lalasticlala: What's the coldest way you found out your relationship was over?
After aborting my pregnancy..l still went to her sister's wedding that she have given me an Iv earlier on hoping to still patch up things with her....she was surprised to see me and my friend. When we about to leave she was seeing us off only for the guy (guy that had dump her before and came back) just order her to stop and come back. It was then l know is over.
purples25: This post is just my way of letting off steam. It is truly not easy to take care of teenagers. Those who have teenagers they care for can probably relate, and those who do not can have an inkling of what its like.
I am a senior sister and second mother to my 14 year old youngest brother, and 15 year old male cousin. They are such characters that they each deserve their own section. Here goes:
Troublesome Teenager Number 1, My 15 year old Cousin: I love my cousin, but he is a serious case. When he came to live with my family, I resolved not to touch him or discipline him extensively. People staying with others tend to bring up accusations of abuse, anything you do to them is attributed to the fact that they are not your immediate family. As a result, I and my brothers handle him like an egg.
The boy took ample advantage of this. From being sullen and disciplined, he became very wild. Many times he would take offence to the slightest correction. He also goes out when he likes, picks whatever he wants from the kitchen and watches movies on my laptop from dawn till dusk. Answers me back as he likes from time to time. My brothers are his role models but if I correct him, that's where the problem lies. I think he feels I cannot and should not tame him. The funniest thing he ever did was starting to act up after he was told that the only reason I was not touching him was so as not to create issues between his mom and us. He became bolder and even tried to deepen his already deepening voice.
Whenever his mom comes around, he turns me to his enemy. He starts to perpetuate the notion that he is a victim of abuse. The last time his mom was around, he started shouting at me at his whim and when I got angry one day and slapped him, his mother finally made him a celebrated hero. She almost took him home by midnight that day, because the image of an abused boy that she wanted so badly had finally been portrayed to her.
Troublesome Teen Number 2, my 14 year old brother: I love my little brother as well. I tried to raise him like people raise kids abroad. Talking to him gently when he misbehaves, explaining to him, punishing by taking things away or just small reprimands....
That shii didn't work. He became the most troublesome little boy I knew. Whenever his friends are around, he wants to show off to them by talking over me, ignoring my demands. I started to discipline him but before long, he knew how to run to the neighbors house, taking the cane from me, and running outside where the discipline would become a spectacle. Sometimes he even yells at me too. He has tried to beat a few adults who tried to beat him. But they gave him a good beating
Since when he was small, 'he wants what he wants.' If I don't give him something, sometimes he would go and take it. Sometimes I would catch him. Time and time again, even with warnings, things still disappear at will.
When any kid around him is being bad, he wants to do two times what that kid is doing, and be loved for it. He feels that is love. From the time that my cousin came around, and we told him that we cannot touch our cousin, else it would be termed as abusing a family member from another mother.....he has taken it as proof of love that however we pardon our cousin, we must pardon him. He copies what our cousin does, does worse, and always defends himself with the fact that we leave our cousin, we dont spare him.
Now we have come to the last part, my experience with these two kids combined...
The Terrible Two: The two of them constantly answer me back, laugh and joke and even encourage me to come and punish them. They feel no amount of beating from me can break them, maybe because I am a woman. However, they have full fear and respect for the males around them. If i try to talk to them they act as if someone or something insignificant is talking. Few times though, they try to calm the wild spirits inside them, and behave.
Things still disappear at home, and even if we are the only ones at home, they both co operate and deny everything. The co operate to disrespect me. They start joking and laughing right after I'm done with my long warnings or advice talks. They tell me to come and punish them, that they will enjoy the punishment. They have turned my laptop to their permanent TV, day, night and midnight, i cant use it. If i hide it, they find it, turn it on, play whatever on it as early as 5 am till 12 or 1 on weekends. They put games there, got a game pad and play till thy kingdom come, all without my consent. They don't answer me, they do what they like when they like.
They are only tame at school. These are not kids that are meek. These are tall versions of Aki and Pawpaw that are already as tall as me at the moment.
This morning, my mom called me and told me that handling these teens is all about patience.
If you have had difficulties with teens, you can talk about your experience, to make this more interesting and educative. If you were a troublesome or troubled teen, you can also share.
