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You are a keen observer of human nature.

Cousin9999:
1. Intimacy - Some feel older women are better at it.

2. G4y - Many closeted men seem to choose older partners for various reasons/beliefs.

3. Maturity - Some feel their peers are silly, and older women offer the relationship they want (e.g., serious long-term commitment, intelligent conversation, similar mentality).

4. Friendship becomes a relationship - Sometimes when an older women mentors a younger man, they become quite close. I guess admiration for her, and her desire to protect, transforms feelings. I suppose personalities are a factor too.

5. Divorcees with terrible exes - Some younger men may see them as a victim, see them struggling, and feel like the young strong man that can "save" them.

6. Easy relations - Young men may see an attractive older woman as an easy way to get you-know-what.

7. Men don't care - Men just like women. She could be 105. If she looks good in tight shorts, they will try to talk to her.

8. Boytoy - Some women date younger guys for fun. This may be an attractive relationship for a young guy because he feels little pressure. He just chills in her mansion, drives her benz, and she never asks for much.

9. Honesty - Younger guys may feel an older woman will be more upfront about what she wants (physical, boyfriend, boytoy, etc). So he can deal with less drama.

10. Fantasy - It's common for people to fantasize about older people or people in positions of power (hot teacher, hot boss, boss's wife etc). Some men like the idea of smashing an older woman who fits that profile.

11. Taboo - It's considered inappropriate, tacky, or even disrespectful to do it. That makes it very appealing to some guys.

12. Challenge - Some guys know that an older woman entertaining their advances is a bit unusual. They like being able to "pull" an older woman, and have her act silly over them. They like that she's genuinely attracted to a much younger guy that technically shouldn't have what it takes to attract and keep older women.

13. Learning about women/Shy - Some young guys are able to get older women more easily than younger because they're too shy or lack confidence with peers. Older women may respond more to them, and be more understanding. Older women then basically date them and groom/mold them into more attractive guys. They realize how much they learn about women (and life) this way, and keep doing it.

14. Fetish - They're the guys that only want to know where the cougars are.

You have spoken the truth but I will add that the males have been depreciating rapidly too.

Most single women over the generations have destroyed their son's masculinity so a large proportion of men in the West and Western influenced nations are no longer able to take charge and be leaders in their homes and communities.

This was not how it was in the past. Most men knew their place in the world and handled life with all its challenges. Nowadays, western men seek almost as much therapy as women

RisenPhoenix1:
Good manners. Exemplary behaviour. Many older generation women have a grace and a class that this generation of women seem to totally lack. I'm talking about women in their mid-fifties and above.
The older generation of women (seventies and over) have even better manners and class. It seems that modern humans are gradually devolving back into apes; especially the females of our species.

So Jadesola isn't good in bed.

That's sad

It is well

Eillyeillz:
Take out the "Bedmatics" and every other thing you made mention of up there, is why I fell in Love with Jadesola... 7 Years and counting and I'm still In love with a woman very much older than me.

Your response is all over the place.

You started by asking what's my point then you carried on. The problem is if you did not get my point why writing anything at all after that?

Shouldn't you have asked me to clarify?

Therefore nothing you wrote after can be said to reflect any depth of understanding of the points I raised.

And let me correct another of your misfire.

The captivity I was referring to was not Egypt but Babylon.

The Israelites were not captured to Egypt unlike Babylon.

So open your Bible and see whether you can find Israelites with multiple wives returning from the Captivity in Babylon.

I might have missed a reference and I am open to being corrected.

advanceDNA:
What your point??

So becos i don’t support polygamy... I’m a against God’s view?
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The Israelites started out in captivity from
Egypt ...

In fact, the egyptaians were afraid of their growing number and decided to kill some of them....but they still came out marrying wives..
Ur assumption is wrong....

captivity did not stop them before when they came from Egypt’.....why assume captivity stopped them later.......the Bible account didn’t cover everything that happened in isreal post-captivity. So don’t assume..

Ur research is flawed...and God never said marry plenty wives in the Bible... so I don’t get why you are trying to paint polygamy as God’s view.

God don’t interfere in all affairs of man....so, Don’t use David and Solomon as standard...they did wrong...according to the law....go read for ur self....part of the law Moses gave them was that a king should not have many wives Deuteronomy 17v17.....

See how some mentally lazy people are being triggered by hearing one side of the story.

Pathetic.

If the Royal Family tell you the other side you will be shocked.

Meghan has destroyed Harry but the poor boy just doesn't know it yet.

Someday we will watch the interview where she explains why she left Harry and some daft people will also believe her allegations against Harry.

Most people are easily deceived by beautiful women or Handsome men.

