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Yea. And it's gonna put his defences up. I guess most ladies would be out of luck now cos he'd smell their pretenses a mile away. @serub, lol, i could almost see de smirk on ur face.

chaircover:
@Nemesis you are going round this the wrong way and I hope you haven't missed your chance of "meeting" this handsome guy.

Now even if you go up to him and introduce yourself, you will scare him off because he will be worried that you will come here and spill any juicy beans for NL to feed on if the going gets rough.

Next time when you see someone you like, you find ways of subtly moving closer to him, and even though you are doing the chasing, you let him think that he is doing the chasing 

Both of you attending the same church even makes it so simple for you; someone you see at least every Sunday. step one is to Join his church department.

One Sunday park your car so close to his that he has to wait for you to come back before he can even open his car door then apologise profusely & put on your best smile, introduce yourself and if you have the nerve to, invite his family for lunch as an apology for keeping him waiting.

Plan B is to park very close to his car, then after service open your bonnet. Brothers don'tlike damsels in distress and he will likely come over to help you. The ball is then in your court.

If you cant do that then "aaccidentally drop your books (not bible o!) in front of him and if he is a gentleman he will get down to pick them up. Give him a pepsodent smile and say thank you. The following week go up to him, flash another smile and say thank you for last week.

Try and sit in front of him in church. Wear simple but elegant clothes and tie your gele a certain way so that you are noticed. Nothing loud or vulgar. Always smile, speak softly and wear light feminine perfume. So no Angel or Christian Dior Hypnotic Poison.

Try and be friends with his own friends, Be nice to his children, Gosh there is so much you can do to grab his attention.

Once you have his aattention and assuming that he likes what he sees then you can be friends and things may or may not progress from there; at least you tried.

Too many women wasting away waiting for a guy that they like to notice them. Make a subtle first move and step back for the guy to do the chasing . . . everyones happy.

I know you cant use any of these tips with serubawon cos he already knows these ones thanks to my loud mouth but I am sure that you can think up new ones to catch him 
Good Luck with the chasing 

oloju kokoro ni Jenny. She wants everything  I had to beat her off My Mr VV.

Good one dear. This is exactly wat i've been subtly trying to make the mama understand without spilling it here, but she's not quick to catch such things. Plus her trying to form like she's not interested in the guy, like i was a baby! Even Serubawon go know dis one. Lol.,,,though i think she's kinda late- de guy's already well hooked, with a good woman to boot! Hmmm. Plus, with this kinda tact (lack of) on her part, they mightn't last. He comes across as a really smart guy- de mind reading type.

@DUROTIJESU, don't mind them@all. Stil waiting for ur reply.

Thanks Wislet. U truly understand my pains     It's amazing that she is always scared to talk about me to her family cos according to her, "they will not welcome any suitor until after her PG studies". Now, this gets me thinking, can't a guy be even introduced as a friend just to cover her tracks and avoid their drama? or do I have to wait until the INTRODUCTION before meeting my girl's Family? Is she just being immature or does not consider me fit to meet her parents (mind you, I am familiar with all her siblings and they call me BROS)
I am confused on what to do dear.   , ,,, SHE IS STILL VERY MUCH SCARED OF HER PARENTS. And why does she think her parents will not hear of you? She's no longer a small girl (and they do know that).

NOW THAT'S THE PART THAT IS STILL BOILING IN MA VEINS!!!!   , ,,, I KNOW DEAR. DAT WAS TACTLESS.

WHAT ISSUES? IS IT THAT I AM NOT GOOD ENOUGH OR SHE'S JUST MANAGING ME? TO TAKE ME  FOR A RIDE IS ONE THING SHE WILL REGRET DOING!!!! , ,,. Lol. Calm down. I think u should try and take it a bit easier with her, ok? If she wants to wait a bit more, indulge her. The main issues bothering you are her non visits and the statement. The visits you understand-she's probably avoiding risking anyone seeing her who might know her parents. So indulge her. But hey! She no be small girl again oo. As for the statement, instead of suffering in silence, talk to her about it ok? She might not hav put much thought to it like u are. And try to enquire from her if u're still ''the prince of her heart'' so u know where u stand.

