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ifeness:I understand your point. If so, then why do we have all these unending arguments about trinity and anthropomorphism from religious texts? Sorry for taking you back to religion. I wish a religious fanatic should attempt this puzzle. |
Provie:Thanks for your comment. But why do religionists still harbour a narrow view on this in form of rejecting gods when this clearly advocates unison in our interpretation of God? |
timmy2409:Exactly, my head is already buzzing. Does this topic have any implication on the need for religious tolerance? In other words, is there any relationship between this topic and religious tolerance? I was a little scared that someone would call me stupid for asking such a simple and elementary philosophical question. But I trusted a Socrate would see through the simplicity and discover its complexity. |
I had an argument with a colleague at the office about God's omnipresence. I started the discussion by asking him if he would agree with me that the omniscient quality of God is derived from God's omnipresence, which he agreed with. Then I told him that if God was omnipresent, it means that God is also present in what we call idols because he will have to be present in the idols too to be omnipresent and omniscient. If God was not present in our shrines, it simply removes the omnipresence of God since he is not found everywhere. My colleague didn't say anything more to my argument, but I've not been satisfied with myself. I feel there is a missing link in my analysis (or is it hypothesis?) because I'm yet to hear anybody saying a similar thing. Or have I committed a blasphemy? Please Nairalanders, can you generally edit my thought? I want this topic to be seen from different dimensions. I conceived this thought during the week but have kept it till today to put it up for analysis. Thank you all in advance. |
I had an argument with a colleague at the office about God's omnipresence. I started the discussion by asking him if he would agree with me that the omniscient quality of God is derived from God's omnipresence, which he agreed with. Then I told him that if God was omnipresent, it means that God is also present in what we call idols because he will have to be present in the idols too to be omnipresent and omniscient. If God was not present in our shrines, it simply removes the omnipresence of God since he is not found everywhere. My colleague didn't say anything more to my argument, but I've not been satisfied with myself. I feel there is a missing link in my analysis (or is it hypothesis?) because I'm yet to hear anybody saying a similar thing. Or have I committed a blasphemy? Please Nairalanders, can you generally edit my thought? I want to see this topic seen from various dimensions. I conceived this thought during the week but have kept it till today to put it up for analysis. Thank you all in advance. |
Serendipity:You've spoken well, as a woman. I wish many a man knows this. Thank you. |
uboma: |
I could remember a friend who was overtly polite to a girl. He ended up being made a mumu! This does not mean that we should treat girls coarsely always but giving them free and unrestricted access to everything is vulnerable to abuse. Women abuse nice guys and most women married to nice guys usually end up turning them into houseboys. Some who are shouting 'ordinary queue' here would have quarrelled with a fellow customer in a queue at a bank or the atm over a similar incident. |
asalimpo:I didn't bother to reply him because I knew someone would do it for me. |
It is a pity that this my dude is poor. He was one of the best students in his department at the university and graduated nearly with a first class. He is teaching now to fend for himself to avoid a life of beggary until he secures a good job. I like him for his self-reliant attitude and for his intelligence. He finds it extremely difficult to borrow money or ask for handouts from even friends and if he undergoes the agony of doing that, he repays promptly. As he usually says: he who goes a-borrowing goes a-sorrowing. There are times he would prefer to starve than begging for money from even friends. I don't wait for him to ask me for money before I give him for I know his kind of person. He always attempt to repay but I always tell him to take it. I write this not to justify his act but to throw more light on why he behaved the way he did towards his girlfriend. |
martyns303:I had a similar thing in mind to tell him, that he should have known that the money was gone and should not have deducted the money without her permission. Thanks for your contribution, I really appreciate. |
MarthaK:What if you had a pressing debt to pay with the money and you had no other means of doing so? |
laplace12:Assume it was 1m and she was owing him 700k, does it sound better now? |
martyns303:Man, could you leave out the amount involved and deal with the content of the tale? I agree that the money is beggarly but then put yourself in the guy's shoes and offer advice accordingly. |
