ideas are right . But as a man, most men will feel slighted and will be like mehn, won't this lady start controlling me at home?
She's pretty no doubt but nah, I can't marry such. And they leave without coming back.
So with time, I adjust and became very calm,soft in my approach and values. If anyone wants to take me for granted, I put my for down and let the person know with few words even though I look quiet, you can't run all over me. Such people get the message and keep clear.

Anyways it has worked for me and am in a stable relationshi that's running into years. Unlike in the past, where my relationship can start and end within a month, sometimes 6months or 3months.

Anyways everyone with what works for them. Am simply saying my own.

Munzy14:
Yea women snatch a lot. Not all.

True not all but it's not written on the forehead.

That's the issue.

Jman06:
What you have written is a fallacy of hasty generalization! Not all men want weak women!!! Some what strong ladies who are principled and know what they want in life. Being strong however does not mean being wicked or being arrogant!! Being strong means being able to get things done and and make the right judgements at the right time. It means being able to say no when you are being oppressed and stand by your no! It means not allowing anybody make a doormat out of you. Personally as a guy, i don't like a lady who is too vulnerable and weak! It turns me off! What we don't like is wickedness. Being strong is different from being wicked!

At the bolded you are right but the way a lady choose to stand on her ground and make those decisions, shouldn't be in a fierce way or authoritative way.
She can still do all these in a calm soft decisive manner. That's the kind of weakness am saying.

A lady is meant to speak meekly with wisdom and clarity.. Not authoritative like a man.. That's the difference am saying.

Munzy14:
lol poor home?. we aren't talking about poor background.
We talking about threats and characters they displayed on TV while in the house. from last bbnaija we all know who is likely to snatch a lady's man. hahahahhahaha i no mention name o.

Yeah I know but Ceec can snatch as well in a subtle and cunning way. Especially when it comes to davido or a man worthy of snatching cos of his so-called billions and fame in quote. For me, I trust no woman sha. Women snatch alot.

hammer6F:
Call who? Chioma no get mouth...

Davido is King. lollz!

Na WA o

What a life to live beside davido . Then why follow him upadan if he can fuvck any girl he likes in his trips, while Chioma is just around the corner ,seething inwards

Smhhhhh.

Well as someone said 3some loading.

hammer6F:
Ngozi123, Amarabae...

Guess who Davido was looking for in this clip.

Watch it very carefully.

I saw something the first time but did not say anything.

So in your intelligence, u think Chioma is the person that set all this up? I dont want to reply u on the original thread, becos i just want to watch something without spoiling it or blowing anybody cover. Chioma herself does not look very comfortable.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nGa_keo4RJc

My internet is slow.

But I didn't say Chioma was the one who setup ceec meeting up with Davido.

I simply said she should at least call Davido aside and talk to privately that she's not comfortable with ceec tagging along.

She should do everything within her power to cut loose CeeC from becoming their 30b gang. That's all.

Munzy14:
lol. if it was ALEX, We will agree. But as far it is Ceec, chioma no shaking. two powerful ladies align in business. issa money flow vibes hanty.

See you. Oh! Because Alex comes from a poor home.
E go shock you! You don't know women. Powerful ladies or not..ladies will always be ladies and most would want to compete hiddenly or openly with another lady who's rich bf is seemingly in love with her friend.

If they want to align in business, they can do collabo without Davido always around them.

Hmm I repeat again.. Don't allow Ceec tag along with her and davido to anything that has to do with davido needing Chioma in his trips for emotional support.

You can't tell a cat to help you hold a tasty fish, that I will be back, lemme pick something outside.

You know what will happen to that fish?

Na so e dey take start.

