₦airaland Forum

Its love , not boldness that made her marry Kanu. When you are inlove wiht someone who is a star , you wont be scared of his fame or wealth. Its simply love.

Hi getbizidea, first am not a member of Rev.Chris church but like the bible said its a sin to remarry when one's wife or husband is still alive. I don't wish to contest the bible but i want us to look at this divorce issue in another light. Ok, lets take Stephanie his new wife for example? what if during her formmer marriage to her exhusband , she was always beaten, abused,infected with stds due to a randy husband and even when she has always been a loving and dutiful wife? ITS AN ASSUMPTION? So, should one still expect her to stay in such marriage ( for better , for worse?) till she eventually dies prematurely because she's maent to be with her husband,come what may.
  I have seen some wives abused by their husbands, some survive throughout the turbulent marriage , while some just pass on quietly and another category of such wives are lucky and wise enough to think fast and divorce the man. It happens.
  No one knows what Stephanie must have gone through during her former marriage except she, her ex husband and God , himself
No one should condem or judge them, because we don't know what they must have gone thruough in their respective former marraiges, only God knows. So, lets wish them luck and a happy married life. Because it aint easy marrying the wrong person and being a strong survivor afterwrads,

Abi O! people sef. Rev Chris deserves to be happy , including his new wife.

With what i have noticed for few years in this society, majority of Nigerian graduates lack skill and also lack innovation.. Do you know more graduates are out with either pass or third class degrees and to even worsen the whole issue most can not even think constructively about either being Builders, Producers or Supporters through whichever course they have read. Its a sad case, but we all have to look inward and make ourselves better in everything we do. And i bet you will notice jobs,most likely create one yourself and even sell your ideas to people that have the money to finance it; as long as your ideas are realistic , creative and well laid out. You will get a good job or even be a producer of labour.
Just look inwards and look around you, opportunities are everywhere.

Orinkinla, or whatever your id name is? you are simply frustrated about your lovelife and there is no other way to dish out your hurt , than this too bad, just get a life and stop daydreaming,life is too short for that.

Leave Pastor Chris alone, he deserves to be happily married like every normal humans. For god sake, he is human and a man that has desires even though he is a Pastor. Or are alot of Pastor Chris haters jealous of his wife's beauty and sexy look? As for me, Pastor Chris should carry gooooooo, I wish him a happy married life, He deserves to be happy and to be wiht his new wife.

i love it!, it makes me breathless, excited and all lovey dovey,

@ poster, If you can afford it, connect to DSTV and watch and listen how words are spoken, then mimick with a natural voice tone and practise most times when you are indoors, also pretend as if you are talking to someone when practising. best of luck.

Any suggestions

Please i need contact numbers/address of places  where i can  rent graduation gowns,  any suggestions?

hi cooldude62, maybe my 'deceit' initially was and still unforgivaable and unforgetable. But come to think of it, how would you expect me to tell everyguy that woo me that hey! do you know , i was once married before? So, that i wont look deceitful? Sorry bro. i cant tell every guy that comes my way that story until am sure he is getting serious with me.
Ok, what if i keep it to myself , till you deciedes to marry me(if you were the guy) and we were married with two lovely kids and i suddenly tell you; so which is decieitful? my telling you now, when we are not even engaged? or telling you when we are married with kids?
My dear, like someone said 'if he is my destined husband ,time will tell and he will come back and possibly get married to me, regardless of my past. I know of several couples whom their wives was once married to someone else and some have 3kids for their ex husband/ex husbands and their recent husband still dotes on them as if they were virgins.
A nice goodlooking guy proposed marriage to me,few months that i left my ex. I told him i was once married but he said it doesnt matter that he loves me so much and wants me as his wife, but unfortunately i dont love him and i couldnt force myself to love him.
So, if my recent guy is the one for me and we end up togher i will be extremely happy but if not? i will feel so hurt but someone else who deserves me will come and we will both be happy. Am not getting worked up anymore about it, no am not.

@Ezinwannem, yeah you are right been truthful is the best in relationships and am happy my sweet guy appreciates it.
But to pussyfull , or whatever you call yourself, hey ! helloooooooooo not every babe is like you, who has such colourful past especially not me.

@Ezinwannem, yeah you are right been truthful is the best in relationships and am happy my sweet guy appreciates it.
But to pussyfull , or whatever you call yourself, hey ! helloooooooooo not every babe is like you, who has such colourful past especially not me.

He called saying he was coming to my office this morning. He came and gave me a huge hug with our usual hot kiss saying he wont let me go; no matter what happened in my past, cause its in the past and we are the present and possibly the future. hmmm,so sweet, am so happy, thank God.

cos of how he treats me, so loving,caring and attentive. Although , we argue sometims but his actions shows he cares until when i dropped the bombshell of being married and divorced years back. then he became very quiet , after asking series of questions of how it all happened and why did i agree to marry at such young age, which i explained.

am not forcing him to love him , he does love me,  its just that he's silence is making me worried,  or maybe i should give him sometime to be alone and reminisce on what we have.

Thanks @rampant, but i love him so much i need all the luck in this world to make him love me like he use to, how i wish i were perfect, i wouldnt have made that stupid /foolish/dumb mistake of marrying the wrong guy,

Thanks Guys, but sad enough , he stopped calling, he doesnt answer my calls or text anymore , i have a deep feeling he wants out. Well, i dont regret saying it but it hurts that he couldnt accept my past and move on, why do most guys love lies and deceits?

your girlfriend is ssssoooo dumb! well, wish her best of luck with her 419 boyfriend, its her life not mine

Thanks Guys, its a relief.