Ciao!
you handle them wrongly from the start... If you come my house teenage relatives/my kids friends knows me as a no- nonsense person. One look at me they scram or behave properly. Don't get me wrong here l know teenagers need proper handling any wrong step you regret it.
stansaintly: I've heard many people thanking Jonathan and at the other corner seen Buhari fans commending him for introduction of BVN. I'm confused, who, between the two introduced BVN?
Which Buhari? You sure say the man know wetin be BVN
Hushbingo: This is becoming serious. My girl could barely spare a day without seeing me or calling me every five minutes...
Everywhere i go, she follows. Everything i do she wants to know about it.
She's in her final year. She blackmail me by threatening suicide whenever i mention break up..
The thing is, she doesn't want to leave my house again.
There are things about her that are way beyond my expectations. Things that are secrets so i won't go into that side.
One thing is, she doesn't ask for dime from me. I only give her money out of my heart. She has spent on me more than i have spent on her...
The real mata is that i want to be a bachelor again. She won't let me be and then this her monitoring spirit everywhere i go...
Please advise me what to do.
Abeg you in the name of the Father, the Son and the Holy spirit give me her number. We don't value what we have have until we lost it. Girls of nowadays na few be wife material. They don't know how to cook,so materialistic with their drooping breast and wild pussy. My brother hold this girl tight.. just let her know what she is doing wrong that is annoying you, she will make amend.
jaelz: So I was hosting an uncle of mine and we were discussing about why he wasn't wearing his ring, to my utmost surprise he said he wears his ring any day his wife wears hers. I was shocked though but my mind drifted back to me so many of my friends and relations who also do not wear their rings again even despite being married.
Back in the days I know you only take off your ring when you want to flirt abi play away matches, but these days it's almost as if they take off their wedding rings immediately after those church weddings.
So my question is why?
[color=#006600][/color]l stopped wearing mine when the ring longer fit into my finger and whenever l wear it l need s a soap to remove it. I just pack am put for one side.
IamBroke: Hello guys...I wanted to study political science but I've not been given admission so I was referred to study sociology but I don't know much about the course... And where can I fit into in real life if I study sociology
Advise please To be candid with you please study a course that is a professional and marketable course. A close friend of mine study Political science 16 years down the lane no good jobs because is course is not a marketable nor a professional course ..these are the thing's you look at when picking a course except you want to be a teacher or maybe you a desperate to be a graduate or you have connections waiting for you. The system in Nigeria rendered some courses in irrelevant.
obembet: I believe many of us know the story of king Solomon in the Bible when God give him blank cheque to request for whatever he want. And according to the scripture, 1 Kings 3 KJV
1 Kings 3:4 And the king went to Gibeon to sacrifice there; for that was the great high place: a thousand burnt offerings did Solomon offer upon that altar. 3:5 In Gibeon the LORD appeared to Solomon in a dream by night: and God said, Ask what I shall give thee. 3:6 And Solomon said, Thou hast shewed unto thy servant David my father great mercy, according as he walked before thee in truth, and in righteousness, and in uprightness of heart with thee; and thou hast kept for him this great kindness, that thou hast given him a son to sit on his throne, as it is this day. 3:7 And now, O LORD my God, thou hast made thy servant king instead of David my father: and I am but a little child: I know not how to go out or come in. 3:8 And thy servant is in the midst of thy people which thou hast chosen, a great people, that cannot be numbered nor counted for multitude. 3:9 Give therefore thy servant an understanding heart to judge thy people, that I may discern between good and bad: for who is able to judge this thy so great a people?
Guys.. If you are opportune to request for one thing from God as king Solomon, what will you request for?
husseinaaa: I met this guy 2018 in my Madam's tailoring shop while I was learning as an apprentice.
He usually comes around, he talks and jokes with everyone in the shop and we are all free with him after sometimes of showing good behaviours towards us.
To cut the story short, one day he asked for my phone number that he wants to be communicating with me, so I told him I don't have a phone I am not working yet, I am still learning and he smiled and promised to buy me a phone, which I told him if it's not just a gift he should not buy but if he wants to dash me for no reason like having intention of relationship or sex etc he should. Then he said he just meant to buy for me as a friend and I thank him.
So few days later he gave me 50,000 to buy myself a phone and I collected it and appreciated it.
