₦airaland Forum

@ poster, i can understand your feeling of boredom , especially when you dont have a job and the kids are not yet coming. my best bet for you is to sit down , think about what vocational skill, you've always wanted to do from when growing up till now. You might love to make crafts with your hands or sewing or painting/sculpting. Depending on what has always caught your fancy deep down within you. After recognising that inbuilt interest, you can then work on it and possible go for a training that will make you become a master of your own . Insteading of waiting for jobs that are really not there.  In Nija these days , it pays to have other vocational skill you can use for yourself and possibly for our new family.
For example, i read marine biology in my university days  but right now , am very happy and comfortable being a fashion designer, thats after going through the necessary training for it. I love my work , am at peace wiht my self, my brain is always working on creative designs to match other good fashion designers we have in this country, so tell me why should i be bored. And to count your blessings, you are even married to a man you love!
 Girl, sit your ass down!and think,  best of luck.

he does not have to stealor borrow to maintain a girl, as long as he is earning an income and the chosen girl is not greedy, i should forsee no problem. its a 2way thing, dont mind Rotimy, keep searching.

at poster, pls dont mind rotimy , of course such girls who would love to be with you without thinking of cash all the time , still exist in the city but are few in number. The village girls are even the worse, especially when you bring them to the city. Keep on searching and you will finally meet the girl of your dreams , it takes patience and prayer. Goodluck in your search

@ poster, i concur to what your friend is saying about pregnancy before marriage. ok, take a look at young married couples in churches these days hoping to become pregnant , with days , weeks and even months of prayer sessions from their Pastors, believeing that someday their wives will become pregnant and bear children.
Its sad to note , that couples waiting to get pregnant are increasing daily and to make matters worse, when they are married , the wife would have to  bear the brunt of inlaws insinuating that she had misused her body when she was single thats why she can't conceive .  The pressure both parties go through after getting married like a year later, is something to think about.
Your friend is trying to avoid such pressures and worries, and i feel he is not going to change is mind about her if she gets pregnant before marriage. All, she had to do, is insist on engagement first, then leave the rest to God, who provides for one.
  As for me, i will definitly get pregnant even up to 3months before marriage and my fiance wont leave me ,  That my view.

who cares    about how far the thread don go,  That na ya own & to some tight assed guys, but come to think of it ? seriously its moving up the thread again  . so, dear Nothing do mE.

After trying some stuff with gals in the name of love, giving,sacrificing,sharing,risking my life and all that and found out the effort i made wasnt appreciated but concluded maybe the right time to get the right person hadnt come, i decided to concenterate on my carrer and personal life, and believe me it is paying off.
Now i am ready to settle with someone but get scared i would meet the same old unfaithful people.

It has also happend to me in the past , with few guyz have dated. Now, am financially comfortable but scared of guys who are out to use and dump. but all the same it pays to face career first , then love later or better still both can come handy, if you can handle it, But, pls shine your eye and ears well! My brothers are also crying the same story about it.

Power holding has been a failure from day1, Nigerians have bothered so much about the failures of this system, talked about it, groaned about it, even cried and died for it for donkey years. So, i see no reason why i shouldnt relax and amuse myself once a while about celebrity gossip, chikena!

this rope go son die like turkey on christmas day

. Is that whats eating you up whether it stays at top post or not? what a shame.

I dont have to be paid for any amebo work@ vivaladiva, its simply outrageous and annoying that i could be right about my doubts about their union. just speaking my mind

Click on www.sofeminine.co.uk and check the celebrity gossip section,  its there.

News Flash!!!!! Usher filing for separation? I knew it will come to this and i knew Usher marraige to Tameka wont last, but i didnt know it will be so soon as 9months to "smell the coffee". I feel so sorry for Usher, he simply played into Tameka's hands, poor guy . He should have listened to his mum what do you , all think? Right or wrong?

yeah, i pray most times to God for total guidance, cause i really need it and maybe someday i will meet the right person but in anycase @ sheniqua, my parents had a lovely marriage but marriage in the past were good, principled, with a great deal of sense of responsibility and consideration from both partners, not like these days in Lagos. Even ,my cousin such a lovely , gentle lady looks tired, unhappy and lost in her own world anytime i visit her at home, I know she married the wrong guy!  
  But ,by God's grace i intend to shine my eyes, ears and every vein in my body, Its better to be single,free and content with one's personal achievements than unhappily married, confused and in the mercy of fate that things will change in one's home. Well, married couples with such scenarios can attest to this silently and pray for the best in their lives.

The Lord is my strength! Thanks guys.

when i look at most of my married friends, how they live in their homes, with distrust, nonchalance, high rate of infidelity? Its incredible how they survive either as a couple or as an individual. Also, the attitude of most single men, its appalling , . May God help us, it truly scares me to get married. what do you think guyz and babes , ever felt like this?

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you could tell her , as long as you are sure it happened way back before you married your wife, its all in the past and if she's matured and truly wants to keep her home , then she will understand, simple. no matter how Hottttttttttt, she is , best of luck!

Seun are you goodllooking before we should think of ogling you

it baffles me too . Most guys freak out because they feel its sort of a binding commitment to their lover/girlfriend, which is not absolutely true. Telling your babe that you love her does not mean , you have to marry her . So, i guess thats why the guys are scared of saying the LOVE word, Well, to me that their own wahala .  True love do not exist,from moi.

Big father, hmmm maybe,just maybe

Mine was a disaster the guy claimed to be tall,fair in complexion and goodlooking but lo and behold ! when i met him, i cant even different his colour, he has bleached his skin and with Nija hot weather both colours were all mixed up I couldnt even wait for 3mins to go by, i just walked,

Lets talk, send me a mail to alfreda_swiss@yahoo.com. hope you are indeed sincere.

its a little bit easy to get such description of a working class lady and who are ready to commit to a relationship, but most working class guys are not ready for commitment,they still want to play around.

cos he said my love is too passionate for him and that he cant love me the way i do him. So,he does not wish to waste my time and give me false hopes, It hurts sha but i will get by. why do we fall inlove with partners that dont truly care?

In Nigeria, its a terrible error for a girl to toast a guy!
- first, the guy wont take the relationship serious , even if she's so cute
- the relationship will never last , cause deep in the guy's mind he will be feeling like, 'how many guys have this babe toasted? if she can walk up to me boldly and say all these love talk.
For crying out loud, guys want to be the hunters, they are in dire need of such titles. So, babes NEVER TOAST A GUY if you want a true relationship but for a one night stand ,you can go ahead with all the blessings from moi!

True or false? Pls no yabs O! my heart cant stand it,ok?

no more getting worried about the other person when he doesnt call for a longwhile, simply laid back, watch, flirt and do wherever i want without someone breathing down my neck, but it can be lonely sometimes , sha.

proudly capricorn

@ Sirop, u r lying, u r in Nigeria, simply playing games

getting married as quickly as possible is a mindset spell that has been cast on girls thruough their parents from the day they statrted primary school till whatever time they finally get hitched. As for me its a pity, cos its not by going through the four walls of a university or polytechnic that makes one ready emotionally , financially and otherwise about marriage; marriage is a different ball game that needs to be taken slowly but surely. No wonder divorce rates are high, and very unhappy married women and men are abound, pretending they are happy to the public, well ,its their call, as for me am not rushing into marriage, best of luck.

Thanks @ sienna and chuxy. I reside in Lagos. How abt you, chuxy?

Hey, am Deltan from warri, hello guys, @ sienna, i like your pic, are you taken?

Thumbs up Vivi, i like what you are offering and your location is good. Be expecting a very enthusiatic student very soon.

dump her, enough is enough.