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Okortor:
I DONT SHARE BILLS WITH MY WIFE AND WILL NEVER DO SO EVEN THOUGH SHE WORKS WITH A MULTINATIONAL COMPANY AND EARNS QUITE A GOOD SALARY WITH A SUPER MARKET OWNER........ I PAY 100% BILL IN MY HOUSE. THAT ALONE COMMANDS RESPECT AND KEEPS YOU THE LEAD AS A MAN.

MEN PROVIDE FOR YOUR FAMILY AND STOP EXPECTING YOUR WIFE TO SUPPORT, SHE IS ONLY ANN HELP MATE NOT BILL PAYER.

I think it just satisfies your ego of I am the man, not that it commands respect. You don't need to pay all the bills to be respected and why should respect be "commanded" when she can just do it freely from her heart?

Treat her as your wife not maid, respect her, be open and honest to her (along with being faithful), in most cases she'd do same. Most men who want to handle everything about money either wants to be able to brag about doing it all as the man or have ulterior motives such as wanting to spend their money when, how, on what and with whoever they want (including side chicks) no questions ask no explanation given either - after all it is my money and I pay all the bills.

Reading most of the comments here, I am once again thankful for the wife I married.

All these talks about the man should pay the rent or school fees as it is your duty blah blah blah, who wrote the duty or in which constitution is it written? You people just give yourself expectations of all kinds then subject others to it via peer/societal pressure thinking that's what makes you a Man

My wife's money is not her money neither is mine my own money. All earnings becomes the family's income (she and I). Even before we got married we do budgeting when she gets paid or I get paid. We look at what she/I want's to do for the month and what can be kept aside or moved to another month. We both know what each other earns and when we get paid. Of course we budget personal money as well (do what you want with that, it's your business)

If both of you pull the earnings together, how can you tell who paid the rent, school fees and the likes? Is it just for bragging right? Why all sharing formula for something that all parties are just supposed to do freely together as one (whether bills or chores)? Is it not your family and home? You are supposed to be working together not selfishly or thinking about yourself and your things first or separately.

Marriage no suppose hard like that na. All these I am the Man I am the man na wetin follow dey lead to marriage issues when families relocate

Badadvisor:
All these pictures you're posting are completely useless.
Nigerians are suffering in Canada, people have been here for 1-2 years without a stable job, people are losing their home cos they couldn't keep up with the rent, people are dropping out of colleges cos they can no longer afford the new semester fee after coming here with the thought that they can work and pay it off, people are dropping shame behind and moving back to Nigeria after wasting millions of naira coming to this useless empty country and you keep posting these lame pictures without offering any tips to help them navigate the struggles. Nigerian are dying in this country and you guys don't want to say the truth openly so the new ones coming should know what's up.

Canada is a dead country, just big for nothing and empty. You better use that money to move to any country in Europe even if it's a non speaking English country instead of coming to Canada. Don't be deceived by these pictures you see online, the reality is far different from what you are seeing.

CANADA IS DEAD!!!

Are you in Canada? Are you a student, PR or Temporary Visitor? Asking to know what category you fall into.

There are many reasons people are suffering or experiencing hardship in Canada. Some of it like Ednut said includes falling for Peer Pressure, Not doing proper research and refusal to listen to others (sometimes people think those telling them the truth are the Bad Belle people that don't want them to Japa).

You can't force others to listen to you when it is their own money, time, resources and especially their experience to become.

So the people you are talking about did they ask in this forum or thread? Did they declare they had enough money to care for their needs for a certain period but travelled without the claimed amount? Did they dive into purchases just to show they have also arrived without properly doing the calculations to know if it's the right thing and right time?

It is easy to come and shout Canada is dead. True it might not seem like it used to be years and years ago. However, it's still not as bad as some of you try to paint it. Come in legally with the proper permits/documents (not those hoping to convert papers upon arrival). It becomes easier. Note I didn't say smooth but easier as there could still be challenges but your path becomes a little more direct than someone who's looking for an under the table job or one hoping to school and still earn enough to care for his feeding, housing, health, car, family back in Nigeria and still have something left to pay off his tuition.

They were certainly told the truth. They didn't want to hear it and chose to rugged it or find a way when they arrive. Canada wey ask for POF no get reason? Anyway, we say welcome. The land mass is big enough for us.

megastu:
whats your area of specialty? what funds where available to you? If you intend to do soft landing and go back that means you had some descent bar available. Kindly assist so we all can get a wholistic view if this joblessness is wholesome or only applies to certain skills and profession.

