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Lady Tola, do the following:

Keep praying for him.

Try to insist on sex with condoms btw the both of you, since he already knows he infected you with STD earlier. Let us hope he agrees otherwise, you need to defy him when he trys unsafe sex with you because U can contact HIV just like that.

If he chooses to become hostile to you and deny you sex, you need to manage with that situation until he changes. Everyman has the ability to grow from a dog into a man, I wonder why he returned to being a dog. Besides, he might have lost his teenagehood.

Leave the church out of it, I know the devil operates in the church today and the devil manges the church in most cases today. The church of God is no longer out there but it is right in our hearts. Members of the church will only worsen the situation for you. I believe they know that he has those behaviors but the money and material things they get from him will make them look away from the bad habits. Don't be suprised if he is made a pastor in your church.

Invest in looking good, get occupied with your job, make yourself and the children happy, try to make him happy too without compromising your stand on safe sex, don't bother about his extramarital affairs, be a responsible mother and wife. We pray he stays responsible as a father to his kids, he may become irresponsible to you, batter you, insult you and put up all sorts of behavior. Never give up on him, keep praying for him, engage God almighty and stand your ground till you get your husband back. That is not the man you married. When he finds his senses back, he will become the better husband and father.

ednut1: Dis woman deserves what she is getting, instead of knwin ur BF well, u spend d whole time think of gettin him married, now u have it, reality noni

Shut your mouth and stop rubbing it in. She didn't ask for criticism, she only asked for advice. Anyway, we will see how smart you are some years into your marriage too.

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@op, I want to put myself in Ur stead, my first worry is: why did she hide the info from me all the while? She didn't make any effort to inform me, it was her friend that informed me. However, I will approach her and her husband for clarification on the paternity of that child. If they agree that the child is mine, I will take full responsibility for the child but let the mother have custody on the condition that I am free to relate with the child as mine and the child is free to spend time with me, if she wishes.

What are the prices of the vehicles?

Blessy swt: hey buddy if i was a prostitute, i wud hav go afta dt guy 4 a lng tme, he wud nt hav bin d one 2 add me on fbk bt me wil, i am a gal 4 a wel backgud. Wat i knw dat i wil nt want anoda prsn 2 do 2 me, n wnt do it 2 anoda

@blessy swt, the guy read your mind. You were contemplating it, otherwise you wouldn't be asking for advice.

@brownsugar007. I will try to be objective and straight, kindly excuse me.

You provoked the disagreement by snatching his phone, insulting and abusing him. Especially since you knew the other lady is hurting and desperately trying to get him back. You simply compounded the worry for him, took him to his breaking point at a critical stage of your relationship and there, you have the outcome.

He depicts a man who is not ready for marriage, he acted like he is not matured enough to manage a lady like you. I think your level of maturity is also low but the guy would be able to manage and compliment you if he could be more matured. Men naturally have a big ego which can destroy us if it is not checked and subdued, he is showing no resolve to subdue his ego and he is sustaining anger that should be avoided or extinguished after the outburst, especially considering the marriage at hand.

You can't force a carmel to drink water even when you force it to the stream. Marriage should be a decision we take willingly, conscious of the imperfections of both parties yet with a resolve to compliment each other and build a better person in the other. If he wants out, let him go but let him have your sincere apology for your misconduct, inform him you still love him and want the marriage, tell him you will endeavor to be better person and behaved. But don't beg him to marry you, indicate that you will respect his decision to quit the proposed marriage if he decides so.

However, this may be a blessing in disguise for the both of you. Work on your character and never stop trying to be a better person.

My lady, concentrate on your masters degree programme and forget the guy. Classify him as your ex-fiance. Another man will come soon but don't focus on men and marriage for now. Let it come naturally otherwise you will be messed up.

You seem to need psychological evaluation. Why do you want to cancel the wedding, I can only advice when I can excuse your reasons.

@Niteshift, I think you should check Urself too. There is obviously a way you take up issues with her that she can't handle. Check your approach to handling issues with her, discuss it with her and you will discover her fears in handling issues with you. Then encourage her to be bold enough to discuss the issues with you rather than outsiders. I also think there is more to this than you have told us. I strongly feel her actions are reactions to your ways.

@Bleble-swag; You need to first define beauty. Beauty is beyond looks which, I assume, you classified as ugly and pretty/handsome. Beauty is mostly defined in character and the physical appearance just completes the beauty. The ugly ones tend to complement their weakness with good character which attracts the handsome/pretty opposite sex. The ugly ones are ready to tolerate and adore the pretty/handsome opposite sex that they admire, this makes them compatible and marriage can be considered strongly. Have you watched and studied the cartoon: Beauty and the Beast.