Eeyah

Ifunanda is a nice lady with a good heart but men don't seem to see the goodness in her soul because she expresses herself in a strong manner.
Most Nigerian men won't find such women who has her kind of air of superiority and know all, appealing for romance, love or marriage.
The men will just fucvk and go. That's how it is with most Nigerian.
Deep down, there are some men who loves and would love to marry a weak woman, and they always marry weak women while some men want a seemingly hardworking lady to be weak as well but inbetween ,do not act all tough and all Independent. At least have some weakness about you and let him see it. Then u are good to go.
Don't be leader in the relationship. Let him lead or make him believe he's leading.

Anyways ifunanda if you are reading this on nld, try and soften your voice when talking, look unsure about things u do or he does, don't be so sure about yourself or about who you are dating. If u need help from your man, pls do ask him. Don't be all superwoman. A man who will stay with her to the end, don't all superwoman. She should just soften down in every part of her. That the secret.
I hope love and true care strolls into her life , cause that's what will feel a certain void in her, even if she disagrees with me. There is a void to be filled and to become all Workaholic and partying sometimes cannot fill it up.

Anyways I wish her best of luck.

Chioma better cut loose CeeC from her entourage before CeeC starts fucvking Davido. Or Davido start having ideas of how Ceec looks a prettier version of chioma and he can just have a sneak preview of her hotpot.

Chioma be careful o.. Babes are not smiling .

If you know, you know.

PUSSYHOE:
They can be second or third wives to polygamous men

And do you know those ladies married in their 30s or even 40s to polygamous men are well taken care of,living comfortably, with total peace of mind. They look robust and fresh they give birth to even twins more. Maybe cos they got married late. Their husbands open a viable business for their wives, compared to some ladies married to single guys and struggling to stay afloat.. So don't even mock them.

They are living well o and their pussy is not fucvked every minute.. Making it slack and over wide. They have time to rest and pamper themselves

Barzinime:
See exactly what we are talking about,
I know you are pained, but i dont blame you its the atom size mucus you call a brain that doesnt process information well.
you think every guy wants to sleep with you girls, especially your type with rotten pvssy.
F**king Douchebag!

No need stooping to your level.

You are a frustrated thing. What a lowlife.

Bye asszhole.

DCONE1:
that means I can fucck you at the right amount abiii no big deal are we communicating....what chu say..?

Do I look like tiwa savage?

Or did I say am tiwa reincarnate?

Mtchewwwwww

Barzinime:
Let me now tell you, if you dont have any sense of reasoning

You know what to do could mean


Go online and apply for a position.

or bring your application letter together with your c.v.

The man never said sleep with me and you are here assuming.

You dont need to tell me your degree/certificate cos i can evaluate you from your thinking.

Most of you girls are bored, lonely and scorned, seeking attention with all manner of lies/deceit to make yourselves feel alive & relevant

Nonsense

You are the one with no sense of reasoning.

Idiot!

Pusyiter:
Hahahaha forgot oooo.... Canberra.

Lol, which one is Canberra, bikonu

Barzinime:
Reason they compare the brain of some ladies to that of fish
You two shouldnt tell me you graduated cos if you did, you bought that result cos how does "you know what to do" equates to "off your pant"

No need answering you. But lemme make this clear

You are just delusional, pretending u don't know what's going on in the country.

To get a job, or even keep the job, one of the male executive Or Supervisor, or manager will indirectly request to complete the interview in a discreet place.

Even one man business, the miserable Oga Sex in their office with desperate applicants. Only very few are disciplined.. The rest zero.

In the government sector, it's not excluded. The Oga handling some departments do have sexx with their workers, single and married.. No one is exempted.

We all know what's going on in these offices.

So coming here to rant like someone out of space is uncalled for.

I don't need to clarify my degree and certificate to you. Cos u are not even important sef.

Keep living in a world u have created for yourself.

Mtchewww. Birds of the same feathers. Coming online to cry foul.

oyatz:
You are too harsh on this woman. She is rich on her own and also needs someone to connect emotionally with (whether this leads to sex or not is another thing).
You don't know what she is going through, so let's respect her choice.




