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Ok I am surprised no one has said this. . . . .

But don't you guys complain that Nija girls are pretenders.  Could the girls be saying no when they mean yes.  And are only looking for you work a little harder at getting the goods so that she can later pretend that she protested and said no but you insisted, thus keeping her pretend innocence in tack?

don't think so, Not in all cases , some girls dont want it and there's nothing a guy can do about it except rape

@poster, stop having sex wiht him, stop giving him any kind of gifts, Just be friends no strings attached anymore. No more freebies . Someone better will date you, patience my dear , patience.

Arianne, all i can say is Be strong and Lean on God for support and guidance. The world , we live in is very dicey and challenging as one grows older. I come from a polygamous home, my childhood days were tough from day one due to my dad marrying other wives , until last 3years ago, i use to have nightmares about the past and where i grew up. But i tried as much as possible to scale through it and lean on God for support and love.
Relax and cleanse your mind and soul from the past and Listen to God,talk to Him, He wont fail you, it might take time but He knows why certain things happens in one's life. He is there waiting for you to relax,place your burdens on him and trust him. He knows you want a dutiful and loyal husband and that He will provide with time, just lean on Him.
Its not over yet, just be strong and focused on making yourself a better person. Best of luck

Cool, but we only need the bachelors and spinsters here, not the married ones, Bobos and babes wey dey pose too much, competition is coming O! , So buckle your belts on your spouse and tighten your game if need be , Everyone just imagine the scenario, this will be fun to behold

Dont you babes , get it? He wants her to always beg him for money for anything she needs, and while he either promises and never fulfil or give her just a little of what she requested for . , thats after procastinating the issue for about a week or so.
The bottomline is that he wants her grovel at his feet for money, such a sick guy.

@ poster, listen to a word of advice from moi--- please have sex and better still make love to your girlfriend before she leaves for her youth corp but that will not guarantee if she will eventually marry you or not, but at least you wont feel like a looser, if she comes back from her service and start singing another love song for a different brother,  Make love to her not too often before she leaves on february .

@ poster, from what i can pick out from all you've said so far is that , You are tired of still carrying the pain of being dumped by your former girlfriend during your uni days; You are tired of hurting level headed babes that truly loves you; You are so tired of having to believe that love still exist when your conscience forces you to look back at those girls you've hurt, while puffing away your cigarretes and consoling yourself that at least a babe like them, killed every feeling and love you had inside of you. And the most sad part of it, is you are simply tired of God, which should not be.
God has given us choices , no matter how good or bad our final decisions might be on the choice we choose, its now up to us to learn from the bad choice and move on Or live with the bad choice/or memories of it
 All you are doing to your self is just SELF HATE & SELF DESTRUCTION, hope you will wake up someday and simply let go, breathe and trust in God again to restore what has been destroyed.
Think about it, its your life to build Or to destroy, Its your choice.

thanks poster, it was shocking when we heard she died in one hospital where one of her children rushed her to, but she gave up before any medications could be given to her, Women in those situations , no dey hear word from families, MEN CAN NEVER CHANGE FROM WHAT THEY ARE,DEPENDING ON WHO THE PERSON IS, SOME ARE GOOD, SOME ARE DOWNRIGHT BAD--PLEASE DONT GET IT TWISTED

I will leave , such men never stops,its either they destroy her emotionally&mentally for years or as time goes on with the physicall abuse she ends up dead . My aunt lost her life in the arms of her abusive husband,if only she had listened to her sisters& brothers to file for divorce and leave him but she wouldnt, always hoping and praying that he will change someday , what a pity and she was so pretty, may her soul rest in peace,amen.

Cash, only? , thats a nice innovation, at least outstanding bills have to be settled after the whole ceremony. Nigerians should "Bone" and follow suit

, ha, ha very fuuny, am a down to earth babe, not a guy

A guy who does this, see it as a GAME, an exciting and intriguing one for that matter, simply playing with everyone's emotions,

Does how many times have had sex on 2nd dates , matter? thats what am asking H202.
Ibikaye, the guy wont go thruough the entire process of  marriage. He's not signing any dotted lines with any babe He will simply put on his shinning armour, looking responsible, and talking real good to convince your folks and you especially that he is serious, and he will even take you out to romantic dinners, buy you nice stuffs/jewelleries and if he is a real pro, he wont touch you throughout your outings together;just feel his sweel manly scent , is ok by him , with time, my dear you will beg to be laid with little or less persuasion, Just a matter of time and he aint getting married either, hell no.

, what can i say? does it really matter?

