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Ifyjos:
She was the breadwinner , she helped a distant cousin with money to start business, if she could help a cousin and why not me her blood sister? She doesn't pay my child school fees but she does help if my guy doesn't have the money and before we get the money we will receive insults just because we are poor and she was rich . I'm 20 and going to be 21 on march 28
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Lolzz, seriously your sister should start up business for you and your supposed baby daddy. Is she that extremely rich, have she not done enough by training your child in school.
How old are you again?

You're dumber than a door knob , I have brothers and sisters too and I know I'll rather help an outside than some blood brothers or sisters. The thing is it's evident she has seen that you and your boyfriend are a no good bunch and money spent on both of you is a waste that's why she gives you only handouts and I'm guessing she's only doing so because of your child. Get your acts together and start showing some dedication and seriousness to a cause and you'll see how your sister will change towards you

ireneidiva:
You said your guy is a good guy. This is what good guys do? Good guys impregnate 15 year olds? Good guys frame people up?

I was about to ask the same thing , she herself isn't a good person so what do you expect

Prettiedame:
You should turn this into a movie. Blood Sisters

Omotola and Genevieve

Director: Tchidi Chikere

Nairalanders will not kill me

Authoreety:
Respect people's belief

For those quoting me;
I'm not in support of the parents stance, but we should mind what we say or do about what others believe in

So their belief is enough for the child to die abi If the blood transfusion is for them and they don't want to that's their own cup of tea but for a child who can't make a decision by herself at that stage then that belief is stewpid

Gloriousheart:
I still don't understand why they prefer an innocent person dying to blood transfusion. Lagos State government, well done ojare for saving the innocent baby's life.

If it's their adults who choose to die, I won't even bat an eyelid...but for a newborn or child? Abeg, the child has a right to life despite the parents religious beliefs!

The parents ought to be jailed

Iamkayned:
Nigerian girls have turned social media apps designed for connecting with new people and staying in touch friends, family and acquaintances to a hub for digital prostitution. When Zuckerberg designed Facebook or when Kevin Systrom and Mike Krieger built Instagram from a co-working space in San Francisco, when Sean Rad invented Tinder or when the trio of Evan Spiegel, Bobby Murphy, and Reggie Brown created Snapchat, they probably didn’t envisage that their apps would become platforms for prostitutes to advertise their goods and services in Nigeria.

People who return to Nigeria for holidays are often shocked when they discover that they can’t get dates or meet decent people to start friendships with on Nigerian Tinder. A huge percentage of the girls you’d see there are for “strictly hookups or massage with happy ending” as some boldly indicate on their bio’s. It’s really embarrassing! According to them, when you meet a girl/guy on Tinder overseas, it’s never for sex, it can lead to sex but you’re very sure you matched with a person with a job/profession who genuinely wants to meet new people, make new friends or go out on dates. There are different apps/websites strictly for meeting with prostitutes.

According to Britannica, sex has always been one of the few pleasures of the poor and oppressed. Nigeria is the poverty capital of the world. Do the math! While sex is part of normal human behavior, prostitution on the other hand is frowned on morally and legally in Nigeria and has now evolved from the road side and brothels to social media apps. An unofficial survey revealed that the Transportation Network Industry in Lagos and Abuja (Uber and Taxify) generates 80% of it revenue from 8pm to 6am (with numerous instances where these females offer sex acts to drivers as payment for their ride fares #sexforrides).

It is left up to you to determine whether you support their lifestyle and professional choices or not. What should be a cause for concern is that the money these girls make from digital prostitution is tax-free. Our government is broke! Looking for loans here and there while we have millions of young females raking in an average of 200,000 Naira on a monthly basis tax free (using Lagos State and Abuja as our reference points) with an average income of 20,000 Naira per night.

In more developed countries you are obligated by law to pay your personal income tax regardless of your occupation. Businesses regardless of size and revenue across the country pay taxes, why shouldn’t these people pay taxes too? They can be classified as business owners because there is a monetary payment in exchange for a service(s) in multiple transactions. The sex-tax would be difficult to enforce because prostitution is illegal in Nigeria and social media space is simply uncontrollable. However, if the government is willing to generate more internal generated revenue this would be a gold mine! In the words of Nelson Mandela, “It always seems impossible until it’s done.”

Sadly, in Nigeria governance and religious doctrines go hand in hand! Nigerians are not objective with issues such as this, they are extremely sentimental. Too many revenue streams are ignored because of religious morality and laws fueled by religious morality. Nigeria might be the capital of hypocrisy in the world.

Fegor Okonedo
IG/Twitter: @fegurgreen

i don't get , isn't prostitution illegal ? Taxing it will make it legal

Prec1ous:
Dimwit? Is that also your best line?

That is the point. I can smell your defeat and crestfallen ego from miles away.

You should have countered all my points but since your thinking faculty cannot grasp it, it is better to clutch to straw and run away.

Who cares about your niece, is it not worrisome that she is smarter than you,at least you are sure she can do better and but you are a gargantuan embodiment of errors and dumbness.

