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erico2k2:
Poor girls cannot go to where rich dudes go to

Yes. True. I agree

dicefrost:
You are not a gold digger dear, you are just pained. It hurts being a feminist in a patriarchal society, that's why most of your kind are pained and angry. Weather you like it or not, you can't change the balance of nature. Your longing will be for uour husband, and he will dominate you! If you refuse to be under a man, you will grow old single and lonely! It is a man's world!

In my country, feminists are recognised and besides, no man is and no man will dominate me. Seems you don't know me

Disclaimer: Im entitled to my opinion.

When feminists clamor for gender equality, the hypocritical men will say a man is the head, bla bla bla. They start to quote all the verses from 2000 years old bibles.

But when we agree that we ain't equal and want the men to do their job that makes them "the head" they say marriage is a partnership.

Marriage is NOT a partnership.

In business, we have debtors and creditors. In marriage, a woman is a creditor, whilst the man is a debtor. Calm down, I'll explain.

Let's get down to the way "God" ordained it. 1 Timothy 5 : 8 and 1 Timothy 3: 4 let us understand that IT'S A MAN'S JOB to provide for his wife and children in all ramifications include finance. The same bible that make the man the head is the same bible that makes it clear that a man is to provide for his family not the wife and husband. It's the husband alone.

Excuse me, a man has an idea, he shares wth his wife if the wife is not ok with the idea, no one cares the man makes the final decision even if the wife is not ok. So that authority the man has over his wife, the price to pay is to fend for his wife and kids in all ways. Even as small as making her hair. Any damage, the man is to bear the damage in shield of the woman.

1 Peter said a man should not cover his hair in the church as his head is the glory of God and the woman's hair is the glory of the man. So, now tell me, how is marriage a partnership?

I'm atheist, let me leave the religious sector. Let's get down to logic. A man getting married to a woman is incuring an expense. The desire for children and what not. A man is to cater for his children's finances ! Not the wife.

So when I say that a man must have a house and a car should not be taken literally. In the financial world before loans are granted, depending on the creditor, a requirement is a house and a car. Not like the house is a collateral or the car is, but it's actually a yardstick in estimating the probability of repaying the loan. A man must have a house and a car doesn't necessarily mean it must be a physical car. The point is, a man must have money worth enough to get a house and car before finding himself a wife.

I know you gonna ask what is the woman's quota? Yes a woman helps her husband in his endeavours. A companion and a helper. A woman's job is to help take care of the children and household while the man brings the funds.

So a man is a debtor. A man owes his woman and owes his children.

Marriage is no partnership. Everyone has his or her duty.

P.s insults are welcome. Those calling my father and mother, you are also welcome. Those calling me a gold digger you are also welcome

kushma:
after reading this your post with no meaning in life I went to your profile to see ur dp I was not surprised with what I saw I knew u would not have the shameful face to put your real dp then I kept wondering whether ur dad during his day if he had a car and a house before he married ur mom? Please don't be deceive from the movie you watch all these Nigerian movies because life is not a bed of roses what if you marry man that has all these then later he got broke and had no other option than to sell them so would you also leave him for another already made man or would u then turn to a full tym runs girl to meet your needs?

That's my photo.

You can make a reverse search on the image young man.

Smh

teddyYz:
You are trying to say that I am not man enough to get married?

If you can't afford a house and a car, yes.

yaki84:
forgive my tone, but if na so u think ur papa for no marry ur mama.

Oh my father again. My dad had a house and a car.

Oh daddy you are a celeb on nairaland

edetty:
Dude usually I don't often comment on forums, buh let me begin by stating this, I prefer mixed raced (colored girls),like I said PREFER,,wch means personal preference, not a rule,,to white or black girls,dats just because my sister and 80% of the cousins I grew up with are Caucasian looking, so I naturally got used to it and liked it better, if I wàna Marry I wld marry for love and compatibility not color,now to face your comment,, u shd stop this ñonsense rant on a ñaija forum, Indians are not even classified properly,, ur neither whites nor Caucasians, ur considered in many caucuses as BLACKS,,so I don't get wat ur defense is àbt,if u wàna continue attacking that beautiful young lady(evagran),be my guests, it's me u will face now,,for any more foul remark to any beautiful Nigerian or black woman on this site or globe, medically the black skin is a gift against all forms of medical conditions, e.g inflammation and other dermatological conditions, pray to marry one so ur children wld be saved from sun burns and the likes,,awaiting your reply

All this stories for some dude? FYI Caucasians don't consider Indians as blacks! We call them Punjab or Paki.

Blacks are very different from Indians. Bantu Negroid not Indian. Indian not bantu.

You are attacking the Indian because he is in support of the op? I don't get it. Why are you against him?

Both!

But personally, i prefer Indian men.

Cutehector:
Mchew..


Boyfrnd or girlfrnd seems better jor.


If u call her soulmate nw, na so she go dey reason marriage.

If you do not intend to marry her, you wont call her your soulmate. You can call her your partner

Tallesty1:
Difference in religious view = incompatibility.



