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This is Pure Brilliance but it's probably wasted as most women don't follow advice on strategy and tactics in relationships.

They just want to moan and don't want solutions that involve work.

RedPanthar:
The work end is where the first fixing should begin. Do this, and you will come back to testify :

1. Buy a ring and place it on your engagement finger. Make sure you only wear it where your boss would see it and watch your boss's reaction. You've been too germane and bland that you don't see your work callous during the weekend are specifically designed so you don't cultivate a relationship. I swear my hat on it you'll come back and say I said. So. Wear a ring and ensure your boss sees you flaunting it more than a few times.


2. Even when there's a heavy workload start asking for weekend breaks ahead before you'll be asked to work and again watch your bones reaction. The goal is to buy yourself space. As you play these games watch your boss's reactions




3. Pick your boss's calls less faster, less frequently. It's a masterstroke game to steal your availability from him and disorientation him from always assuming you're his go-go person he can summon whenever he pleases. All of thus is to stir things nd shake things up at the work end albeit subtly





4. Buy new clothes even if it's just two and try to put them on weekend or Fridays. Thus is to make them assume at work that whenever it's weekend they're disrupting your dates to force them psychologically to not call you upon demand. Make sure it's clothes they don't seem to see you frequently wear. Wear these and make sure you're gorgeous on weekend. The dressing that will make them ask why are you this elegant. Reply them on such occasions you were out on a date but since work demands were up you had to call it shut. Guilt trip their brains out and control the narrative at work



Now for the guy :

5. Love thrives in an atmosphere where there's a mutual resistant to beat. Now, paint the narrative to your guy that your boss seems to be against you both, and that's why he wants you occupied weekend and that you both would suffer. By making " the perception of your boss as the enemy ", you created a villain that makes the masculine willpower to fight in your guy rises up. Guess what else you'll get in advance, emotional support against when such arises again. Now, use this advantage to pull put his emotions and psyche to pull him out. When thus is done, you both have a common enemy or vision or objective and you can both use this to your advantage to bond and all. Be smart.




6. Force breaks at work


7. Pay him surprise visits


8. Be more frequent with video calls

9. Plan your meetings for Sundays. Relationships without physical contact will not stand the test of time


10. As a man he should do the visiting first especially at this beginning stage



Give him space and reach out to him. Relationships don't just end that fastly. No, it doesn't


He's hurting. Let him process his emotions. And when he reaches the place of thought that he wants to be with you inspite of what happened, he will establish contact.

You'll be fine

She gave us so much laughter via Carry On.

RIP

I have noticed that most of your submissions on this platform are intellectually subpar.

Usually filled with illogicalities or tribal slurs.

I know that you are not engaged in any mentally challenging activity off Nairaland. It's not likely that your work, if you have any, calls upon you to perform tasks that require deep thinking.

Otherwise how can you compare people using tribal slurs(of which you also do) in the privacy of their homes or anonymously online with someone at Dijas level publishing a work of art with such a derogative term.

That you see the two the same is a sign of your mental stagnancy.

Arrewa:
Hypocrites!!

But they're free to call A northerner onye ugwu, call a Yoruba man afonjaa or ndi Ofe mmanu!

People that are filled with hatred and bitterness!!

That's how they once attacked Teni for calling Erica omo igbo.

These people can't take 5% of what they're dishing out to other tribes on daily basis.

He doesn't understand what the word racist means.

You know these BMC are not well educated

Barka00:
There's no racist decision here now.

Any man who can rescue you from poverty is a real man.

But the realer question is why should a real man marry you?

Regina Daniels has given Ned Nwoko a level of popularity that he has always craved.

But what can you give a man in exchange for luxury that you so desperately seek?

adeolaSexy:
These is a real man here, not all those wannabe alpha males and redpillers we have here on nairaland.

Buhari is not to blame for where we are now.

But those who voted him in are!

He was a bad product that was rejected 3 times by sensible people.

Those formerly sensible people became stupid and voted him in.

Charlieluvboy:
if I was Jonathan I would blame him for the mess he has dragged Nigeria into.

I am always wary of bold faced lies.

The bolded is an outrageous lie and I will prove it.

Give us 5 examples dating back just 18months.

Considering there are many examples according to you, that should not be difficult!!

JovialJune:
If she has any, of course she will, there are so many examples of women giving their husbands part of what they own, here in naija, the wives will rather use both their names on her property, just to cover his shortcomings.

