₦airaland Forum

Who delay marriages,men or women

This is a debate that was presneted on a social nework islamic forum and my conribution was.....m..

No matter what we say we must hv fact whc are already stated in quoran 4...men are to marry the women and ensure their safety. In deep concept,the decision is in the hand of the man,some lack the confidence,faith,endurance,maturity,tolerance to venture in marriage. My advse is stricly for the men because there are lots of good women out there who are ready to settle down but we hv men who are unserious about their own future talkless of thinking marriage. Planning marriage is. Part of planning ur life as a man. The delay that comes from men are basically from 3 major areas finance,character/maturity and faith. But xter can also be divided into parts...so faith is the link btw finance and maturity because u may have finance and maturity but if you don't believ that funnication leads to hell then u may not worry abt marriage.

FiNANCE Their most excuses is financial difficulty and when u say financia difficulty its means the man is not optimistic,it means the man does not hv plan to bcome a successful man because with vison and mission u will know whether u are climbing the ladder of success to either take a partner or not. So if u hv a clear picture of who u want to become that won't be a problem and also u must know where ur largest finances are required such as housing and education then look at what ur income can accommodate. To the extent of nikkah u wanna do,if you are man enough u can dictate the size of ur nikkah dou it requires maturity,sign of a good muslim with respect,manner,love to convince ur inlaws. And if they can finance it alhamdulilah its halal moreso. Taking a wife with just suratul ikhlas and Living in a room with ur family or sending ur child to poor sch or quoranic sch or technical sch and drinking garri is more pleasant to Allah than causing mischief.

FAITH this works in 2ways. Some men have money/finance but they see nothing wrong in funnication and courship etc and some doesn't believe that obeying Allah can improve his status. If you don't hv much and ur inlaws are ready to give u a daughter for Allah sake,you can accept It with faith and prayer rather than causing mischief. Allah can/will change the situation if we can obey the principle of marriage.

XTER when I said xter it cud be seen as tolerance,endurance,patience,love,undestanding,care,responsibilty etc a lot of men are not matured for marriage not because we hv money or don't hv money for marriage but because we are not matured to even take responsibility for ourselves and for our lives. Planning to marry is like planning to buy a car or build a house or go to further schs or even looking good then if u are denying ursef from marriage means we can deny ourselves from all the good things we want in life even when we hv the money to do so. When we marry a wife God can come in tru her or even tru ur children to change a generation of povery in a family so? We need maturity bfor marriage and after wedding and in the marriage. It is maturity that will tell u that no mater what my wife does I won't beat her or send her away. It is maturity that tekk u that no1 is perfect. So how does it work with delaying marriage? A lot of men hv allow the society to influence their thinking and xeter,they belif u must be rugged to get what u want that's not the live of a true believer/muslim so many are not patient,loving,caring,many don't tolerate and accommodate so for this reason they can't even allow some1 to live with them or disturb their personal lives. So they have decided that even if I hv all the money I would rather be in courtship or relationship for as long as am ready.

In conclusion,if u lack only 1 ur case is beter,if u lack two out of the 3 ur case is fair but if u lack the 3 u are in a serious soup because there is no way nature won't ask u, and at that point u are like to ruin ur life I mean u need to take responsibility of ur life not only because of ur family but because of ursef,u nid money to survive so therefore u must be responsible for ur faith and work to survive and by the time ur life is taking the right shape u palnneds for it,it will become easier to take in ur own family. Then be a true believer,prayer for success and hv believe that if u must stay idle or delay marriage then u must remain a virgin. Sorry that am interested in men only because we hv the power to dictate the marriage,to hold or break it so take responsibility for ur life and becoming a family will become easy.
Thanks

It shows our leaders doesn't mean well for Nigerian they're only interested in power,money n fame. No political ideology,political prostitutes

It means drivers earn even better than teachers?

Nigeria is a fake country,Buhari has ruled this country and hv contested for 3times and failed,is it not this same Govt that cleared his certificate to run,hw come now INEC is crying abt his certififcate?if inec hv granted him to run before,why won't they grant him now,we play politics wiV everything in dis country and it won't take us anywhere.

For me,I see nothing wrong asking for support weapons but what I see wrong is the willingness to go to war with these support weapons. I recently watch an attack by BH on an army barrack in the North,whre soldier took heel and BH looted all the weapondary in the barrack arsenal. I am confused abt the whole issue because I pity the soldiers(in service and those dismisses) and at same time,am afraid abt our defenceless country Nigeria including the recent withdrawal from supporting the palestinian freedom by Nigerian govt,then why did we join the islamic organisation in the first place? This country is in chambles,I pray these doesn't complicate our problems.

This govt is not ready to acct nor hold anyone accountable. A lot of key personnel hv raised alarm of corruption but what did we get? Norin,if jona cannot exercise some harsh decisions on public holders nor be bold to arrest bk sponsorer he shld either step down or do the needful. And Nigerian shld note,if jona can not hold people responsible for insulgency,we will continue in blood shed. He is too simple abt economic problem. Gbam

Do you want to know how to make quick cash from insurance investment or you want to know how to use so little to protect your most valuable asset? Imagine 15k to acquire a cover of 1m.......surprise?

An investment-linked insurance plan
is a life insurance that combines investment and protection. Your premiums(contribution) provide not only a life insurance cover, but part of the premiums will also be invested in specific investment funds of your choice. You get to choose how to allocate your insurance premiums towards protection and investment.
 
Things I Should Know when Choosing the right investment-linked insurance plan
 
-You want the flexibility to choose your own level of protection and investment.

-You wish to vary the amount of your premium payments or coverage based on your own personal financial situation.

-You have the flexibility to choose the type of funds based on your risk aptitude.