Phew! its tough but i eventually confessed to my boyfriend that i was once married within two and a half years, when i was like 22years old. But now am 28yrs old,single and have been divorced without kids since 3years ago,  I was scared to tell him initially- fear of loosing him but now am no longer scared. You know why? Cos i feel, if i could  lost the most important love in my life ,MY MUM through untimely death a month ago and am still trying to survive the pain? how much more my boyfriend? It sound harsh but its the way i feel.
  Nothing else matters to me anymore, other than God,my buisness and perhaps my boyfriend if he can handle the truth of my being married and divorced! I know some guys can't handle it , while some don't care as long as there is no contact between me and my ex-husband.
Right now, any decision he takes about us, is ok by me. I want to face anew phase of my life without lies and deceit. And that is my new year resolution from now on and am ready to face it.

None of the above, as for me, average cool looks, strong buisness ideas with a good personality.

Love , to be loved back and security finito

Thanks guyz, but @ lucabrasi, do you know i went to see a junior pastor that is very close to the overseer pastor, and when i told him my plight, he looked sad but told me that their anniversary is extremely important to my pastor and his wife, and with the international summit coming up at the same period my mum is to be buried, then there is simply no way, any junior pastor can be assigned to my mum's wake keeping burial.
I have made up my mind to go to another church ,that has been on my neck for a long while since the day i attended their summit. They've been calling my cell phone often that i should come back and worship with them. This Sunday , am going to the new church , cause time is not on my side. The earlier i make arrangements for the service of songs , the better for me and my household.

@ reindeer, thanks for the advice but i cant confront them afterwards, because if i do , i might regret the words that will come out of my mouth at that time. I will pray to God to heal my heart and make me forgive them and simply move on. Such pastors will never feel remorse because it will create a sign of weakness in them which they will find uncomfortable to talk about. They might even avoid me , its highly possible! Let their conscience judge them, thats if they really have one.

Thank you, everyone, It hurts no doubt, but yes i will definitely change membership to another church close to where i live. Thanks for all your warm response and understanding, what i and my siblings are going thruough. I have laid everything in the hands of God and i know God will never dissapoint me.

Hello, my fellow nairalanders, read my sad but true story, hmmm, my mum recently gave up the ghost a week and a half ago. I went to my church to tell my Pastor, but he was so busy to attend to me. so i decided to see his wife, my mama in the lord. Her first reaction was to blame me for my mum's death because she claims i do not bring her to church regularly which is not entirely true. My Pastor's wife is not always in Nigeria, she travels out of the country almost every time and stays in the ir london branch for a long time before coming back to Nigeria.
  So, tell me , how sure is she, about my mum regular visits to church! My mum has chronic arthritis, but most times we take her to church and  while always i go to churhc praying fervently for her quick recovery. On that ill fated day, she was looking lively, playing wiht everyone until she started to shake and her blood pressure rose and she had a cardiac arrest immediately within 10mins of taking her drugs and thats how she just left us like that. 
   
   When i , explained all to my Pastor's wife; she calmed down, looked me suspiciously as if i wanted to ask her for money. But that was not my purpose of coming to see her or my pastor, all i wanted was ' for god's sake feel concerned about my plight and say encouraging words to me; but none came. She then asked if my mum of 60years was in a department and if not how can anyone come to my house to console me and my siblings. I just kept quiet , and after a deep sigh from her lips ,she said after contacting my families about my mum's death i should get back to her.
  Which i did, earlier today after travelling home last week and came back lastnight.
  But lo and behold. Their personal assistants said i can't see any of them even when i told them my plight and that my main reason for coming back again now , is that i only want there prayers and hymns of songs in the christian wake keeping coming soon. But they insist they can't help me that important personalities are coming from around the world to grace the church anniversary. So, they are too busy to even appoint a junior pastor and choir for my mum's wake keeping.
   I felt so dissapointed, so ashamed and dissolutioned but i simply shook my head and walkd away.
   Can you imagine guys, i Have been a member of that churhc for 4years, while my late mum has been their devoted member for 8years; but now that the chips are down and i want for Godsake is their bloody compassion and prayers for my mum's spirit on her wake keeping!.  But none is coming and its sad, but its also a stark reality which am trying to accept and move on.   THE LORD IS MY STRENGTH,  Can you imagine?

End it! he doesnt love you, except the lady enjoys the beating, then sweet fake words afterwards her choice

@ POSTER, dont mind amber. Allowing women into your home to teach you how to cook your husband's kind of food, will evetually bring disaster in your marraige,even if your man is the most loyal of all men. Just talk to him to allow his brother or brother's wife to show you, how its done . simple.

ha! very funny. am not married yet but am not searching either ,   cooldude what kind of email , did you send to my id?

Word of advise for poster, pls dont smile always , all pretty females with even ugly ones look at each other as compets! expect if you are a female that is self confident about her self and knows that every woman has her own looks and beauty , so why should i envy the other lady. So, dear South african babe, just be yourself and damn any girl that looks at you wiht hate! Someday , you will have female friends that will flow well with your kind of personality and looks, its all in the mind . my dear, thats her/ their headache, let them frown with those hateful looks until they start having wrinkles.

@ poster, forget about most of the guys rantings, guys are like that . The issue is this, when you were deeply inlove with this guy , he was playing hide and seek, always busy not having time for you. And now, he's all luvyduvy and wants to stay committed to you but hellllllllooooo, when you think of all the past lonely nights, unintentionally forgetting your birthday, the slang' pls am busy, will get back to you" and ouch his cold attitude at times ,
Well, i will advise you to let go of your past hurts, and try to relive the wonderful moments between you guyz. Also try and talk to him about the things he did in the past that hurts you. Both of you should sit down and talk, calmly, If this doesnt work, then i guess its time to move on.