I don't like anything that will gimme or my kids troubles in the future.

It can be managed. What if the woman you truly fall in love with is not same religion with you? Will you let her slide because of that?

If you're tired of referring to your man as your boyfriend, then there are a few other terms that you can use when you want to talk about him. You probably want to skip over terms like "bae" and use words that sound a little more mature and responsible depending on who you are talking to. Don't worry, because there are plenty of them out there. If you're interesting in renaming your partner, here are a few alternative words to "boyfriend" that sound just as sweet:

1. My Better Half

You've probably heard some single women say that they're looking for someone to complete them (which is misleading, since you're already whole). However, that common phrase is why some people will call their boyfriend their "other half." Of course, it's even better to call him your "better half." That way, it makes it sound like he brings out the best parts of you, which is exactly what the right man should do.

2. Soulmate

Some people believe that they were destined to meet the love of their life, because their souls are connected in some way. Even if you don't buy into that, it's still sweet to call your boyfriend your soulmate. It suggests that there's a deep connection between the two of you that extends beyond physical attraction.

3. My Partner

This is a short and simple way to refer to your boyfriend. Of course, it's pretty vague. That's why you should use it when you aren't interested in going into detail about your partner. When you use this term, it'll be impossible for others to tell if you're dating or married, with a man or a woman, or talking about a business partner or a romantic partner. It'll help you keep your private life private.

4. My Beloved

If you want to remind your boyfriend that you love him, then you should refer to him as your beloved. The word "love" is actually hidden inside, which means that your man will never forget how much you care. Plus, it's a term that you don't hear all that often, which is why you'll sound unique when you use it!

5. Significant Other

As you probably already know, significant means "sufficiently great or important to be worthy of attention." That's why this term is so cute! It suggests that your partner is one of the most important things in the #world. If that's the truth, then you shouldn't hesitate to use this term.

6. My Intended

This is an adorable way to refer to your boyfriend! It could mean a variety of #things. It could mean that you're intending on marrying him, that you're intending on raising his children, or that you're intending on spending the rest of your life with him.

You can refer to your partner in a number of ways. You can use one of the terms on this list, or you can create your own! What do you usually call your boyfriend?

firstking01:
your father wasn't rich ba??, but you want the man that wants to marry you to buy land build house, buy a care ba??...you are a potential golddigger in sheep clothing, gerrarahia mehhhn

My father, wasn't rich! I repeat! If you did not read, read it again:

He was able to cater for himself, his wife, Myself, and my 3 Brothers and 2 sisters. Six Kids! Thats what matters. Don't modify my post. I never said a man must be "Rich". Riches are dynamic depending on the individual

Someone who could cater for 7 people conveniently, who never lacked anything, obviously, had a house and a car. I'm way smarter than you are. You cant prey on my intelligence. I am aware of what i've written and it doesnt change. You should read it again for better understanding.

Thanks

Strahovski1:
Nice thread.

My wife is christian whilst i'm hindu. I respect her religion, she respects mine.

Its a good thing for people in relationships to respect each other's religion not trying to enforce or convert them. That aches my heart.

I thought its an abomination for Hindu to lay with non-hindu?

oloyede252:
still doesnt change the fact that you dont have a car or house.and also your father wasnt rich when he married your mother meaning he didnt have a car or house..so why the thread?

And where is it written that Vinshu doesnt have a car or house and her father wasnt rich when he married her mother?

Religion has no doubt been doing a great job in shattering the homes of the married and breaking bonds two singles have for each other. Religion has been a controversial factor in relationships all over the world. Although, i preach against religion most times but for those who are already sunk in it. There are ways you can handle a relationship whereby your partner is of different religion. interfaith relationships can work perfectly if you respect each other's different views

1. Respect

If you're in a relationship with someone of different religious views to your own, always respect their faith, even if you don't agree with it. Even if you think that yours are the correct views, they have different opinions. Each of you needs to respect and acknowledge that the other has the right to their views.

2. Don't Try to Convert Them

Your faith (or lack of) is obviously important to you. But however much you wish that your partner would share your views, you shouldn't try to convert them to your religion. They may decide to do so, but it has to be in their own good #time and their own decision. Equally, if you are an atheist you shouldn't denigrate your partner's beliefs - if you're that against religion, you shouldn't be with someone who has a faith.

3. Children

If you decide to have children in an interfaith relationship, you will need to discuss how you want them to be brought up. Will they be raised in one religion, or learn about both and decide when they're older? Again, it is important that they are brought up seeing that both parents have respect for the other's faith.

4. Discuss

Since faith can have a major impact on a relationship, it's essential to the health of the relationship to talk about the issues involved. Don't ignore them and hope it will all resolve itself. Talk about how your families react, where you would get married, and how you will raise your children.

5. Open Mind

Always keep an open mind about your partner's religion or atheism, even if you don't understand why they feel the way they do. If you have a strong faith, or no interest in religion at all, it can be perplexing or upsetting that your partner feels so differently. But accept that they have the right to their opinions, and that nobody is 'right' or 'wrong.'