-You want a savings plan to maintain your standard of living after retirement.
 
When it comes to picking the right plan, always:

-Consider the amount you wish or can invest in the plan, either in single or regular-premium plans.

-Remember to also consider the types of funds and the level of protection you need.

-Evaluate your options carefully to find the right plan with the right fund to suit your needs.
 
Single-premium plan 
A single premium-plan features a single lump-sum premium payment, so you don’t have to worry about making regular premium payments, and worrying about lapsing.
  
Features a life insurance policy with a death or total permanent disability cover of around 125% of your lump-sum investment.
  
Benefit payments will be to the sum assured or the value of the investment units at the time of claim, whichever is higher.
  
Allows you to immediately invest more to generate returns.
 
 Regular-premium plan 
The regular-premium plan is a more suitable plan for you if you don’t want to invest a large sum at the start of the plan.
Gives you the flexibility to increase your premiums and coverage when your finances improve in the future which are paid either monthly, quarterly, semi-annually or annually.
  
Benefits
The basic insurance coverage, in the event of death or total permanent disability, is usually a multiple of the annual premium.The benefit payment will be the total of sum assured plus the value of the investment units.

Those businessmen who contributed are not loyal to any particular govt. They contribute to every current govt so that their business can thrive in the face of biased economic policies that will favor them. It will be vry difficult for any ruling govt u hv reveieved money from them to campaign to make laws that will affect them and this will promotion injustice. Its an element of political loyalty and godfatherism

Most of the artist and actors are contesting tru the APC party so automatically they are all supporting APC. I therefore foresee that 2015 maybe like june12. There is a clear sign that those who are in custody(elected) of our power,are not ready to give it back to us(electorate).

Why are the politicians not talking abt their own salaries and allowances? I remember sanusi once said 25% of Nigerian revenue goes to the politicians in offices. And the idea of a public holder having 6 PAs who hv 2,2 adviser and bodey guards. From there we move to funding of militants in the name amnesty. And let the gov concentrate on infrastructures mostly electricity,refineries etc thanks

Who says u can't achieve while married,that's fallacy infact what it takes is proper planning moreso what's the greatest achievement than to recreate a child o become useful to the society. Its fleshy gain and materialism that makes many still remain single forgetting the fact that your child can even change the story of poverty in a generation and it is the commandment of God to protect against mischief on earth perhaps there's no time bound but if you must remain single to pursue career u must remain a virgin (if nature will not ask).thanks

Long ago I was tot that luck is when preparation meets opportunity,so it does exist in isolation. The only job opportunity that can nnever sieze is franchising...bringing buyers and sellers to an exchange consensus. If you understand the business that pays and you prepare to meet with the standards of prospects,infact some companies are ready to equip you if you show interest in heklping them get buyers. Instead of being idle

Is it dis same jona that is playing simple politics with boko haram we are voting 2015?he said **they are our family so we can't crush them** and millions of pple are dying everyday. That's thje problem I hv with him,if he can not investigate buhari or any sponsor of boko haram and can not crush them then he is not worthy of my vote come 2015,how long will I continue to see people dying,wil I vote a president that will make my born,unborn children see blood shed frm younger age so that it can affect their thinking? We shld accept it that jona is weak,voted him because he had to shoes,no cloth,no school and today is he thesame person?i careless but the basic whc is life and security he shldnt toil with it. I voted him and gave him permission to use my share of resources to secure and protect me annd my family but that is not what am getting,most importantly if not God my children are not even safe. I will not continue in dis mess,I love jona because he is a new generation and represent the new age but its not enough to just be a new age representative but with leadership charisma whc he lacks. And the ideoogy of the party is affecting his stewardship**we must continue to rule Nigeria whether we rule well or not,it will always remain our game** this time it must end.

I am confused. I don't want to experience what is going on around the world,I wish I knew if my good record is heavier than bad record before Allah.

If it is infrasound then it wasn't carried out by Nigerian. Because if Nigerian military have such capacity we would have conquered b.h. He is a man that claim to see the future and have power to change,how come There's God

Pls ensure that u vote irrespective of who u ar voing for because if u don't cast your vote,its an opportunity for opposition to rig. For instance, If out of 50 registered voters 40 voted,inec can fill in the gap.

:DShoe polish

That my simplicity is weird.....

In spirit or in material? Jesus was poor materially but the reason why many pastors are materially rich is because they don't have the love of others in mind. Infact so church members can't afford the universities built by their churches and yet,their rich pastors can not subsidize for them.

Responding as a muslim,I was tot to start taking my kids to mosque and train them from 7yrs and beat them slightly from 10yrs if they fail in their duty. And follow them tru till they leave ur custody. God knows best

Stealing is a subset of corruption...a corrupt person have tendency of committing all manner of autrocities even stealing,murderer,funnication,child trafficking among others.

Hv always ha good relatnshps with my ex's,most of them usually hv their reasons to leave,maybe their parent complain,ready for marraige when am not,but the only 1 luv we quit because of genotype but till today,i still wish to marry her,now she didnt even like to see me or pick my calls.....salau noimat atinuke oou ikorodu 08025720428

If i had known what it was going to cost me,I wouldnt have lost focus in my marriage.........oluwafemi

Terrorist have different strategies. Shekau might be dead but if not .1) they may hv done that to calm our security force so they can hit hard on them. 2)if one shekau dies another person will wear his crown using mask. 3) fighting bh is being reactive,our govt shld concentrate on the root cause whc is poverty and deprivation.

Normal income,high expenses,high stress.

:oThesame set of politician hv bn ruling nija since 1960

We cant blame both nija&meca govt,pilgrims are checked n certified literarily(casual check). It has been written so may Allah grant their soul peace and mercy. Ameen