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You discard and reject these teachings and the quest continues

How the hell do you intend to grow and learn if your spiritual world-view is limited to only what your religion teaches?

More than half of the Christians here have never opened the koran, likewise the muslims with the bible. It's by reading them that his eyes are opened to the fallacies, inconsistencies and bigotries that are contained therein.

Dear Doris

i started a relationship with the aim of dating for only 6mths each, then all of a sudden you became my first, you were innocent, and often times in the relationship i gat my self saying you dont deserve a bad G like me, because i wasnt ready for all dat, the good memories you gave me i'll never forget

you were the only chic who gave me birthday gifts, u treated me like a king, you made everyday memorable like a birthday, you were a true expression of beauty

damn, your meals were so hot, the fragrance you put on were cellestial, you shape was some goodish, to crown it you were every man's dream,

but as a man-on-a-mission, i left you for more coasts unconquered, thinking to myself dat if i can get a good girl like you, then mathematically i'lll get some 100 more like you, but i was wrong, i wish you'll come back, but the fatal thing i did was to delete your number, what made me do this i ask till date. wereever you are and with whomever i know dat gat damn dude will be feeling like HEAVEN now, well i aint jealous, i look you for life

bye my DORIS

Dear Ex,

I want to feel anger toward you, I really do. But I know you're not the sort of person who deserves that. I know you got into something a bit too big a bit too fast and didn't know what to do about it, so you did the only thing you felt you could do,

The only thing I regret, and the only thing I'll ever regret, is that we couldn't have been friends, after it was all said and done. If you ever need me, I'll be there for you, But don't expect me to come looking for you, ever again. You made that impossible. I hope it was worth it. Good luck in finding what you need to find.

your very loving and caring ex

Dear Ex,

i really cared about you. I swear my feelings were real. Only problem was you were too stubborn and i never could trust you.
Maybe i could have tolerated that but again you were too old for me. Being the baby faced guy i am, i wouldn't want people to wonder if you are my mother when we get married. I'm sure you'll get a good man soonest. i trust you're still very good in bed, that should thrill any man.
Thank God our break up was painless. Sorry i don't miss you it's b'cos an angel has crept into my life.
All the best.

Dear ex,

I don't know where to start from so I'll say it like it comes from my mind. All those times we were together, I wished everything was different and as good as we planned. You were good and all of a sudden I don't know what came over you and an abrupt change slapped my face from you. I thought we could work it out as I was very patient to sorting out issues with you and endure the excruciating pains your exasperating behaviors posed on my heart; alas it was all not good enough for you.

You told me several times I was the best man for you; the best you've ever had. I wondrously think, why then all the attitudes from you? I initially thought it must have been some kind of pressure, I opted for a talk with you --- which you never agreed to. I gave you some time to cool off, then you accused me of being so far away from you. I came closer, you said I was pressing and pressurizing. I'm sure I loved you unfortunately you couldn't see that. We had too many differences, I know but we promised to walking through them all as we successfully did in the early months of the relationship - but what ever happened to the time we shared together, the understanding we had, the kind of bond we shared? We loved each other then. It was a shame it had to end that way.

It didn't help any better that you weren't ready to communicate your issues, worries and problems with me, and I hoped you would someday. But we didn't come to that, ever. I'm not pushing blames on you, neither am I trying to make you feel bad. I guess I'm just trying to let you know that you were a good girl, but we lacked communication. I wish it could have been better, but oh, it's one of those wishes that we have which never comes true.

I hope you're doing greatly well in all ramifications; be a good girl, have fun, be lively. I wish you the very best now and in the days ahead.


TheSeeker

To my ex husband,

Thank you for teaching me that men who have made oaths to you before God and man can and do still lie. Thank you for realizing what a scum bag you were and for leaving before doing further damage. Thank you for my wonderful stepsons who still love me today as their mom but despise you for ruining home. Thank you for 3 beautiful grandbabies you never see but who love me so dearly. Thank you for teaching me that agape love is for me to give myself first. Thank you for finding me last year (after being divorced for 7 years) and asking for forgiveness. U did not know I forgave you years ago, but it was nice to hear the words. I only wish u the best and hope you will maintain a relationship with your grown sons. They love you And long for you to be a father to them. Though I did not birth them, they know they have a mother in me but as men they really need you. Visit the grandkids! Their other granddaddy died and u r all they have and they dont know you! The girl has your smile,

