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mrphysics:
I think the problem is here is lack of plan on your side. If you have a financial plan, it will help you make decisions. Are you the only earner at home? Don't think you are feeding the family because your dad is there.

How do you overcome this?

Take this year as a family year, so all earnings goes to them. As a salary earner, you just have two months to close of business year. I do not think there is anything you can do this year. December is fast approaching and there will be expecting a lot from you.

In January, set out a target you want to achieve at the end of the year. Let them know this is what you want and the amount you will be saving towards that project. There is no room for secrecy again since you are living with them and they already know your salary. By having a target, it helps you save money towards it. You must discipline yourself towards this target. You need to discuss with your dad too.

Yes,there are target to be met next year,hope its all works out by Gods grace,they are aware of it already

So many persons are having same issue with you, trust me, it's time to think like a man. Most men are tamed "stingy" only because they have a vision for their money. You must do the maths, and have a plan for your tf, feeding, and the rest...

Having a vision for money is good,but lemme quickly say a short story,I have a friend who was diagnosed with internal bleeding recently and she has a brother who works in a bank that she could go to for financial help but she refused. The brother became stingy when he started working because he had a vision,he already has two pieces of land and some other investment less than two years of working,at the detriment of his family.
My friend says while he was in school, she and her mum would help people clean their houses and wash clothes to send him money and he even got the bank job tru one of the person the mum knew. Now the way she talks about her brother breeds nothing more than pure hatred,he isn't even taking responsibility for their junior brother. I am not saying its not good to have a vision for money,but not to the extent that money would be the one making decisions for you.

olujastro:
Windflower, you broke the first rule of "Never let your family members know how much you earn, else they'll form planning committee on your salary". They know how much you should have left each time and will always put eyes till it approaches zero.
Moving forward, learn to pay yourself first. Once I got my salary, the first thing I did was to transfer the amount I'm saving for that month into another account with no Internet banking access and Atm card.
Then I pay my mum her 'salary' which she appreciates cos it's higher than her own salary. She can appreciate it because she has no idea how much I earn as salary and it's usually more than enough for her to even save from. Once she does know your salary, she'll likely look down on it no matter the amount.
Lastly, you can never fulfill all their needs cos those jneeds will never finish. Learn to be strict now!

franchuks:
What can you do.... It's not been easy for me too, yours is better as my parents are retired now! We just have to keep helping and hope independency of would be attained soon and all siblings supporting too!

oyb:
Your parents gave you a fixed allowance as a child. Do the same now.

Would your parents have answered your every request for money? No.

You obligation is to their needs, not their wants.

YemiHadid:
omo come this side and see something... arabs over here keep all their money (like all income whatsoever) with their mom, even after he's married with kids... she's the sole custodian and he has to ask permission and tell her what he needs the money for before making any withdrawal. After mum dies that role reverts to his wife and the cycle continues... (arabo money dey him mama or wife hand) - those are the only two people who knows what an arab man is worth at any given time. Cultures are different all over the world... there's upsides and downsides...

fykes:
I can totally relate....five yrs in an oil company and I literally lived for my family and my God. Buh....my family supports when I'm in need too. Do what u can....REMEMBER WHEN ALL IS SAID AND DONE, FAMILY IS ALL U GOT. U MAYNT HAVE DAT WORK FOREVER, U WILL ALWAYS HAVE THEM.

SageTravels:
Umahi is far better. Elechi 8 years was as if Ebonyi state was on vacation. No infrastructure, No improvement and above all he stole the state fund then ran to APC

GloryIsaac:
It explains the reason behind intros not getting enough sleep at night which in turn affects our input during the day. It argues that this is so because of the 'nightmares' intros face every night. Pertaining to me, i spend almost an extra 30 to 45mins awake before i actually sleep even after going to bed earlier (without a device), this is not done deliberately though, it's simply because i spend that time thinking about everything that relates to me (past, present and future) and sometimes tech stuff. It could be annoying though because there are times you can't just stop thinking and chances are quite high that you'll end up dreaming about it.

locust:
Most of you advising people on how to cope with this winsh called introversion, haven't gotten any better.

But don't worry as I am on the creation of a drug that would help us cope with introversion and possibly cure it. I'm just worried if the necessary authorities would endorse it since it would come with some side effects

FortifiedCity:
Keep dodging.

I'm one of your men on suit come August 28th 2018

Windflower weds 'Irokoleaf'

FortifiedCity:
You never can tell

Mine might be 31st Dec. while you'll fall in love and wed sharp sharp before that time

FortifiedCity:
Will you invite me to the wedding

FortifiedCity:
Alright dear. Just keep an open mind. I read some of your topics. I think you have a good heart too

FortifiedCity:
...and you can't develop those aspect while married?

HarunaWest:
so what qualities do you think you possess?

FortifiedCity:
Are you really ready for this?

FortifiedCity:
So you are now unattached kind of.

Give us your specs in man. Be realistic

FortifiedCity:
But the man is available Sha

FortifiedCity:
Hope you'll wed next year too

FortifiedCity:
Stop joor,

I'm a good young man trust me

FortifiedCity:
At the end, it's either one of them or someone else entirely. But I am doing it next year