I am into tech and was willing to start with roles that didn't fully match my goals. My idea was to start somewhere especially because my wife got something we didn't want to sacrifice in the alter of "Go come back" besides it is relatively easier for me to switch later if I want but it won't be that easy for her.

Fund: Funny we only traveled with what we needed for our brief stay. Infact some of our POF was still locked in Piggyvest when we traveled. We were fine though as it was a paying job that made us extend our stay. So all is good that ends well.

I don't talk much about our experience because to my understanding and what I can see, it's not the norm. I don't want to give anyone a false hope. At the same time it is not impossible. I don't think we did anything special such the it can be used as "working method". I just know that we worked for it. My wife applied to more than 120 companies within one month (1 week before travel included) while testing the labour market, I did less than that because I never thought we were going to stay back so I didn't bother. Well, we were favoured with a reward.

That's it about my story sha. I'd leave it at that. Like I said before. It is not impossible to get it smooth. Unfortunately, not many experience it, neither do I have the "Password" for it. One just needs to put in the work and at the same time prepare for Incase.. so fund/POF is important

Mecka:
will you have kids

Yes, I plan to have. For now I am still enjoying the wife of my youth 😎

jasperonyx:
I really pity new PR person that will come here looking for encouragement.

He will meet the jobless one,who has become bitter and think his reality is same with others.


The one that doesn't even live in canada, but he is just here to talk down on canada, how so so and so is better, or even how is better to stay in Nigeria.

You don't live in Canada, why are you here?
Dont you have work?

Its not easy anywhere right now in the world, the economy is affected everywhere.

People in the US are talking about how biden messed their economy, It wont be hard for most nigerians living there because of their survival skilss.

People in Uk are talking about how its not easy.
France also, at least from a personal experience.

If Canada government thinks that there is nothing for anyone anymore, the least they will do is to stop PR pathway.

If you dont have a job,ask yourself what you have been doing wrong.
There is something for everyone.
My friend coming into Ontario this month, already have two job offers from toronto, dont ask me the salary, what matters is that she did.

Ify got her job within 2 months of moving to Nova Scotia and thats because she needs something better, she would have taken anything.

I can understand students, but PR holders ranting here?

No way.

Like someone said, stop looking for a handout.

Oh, before you say that its my friend my friend, yes, i'm good with that, i have a lot of positive story than negative.

If people can come here and get so discouraged from comments here, people can also get encouraged by people ' stories too.

I called Sarah last night, i told her to avoid this group for now 🤣, as a new PR, here is the last place she should be.

I'm moving to ottawa with hope, my field is kind of different, but i already got recruiters reaching out.

Avoiding the thread entirely though might in itself not be the solution. The thing with social media and forums is there's a need to filter (mix and match)

If one concentrate only on the good news, their reality might be different when they arrive. If they concentrate only on the bad news they might get discouraged too and end up not trying. There's the need to mix optimism with reality.

Is it possible to get and offer before or within a few months of arriving Canada? Yes! My wife and I did it . In fact we traveled to only do soft landing for three weeks with intention to return to our normal jobs only to have to resume new jobs in Canada on the 4th and 5th week of arrival.

But is this the norm? No. Ask many, they would tell you a different story. So we can't tell others coming that because I did it that is the way it happens.

My advise to new PR and Students is to put in the work (effort is required) and at the same time prepare for "incase". It is not always so smooth. However, there are chances it can go smoothly too.

Optimism + Reality na key

walenden:
Canada is an overrated hell of a place!. Some people in Nigeria eat better than they do after moving to Canada, but the truth is often hidden as people tend to criticize Nigeria while covering up the realities of life in a place like Canada. My brother had to sleep at a train station in Toronto for two days before finding a temporary place to stay. Even their so-called homeless shelters are filled up and no space . It's a terrible place for any hustler looking to work and study because currently no work and many are jobless . Money wasted on worthless education there is better invested elsewhere! if you go online you will see thousand of job but it all liars and deceivers! . many of you Nigerians aboard please make you guys dey tell people coming the truth and not creating all this fake paradise credit lifestyle online to deceive people back home !!

Even when most of you are told, you'd respond with "Make I enter first, we go run am" or " You don Japa, you no want another person to Japa"

Canada required you to have POF. They know the country is not easy thus requested you have enough money that would last you a while. You claimed you had when you sent fake POF. Alas! reality is different.

Next thing, your brother would open a YouTube channel about how Canada is not easy.

Canada is not a place you do " Let's get there first, we'd find a way" if you are hoping on such you better be ready to face it too if it fails. People wey prepare still dey struggle to talk of.