We are all entitled to our views but God is not bound by any of them so don't place your views as if they are law.

God is Omniscient. He knows ALL so If he deliberately did not make it CLEAR that polygamy is a sin under this dispensation then that should make you wonder why.

So many sins were deliberately and clearly named in the new testament some 3 or even more times but when it comes to polygamy it remains a grey area, just mentioned as being a no no for any who would be leaders in Church.

Based on my own personal research I have not found anybody who returned from Captivity who had more than one wife so I am led to believe that Polygamy died while the Israelites were in Captivity not because it was a commandment from God but due to cultural reasons or perhaps they were not allowed by their Captors to marry more than one wife.

Perhaps as a strategy to ensure they do not become a larger population like they were in Egypt.

advanceDNA:
Don’t be triggered ....I never said he’s lying...

I have my own views about polygamy...

I believe polygamy is greed...it’s repackaged adultery......women are the same...trust me...

I believe no one can love his wives equally... so already there will be biasness....

Polygamy breeds jealousy among wives and children...
if any woman tells u she’s fine with the fact that her husband is drilling another woman in the next room and will still put the same pen!s in her later on ....then u must believe I’m dangote...
So already I are just hurting several women emotionally who can’t talk because of their desperate need to be married and have children

At the end of the day...polygamy tramples upon the rights of woman..

This is my view.. I am not speaking from religion.


.it’s based on my views I feel that Reno is not alright..

Your question shows you have no deep understanding of Nigeria.

The answer to your question is simple and its

"Yoruba Muslims"

The Yoruba Muslims will almost always place the North above all other interests AND the Yoruba Christians will usually not go against them in public even when they don't agree with them privately.

Igbochief001:
Shame on both igbo n Yorubas for allowing north to control this country

Why can't igbo n yoruba sign a special agreement that guarantees each other supports on things

80% of south south follow igbo
20% south west
40% of middle belt align with Igbos
40% with Yorubas
60% of northern christians are likely to align with Igbos


How then is hausa fulani rulling when igbo and yoruba can work together

Flush out this old leaders n both side let the young ones work together

The most insightful post so far.

The Jelili guy has no focus. Now he has become clannish like his principal Buhari.

The first Northerner recruited from the diaspora has come home to continue Uthman Dan Fodio legacy

CobraAnambra:
There are female mechanics in the south, how much Government funding have they received?

Why must FG always keep putting public funds in almost everything in the north than other regions?
When has a privately owned mechanic workshop become the business of FG?
There are thousands of mechanic workshops scattered across the country, how is it FG business to fund a car repairing business?

Mr. Jelani Aliyu, your appointment as DG NADDC comes with the task of developing automobile infrastructure and Developing blue prints for car manufacturing industry in the country. It's a case of misplaced priority putting public funds in a private mechanic shop. How many mechanic shop enjoy government funding?.
If there is a need to empower female mechanics, it must be an organized program across the six geopolitical zones of the country.

-cobra

My God what do most Nigerians have against reading? Does it hurt or does it cost money?

How could the woman be a divorcee at the time of the incident yet the judge is just now dissolving the marriage and granting custody of the kids to the man?

There is a reason why they insulted black people that to hide a truth from the black man just place it inside a book!

Not only do they refuse to read, they rush to type.

God Save Us

Bouz:
the woman is a divorcee na , The judge must be mad , Is she not old enough to make her own decision at 44 o

Always fascinating watching a person who cannot do a thing telling a person who has been doing it that it is impossible.

Humility requires that you find out HOW people do what you cannot do instead of remaining in ignorance.

Go to YouTube and type in Wode Maya and watch a very dark skinned Ghanaian stopping Chinese girls on the streets of China and collecting their numbers. To add insult to injury on your rant-he even asks some for a hug and they oblige him

neurosci:
Did you answer my question at all? Have you lived abroad? The US or Canada specifically. If you have not, leave this topic for those who have. When you get there, try the things you said and then come back to tell me how it went.

What you don't understand is that what you're describing above is more of a cultural thing as opposed to a mere skill. Have you ever wondered why people don't cold approach the opposite sex in the streets here like they do in Nigeria? Have you ever entered a public bus or train here and seen how people are quiet, heads locked down on their phones? Why do you think dating apps are the main means of finding relationships here as opposed to just walking up to strangers?

Your writing shows you've never been here, otherwise you would not have said what you said regarding a white girl smiling at you. When a white girl smiles at you, take it seriously at your own peril.

Innocently naughty. Smh

God bless you for this revelation.

Although I am aware of this, the Nairaland BMC who don't have money to travel out of their states of residence are completely unaware of this truth.