Why do I get a feeling you will do what you really don't wanna do to satisfy this desire. I think you are hunting for the mark and you will soon hit it. I hope you have an eye for a glorious one with max satisfaction. Time will tell.

@LadySophie, 5yrs difference in age btw you and your potential man is quite much considering that you will age faster than him as time goes on. I think you have a strong feeling for him too but you just can't stand the age gap and his religious orientation.
I agree with you on the decision to avoid marriage to him. However, you need to be firm and straight in your approach. Tell him you don't want the relationship/marriage with your reasons, loose his contact details and forbid him to seek you. Get involved/married to your kind of man and let him know that you are engaged/married. He will get the message and walk away.

moodswing: only a liar will say that Peter Obi - Okwute Ndigbo (The rock of the Igbos) has not done well.

And his anointed candidate is also one of the credible few who can match or surpass his achievement.

Peter Obi - The rock of the Igbos; LOL. That woman called Peter Obi. His voice irritates my ears. However, I am not directly concerned about who governs Anambra because I am not Igbo. My vote isn't needed.

gerald09: I hope dis news is true, cos ASUU don fu*ck up, 5 month of strike n counting, just cos dem no c money to chop. Am sure some student/persons will condemn "PLAN B". Please GEJ some1 needs to mess ASUU up, for years dey have prevented student from quality education, d same student dey claim dey fighting for have suffered in d hand of d same ASUU members. We need dem scraped.

On your case, my people will say "eni ti a ntori e gba awe to n je osan". Some students just don't understand ASUU is also supporting the long term interests of students via this strike. Some are just interested in graduating anyhow as unfinished products - empty and largely defficient of employable skills unless subjected to extensive training again by employers - that has always been the case.
For Gods sake, we are tired of strike suspension and resumption on the same issues. If this current strike will compel govt to address the issues and solve it, then I think ASUU should continue. FEC/FG/SG kept creating more tertiary institutions without adequately developing, equiping and funding the existing ones. There must be change from graduating persons with certificates that they can't defend.

callmenow: Democracy requires everyone to have a view. A lot of members of this forum are disappointing and ill-informed. However stupidity and mob action serves no one in the polity. All the same your views must not contradict the laid down rules and regulations or the rule of law. The Hon minister has now attended a NASS hearing. Many people in this forum has condemned her for rampant corruption. But from the evidence of Ministry of Finance, NSA, NCAA, FAAN, The Hon Minister of Aviation, The Customs and Excise, Coscharis and a host of other witnesses. So far, Lagos State, Coscharis and NCAA has more questions to answer. Ministry of Finance, Customs and Excise and NSA were duped and need to sue Coscharis for abuse of privilege. The Hon Minister was exonerated on legal grounds. She insisted on due process all the way through. However she was guilty of not holding her agencies more closely to account. The culture of sycophancy by agencies to their ministers has to be addressed. Corruption of the soul of the average Nigerian has to be looked at.

I find it very difficult to exonerate madam in this case, she is the minister of aviation, NCAA, FAAN and NAMA reports to that ministry. She can't claim ignorance of her procurement approval limit(about 100M), she can't claim ignaorance of the approved budget for NCAA vehicles by the house - 200M plus. She approved procurement of vehicles to the tune of 600M plus, claiming she gave an approval and asked them to do the needful and that it was lease finance. Isn't that an approval. When did banks deviate from granting loans to lease holding. Given that the cars are quoted at outrageous cost, should the NCAA not request for bid/quote from other vendors if Coscharis was not an alibi. Listen, we are no kids; we understand what happened was a fraud that implies there is a high level of corruption in the ministries. We know madam was aware of it and approved it, hence she should take responsibility and stop passing the bulk.

[quote author=-Mr Cork-]..sadly the kinda swimming pant u guys normally wher their in Nigeria look like Fisherman net....this is y no guy is invited(no offennise) [/quote]Who is this one? Abeg blow away.

[quote author=D sage]Lolz, don't let me deceive you man, there's no way a woman will look down on you if you possessed those characteristics I mentioned in my previous post. Irrespective of your age, I will say it again, no woman, not even your so called 'Oga at the top' will look down on you. Work hard and be someone every girl will like to be with.

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While working hard to be that person women can't despice. What are U to the women?

uzomagic: Finally, Odua wins round one. Shifts liability to NCAA.