Make your brother still dey apply and stay positive because it can become frustrating. Always remember why he left, his goal or purpose. We pray he finds something soonest.

tosyne2much:
I personally know of someone in his 50s too without a wife and kids

Looking at him, loneliness is always written all over him and he sometimes talks to himself like someone that is having mental issues.. Most of the time, he's always outside sitting with people till late hour and goes home when everyone disappears

This is not the kind of life any sane person would wish for

And you don’t know anyone that is married with kids that acts like they are mentally unstable and stay out late?

Common guys! Having or not having kids did not cause nor would it prevent this from happening.

pansophist:
Some have kids but end up disowning two, why the rest are just zero people.

Some have kids, and died before their kids grew. Some have kids, but the kids don't care about their parents.

Some people adopted kids, and the kids turned out to be better then their biological ones.

Just know that the future is not certain. And in any decision you make, be sure that you understand the potential challenges that will arise from there.

As a guiding principle, make sure you're not having kids as a backup for old age pension, loneliness and to make them a photocopy of the dreams you couldn't accomplish. You'll he so disappointed.

Could not have been said any better 👍

CoronaVirusPro:
Fulfillment, company and a legacy and empire to pass-on.

My kids are not a burden to me. If I am not spending on them, where else would I be spending money? As a matter of fact, nothing makes me happy than spending on my kids. The whole quest of me existing , is making them become the best, and that does not stop me from enjoying my life.

When you financially capable and buoyant, having kids is the best thing that can happen to you. Cos without them, you definitely won’t even have reason to spend.

How many days a year can you fly around the world cos you single? We talking about playing basketball and PS with your kids.

When someone dies, He does not know whether his legacy or empire continues. The kids can turn out to be useless and squander everything within years. Or there can be an accident that occurs where the children were all in one flight and all died. That legacy or empire moves to someone else and his lineage closes.

These things do not really matter because all you are sure of is what you have and were able to achieve so banking on the kids tomorrow is just setting yourself up without plans.


Having kids is good. It has its own happiness and life’s experiences. At the same time not having kids is also great. The experience and joy the person gets is different .

Let’s stop thinking that life has only one way to success or happiness. We all desire different things and ways of getting them.

I have seen those who had no kids live satisfactorily as well as suffer. Same way I have seen those who have kids do both.

okoroemeka:
and I am beginning to wonder what type of good man will marry a woman that does not want children, especially when having children is now the major reason men are getting married ,,anybody that does not want children both biological or adopted is copying the oyibo lifestyle,those people have homes that take care of elderly people but here in Nigeria you will die and rot to skeleton on your bed nobody will give a shit about you, offsprings is the best old age insurance policy in Nigeria,when your strength will fail,your eyesight,health,mind,that is when you need a loyal person by your side

Do you think someone like Dangote at his old age assuming he does not have his own children would suffer at Old age without anyone to take care of him? As in he can’t afford caregivers?

What you have posted is part of the problem with this Society. Why are you raising kids with the mind that they inturn would come to take care of you? These are the reason people give birth to 5 children with hopes that one will become a doctor the other an Engineer or pilot etc.


Which still bring back the question I had asked earlier. So those without children perhaps they lost their kids to accidents or the likes should kill themselves because they have no children to care for them so Old age would not be worth living.

Have you never heard about family members or children abounding parents at old age? Never coming around and only sends money if they do?

How about you plan your life today independent of whether your kids come to care for you or not you are still sufficient. Build loyalty and trustworthiness today. You’d have people around you tomorrow. Don’t be a burden to others. If you can still afford your needs at old age and have maintained a respectable character, people would always come around.

Klass99:
It sounds like you have a good thing going for you which is great and I congratulate you for.

If heaven asked me to name one wish they could grant me, I would say give me a sweet, wonderful and compatible companion in the form of a male man like you created Eve for Adam.

I am not enamoured with children the way majority of the population is, I am not looking to them or for them to give my life meaning or fill my heart with joy and pride (as you put it)

I want to love and be loved, give me a good man I can do life with, whether it is for 5 years or 10 years, I will take it and make the most of it. You people put too much stock in children as the almighty thing everyone should aspire to but some of us value and appreciate other things besides children.

I wish I can like your comment 10 more times. The general society places too much emphasis on happiness being dependent on having kids. Thereby putting too much pressure on those not married nor having kids.

Having a good mate and enjoying your relationship is awesome enough. I have never been a fan of doing things the way the society expects just because “they expect it to be so”.

humilitypays:
Anty kontinu, even Oprah Winfrey regretted it at some point despite being a dollar billionaire at that time.