I am also aware that there are igbo communities in Benue living peaceably with the indigenes and those are the people Kanu is meaning to secure since Nigerian Army is a failure.

Someone7:
I'm from Ado local government in Benue State. And it's literally in the southern half of Nigeria. Even closer to Enugu, Ebonyi, cross River and even Edo state than it is to the North.

But apparently I'm from the "North" Central

It's dishonourable to take another man's thoughts and pass them on as if they are your original thoughts.

Try and Be a better man.

Toks2008:
THE POWERFUL EFFECT OF LOVE LANGUAGE

When you hear the term love language what comes to your mind?... Let me guess... You probably think it is when you say or hear sweet things to or from someone you love but you are so very wrong..

Love language is that unique and peculiar way people expect to be treated for them to have a level of assurance that they are loved and the most complex twist to this is that every individual has a different love language and this is why you must meticulously find out the love language of the person you are with and not just assume you know.

OK let me make it simpler for you to understand by listing the different love languages we have.

1.Physical Touch: This is the love language of some people and no matter what you do for them, if this is lacking then you don't love them... If you like give them all the Diamonds in the world, as long as you don't touch them as often as they want, they will never feel loved and may Likely cheat on you with anyone who is ready to to communicate with them this way even if the person does not truly desire them.

2. Words of affirmation : This is the way some people understand love. Do whatever you think they love, if you don't tell them often how you love and appreciate them, they will fly away into the hands of anyone who will and even if the person is lying to them, they care less but just tell them often how special they are to you or how sweet they are and you are guaranteed their love and devotion.

3. Gifts: This is as straightforward as it sounds.. Just by some people gifts whether expensive or not and you have their love and devotion, to this group of people nothing else is as important as you buying them gifts from time to time and no matter what you do, to them they will never feel loved until they find someone who buys them gifts.

4. Quality time : This set of people care less about words of affirmation gift, or anything else but just spend time with them and I mean quality time and you have them loving you like puppies, this set of people are the type that complain of their lover not spending time with them even if they get the whole world from same person

5. Acts of service : This set of people just need you to be there for them in terms of rendering little assistance from time to time. This is their own love language and they will fall in love helplessly with anyone who is selfless enough to Render a helping hand even if you have nothing else to give them.

The Question now is.... "How do we know the love language of the person in our lives..."

The answer is very simple... ASK. don't assume.. Many of us know what makes our hearts melt so stop assuming and stop doing the wrong things cos no matter what you do, if you don't communicate with your significant other in the precise love language they love, you will only make them feel unloved and may likely lose them to someone who hits the right spot.

So when you hear your loved one complain to you that he or she does not feel loved by you regardless of all your efforts, please don't get confused, you are probably not using their love language to communicate with them. Once you get it right, you will definitely experience a whole new boost in your romance.

Hope this makes sense.

Everything he wrote is true. The inability of the vaccines to give certainty of freedom from infection is well known.

None of the Vaccine makers claim that taking the Vaccine is an assurance. So perhaps its you tht needs to start reading what the scientists behind these vaccines are claiming about their products and stop burying your head in the sand.

Vaccine that must be repeated every year, is that one a vaccine?

The first vaccine in history to be prepared within 9months.

If you have outsourced all your thinking to the white man, some of us have not

plaindealer:
Instead of asking me these ridiculous and absurd questions that scientific evidence and answers already addressed all over the internet, news and publications, why not just refuse to take the vaccine if and when offered to do so and let other people make their own personal decisions to take or refuse to take.

It's a free world, they are not forcing you to do anything so stop littering the internet with your conspiracy theories, made-up lies, deceptions and misinformation.

From where I am I can feel the hatred you have for the Igbo. Whatever you believe to be your reasons please note that such bile always affects the person who carries it.

Nigeria is where we are today because the Hausa Fulani have always found a way to coopt the Yoruba into their quest for total domination over this country. See how an erudite Professor of Law has turned into a lapdog for a semi illiterate cow herder!

I feel sad that the Yoruba Nation who have the highest number of human resources lack the courage to either attempt to dominate Nigeria(which will have left us in a much better position) or break away and form their own Nation.

The week after the North discovers oil in commercial quantities they will break away. Those guys have balls

Oshigun:
Well don't start looking for anyone to blame, especially your favourite Yoruba 'bogeymen', when the government clamps down on ESN which is effectively an outlawed militia.

You Igbos are patently lawless by nature and never learn. You always expect others to back and support every hasty, rash and ill-thought out thing you do. Legal or otherwise. When that does not happen you begin shouting 'saboteurs' and 'betrayers' up and down.

What a weak response to such a heavy blow.

The problem with BMC is that they don't go for training.