So called independent woman, you should have countered my point with those nonsense you pull from you mucour filled brain.

Since you recognize idiots, I can now conclude that you are the queen of idiots.

What senseless idiotic points have you made , your dumbness is now very evident. Comprehension is not your forte and I can't blame you for that since you're an iidiot. Please go back and read my replies to this thread again but this time very carefully and if you still don't understand then I can't help you further. Oponu omo jati jati

Prec1ous:
OH, you want the insultive route....

Instead of brains, you have mucor and mold inside your skull.

Independent woman, but you will be hitched to a man while accepting offers from other men and this makes sense to you from every angle.

Independent woman that cannot take a hike when the man is not serious but will wait for him to end things while still opening legs like wide like a tree branch for any man that baits her with marriage.

You think you have sense or make sense. I wonder the idiots who take people like you serious. Because you have expressly shown that your thinking prowess is projecting geometrical to the negative x-axis.

You are really a "Braindependent" woman

Now I know you're a dimwit , your brain is filled with mucor and mold is that your best line please this is just so juvenile and my little niece can do better than that. It would be senseless to trade words with you , you know what they say about trading words with iidiots.

Prec1ous:
If you are not getting ring like you expected, leave the relationship na. Why will you stay with someone and start cheating or sleeping with other men? That is what he is asking you!

Since you're too thick in the head to understand me I'll make this simple , if after a year and a half you tell me you're not sure where the relationship is heading I'll start accepting offers from other men who are serious , I will not hide this fact since that seems to be your grouse , it is left to you to either take a hike or be committed to a reasonable end , and while you're at it sex is off the table. I'm an independent lady so I don't even ask men for financial favours , your loss

1StopRudeness:
How long does it take to get to marriage lane??See, all this ur question is standard textbook approach to relationship ...there’s no standard time...some guys are desperate enuf to propose under 24hrs, some 2weeks, I’ve seen 6months, and I’ve seen 7years...there’s no fast rule

What is : if in a year..., if in 18months,.what’s all these time line??. sounds like a line from a 34 year old and above babe everyday talk.....

No one is forcing anybody to be in a relationship, if the condition isn’t cool with u anymore, take a hike....but telling me I don’t have a right to complain that u are looking outside without calling it off with me just becos I’ve not taken u to mama is the highest form of nonsense I’ve ever heard...... what makes u think because I’ve not given u a ring now means I won’t give u at all??

So I'm supposed to just wait on the hope that you'll give me a ring even if you haven't done so in 7 years , listen to your bullcrap. So I wait 7 years and you suddenly realise you're not meant for me , please say something else. And you saying it's textbook approach is just an excuse for your philandering ways , the earlier you let her know the better for both of you.

1StopRudeness:
U are approaching relationship matters with a textbook approach....

ofcourse as a man, if I’m 200% sure I’m just using a girl as a booty-calll..it won’t really bother me if she’s cheating...but if we are dating genuinely and the relationship has not blossomed to the marriage lane...does that now mean I shouldn expect faithfulness from her??

Isn’t that what all women expect too weda they are ready to marry you or not....so far you are entering them, they don’t expect you to enter another woman ......

How long does it take to get to the marriage lane If in a year or thereabouts you're still not sure about marriage with her then you can't blame her if she looks outside. I don't know what you guys are on about , he stated clearly that you shouldn't waste the lady's time by dating for years and you still claim you're not sure about marriage with her. If after a year or at most 18 months and you're not clear about the direction of the relationship you don't have a right to complain if she looks outside

izzou:
[color=royalblue]You do not support cheating, but you are saying I shouldn't go haywire if I found out she cheated? Ogaaa

People go into relationships for different reasons. If we agree to be in one, then faithfulness is a requirement. The moment you feel I don't have any plans for you, jejely quit instead of cheating

The guy who doesn't have a plan for marriage may not be cheating on her. So why injure him emotionally? The lady who doesn't have a plan for marriage may not be cheating on him. So why injure her emotionally?

Stop turning your point like Amala. If you really do not support cheating, then edit your thread, advising the guy or the lady to quit, and not saying "He/she shouldn't be mad if She/he cheats" [/color]

A polyamorous relationship is also a relationship so what are you on about

donstan18:
You must be one of the admirers of your friend's girlfriend.

That is your interpretation of his write up ? smh

There are accidents that have claimed the lives of clergy men while "carnal men" are left unhurt , what would you call that , unholy intervention

femi4:
She wrote "No pun intended" i.e Her intention is not to joke with Islamic religion

Wrong usage , there has to be a pun in her statement to use that phrase.

femi4:
"A pun is a joke exploiting the different possible meanings of a word or the fact that there are words that sound alike but have different meanings."

So where was the pun in what she wrote

AIIyIic:
Please, no pun intended here. Just trying to get my facts right and make proper decisions. Do Muslims see visions and do they fall in trance?
Lalastica

What pun

NwekeUG:
http://igberetvnews.com/1222755/sen-elisha-abbo-eats-prison-inmates-new-year-day-photos/

Good thing he's practising down for when he will jailed

Goalnaldo:
So one should read the Quran smoking Taj weed (weed from Tajikistan) religion for the marlians.