I aint fucking any 9yards, just saying my words.
Ibikaye, let me ask you a question? what if the guy knows , you will only release the goods to him by offering marriage to you, he meets with your parents, build castles in air, pretending he is planing to build his life around you? and dish out a fake ring, just to have sex with youuuuuuuuuu! And after that he changes from all lovey dovey,nice caring guy and becomes an unfeeling beast , Because it does happen, whether we wish to believe it or not.
What will you do?

@H202, why the tears?
And ibkaye, its not about me, its about why not on the second date? just a question? cause you would have to do it , sooner or later,abi? As for me , it depend on both parties , if they both wish to make love on the 2nd date , not have "sex" it sounds mechanical or something.
Even the 2nd date could take weeks/months before you guys hook up again due to busy work schedules . So? Y not second date? If you both want to

ho , yeahhh , short of words?

ok,ok, we've all gone round in circles about the 1st date , HOW ABOUT SEX ON THE 2ND DATE?

@whatever90, do i have any other choice and at least my hot shot celebrity guy is more eager to get settled with me, than the other guy. I put the other guy through a test last weekend and he failed woefully. My dear , a peacock in hand is better than a million pigeons flying around and i love him but he loves me more. I should be grateful and thankful.

poster, if the guy was really inlove with you and wanted to date you during your friendship, he would have wooed you for a love relationship instead of being friends , since a whole one year. So, it clearly shows that if  even though you love him , he doesnt feel the same way , he simply sees you as a friend; and telling you that hogwash story of why didnt you reveal your feelings to him earlier? My dear, that was just a smart diplomatic answer for not blaming himself of why he's not marrying you instead , as you've made the huge move to say how much you care about him
  Just lick your sour wounds and move on, cause he will only have sex with you and still marry his fiance without batting an eyelid.
don't mind any guy that says , you should have made the first move , when you guys were friends , c'mon, the guy does not have any romantic feelings for you, simple!,  move on, forget him, no matter how hard.

I was walking up the stairs in a shopping complex , when i met this cute/handsome well known guy. And i was like, is this really, ? Oh, my gosh, my heart raced but my face was calm, i just "bone" small , i guess . He was also staring at me too, while walking down the stairs and he said 'Hi'; i smiled and replied 'hi' too. And i asked are you not, Mr.? and he smiled and said yes, live and direct. And he asked , do i have an office in this complex , i said , nope but i came for a seminar. He then gave me his card to call anytime
   As our backs were turned past each other walking, I wanted a last peek so i turned my head backwards to see him one last time for that day and funny enough he did same; our eyes met again and my heart wan burst with excitement and embarassment.
But after that day, i called few days later and a beautiful relationship started which will be consumated into marriage in a few months time

@poster, there is nothing you can really do for now. Anything can happen, nothing is sure especally when it comes to marrying someone you love until , both of you are definitely married. Dont lay all your eggs in her basket yet, until you are back from your trip and see how far your girlfriend and her landlord's son have built up their relationship from eating together and chatting up

hmmm, yummmyyyyyyy so hoooooooooooooooooottttttttttt, with those lips and eyes to die for.

hmmmmm,

now d first one himself might not be d one that will last wt a woman,rich celebrities r known for womanizing

You can say that again, but he has not done any womanizing in my face and i believe he wont disrespect me and do it, Am truly ready for marriage , its just that am scared of choosing the wrong person that night look right at this moment.

@Igwe,

Am afraid you might end up cheating on the first guy with d second after your marriage and the 2 guy might dump you along the line while waiting for him.

I will definitely not cheat on the guy i will eventually marry,not on my life! My marriage vows must be respected, no matter what. And am forseeing the 1st guy will be the one, he'e already talking of where we will relocate to, in a year's time , He's so ready to make me live with him .

Just like Igwe said,

Humorously tell the 2nd guy that you want to get married to somebody (never tell him the person yet) to know his reaction.if nonchalantly then use it as a liberation sign to marry the 1st guy.

I will talk to the 2nd guy and i can imagine what he's answer will be , but no harm in trying anyway, Some guys dont know the luck they have in keeping a certain babe until they lost her.

@DavidDylan , how can i beg him , a pretty babe like me, hell NO! Or else i will keep on begging him throughout the rest of the marriage, no way.

@ whatever90 , how can i be certain that the 1st one is the right husband for me , am so confused and how i wish a miracle will happen and the 2nd guy will just propose instead of looking at me with a 'lazy' eye.

Life na wa

@ poster, your boyfriend do not sincerely love you, he cheated on you twice and i know he will continue to do it again. He wants a break, thats why he's bringing up the past that you cheated on him. Move on, because he will continue to make you feel guilty for the rest of your life, if you still hang on to him.
At 23, your bridges are still building , they are not burnt yet, Although its not easy but withdraw completely from him.

so house girls now fall in love

Are they not humans with warm blood flowing in their veins?