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J111333:
Bad guys don enjoy all the ingredients in that girl finish and here is Mr. Niceguy coming to have leftovers...It's better to not know and have than to know and have.

Say no to simpism brotherly. Whatever thing you think you have for that girl is not love but iberibeism.

Learn to leave street dogs on streets no matter how friendly they appear..

Stargurl20:
It's truly high time we stopped it. Fine! We may play it for a while, but it mustn't be for too long. It's so...heart wrenching for me seeing someone I love with someone else . I pray this pains leave soon.... Because it's painful and I need my sanity.

# if you love someone as a lady and you can sense that the feeling is mutual, please stop the hard to get charade.

adecz:
How can you turn a roundabout
into a junction?

Are you moving forward or backwards?

A flyover would have been better
or kuku leave the roundabout.

placeofallure:
Blasphemy! Profanity!
Is there anywhere the OP mentioned the man is Christian or got married in a church? Even African traditional, local beliefs think blessings come from marriages, why are you quick to ascribe that to the Bible?
Whether you're Egungun or not, I'll still tell you to be careful!

2dice01:


When money miss road Jam Alabi

Humanoid01:
This is not nice at all. Is there anything wrong with his parents financing his expenses as a student? Just because you became independent early doesn't mean others who do/did much later are lazy and unambitious. If I may ask, What was your reason for creating this thread?

Poseidon000:
Sup guys. I've something that have always earned the acme of my discountenance. And that's how men crudely jump into marriage in other to conform to societal dictate or for some selfish satisfaction.
This have gotten me pensive and I'll make no ado in getting to the nucleus of the issue.

Yesterday, I was headed toward gwarimpa, and on my way I noticed a disheveled young guy around Efab estate trekking by the express.
As a rule, I always give such guys 'lift,' because i was once with a female colleague in a lonely path that seldom have cars coming our way, suddenly one private car stopped and when I tried entering after my female colleague boarded, the SIMPson bounced me out and zoomed off with an empty back seat.

That incident birthed in me a sense of solidarity and understanding of what men go through just for being men, but yesterday, I was so incensed by a botch job my mechanic did that I drove past. After about 4 hours when I had everything sorted and was heading back, I saw the same guy heading toward my direction again(it's a dual carriage way) and he was sweating profusely, so I beckoned on him to enter. We got talking and I inquired why he's trekking such a long distance. He said: he went to look for a job that wasn't successful and he's going back to Arab road.
But this is just a miniscule of the guy's travail. He grew up in abject poverty.In fact, they gave birth to him and his sister in an uncompleted building. His dad died in that building, his sister got pregnant for some riffraff and they started what we call "abuja marriage", his mom subsequently fell sick and died in the same uncompleted building. Then the owner of the building decided to complete it, and drove him away.

Now, this guy was able to get another uncompleted building to stay, and as I'm typing this, he's with wife and kids. This is a person that don't have food at home and can not afford N150 to and fro.

I gave him 10k but I was so mad with him; I mean, I was disconcertingly appalled that this guy will think of marriage in his privation. Why not be a little bit comfortable before considering marriage, instead to face life with the dignity of a breadline.

Sadly, this is the same mistake lot of guy's have been making thinking they'll fall into some stupendous money as soon as they marry, and this is mostly perpetuated by religious charlatans who say; a man's destiny is predicated on his future wife, that as soon as he gets married, the special blessing tied to marriage will start opening way for him.

That's a mendacious twaddle that will leave you in a precarious situation. Please guys, have 'comfort' afoot before you dabble into marriage.

What's your take on this?

missimelda01:
People like you with such mentality is the problem.

missimelda01:
I'll go first.
I'm single because I've been unable to find someone who has similar values and beliefs as me. Also I'm trying to focus more on myself and my family as I am the first child.

Let's make this thread interesting

heendrix:
1000% correct.....we guys really need to wake up

I hope to start the Revolution on Twitter soon though.