I have this fast friend who told me yesterday that his girlfriend broke up with him over a debt she owed him. He said the debt came about when he bought part-time form for her at a university to enable her to go for her degree programme for she only has ND. She promised to pay him back the money, which she never did and never even mentioned it in any conversation thereafter. As it goes, my friend is a teacher who earns only 10k as salary and the school does not pay teachers' salaries during holidays. Now the guy's economic woes were exacerbated by the prolonged holiday due to the Ebola epidemic. This forced him to borrow some money to assuage his 'brokeness', if such a word exists in English. Now school has resumed and his girlfriend who is a petty trader happened to have sold a pair of shoes to his fellow teacher, which the teacher concerned had not paid. She told him to get the money from the teacher for her. He did that but not before he deducted the 3k she was owing him. This enraged her and she didn't even listen to his explanation before making a dash for the door. Now he has called her since then but she has refused to pick his calls. He has gone to her house to no avail. She is an itinerant trader so it is hard to trace her to one place. My guy is feeling guilty, mightily guilty, for being selfish- for that is how he feels. He said he truly loves her and has given her money in the past, and not like he is stingy.The first words that came to my mind when he completed his tale were Shakespeare's '...for debt oft loses both itself and friend'. But then, is it the case? Although I'm yet to give him any advice but I feel his girlfriend is rash and even selfish to an extent. Nairalanders, what are views on this? Am I right in my judgement of the girlfriend? What advice should I give my friend? I would appreciate it if a female Nairalander would tell me how his girlfriend will view this. |
Harmthe:You are welcome. |
Let us kick off the discussion with the definition of concepts. A narcissist is someone who displays or suffers from narcissism, which is the habit of admiring oneself too much. The term is derived from a Greek myth in which Narcissus, a beautiful young man, fell in love with his own reflection in a pool. The myth had it that he died and was changed into a flower which bears his name. Narcissists are everywhere, and they can be incredibly draining and challenging to deal with. Here are 8 things you need to know about narcissists. It must be noted that a significant part of our population suffers from narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), meaning they meet five or six more of the following criteria: - Has a grandiose sense of self-importance, exaggerating their abilities and achievements - Has persistent fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love - Believes that he or she is 'special' and unique and should only associate with people of the same status - Has a constant need for attention, affirmation and praise - Has a strong sense of entitlement and an expectation of special treatment - Lacks empathy for others. - Is often envious of others or believes others are envious of them - Regularly shows arrogant or haughty behaviours and attitude. Many more people do not meet all of the criteria for NPD, but may still exhibit narcissistic personality traits from time to time. For this reason it is difficult to know for sure how many narcissists might be out there. But one thing is for sure, environment and society does play an important role in the development of narcissistic personality traits, and it is on the rise. If you suspect that someone in your life might be narcissist, there are things you can do in addition to comparing their behaviours to the diagnotic criteria listed above: - Ask them questions (Narcissists like to talk but not to listen). They love to talk about their achievements, abilities, beauty, brilliance endlessly. - Examine their Social Media Presence: Are they always posting status updates and commenting on everything? Do they frequently talk about themselves, their plans and their achievements? While heavy media use alone is not a definite indicator of narcissism, it is if the person is always on social media and also meets some of the narcissism criteria then they might be one of them. According to psychologists, even the common selfie and ussie has some sense of narcissism. - Do they involve you in grandiose schemes? If someone repeatedly involves you in grandiose schemes that never pan out, or is always talking about plans but ever actually following through, he or she could well be a narcissist. - Are they manipulative? They are skilled at manipulation and getting what they want out of people. The best way to deal with narcissist is to love them from afar. Loving them from afar means that you recognise you are powerless to change the person, and that spending time with them can be toxic to your well-being. This is so because people that suffer from acute narcissism often live in denial or are completely unwilling to accept that they have a disorder. If a person truly believes that he is more special or talented and superior, imagine how challenging it might be for a therapist to convince him or her otherwise. Limiting your interactions and time spent, not playing into their grandiose schemes and not allowing yourself to be manipulated are all perfectly acceptable strategies. |
I put this tale of my friend on Nairaland to seek for advice on the best way to handle it. I never thought someone would think I copied a Nollywood film story. Do I look so puerile and silly? We should be humble enough to know that we have not seen and experienced everything in life. Films are fictional, a reflection of reality. In other words, films won't be possible without reality. The real tale usually comes before the film. Life abounds with tales. |