It was not a coup when we went to Ojota to protest fuel price increase under Jonathan?

Cheap Paid Tool like you!

SilverNoGold:
Any idiot caught disrupting the peace of this great country in the name of one useless protest should be arrested and dealt with RUTHLESSLY in a manner that will shock Satan!

ANYWAY..

My advice to anyone joining this coup movement is this... First make peace with God Almighty.. Make sure you have repented and asked God for forgiveness.. Heaven and Hell are real.. REPENT NOW, for tomorrow - or maybe today? - might be too late..

I was feeling for you and your mum but you just had to spoil it with that last paragraph.

Let me keep my advise to myself.

BaddieFreak:
My step dad is maltreating my mom. What should I do?

He comes back home very late and drunk and beats my mom almost everyday. I have told my mom to leave him but she is adamant, I even rented a house for her at a point so that she can leave him but my mom only spent about a week in the house before going back to my step father's house after my step dad called her and was crying on the phone that he will change.

Yesterday I went to meet her and I saw her face swollen. When I asked her what happened she dismissed it saying it's nothing, I knew my step dad has done it again. I have reported the case to the police several times but all to no avail. I don't know if my mom and my step father made a covenant reason why they can't leave themselves.

Why are men like this? I am confused and heart broken :'

Your English is just as bad as Buhari's

helinues:
Saraki is still bitter About his lose

In the UK, you require the mother's consent to test the child.

Western Law is against the menfolk

Feminism will NEVER allow what you are suggesting.

pansophist:
I still cannot understand why a DNA test is not automatic at birth. You can not just pin a child to any man as the father, just because the woman said so. Things like blood group and DNA test should be verified, alongside other personal information that is recorded in a birth certificate. It will also serve as a deterrent to potential cases like this, will legitimize the unity and social cohesion of the family, and won't deny innocent kids the chances of knowing their real father.

Furthermore, it would save wives from being disappointed that their husbands didn't trust them if he carries a DNA test behind her, and also gives suspicious husband/kids no reason to carry such a test in the first place. This man is not only hurt, the whole kids now hate the mother, and the most ferocious hate you will ever face is one that is converted from love.

In a society that operates on the flawed idea that women can never be wrong, and incapable of cruelty, well, tragedies like these will persist. The sad truth is that as we speak, there are millions of fathers right now living with kids that aren't theirs, and most will never find out. A huge problem that can only be solved with legislation changes, which is, that a DNA test should be automatic at birth.

Inside life.

This man is so smart.

He knows that the only thing Buhari fears in life is to have power taken away from him.

So he is creating a Red Herring.

Well played Chess Master Buratai.

What a shame you can't apply this cunning to demolishing Boko Haram.

Oh sorry I forgot, Buhari has always defended them at every single opportunity

Comprehension is very important otherwise one will blame the writer while the fault is yours.

Go back and read the write up again.

He claims that both men slept with his wife which led to a pregnancy.

Obviously he cannot know which one of them is the father without having access to DNA tests between themselves and the little girl.

So saying both are her father is a figure of speech since he has no means of identifying which one is responsible.

This should be easy to understand.

oz4real83:
How can TWO MEN be the fathers of ONE GIRL . Once I sense a single lie in a write-up like this, I become doubtful of the veracity of the remaining part of the write-up. May God heal their home.

Below is the outcome when your brain is not factory fitted.

Cyberterror:
This is another proof that Jonathan was working with Boko Haram to destabilize the north.

Below is the outcome when an article is above your level of comprehension.

I can't be bothered to explain to him the point Reno made.

If there is any Good Samaritan out there that can help the fellow, pls don't hesitate.

etrouble:
Eku oriire naa. Start another war nah so that you can build another armoured tank. Let’s see how many hundreds of Biafrans will be left.

They are saying anti Christ things are going to plan generally, just that Gates won't have a monopoly over the vaccine.

Pfizer is a company known for unsavoury medical trial practices in Nigeria and India among other countries so I wouldn't advise any Nigerian to take their vaccine in Nigeria as its almost certain that it won't be exactly the same vaccine they will be giving in London or New York

Nbotee:
Where those anti christ and Bill Gates depopulation theorists, wat ya saying now

One wonders where you got your figures from?

Even if you chose to count the babies who were then in the womb did you also count those who voted against Buhari?

XXXXTENTACION:
Buhari must be a skillful scammer.