Dear F

my prayer for you day and night is that you will never find true love in this life and in next life to come. i showed you so much love as my first love but u treated me with so much disrespect and hate. I endured hoping u would grow up to realise you mistakes and amend them but u did not, instead u chose to come back into my life the 2nd time to finish that which u have already started. me blinded by the scales of a fish helplessly feel for u, hoping u were for real. our friends in high school told me i was walking on a dangerous ground but i didn't believe, now u prove to me that i was wrong and our friends were right! the 2nd time u came into my life u tried to lead me on believeing u were 4 real-(as u have done to me, may some other girl do the same to u, the tears i cried 4 u, may u cryx10,) the years and time i put into that relationship would b your years of unhappiness, sorrows and pains, people u love will treat you with rejection, u called me a LovePeddler 4 not being the guy who disvirgined me, if u ever see a girl to marry b greatful less of a LovePeddler! u will make money but u will not know how u spent your money, may u find happiness whereever u are but i doubt if u will coz this time u really pushed me to the wall.

dear x
Well I didn't think we was gonna depart in such manner be cos i gave you my body, heart and soul.
If any witch had told me it was gonna happen, I'd laugh and send it all to hell.
There were so many things BTW us that i just can't forget in a flash. from the first time we met, it was all a joke and that went on to be serious and on and on and on till it suddenly crashed. You felt it heavy in your heart and i knew it. But you can resist your new dude as well. You knew you had been doing that for 6months before we finally broke up, i meant according to you. But folks confirmed that it was up to a yr. If i had the chance, I'd love to ask you one more time. "pals whats the diff BTW 6 months and a yr? "
The sh*t was more than i could bear babe.
Your mom, brother and others complained bitterly about this act of yours and it didn't seem to have bothered you.
You just like getting deep into peoples lives, raising their hopes high and crashing it all of a sudden.
I guess that's rude girl. Very very rude. Just after some months of my departure, some other guys are explaining your nudity. You are not worried.
But guess what, i ain't as cold as you are, i got a conscience. It beats faster when things like this happen. I want you to also remember that Betrayal is a game alright. But its only for those who can play it.
Don't believe in 'what goes around comes around'. I'm begging you, pls don't believe it at all. Cos when it finally happens, its too late and not even a soul will tell you sorry. Not even me lol. I tried moving on severally at different stages but its so impossible. That shows how much i loved you. But i have resolved it even more when i saw that most girls now are like you. So i will stay single until further notice,
I don't think i will ever regret this decision.

der x
you messed up big time and i opted out. . .you made it look like you were the perfect one and i was the silly one. . .but yet you stabbed me first at the back and betrayed the trust. . .I also had to leave when i left. . .because i didn't wana string you along. . .just couldn't see myself married to you. . .so i did what was best for both of us. . .i hope you doing great and i wish you the best in life. . .

Dear ex 2. . .

You were one of the best guys i ever came across. . .fun. . .nice. . .caring. . .you were everything a girl could ever wish for in a guy. . .even though we parted on mutual terms because of the distance. . .i still do not regret dating you. . .cus it was really good for the short period it lasted. . .and am happy we still the best of friends till date. . .i wish you the best life has got to offer. . .

dear ex 3. . .
yours was the most painful . .because for once in life i finally let my heart free and loved totally with everything in me. . .when i look back now. . .i have no regrets. . .because everything you did has made me realized a whole lot of things and it has also made me a stronger person. . .i forgive you totally. . .because by forgiving you. . .i am letting my heart free from all the pains and grudges. . .and i know in due time your would get your reward. . .wish you the best. . .