Sounds like weed from the Taj Mahal

I joined nairaland because of sisisioge and she's still very much around.




Asides that 3 other dudes I think....

Olorididan (writes great poem)
Davidylan (PhD holder, loves his argument)

....and one last one who writes great stories. Can't remember his moniker.

That isn't even her first moniker

pocohantas:
Whatever misconception they have is actually a tip of the iceberg to how evil I am or can be.

Then it's not a misconception

dayleke:
You funny.
She said she no want that.

You do realise that in about 4 months and 4 weeks this thread will be 14 years old , that would mean she would be 40 years by then

kingreign:
This is a good one by the man. He has standards and morals which he holds in high regards. What would make a person looseguard dangerously like that?
Imagine a wife to be drinking to stupor and getting knocked out senseless and to even humiliate the man even more, she claimed(s)
She got drunk and slept with a mutual friend of theirs (sic). This is the height of indicipline and waywardness.


Ladies of easy cheap virtues.

Tueh

He has high standards yet he cheated on her initially Nah , he doesn't have high standards , he has double standards

reccy:
Well, the equation is balanced now... They both cheated and they both felt the heat....
I don't blame the man at all... What was the lady thinking of before, he will marry her Wed a hole Who does that?

If you can't be responsible during courtship , is it after wedding that you will now be responsible?? After given the certificate you both signed that you will be responsible
You dy mad

Abeg the man deserve an award....

Didn't you read the part where she said he had cheated on her before

Everyone is castigating him , even the males here but if he was a fine guy with 6 - 8 packs and well toned body all the ladies would start to get wet and males would applaud his physique. Everybody who has posted thus far are hypocrites.
You have my support brother

Roycemadeit:
Englishmart
When a child is born blind, the child probably made someone blind in his past life. The Bible can't give you this knowledge because those that know seek to cage our minds with fear.

This is the biggest bullshit I've heard all year

englishmart:
I guess I'm beginning to wake up to that reality.

You are really getting smart now

alphaNomega:
When this is over, the man who brought a handgun to church should go for psychiatric evaluation. He might be the next shooter

It wasn't just one person who bought hand guns to church

TonyeBarcanista:
Guy, na you find trouble! Even me sef de suspect say your eye de chook for the babe as you don de reason her as second mother.

This is the dumbest thing I've heard all day

chival:
He probably doesn't have the funds to rent a new apartment yet. He'll leave eventually. Home owners should learn to have compassion for their tenants. The state of affairs in the country is causing millions to suffer untold hardship.

So he's to keep living there without payment until he can raise money to move

Nelly909:
Nah bullet or pellet which one dem remove

At least both end with llet

Alwaysachick:
I've been seeing this guy since we got introduced to last May. First off he asked me if I was in any relationship and I said no. So we kicked off got intimate within 2weeks. Happened he was a virgin and that was his second relationship.

He is into me for reasons I can't figure out, but he is very unstable and unsure. Before we got intimate, I felt we were already dating, but after that the constant highs and lows made me ask him again and he said he cares about me, but he is not ready for something serious now. I love to respect peoples decisions and not clingy so I let him be.

He kept coming around, he always needed one help or the other cuz he was new to the area. Sometimes when he ask for help, he says he will pay but for where, I just felt he didn't want to raise my hopes.

I told him off severally, but he kept coming, same high and low, we get intimate once in a while. Personally, I love this guy but couldn't say if it was mutual.

So fast forward to last week, he gave me his tab to help him do some work. So in the course I playfully went to his photos and saw nothing but as an old girl in the game, I went to his recycle and saw romantic pictures with a girl at the beach. The only thing is they didn't kiss but everyother thing termed romantic was in the pictures. That same beach event, but alone, he tagged it on Instagram as " create time for love".

I asked him who the girl was and he told me it was his friend from Abuja that just came him so he was showing her around town. I'm an outdoor freak, I've suggested to take him to the beach but he turns down that he doesn't like the beach.

He also claimed the girl is his friend's girlfriend and that his how they all play with their girlfriends.

Another, was a post of a delivered cake on Instagram to someone in Abuja. Quote" I owe you roses for every breath you take" he said it was to his cousin that she was having a bad day.

At the peak of the argument he said i should stop calling him a liar and I can think whatever I want he doesnt owe me any explanation.

I even had to call his close friend who introduced him which I have never done before to know if he was in a relationship but he said no ofcourse I didn't expect him to say otherwise.

So later the day I sent him a text of appreciation for the decit because he never wanted to commit and never wanted to go.After reading, he blocked me. Its three days now, he is yet to unblock me.

I really want to know if I should just move on or apologise for calling him a liar. Or was I wrong to have concluded he was in an affair.

I want genuine suggestions please I'm still heart broken.

To be honest I don't believe everything you wrote , it's either you're not giving us the full account of what really transpired or your story is heavily embellished. I'll rather hear his own side of the story as well