He was able to scam over 200 million Nigerians that he will make one dollar equal to one naira.

The moment I am presented with facts I don't accept, it's my job to debunk them if I feel like and not to rant.

Ranting is not equivalent to reasoning.

So you can try again by giving us a counter arguement

CoronaVirusRelo:
Its 12/1/2020 and you still composing all this crap!

Wake up please! Election is over!

You are calling a fellow dumb because your low wattage brain could not cope with the facts and figures he presented

Meanwhile to think that a genius like you had to open a thread just to ask Nairalanders to help you choose a phone since you were completely incapable of doing the research and making the decision on your own

Something that some 12yr olds can do in 30mins

Auladimeji:
See as you dull reach

It hasn't even started yet. Feminists have great plans to subjugate men and unfortunately there are so many men willing to help them.

thebosstrevor1:
Men can not officiate women football but women can officiate men football.

The discrimination against men in this world is getting out of hand

She was wounded just like everyone has been wounded but having a wicked heart she wants to wound the world back not knowing that she is fighting a losing battle.

She thinks her wounds are worse than that of others but if you find out what wounded her you will be amazed to realise that it is a trifle compared to others.

When you hear how some people were once grievously wounded but yet carry a smile on their face you will know that God is a great Healer

Nicoswit:
It seems you have a burning hatred for men especially on marriage issues...why?

The obvious assumption to be gained reading that story is that the accident happened in Nigeria.

Have you been to Nigeria before?

Lexusgs430:
A very simple case of exchanging insurance details, would have saved both of you confronting yourselves.........

Empty Barrels

Nigerian women age quickly so if you want to completely avoid that then marry a girl 25yrs younger.

Especially if you keep yourself fit

But if that's not possible then don't bother yourself.

If you are older than your wife by 5yrs she will look older than you by the time you are 70yrs

Kobicove:
The major con is that in the next 10 years she will likely be looking far older than you and you may be embarrassed to introduce her as your wife

What a laugh you just gave me!

ChiefSosa:
i swear down. Anyway, his tenure will soon be over (4 years). If Yahya Jammeh can be forced to step down, who is Eazi that we cannot force to step down from a relationship.

Just fascinating how you keep bending over backwards to support the girls rudeness!

People are trying to correct you but you keep digging down in your false belief that the girl was correct to be rude just because she was contacted on whatsapp.

You argue as if the girl is your sister and you can therefore vouch that she ISN'T rude

Pls tell us more about this girl since you know her so well?

Jashub:
Oga, in saner climes, there is what we call a "Standard Procedure" of recruitment.

This is done by companies with an organised structure on ground and most of these companies (except you are running a mushroom company ) have this standard procedure for REACHING out to applicants. It can be through SMS, WhatsApp, Social media, Newspapers etc.


These companies will notify you(the applicant) prior to when the outcome of the interview is out.

And not through impromptu tactics being done here by this...this...chai! I do not know even know what to call this company sef.

You assume that what they "say" they want and what they "really" want are the same.

Seun:
Why should a government that wants to diversify the economy and strengthen the naira, impose rules that will make exportation more difficult?

A lot of the responses here are plain dumb.

A reporter asks Trump a question and he gives a definite answer.

Then people who have never left the shores of Nigeria are saying "Who asked you? What choice do you have? And so on

They completely ignore the context surrounding his statement.

For ignoring all he said which were solid points and writing that daft response you must be a paid lackey.

So when he comes back (according to you) you can get a job praising him.

Praise singer for hire like you

duduade:
I hope you yourself ain't thinking of coming back to Nigeria after using 95% of the 4 years in Dubai

Tufiakwa

Modified
To y'all rooting for him, continue to love him as he talks from the Dubai o.. Blind people.. He will come back in 2023 as usual and wash your heads.. When he reach Aso Rock, he will be ruling you people from Dubai

Stop being a coward and always facing to attack your fellow common man who is doing better than you!

The people who are destroying the economy are not those who drive a slightly better car or who go for holidays once a year.

It's the political class.

You didn't mention storming Sanwo-olus house or Aso Rock instead it's to go airport road to block those who have visa. You must be very poor indeed if you don't know tht the middle class is being wiped out by Buhari yet again.

You voted Buhari not me.

TANTUMERGO007:
God your children asked for change and you gave us changes, only God knows when the next revolution go start na airport we go first block cause no one go escape.