So we communicate normally but just as a friend.
Last month he started asking me out, I told him am not ready for relationship because the kind of suffering and stress I pass through to survive totally made me lose interest for anything like that, he got angry and told me to send back his 50,000 to him or I should accept him. He is threatening me because he knows I cannot afford such money to pay him so I told him to give me time, I will refund it just to avoid problem but he said no time will be given that either I should give him my virginity or if I don't pay before next 7 days he will destroy my life, either by jazz or attack.
I just don't know what to do I need advice.
You shouldn't have accept the monetary gift. There was a day l went to withdraw some thousands of. naira in an ATM and there was this pretty girl in a corner watching and she walk up to me telling me they are students, they have run out of supplies so they decided to come out to seek for assistance l should help her with money. I said no probs but l also need her help..l am sex starve,we should help each other.. she said she can't do it ..l said no wahala but you can walk up to me from know where and telling me to part with my money...l just hiss and walk away na so she too waka. That's life for you! Don't take if you know you won't give out.
This is what happens when you trained up your children the right way, Good education Good morals . And God's blessings and guidance....... the sky will be their limit Congrats to her[color=#006600][/color]
Is because our judiciary is for the highest bidder that is why he feel he can ask for bail after jumping the first one. Lawyers self no they try oooo. A lawyer usually advice him to apply for bail
Xenry: Let's think about it for a second! 1.If you save the money, they would acuse you of using your family for money ritual. 2.If you save the wife, then she go blame you for not saving the money (especially if she's a 9ja woman.) 3.If you save your mother, then you would become, childless, sexless and cashless. 4.If you save the daughter, then you would regret not saving the money if she eventually become a hoe (especially if she's a Nigerian girl). So, finally, no way!
I will save the money $10 million.... Have no mother(she is dead) I have no daughter ( I have 3 lovely boys) My wife has made a vow to make my life and our marriage a hell despite all my efforts to build a lovely home l sometimes wonder who she really is( right now I am in no mood to save such type of wife) so the money I save! Thank you!
Sucide is a thought that crept into people subconsciousness from the pit of hell. How l wish the young man knows how many times that though have come into my mind but I rebuke it. Things are not going well today doesn't mean it won't be well tomorrow.[color=#006600][/color]
Divide is a thought that crept up to be subconsciousness from the pit of hell. How l wish that young man knows how many times that though have come into my mind but I rebuke the demon. Things are not going well today doesn't mean it won't be well tomorrow. Is just a matter of time if you believe.[color=#006600][/color]
[quote author=WriterNig post=99318771][/quote]Abeg which is popularly known as Emmanuel emenike!!! Please someone should tell me is real name then. Lol!!!
bmcariyo: You loaned your friend N4,000,000 last year and since then, he has refused to pay back, which has really deteriorated the friendship.
You beg him to just pay you N2,000,000 and forget the rest because you are in a financial crisis. Your friend then says he can only get you N1,500,000 since that's all he has.
You feel like you have no option but to accept. You eventually give him your account details to send the amount directly to your bank.
You wake up the next morning, checked your account and there is N15,000,000 in it. You kept staring at the screen in disbelief but it is indeed 15m.
You grab your phone and find 53 missed calls from him and an additional 27 text messages begging you to transfer back N13,500,000 since he only meant to send N1,500,000 and mistakenly added an extra "0."
As a well-brought-up person, what are you supposed to do?
1. Send back N13,500,000/=? 2. Take your full N4,000,000/=? 3. Keep the entire N15,000,000/=? 4...... 5...
#FoodForThought
l will just remove my 4m jeje + 1m for inconvenience allowances. Him father there....
Is that all No bounty?,no reward?. If my information led to his arrest what will be my gain? Meanwhile effc will take half of the loot and return the other half to the government while mine will be handshake..efcc is not ready to catch this Adebowale
LegendVibes: Nigerian athlete Blessing Okagbare has been recognised by Guinness World Records as the only athlete to have attended the Diamond League meetings 67 times, Igbere TV reports.
Okagbare on Wednesday shared the good news via Instagram.
Romance › Re: What's The Coldest Way You Found Out Your Relationship Was Over? by Willy123(m): 3:33pm On Apr 07, 2021
who knows this line ??