Did she really win? She gave the approval despite asking NCAA to do due dilligence. There was an approval by the minister, you don't expect the staff to question the approval - authority. She has to take responsibility for her actions. The idiots in NCAA acted on her approval, they were simply trying to cover up obvious fraud, corruption, conspiracy and impunity. I think Coscharis lacks integrity, the company should be investigated, blacklisted as govt procurement vendor, fined and compelled to remmit all evaded and avoided tax due to government.

Nice work, Ikenna. Those were great pictures. I love the Mercedes Benz GL500. I will get one soon.

I suggest Mustafa Chike-Obi or Dr. Sarah Alade. Forget those commercial bankers - Bisi, AIG. I don't like Lemo and the other CBN man is a lawyer.

Iceman296: ..Wont the Youth unemployment Ish Not Be Addressed In the SNC?

I am Really Suprised At Oshiomole's Comment, The APC Has Turned him to a Visionless Politician!

SNC is Long Overdue.

Is the proposed conference termed soverign national conference. How do we ensure the resolutions of the SNC are binding on the goverment? That is tactically not addressed so we may have a talk show that will cost millions of naira which amounts to waste of time, effort and resources.

Onlytruth: Jokers and haters at work. If they are serious they know where to start!
First Festus Odimegwu, now Stella Oduah. Let's see if they can pull this one off. If they succeed again, I would know for sure that not only is Jonathan lost, he also cannot be trusted.
This woman's "real crime" is known to us. Let no one think that these marauding haters and bloodsuckers ever hoodwinked anyone.

I don't understand you. I don't see relationship between Festus Odimegwu's case and Stella Oduah's case. Na wetin person sabi chop dey kill am. Madam is accused of corruption, mismanagement and excessive use of power. In more civilized societies, she would have resigned her appointment. However, we are watching.

onila: Considering I am a good girl=I dont drink, I dont smoke, I dont sleep around, I dont go clubbing every weekend, well behaved and humble

but I am always attracted and fall inlove easily with bad boys

even on Nairaland see the guys I adore their personalities= Reality101, bittyend, arquebusier, acidtalk, 190, pleep, sagamite and cameroonpride. all dem bad boys

is there something wrong with me I dont wanna destroy my future

Iwo ke! U are a bad girl trying to be a good girl.

lynpetra: This is exactly what is happening to me.My bf's ex who is married has refused to stop calling him,esp late at night,and esp while things are set in motion.At first,I laughed about it until one night my bobo is sleeping,his phone wad ringing persistantly,I didn't pick(I don't pick his calls),but a message came immediately and it reads,"...because of that your Abuja gurl,you refused to pick abi".I vexxxxxxed!What A married woman with a child??My man??Lynpetra!laye!


What did I do??
I went to my bf's facebook page,visit his friends lists,took time to fish her out,it wasn't hard to muss for her profile pics is her wedding pics,I visited her friends list(she no even privatise her page),saw her husband,then added him immediately!God punish devil!The next day he accepted!I called my bobo,and I told him all I did the previous night and what I wud do in the next 5 mins if he doesn't call that bitttttch not to ever call him again else I wud use his laptop to upload all the pics of thier time together before her marriage on her husband's page with the word,"oga tell ur wife say my bobo nooo want her expiredddd kpekus again,she shud stop disturbing"nonsensical nonsensicus!!

Madam, you harsh ooohhhhhhh

I picture a lady that isn't really humble, I may be wrong. I think you are also not very accessible, maybe due to your residential area and nature of your job/school environment. Make yourself humble, polite, available and they will come.

homesteady: Can I marry a tomboy? LOL! Maybe! If she is pretty, has good manners, won't be fighting me @home and if she can cook, then I'll have no problem getting married to one!

As for the ladies, I think an Effeminate husband is the best husband, because you both would have many things in common. Most things you like, he'll also like them!

I guess you are effeminate, I also agree with your opinion.

I will not feel comfortable at the wedding so I will not be there.

Shock him - tell him how you feel, in a polite and matured manner.

Tayo, I guess you have huge libido compared to your man. If you have been at the act before marriage and you observe he can't satisfy your urge, I suggest you end the relationship and go for a "performer" except there are other valuable considerations from him that makes the offer attractive. In that case, I say it is a total package, there is no perfect man out there.

Whatever circumstances surrounding his resignation, he took a step that is rare in Nigeria and I appreciate him for that. Maybe he was unprofessional and arrogant with some requests, approach and statements. However, he made some salient points which mustn't be ignored - What is the credibility of the Census data published periodically?