Make una continue.


Go to old people or war veterans homes and facilities in the US, UK, and Europe that you black Africans are trying to copy, even as they have all their needs met, sometimes those old people go mental and start acting weird that they want to go home to go and see their children or grandkids. A friend once told me of how one old white lady in their facility is always crying that she miss her kids and grandkids, that she wants to go home to be with them.

Make una continue, time will teach us all the hard lessons about life

Did your friend tell you how many other older ones did not cry saying things like that?

If at old age his desire changes. He would still be the one to experience or suffer it. Not everyone would change their desires or suffer it. There are still some that had kids and still suffer like they had none at old age.

Many of you here respond as if it is ALL of the children given birth to today that have been useful. Some of them have caused more aches and pain that have lead to early death of their parents. Some have blown the little wealth accumulated by the parent.

There are those who had kids and lost them due to accidents, should they take their life or become useless because they no longer have kids at their old age?

I hope none of you are raising kids with the hope of them caring for your expenses at old age. This is something you should plan for today such that you’d never become dependent on them. As such if you don’t have kids you plan was never based on kids assistance.

Kingpele:
Your reasons are selfish...your parents wasn't a billionaire before they decided to bring u into this world...running away from responsibility is the height of cowardice...getting married and rising kids is what makes u a real man except u want to become a rev fr ...I feel so happy just looking at my 5 kids and lemme the truth I started making real Money when children started coming because I had to double my hustle so as to be able to take care of my responsibilities and still enjoy my life...today am richer than when I was alone ...moreover my wife is doing business and she contribute to some extent...

Selfishness towards who? The children that do not yet exist?

These type of statements are the things that. Put unnecessary pressure on women that are yet to give birth. Having kids should be a choice and not everyone wants to do so.

You are happy just looking at your kids, great I am happy for you. However, we should understand that that’s not what would make others happy. Our desires differs.

Udobigj:
Good day all, pls a friend is processing Canada visa since January, went for biometrics since April and his passport was submitted too but it's taking time, and he calls me like twice a week because I connected him to the one processing it, pls what's my fate the he will get it

You connected him to the one processing it. However, you want to know your fate from those of us here. Na you and the agent suppose answer na.

How time flies

Patucy:
please how can i be added to the Spousal Addition WhatsApp group I added my wife to my application recently

Hi Patucy,

Sorry about my delayed response. Leave me your WhatsApp number so I can text you the link. I don’t want to banned for posting an external link here.

3000 and counting despite trolls

upkay:
My question is; while filling the online registration, is it only on the principal applicant (PA) they ask if there has been a visa ban or on either of the couple? And what's the implication on ones application if anyone of them has been previously banned for visa?

Thank you.

Sorry, wrong quote.

23.30 Euros for transmission fee per person. If you have three persons in your family, you’d have to pay 23.30 x 3

Then, courier through DHL.

Before you send to Germany, do well to ask about the present timeline to be sure it is still fast enough for you.

Apiness111:
@Betterlife2018, is it possible to pay for 2 way instead of one way? So that someone can just pay at once.

And is everything altogether 23.30 Euros or its
23.30 Euros per transmission?

Oseg70:
Pls house can someone tell me how to migrate to canada,pls help me

Try reading through page 1 of the link below, it has links to many other info you might need. Any info/advise you need depends on what method you desire to use. Read through then ask specific questions on those threads.

https://www.nairaland.com/6829885/canadian-express-entry-federal-skilled#107239666

Thanks, May the lovely news of PPR continue to flow.

GraciousWords:
Ehn hennn!! See better PPR announcement!!!

Congrats to you & wifey!

As written by my lovely wife, I would have been too brief


Backstory:

I have been hearing about EE since o. The first time I tried to put leg in 2017/2018, that's how I heard POF and fees will need around 3m. Omo, I ended the conversation in peace
Later in 2019, I'm like "Babe what is holding you back?"
Then a colleague brought it up again. I closed my eyes and said let me even start with IELTS and ECA.
IELTS Completed: 2019 (can't remember the month or exact scores again but the overall score band was 8.
ECA: Completed in 2019 with ICES too. Sent lots of love letters (as in the kind you send to a real lover) to ICES so they can quickly complete ECA because in my mind, make them do sharp sharp make the Canada waka complete (little did I know ).
Marriage: Told my man then, "guy I wan do this Canada waka o, how e go be?" He was in support and the next thing was should we quickly marry to meet up with my well-arranged timeline for the Japa waka (who would have thought Canada no send personal timelines )
Las las, we chose to take our time and marry our marrying : when we were ready make Japa de occur on its own.
Created Profile: January 1st 2020 because in my mind, let's start the new year with new beginnings
That was when I was thinking that I would have already began my Canadian life latest by August 2020.