(quote author=victorian post=67331928]It's all for the money.

Receiving extra cash from wizzy isn't bad nah.

It shows she can fucck any guy or even a teenager sef for the right amount of money.

If it's true? Then she's a total disgrace to herself and family.

Well on second thoughts, you are right.

Only God knows what she's going through.

I withdraw that statement.

May God help us all. amen

Pusyiter:
Madam Vickkie....only those that are laid to rest are entitled to rest.
You nko, you neva sleep?

Heheheheheheeh, sleep ke?

I doubt u are in Nigeria?

If not, u should know it's 3:05pm Nigerian time. By this time, everybody is awake except the person is ill. Then such person should be asleep.

So where is your location! You are busted

Don't receive phone calls while driving and don't call anyone while on the steering wheels. But people will not hear word.

If u must receive a call? Then park at a safe distance, put on your back parking lights.

The driver is just stupid and see where it has landed him.. Smhhh.

Thank God for the op's life o.. People who don't value their lives will not take u, along with them to the world beyond in Jesus name .amen

CsRockefeller:
Not all men o, I have been looking for a good girl and can't see, d few I've seen are already taken, its really frustrating. Oh! Now I remember, I once had one, but she is earning big at Unity Bank and I'm just a wretched corper, we never dated but we were very close, right from sec school she got admission straight, while it took me over 3 years to get admission. So are worlds are currently world apart, she is d only one I have ever loved and I guess its mutual but life happens, if wishes were horses.......ride. Her name is Daluchi, I really miss her, a very good lady, but na 19,8k I dey collect compared to her 150k, I'm sure her taste for men has gone up, sometimes I think, what could have been if we got admission at d same time? A question that i may never have an answer to. Still haven't met a Lady like her, how many have I even met sef.

I know not all men, cos I have two close female friends who are happily married to men who truly appreciates them. Very Beautiful ladies. They put on light makeup, dress very decent. If they attend weddings of colleagues or families, and they apply makeup, mehn come and see eyes following them upandan , with their wedding rings boldly fitted on their fingers. Men have tried wooing them, thinking they will cut shows like some married ladies but fortunately, they always turn them down.
One is a Muslim, the second one is a Christian. Both doing well in their careers and also managing the homefront well.
They are my role model, secretly smiles.

I can vouch for them anywhere, and their husbands always look fresh, relaxed, and robust .likewise them too.

My brother, It's good to marry right. You will enjoy marriage.

Don't worry, be watchful of ladies who will stroll into your life and choose the best for yourself

That's why I went into full time business instead of seeking for a job after my Nysc..

Men and this rubbish will never end

Pusyiter:
Minus me...I appreciate and will always appreciate women.

Won't u go and rest?

tobida:
Tobi is not trained.

The guy behaves very badly and too desperate.

It is very bad, person suppose get self control and take other people feeling into consideration.

Sex is good but not the way he goes about it. Drag her whole family, declare readiness for relationship on national tv and then did the whole couple clothes matching and appearance. etc

It's all for the pussyyy.

Immediately he's gotten down there, once or twice. They start whistling another tune.

He's just a fucvk boy.

vuc1:
We hardly fight or argue. She's too respectful, loyal and humble. She loves me too much and it scares me whether that is normal. A typical naija babe is opposite of what she is. I feel it's all a scam.

I wonder why Nigerian men don't appreciate good women, when u have them in your lives. Do you want to have a bad woman?
God bless u with woman, that loves peace and wants the best in her relationship, you are doubting her and u feel she's scam.

Lemme tell u, out of 1miiion Nigerian women out there, only 10 women are like your gf.

Men who end up marrying them, always thank God everyday for having such women as wives. You are very lucky to have such gf. Only wise matured men will know, u are indeed lucky.

If u like breakup with her, because she doesn't give u Wahala, na u sabi.

Nija men sha! And see the number of likes on what u said.