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ERF: A One-Hour compulsory Heart to Heart talk would do the miracle. He should ask her to highlight her problem, if she's okay with stealing or she find it difficult to withhold herself from picking anything unfamiliar (her own).One knotty side to this issue is that the wife has refused to agree to the glaring fact that she is a thief, and any attempt to make her feel or look so has been rebuffed. This is one aspect that complicates the whole matter. This is partly due to the fact that she is yet to be caught red-handed pilfering either money or valuables. The case about the phone is the closest she has had. I've accepted your advice and I deeply appreciate it. |
berem: the advice is for your friend and not you. Does it look like I am advising you?It reads so. All the same, your advice is welcomed. Thanks. |
berem: You need to tell her parents before she disgraces you further. They brought her up and you need to tell them what she has turned into. Tell them before you hear one day that your wife has been beaten and her clothes torn in public for stealing.I will certainly pass across this your contribution. You sounded like I'm the victim when I'm only a friend. He is a fast friend and I'm seeking advice on behalf of him because a friend in need is a friend indeed. |
marieolae: This woman has a problem. She's suffering from kleptomania. And the only solution to this is prayers and communication. The husband needs to sit down and talk to his wife. Maybe she's not satisfied with what she has, or it could just be greed. Anyhow, he needs to know the reason behind this problem. He could also visit a counsellor to advice him on what he could do. As for me, if my husband steals, because of love I will not leave him. I believe there is a God who is the solution to all my problems.I doubt if it is a case of kleptomania. The communication option appears more plausible to me and will be tried. You know Nigerians are religious and my friend belongs to that group. |
I have a friend who is currently going through a rough patch in his married life. He has been married for three years. According to him, he started to suspect his wife of heist after a year of marriage. His money would disappear whenever he is not careful with its safe keeping at home. At a point, he had to confront her but she denied flatly and the matter caused a lot of problems in the marriage. So, in order not to shatter his young marriage, he decided to mellow and let things return to normalcy. Now what is causing him great headache, according to him, is that she seems to have taken the ignoble behaviour outside when two days ago a missing phone was found in her possession. When questioned to know how the phone came into her possession she blatantly told the crowd, that had gathered to search for the phone, that she saw the phone rigging and decided to keep it for the owner. This excuse is flimsy because she deliberately switched off the phone after she had 'taken' it and even when the phone owner checked it after she had given him back the phone, he did not see any missed call. This is happening just after my friend bought her a brand new phone worth 28k while he uses a phone worth 5k. He is just discombobulated by her act because the whole affair seems to be getting worse by the day. According to him, the thought of him spending his whole life with her is increasingly becoming torturous to him. He is scared to death that some day she might be caught in a market, which we all know is the peak of that shameful act, and drench him with embarrassment. I've also done my investigations on her and what I unearthed seems to corroborate the bad image she is projecting as many a friend of hers told me many cases of her stealing money and valuables. I don't know how truthful their accounts are and have decided not to share it with her husband. When I queried them why they didn't tell my friend this invaluable pieces of information before he married their friend, they said they had to play safe and didn't want to pour sand into their friend's proposed marriage garri. The question is: How do you deal with a wife that steals? And what advice should I give to my friend, her husband? |
First Commandment: Thou should not base your relationship on Nairaland lists, or get ready to marry in heaven or ... OP, great write-up though. |
If you base your relationship on the lists on Nairaland, get ready to marry in heaven or hell. |
Too many I'm sorry just take away the sweetness of the expression. In other words, use it when the situation really deserves it. Too much of anything is bad. |
[quote author=Debbiemma][/quote]Follow me, I'm following you. Together let's form TeamBangaSoup, hahaha |
Banga soup, I feel hungry just by a mere mention of the name. |
Emene Izon keme, Izon tu adou. |
My guy, it looks she scored a hattrick in the first half. It would be hard to equalise and win the match in the second half. (in Napolean Hill's voice): Keep trying for nothing is impossible. |
wazoboy: Nawa fo u o! frm all inducations u ar nt in d north talkless of being n Borno and u simply choose to beleive that NA is lying, but who told u that others(e.g., Sahara, bbcI stopped to believe the NA the day Gwoza fell to Boko Haram. I hate SaharaReporters with a passion for their sensationalism but there are times when one has to abandon sentiments and view issues dispassionately. I have lived in Borno State and I'm familiar with the state and from the information I have gathered from friends and acquaintances, there is little hope of this news turning out false. I'm praying for our gallant soldiers to bring into being new measures and ways to defeat these scums. It is obvious to any discerning mind that the extant measures and strategies have been overwhelmed and have gone comatose. I believe our soldiers can still do the job. |
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