UndauntedYOCA:
Different strokes for different folks bro and I didn't ask for everyday, I simply said at least thrice a week. Was that too much to ask for?
I recently came across a post where a guy was complaining of how he loves to call and be called but his gf doesn't and he hates it, so you see, it's the person, not a gender thing.
Why would you go a week or two weeks without calling me?

quadriolakunle:
Hi guys,

This is first post here.

Just wanted to be sure of something and I have seen Alot of intelligent contributors on this platform.

This is the issue.

At what age did you leave your parents house to alone.
Or what age is best for become independent of your parents.

All manners of counsel is allowed.

Buhari2023:
This is the life we live man




Whenever you meet a lady for the first time
just know that 70/100 words that proceeds from the mouth of that lady are lies

With time the truth unfolds

Now it is left for you to brace for impact

lefulefu:
all the more reason he should block her or ignore her cos she"s just manipulating him..And blocking her wont ruin any future relationship of his.Its about being in control of yourself emotionally.When you are emotionally weak women manipulate u and rub your face in the mud.I bet she always brags to her friends how she always makes a fool of the op.I wont be even shocked if op is even sending her money using to to bribe her hoping for a comeback .when u are weak as a man u become completely worthless.l Let me just hope op is just a 16 old teenage love struck kid and not some grown up man.

lefulefu:
ok is this one of the reasons u said u dislike naija guys?

vybzkartel:
I proposed love to her though knowing that she had a guy
Wanted to marry her but she said she will think about it. Later she said No so I moved on.

I decided to avoid her totally since I wanted the feeling I had for her to die since I couldn't get her...I wouldn't call nor message for about a month and then she would either call or message me. This cycle has gone on for about three years. Anytime I decide to forget her, she will call or message asking why I don't call and bla bla. When she does that and I decide to call or message her, she would give excuses and hang up or quit chats.

When I shun her, she will find her way back to call me or message me. Should I blacklist her and block her on messenger?

If she doesn't love me and can't date me, why can't she let me be? Please advise

Mumu fool.......These Is one of the few Idiots I've always been talking about, The pathetic thing will be I'm sure you are In your 30's. A large Shiithole males are the lowest of the lowest of the males In the world. No balls, Nothing, Absolutely poor In decision making. You come here dey ask foolish and nonsense question......

vanida6:
Disgusting broke begger nd dirty face

Twistedadult:
[b]Hello everyone. I'm in my early thirties and I have been dating a girl for the past 15 months. I love her so much and really want to marry her but the problem is that she tells lies a lot and even when she's caught she doesn't become remorseful rather she tries to justify her actions. I have caught her in multiple lies in the past but still decided to give her some time to change but it's not happening. I have even met with her parents to tell them my intention of getting married to their daughter. She also finds it difficult to do house chores or even spend on me no matter how little. I take care of her to the best of my ability and would have engaged her if not for my fear of ending up with someone I can't trust. We had a fight last week and we haven't spoken to each other since then. She called me and was telling me her bestie is getting married next month and I still don't want to pay her bride price. It got me upset because of her tone and I hung up on her and didn't call back neither did she. I'm in a dilemma right now. My head is telling me to leave her for good because it seems telling lies and being selfish is part of her and she can't change while my heart is telling me to go back and keep trying. How do you think I should handle this situation? Thanks!

lifeissues2020:
Why now? Have you been disappointed? People are still marrying and enjoying their homes. No matter how bad things have been for you, things can be turned around....just trust God and seek counsel!

Jerkbaba:
I pity all of you! All of you go just die before your time! I don warn u!

lefulefu:
haba wetin naija guys do u nah

Silasloaded:
Goodday bro no vex how i go take dey successful and make tthis money like you.

lefulefu:
so how did u know she stopped when u told her to stop

Firstandonly:
I'm yet to hear of a woman complaining on how masturbating have destroy her life or how she can't enjoy sex because of it and how masturbating makes her loose her confidence in public. it's that the bad affect of masturbating doesn't affect women?