Timeline
January 8th 2020: ITA
February 11th 2020: AOR
February 2020: Medical Passed/Biometrics.
October 2020: GCMS notes showed that the VO put review required on my POF and I sent webforms to correct it
December 2020: Got married.
February 2021: Informed IRCC of Spouse and sent documents + Updated POF.
February 2021: Spouse Upfront Medicals Passed.
March 2021: Spouse added to application.
June 2021: PA Upfront Medicals Passed.
July 2021: Spouse RPRF and Spousal Addition Fees.
July 2021: Spouse Biometrics completed.
October 2021: Updated IRCC of full COVID Vaccination.

December 2021: I was ready to spend “Canadian December”, but Canada had a different plan .

March 3rd 2022: ADR for PCC, Schedule A and Spouse Remedicals
March 8th 2022: ADR for my Remedicals

March 11th 2022: Did Medicals at Qlife
PPRs were raining and I was beating my self up for not doing upfront submissions earlier in January when my mind was saying I should.
Called Qlife back to back and they kept saying 10 days never reach ☹️

March 12th: ADR submission confirmed by IRCC
March 22nd 2022: Remedicals Passed

Omo at this point, I was expecting PPR to come March 25th and we were already planning which VO to use for COPR.

Lo and behold, March ended with no show!
I got veryyyyy discouraged. I was even worried about sending them mails because I'm thinking what if I complicate the application by something I say in the email?
Tried to call, no way. Loaded like 2k on Airtel, no way. Downloaded Viber, no way.

We entered April and in my mind I'm like, if this people finish these PPR rain without remembering us how e wan be na
I started sending mails, this time to EVERYBODY - all the emails I saw across the different WhatsApp groups, I sent them emails back to back.

Then at a point I started feeling like maybe it's because we talked about our visa refusal on Schedule A.
April 11, 2022: I snapped pictures of EVERY PAGE of both our passports to show them the Schegen refusal was never stamped on our passports then I attached the Schegen refusal letter too to show the stated reason.

In all this time, Biometrics has been showing "we have not received your fingerprints". So I sent them another technical report asking them to update my Biometrics ( I had sent to them earlier but they didn't update on the dashboard, they just responded that they have received the biometrics ). I also sent a booked flight schedule (you guys are the ones delaying me )

April 12th 2022: GU to say Biometrics completed. I was still worried because the date they put for completion was a day before my AOR - Ah Mogbe!

April 13th 2022: They sent a mail to say they've received my additional documents.
5 mins later, they sent another mail to say there's a message on my application.
Went to my dashboard and I saw what I thought was a GU. Then, I saw new message. Opened it with a beating heart like "shey I have not gone to complicate the application with that refusal letter that is now making them request something else laidis".
Opened the letter and became even more confused!

Las las my good people in the Spousal Addition WhatsApp group helped to confirm say na the actual Eagle weyy land so!

Ladies and Gentlemen!!!!!!! E choke!

justwise:
Sorry For late reply.

I’m not welling to engage in such transition considering the risk involved.

It is fine, I’ve gotten from a BDC close to me when I didn’t get a response ontime as I needed to replace a used fractions so as not to go below what I stated in an application.

Lexusgs430:
Justwise, never replies to emails........ He is a BOT.......

He might even be a she, for all we care ..........

That’s why I quoted him/her here to call his/her attention to it. A response here would be fine too to take the discussion further.

justwise:
Nah, looking for straight up exchange rate and not bidding, i have a lot of these apps. Probably have to send dollar to my account and withdraw in Nigeria.

Hi Justwise, I sent you a mail

So this Monthiversary was for cooking experiments inspired by the foods I see here on a regular basis.

Note: Our monthiversary is usually a week long (8th, 10th, 12th) to celebrate the different activities related to the wedding.

descarado:
The chicken look so inviting.
May your marriage blossom.

Thanks

Cooked with my wife today, it’s our eight month anniversary (we usually call it Monthiversary).

Pancakes and the Full Chicken was a first time try, glad it came out nice.

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willyblinx:
Sales! sales!!

3 ceiling fans for sale (2 ORL Giant 60, 1 century)
ORL fans @ 6k each,
Century @ 5k

However all 3 would be sold for 15k if you are paying all 3


Two of the fans are just a year old while the third is just about a year and four months old.

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