I pity Nigerian men, they don't know what's good for them. Throwing away good women and loving bad women who ends up making their lives miserable.

That's main reason good women don't easily get married, cause most Nigerian men will never believe they deserves good women .
E dey una bodi.

Omihanifa:
This chioma get good star that's why davido is doing everything to keep her

Was Davido poor before he started dating Chioma?

Smhhhh.

Ijaya123:
You mean davido made his money from chioma's star?

Lol don't mind him, some people can just talk anyhow without thinking.

Factfinder1:
The result of fucking upandan despite being married and a result of their husband's patronising olosho outside and bring the deases back home to their innocent wife's

Honestly so pathetic.

And most married men and women will still keeping fucvking upandan, cos one toto dey kill prick.

See the result.. Infecting their unborn kids with the dreaded disease.

Lilisticlili:
technically before u smack his butt,u must hav had orgasm............lol

Hahahahahahahahaha


Na u sabi

Op I understand how you feel, but your parents simply protective around you and they don't want you to make a mistake and become a baby mama. Trust me., no responsible dad or mum would be happy seeing their daughter talking to a strange guy in his car.
One thing is this : Introduce your male friend to your parents. Let him know, if he's serious with you and not hanging around you just to waste your time? Then he should be bold to meet with your parents, as your boyfriend whom both of you feel will lead to marriage. But you are both trying to understand each other and see if you are both compatible. If your boyfriend is not ready to meet with your parents? tell him that your parents at every strict and would like to be aware whom you are dating.
If he's guaranty, you ask him, or are you not my boyfriend? Don't u love me enough to see my parents? Do u see us having a future together? If he's serious, he will say of course I love you and I want us to have a future together.. But if he's hesitant to see your parents?

Just know he will waste your time and real heartbreak will follow. All these men u see upandan, not all of them are serious.
Some are time wasters and can cause serious heartbreak.

When a man sees a lady he likes, within a week he knows in his heart, if she's the type he wants as a wife or not. At 26years, u can't date guys who are not focused or looking at the big picture.

Don't be like me, who had access to-date guys at my 20s, was completely heartbroken several times and suicidal sometimes. The scars of my past heartbreaks will take me to my dying grave. How I wish I can turn the hands of time. I wouldn't have dated the guys I dated in the past. But at the end, it's well in the past and am better off today but I got married abit late.

So my dear, your parents are safeguarding you against wolves in sheep clothing.

Secondly try and learn a skill, talk to your mum about the skill u desire. Make her see the business opportunity in having such skill and enrol in a good training school with focus that u will start making. Money gradually after you are done with the skill acquisition. If your mum supports your idea about the skill, your dad will be easy to convince and sponsor the fees.

Everyday u go to your training school , learn it well. Let them see your progress as u complete all the class assignments given to u

And within few months, U will be making money alongside waiting for a job. Some people are even resigning from their jobs and focusing on acquiring a skill that will yield to good business. It's only your parents that can help u in sponsoring the fees and settling u up from scratch. Let no man deceive u.. No man would want to sponsor any thing or even give u money for training, except he's fucvking u steady and sometimes even at that. He may still not assist u in your dreams of been independent. So talk to your mum first. Be warm to her, confide in her.. Yes confide.. She's your best bet to becoming independent financially.

So don't feel like your parents hate you, all they want is for you to be focused on making it, without unwanted pregnancy. Then any man u date, and if he's sincere with u, must meet with your parents for formal introduction as your boyfriend.

The way your boyfriend present himself to your parents, is the same way they will accept or reject him. He should know what he wants with you. And that's the truth. Not hide and seek games. If he's into hide and seek Biko, cut him loose.

Wow

Shalomc:
Tbillz said this and you people cursed him. Pampers diapers didn't just dump.her...

I didnt curse him.

I was shocked when names were called on the number of artistes she slept with.

But wizkid own? Is just the height of shamelessness.