Dear X

leaving you was the best decision i ever took in my entire life till date. the only thing i considered wrong which i did after i pondered over our 5years together was my loving you with the innocence of a child. i would not blame my mother because she taught me the right things, i only tried them on the wrong person.
you never really had a mind of your own. u were always looking for opinions from the guys u taught knew it all. id always tell u that we could resolve our issues between ourselves but u felt i was always afraid of losing out on the judgement results
sometimes i tell myself that maybe you were not machure enough for the kind of comitment i was giving you and so u got so overwhelmed by it all.
u used to scare so easily by my male friends. even my family friends and it was hell living under your spotlight.
sometimes, id look at u and say to myself, u soo insecure.
i tried to show u that u were the only man in my life but u wanted more. for my life to revolve around u when urs did not revolve around mine. i forgive u for all the pain you brought to me because it has made me a better person today.
it was all a clear experience of falling in and out of love. i watched our love at the beginning slowly crumble and head for the rocks due to your insecurity, your incessant nagging, your high expectations from me when u were not worth taking a chance for at all. dont u just get it, there was no motivation.!!!!!
my friends were double dating, bu i stuck to u despite all your shortcomings because my mum taught me never to involve more than one man in my life. she called it dirty business.
for all the times u made me cry, the times u called me names, the times u showed ingratitude to my efforts, the times i stayed up asking myself if i wanted to continue in an abusive relationship, the times i read your text messages where u professed your love and i looked at u while u slept and called u a liar because the texts did not make any sence considering the hurtful ways you treated me, the times u deprived me of your attention all in the name of a tiff and a hell lot more, i forgive you.
one mans ex is another ones treasure like my bro/sis said.(not too sure) five years seemed a long time and also to me like a waste of time but its been 7years since i left you and i am in love again. this time with a real man and am grateful to God for a second chance at love again.he love sme so much that sometimes i ask myself "na me be this?" i dont know what role u were assigned to play in my life by God but it sure was a bitter experience that still leaves my heart aching and tummy churning at the thought of it all.
i wish u no bad thing because i know God knows how to deal with your kind.
it was honestly nice to meet u but fulfilling to have left u. i got fedup and left remember, just when u taught u had my remote control, i upped and left, who knows maybe u still think i would come back like previous instances.too bad cos everyone sure has his elastic limits.
i hope u get this letter and be taught some morals by the contents.
all the best

Dear,
i just wanted u 2 knw whereva u are
dat im doin great and betta rite now
everytins gud,the cars,cash flowin in
my sex life**i go countless days now**
wic was your hart desire,witot stopin
i take endless trips 2 malyasia,singapore and
german 1ce.,its a pity u aint here 2 catch life wit me
i really loved u bt u cheated and i cudnt 4giv u
im stil tryin 2 get sm1 relace u bt it aint dat easy
i wish u d best anywher u re!
takecare

Dear C,

I just wish you weren't so selfish and self absorbed half the time. No matter what went wrong between us in our interactions and/or discussion you always tried to tack the blame on me. If only you knew how to take responsibility for your own actions. It also didn't help that you were insecure about your future and lacked the confidence to stand up for yourself. I tried helping you solidify your self esteem issues by constantly complimenting you on how pretty you look and how beautiful your smile is, but I guess it didn't work.

I was also very disappointed when you told me that your parents didn't want you seeing an African man. It completely altered how I viewed you and your family. You are just as black as I am - your dad is African and your mother is African American. I expected you to at least defend me and tell them that I am a good man, one who treated you with as much respect as you commanded. But I guess some things just weren't meant to be.

Even though I told you I loved you, I realized some time later that I didn't actually love you. I did develop some feelings for you, but that's all it was. I guess I just loved the thought of possibly being in a binding relationship with you, because you were so smart and hardworking. I was going through a difficult time. My emotions fooled me, got the best of me, and I couldn't take those words back after I had said them to you so many times.

Even though we never made it past the getting to know you phase, I want you to know that I wish you the very best in your life. Looking back, we probably wouldn't be able to get over the cultural differences anyway.
Hope medical school works out very well for you.

Bleep

Anyway, dearest O,
I feel so happy n sad to write this to u, na e bi say i dey confused abi?
ok ooo, i really thank God 4 leavn u 4 good cos u were never there 4 me. Infact leaving u was 1 of d best desicions i'v ever made in my entire life, if nt the best. Bt hw i wish u were a bit caring, jst a bit, even if na 1%
Bt if wishes were horses, u knw nw,
The temptation to use gun n blow away your brains n imi oja dey oooo. Bt , nothin dey happen, peace, 1 luv.
Anyway, i jst want u to knw that iv goten over everthin that happened, the harsh words, uncaring attitudes n all that.
I loved u so much mennn, n i wish u the best in life including enof chikalas, assorted. i knw u go say a bid amen to that, YEYE
I pray that the next tym u come to this world, u should come as tissue paper, so that i can handle u better.
Till den, i still remain

stop lying abeg

i am sick of all the dumb ass ugly bitches in every nook

and cranny of nigeria

beware of JAMAICAN MEN!!!!!!!!!!!