6. Learn

Try to learn something about your partner's faith or lack of. That doesn't mean you have to change your views, just that you should try to see #things from a different perspective. It will also be interesting to learn about a different faith; every religion (and atheism) has its merits, but should also be open to questioning.

7. Support Your Partner

Finally, support your partner and their right to hold different views. It can be very challenging if your family dislikes you dating outside their faith, but if you want the relationship to last you will need to defend your partner. If they #face hostility, and you don't speak out, it will undermine the relationship.

Dating outside your faith is a challenge, but can also enrich your life. More interfaith relationships could actually be a very positive thing - we shouldn't forget that we're all human! Have you been in an interfaith relationship, and what were the challenges?

thundafire:
entrepreneur very funny am already a fedreal government worker nd u c am bigger nd better than u in all ways i have my own house but u cnt boast of urs i bet u still stayin under ur dad roof or squatting with a frnd or better ur boyfriend who still feeds on mamas purse

You realize you cannot compare a government worker in Nigeria with an Entrepreneur in Europe! Can you compare? My currency alone is bigger than yours. Perhaps you don't know who you quoting. Again, get a life.

Speaking of a house, yes i do have a house. Our government is sooooo good that every working class person is entitled to housing. I bet your government couldn't do that for you thats why you all run down here.

firstking01:
i actually buy what you said, but answer this question with all sincerity of heart, how rich was your dad before marrying your mum??

My father wasn't "Rich"! He was able to cater for himself, his wife, Myself, and my 3 Brothers and 2 sisters. Six Kids! Thats what matters. Don't modify my post. I never said a man must be "Rich". Riches are dynamic depending on the individual

thundafire:
can u fend 4 urself nd be called a workig class abi dis hunger dn 2 affect ur empty brain i c no wonder ur post no get likes mumu

Oh yes, i can fend for myself because i am an entrepreneur. (If you know what that means)

Better go out there and pass along your CV(If you have any) to get a better paying job and have a life. Not wasting away

adeaks:
Only guys with houses and cars should even date.


Simple question: when your dad was dating your mom, did he have a house and a car?

Let's start from there.

YES HE DID.

Let's continue

Jostico:
hey vinshu wassup

HI dearie! I'm cool.

Hope you're good too?

Strahovski1:
P.s are you an accountant? Love the thread

No not really. I'm actually an Economist.

In order to reduce the level of poverty amongst homes, in my opinion I think a man who has not enough money to buy a house of his own not rent at least a 3 bed room flat and a car to move him and his family around should not get married.

When he gets married in his low credit, the family tends to suffer. The probability that he will get rich is actually 0.5 not up to 1 because Sundry expenses will now become expenses when married. Things he could ignore when single will now be important.

When children arrive, the probability of getting rich falls to an all time low of 0.2. Have you observed that most men have a higher credit score when single? If you have $500 at the end of every week when single if your job/income doesn't change or upgrade when you get married your $500 falls to $200 because you no longer feed yourself but feed a woman and probably a child.

When the child grows older school fees will set in. And other bad debts will be incured .

Don't get me wrong, I ain't saying he will never make it but in the mean time, why bring a child to the world to suffer? Even if it's for 6 years before you make it? Why take a woman from her father's comfy house to hardship in the name of marriage?

I advice ladies never to get married no matter how cool a guy is unless he is proven to be able to cater for your needs and that of your children financially in all ramifications both expenses and sundry expenses.

It doesn't make any sense, what you enjoy when single as a lady why stop enjoying it because your husband has no money or your money now goes to supporting him?

They say women ain't equal to men. Ok let the men be rich and rich enough to take care of their wives 101% before getting married. In fact, studies show most men marry for sex.

Why are you jumping from one bed to another?

Good thing my man doesn't like big asses

#TeamSkinny

Specialbaby:
it takes the grace of God to prevent a man from cheating dear especially when there are so many temptations!!!



Will you condone a cheating hubby If NO, why go for the man that is the prince charming of every young girl and expect him to be all faithful all his life knowing fully well the flesh is weak Or do you think those ladies would back out even after knowing he is legally married?

Like I said, even a guy who is broke will still cheat if he wants to so will a rich prince charming do same. If you are good for your hubby he won't cheat on you.

Besides if he does and you haven't caught him, it's ok. When you find out, a divorce is free.

Wisdomkosi:
i pity your type because you will end up badly. Calling me a broke nigga won't help you marry a rich guy, calling me an ugly guy won't help marry handsome guy, rather it will surely add more to your problems. No time to exchange words with you

Lol you know I have a husband.

Specialbaby:
hello!



A man can't have it all,it either he is handsome and broke or weathly and ugly,if a man have it all then marrying such a guy would be dangerous since so many girls out there will surely be on the chase!


So if you are not ready to share your man,go for one that will not pose much treat!!!

A man who will cheat will cheat. Rich or poor.

So that's not an issue. Even if girls flock around it doesn't mandate that he cheats.

Broke ass nigga!!!!

If you are handsome and rich you won't post this.

Happy sunday to all of you.

Cc evegran



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