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El Guapo:
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[color=#0066ff]Am married -- But u've still got a chance - Mind Beneath Stairs Nyanshing On Weekends? [/color]

spyder880:
^^^^ make the landlord catch you, the man na heavy weight boxer o! You wan loss 2 front teeth? Lolz!

Tosinville:
^lol but tell ur bobo make e no dey luk 4 ppl trouble o!, no be dat one dem take dey collect pass mark 4 NL

Wislet, i hapi u finally want d one fine guyz sexkillz cos al dis NL girls dey dey on shayo wen dem wan choose man.

sexkillz:
[color=#000030]Laughing in "finnish!"

Of course. . . She "is". Vely naise and loffable femail!
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Tosinville:
BABE not ur type? i no believe, dat chick na fine girl o! trust me, Bros.

Tosinville:
@Wislet, you're funny, well different strokes 4 diff folks, sexkillz na one fine guyz o!

mba emeka:
^^^^^ its poor folks like you that are damned not me or my country.

Anyone that has nothing to contribute except to rabble on about other peoples businesses is not only a rabble rouser but a neurotic one at that.
What is wrong with saying someone who petty politicians tried to ridicule but defended himself excellently is a person of integrity? So what if he owned the jet, limousine etc.? what business is it to you or me? nothing!

If Bill gates children or say Aliko Dangotes children were to see the pictures would they have responded in the same way many (poor)people did?

The boy is from wealthy parents who can afford him such luxury yet he had the time to put out that write up rebutting the lies that were peddled against him by people like you trying to put his mum in a bad light. it is commendable! If you dont like it, you can piss off!

mamalola19:
congratulations on ur transition to madness, u manage to strike an ongoing conversation with a mental patient. u sick psycho, how does it feel cracking d code of joinin a mad woman in a good conversation. take care mad friend it was nice doing the kuku talk, next time we tear our clothes n eat stones together. pscycho kem kem

kemmeye:
yup yup. it feels good. we'll not only eat stones we'll drink from the gutter, my fellow psycho

ronkebp:
Wislet, is it Nigerian men and their marraiges that you are defending like this It is the man, that i will personally blame, he was married and he knew it, but e no fit commot eyes from young girl, just because he wants a ''different flavour''. And he still does not want to leave her to live her life, all because they are into this business thing together, and maybe he knows how much she loves her job, what happened was in the past, i don't think she needs to be crucified, if she was not interested in this man, she would not have told him anything about her relationship, even if she don born for village, she will not tell him, if she does not want to.

moremi2008:
So you would walk away from a multi-million naira business because you slept with your business partner? All this for a man that might wake up tomorrow and divorce you? Haba! You're dishing out harsh medicine that you yourself can't take! Would you advice your own blood sister to abandon her livelihood because her fiance is uncomfortable with her past relationship with her business partner? Would you advice the guy to do the same if roles were reversed? I am not a big fan of advising women to leave their sources of livelihood for men especially when this same men won't do the same for them. It always leads to regret and recriminations in the future. There is no reason why this woman can't have a happy marriage and still hold on to her business.

jennykadry:
You don't have to agree with me darling. That woman isn't a wife material. You cannot sleep with a married man and still keep a close relationship with him and expect to be called a good wife material. That man has a strong hold on her and isn't willing to let go anytime soon.

A sensible woman with a conscience and a heart would have walked away from any partnership business deals if truly she was over him, staying in touch is not helping her at all, staying in touch is not helping the man's relationship with his wife. He has a wife and possibly kids, that woman needs to back off and plan her own life.

Define change? how has she changed? a cigarette smoker that decides to stop smoking does what? stay away from cigarette, a man who wants to stop sleeping around, stays away from temptation, a woman who is ready for marriage stays away from ex's.

I am a woman and so are you but I tell you what you may not know, men can sleep with a million and one women and still not have an emotional connection to either of them,after all It's just sex they say, while a woman(as long as she is not a LovePeddler) can hardly ever sleep with a man and not have a connection with him. It is the way we are wired.

If truly she's changed, she would have walked away from that relationship(friendship or partnership) a long time ago. She is going to be a wife soon and I hope her past life does not come back in the form of karma and bite her in the bum.

I suggest they both move on, there is no trust in that relationship so why bother?

moremi2008:
A lot of the advice on here appears to be based on mere assumptions. These assumptions might be completely wrong but guess who is going to pay the price? You! So please take every bit of radical advice with a grain of salt. Better to thread cautiously towards making the right decision than to act rashly based on mere emotions and fck everything up irreversibly.

Everybody has a past (including you) and I don't think your fiancee's past should be held against her, especially since she has come clean with you. Of course, your wife will always be faced with temptations after marriage, the same way you will also be faced with temptations. To assume that she will fall for those temptations, ab initio and without any solid evidence, is unfair and foolish. Her business partner's actions are a bit irrelevant. The old man is only wishful thinking and he can keep wishing for the rest of his life. If he is that passionate about her, then let him marry her as a second wife! Abi?! Chikena! Useless old man!

The truly important question is, do you really love this woman? Does she REALLY love you? If the answer is yes and yes, then I don't know why you are freaking out. Just tell her your fears and if she loves you, she will make every attempt to draw a firm line between business and pleasure. Her behavior towards this boss/partner will become colder and strictly professional. If both of you truly love each other, the boss/partner will become the necessary evil you BOTH must face TOGETHER. She will involve you with the business and make it clear to everybody that she is now off-limits. A woman will never let anything get between her and her true love. In fact, the earlier your fiancee starts drawing this line, the better (if possible, insist on this before the marriage).

However, if after sharing your fears with her respectfully and rationally she gets angry, defensive and then reports you to this boss/partner, then you know for sure that she doesn't really love you and you're just a cover for an illicit relationship and a way to deflect suspicion. If this happens, then you need to pull-out. If you decide to pull-out of the relationship, she can react in two ways. If she says "good riddance to an insecure man", then she never loved you and her true love is her business partner. If she completely falls apart and credibly threatens to walk away from the partnership to have you back, then she loves you and you should marry her.

Good luck oh! Above all, always remember that you never have the complete picture until you talk to as many sides of the story as possible. Don't do anything rash based on incomplete information or mistaken assumptions. Talk to your fiancee, talk to this boss/partner, talk to your fiancee's parents if she's close to them. You'll get a clearer picture of the situation and only then can you make an informed decision.

dayo23:
I rly dnt get dis, is it yoruba vs igbo or south vs north,or christian vs muslim, pls we d igbos nd yoruba let cooperate jst lyk d north they re one no matter wat.an average yoruba man is an intallectual, so many of dem, so is d igbos too, pls let drop dis aside nd forge ahead on hw 2 break up frm dis muslim cannibals.Prof soyinka wil not die by God grace.

samguru:
Ȋ̝̊̅§ he telling the highly deprived Nigerian youths that he has not benefited from his mum corruption? į̸̸̨τ̲̅ ȋ̝̊̅§ very unfortunate that some Nigerians A̶̲̥̅̊я̣̣̥ε̲̣̣̣̥ gullible,can a child of USA president try this?
Let us reason together and call a spade a spade