Most are very weak intellectually like their Principal Buhari

Zaggafrank:
Does Buhari need Biden's endorsement? Absolutely, no. All these fuss is about nothing. If Biden cannot give orders to a governor in the US, is it the Nigerian President that will be seeking endorsement from him?

Without being told my bet is on Dangote

All you said is correct except the smart TV part. Remove that part because I have an android box and unless I'm not around or something unusual I must burn 180GB a month minimum.

So 83Gb can't carry a smart TV for a month unless you hardly watch TV or YouTube talkless of dashing family and friends

tamdun:
. 1 terabyte for 100k is the cheapest, its annual subscription
When u devide 1000 by 12,thats 83 gigabyte per month @8300 naira u can even share with ur family, use it with ur smart TV, all Nigerian network (mtn, glo, airtel and 9mobile) offer the plan, just chose the net that is strong in ur area

The lessons hidden in this post are almost as deep as the ocean.

Kudos

Mrshape:
What of if no one helped you?
No one helped me.
I created all the part I am on today by my self.
I didn't even have a math teacher or physics teacher in school.
No one helped me.
I am still a work in progress. I am not done with helping myself

You are a smart fellow.

You understand the game.

Some Big God has promised to fund her fight. She was quiet since looking for a formidable supporter and now she has got one, she is coming out guns blazing.

tope777:
Because another contractor is in charge now..

Hahahaha.

Is it the Yaba Lab that has no reagents or is it the Isolo Lab that is optimised for food and drink?

What a joke?

Most Yorubas on Nairaland show so much hatred to Igbos while they are subservient to their Hausa Fulani oppressors.

So sad.

When did you ever hear that Igbos massacred their Yoruba Hosts?

Let the Yoruba Nation keep on facing the Igbos while the fulani are working strategically to dominate the SW!

It's fascinating how almost all those who are advising you not to disown your mother are women.

Most Nigerian women have a very mean streak inside them.

That's why they are easily initiated into witchcraft and are the dominant clients of medicine men

Thank you!

Jodano:
You are a thinker.

She said no to return home when they begged her cos a man outside was taking care of her.

As soon as that fellow dumped her she manipulated the kids to force her back to her ex husbands home.

Women love manipulation.

You have said it all

Fuckyoumod:
In cases like this, two things are involved.

Did he eat alone?

Did he step on toes?

Was it that they wanted him out of the way?

Or he was murdered so his own share will be taken, since he is no more?

The police should give us answers

She divorced her first husband when she started making good money on Suits.

She will divorce Harry when her income gets to a certain level while he remains financially stagnant.

Harry's value in the world was that he was A Royal. When the world begins to see him as a commoner then his value will gradually begin to reduce as he doesn't have any significant skill to offer. Four or five years of Harry sitting at home while Meghan goes out to hustle will end with her dropping him and taking the kids.

He was once an Alpha but Meghan turned him into a Simp.

Beware of women who come between you and family members who have always loved you. It usually ends in tears.

You are far less than human.

The air force is attacking civilians for no just cause and you said nothing about how wrong that is - instead you are mocking the innocents.

Just because of BMC stipends.


You are a beast

istina:
In the it's the innocents that would suffer most
Those who orchestrated it are somewhere safe outside the country with their family.
The gullible ones will never use their brains.

What they want are the details. In a year they will send out letters to these people to pay Tax for their pet.

APC govt does nothing for free without a hidden agenda.

If I dont listen to Bill Gates who is completely unqualified to lead the world on health matters despite his constant speeches why on earth will I listen to Pastor Ashimolowo?

About a hundred BMC monikers masturbating all over this thread.

LOL

Neddstark:
It sounds that way to me. Nigerian police do not arrest, beat mercilessly or kill activists like the clown was implying. He said what he said to get your emotions and sentimental you bought it hook, line and sinker. You carry am for your head like his inflated lips are part of your perverted fantasies. Omo ale'

When it takes you 5 yrs to "decide" to copy what has been in existence elsewhere for decades so people like you can praise an initiative that is just paper based....

Sigh

Also we already know where the MD will come from

[quote author= post=98989717]This is a very welcome development.
This is the CHANGE we voted for.
Slow and steady we will get to the country of our dreams.

God bless our darling Daddy President Muhammadu Buhari and his amiable Vice president Prof Yemi Osinbajo as they make our once looted and vandalized nation work again.

God bless Nigeria. [/quote]

The most dangerous character trait I know is entitlement. It is the motivation behind almost every evil.

Whether rape, theft, corruption, murder, forgery etc. If you dig deeper you will find that the perpetrator felt they had a right to something that belonged to another.

Monitor people around you for this trait and distance yourself from any one who exhibits same.

Your life may depend on it.