Or Gemini? , waiting,

@durotijesu, pls answer this 4 me: Are u a scorpio?

Long One:
For me it’s mostly physical, as I am not a man of many words. But I still show love by respecting her views and listening to her, even though I don’t necessarily show it at the time. When I feel she is drifting away from me, I enter her mind using the power of words to reassure her of my feelings and the reason she is mine.

I don’t believe children are gifts given by the man, that strikes me as a primitive way of thinking – who have you been hanging out with lately?

LOL

pendo89:
Op I have read your op 2 times and this is my deduction.

You guys need to spend some time and talk about your feelings.I think you are [b]assuming [/b]a lot of things and expecting the other partner to know what's inside your mind without letting them into your mind.
Do not conclude before you talk.You may be amazed by her response.

My dear, let's be sincere here. A partner that acts like the death of his/her lover's parent is ''a little thing'' is to be viewed as wat? Not even a condolence visit, even if after the burial?

If she loves you, i don't see why she couldn't have visited you since u guys left school, plus service, especially when ur mum passed away(accept my condolences dear). Or is she too sheltered? Does her family know about you? If yes, then i dont think there's any excuse she did not pay her condolences to ''someone close to her heart''-that is if u are- personally, Or bothered to see you since leaving school. I mean, you guys are adults and through with school, plus service, so the r/ship can't still be ''children's play''. Besides, why call her absense at the burial a LITTLE ISSUE?? Hey! Are you sure u're not the one pursuing a r/ship that's heading for the rocks? Be careful before you hear (after many years), '' I'm sorry. But i'm engaged to be married to someone else''. Hmmmmmm.

nemesis:
@wislet
nobody dey afta d poor man privacy jare.na public place i dey c am.serubawon where u dey na?i tot u would have joined d discussion by now ke.by d way,i saw u in church o. u wore a black suit nd its nice when a man fills out a suit nicely.im not trying to freak u out,but i needed to say that so u will know dat i really know u o.your kids r really cute.good genes abi?
@jennykadry. yes he is very cute nd no u cant leave your husband 4 him.give us single ldies a fightin chance nd dont be greedy.i wish i culd post a pic of him but dat wuld be extremely out of taste nd wrong.dat reminds me,who is dis pweety girl sef.she is d only 1 dat looks like competition o.serubawon pls dont take dis personally o,but im really gettin a buzz with dis anonymous thingy.from what i know of u,your a nice guy nd i wont disrespect u in any way.dats a promise.d chances of u knowing who i am is like a milion 2 one.dont worry,your secret is safe wit me.ciao all.

Lol. U're real funny. Hehe. @jenny, LOL. U can try. Lmao. Our dear man already has a new r/ship & is hooked! So any aspiring lady- errrrrrmmmmm.lol @serubawon, dont be alarmed dear. Guess she's harmless.lol. Besides, wat u got to worry abt? A good woman plus beautiful children? Heck, anyone can know! Hav a great day.

WHY ARE SOME OF POSTS DELETED HERE? Some people are already falling mugu by paying money. Go and find out your infos in your various schools by yourself so u dont cry. Let the wise hear.

nemesis:
@wislet. 4 your info, i'm not afta serubawon.just happen to know him and y do u tink i want to meet him. na wa 4 u women o.if i decide to reveal masef 2 him,den dats my prerogativ.i just tink it will be fun watching serubawon trying to pick me out of a crowd.come 2 tink about it,u neva know what might happen

Lol. ''u never know wat might happen''. Yes my dear, i agree with u- women sef. For real. U know u wanted to pique his interest wit ur statement, so he'll go searching.lol. Admit it. Anyways dat was a not-so-smart strategy. Now de young man wil be jumpy cos he doesn't know who is snooping/after his privacy.

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@demwan, to answer your question- NO, u're not losing a friend. Know why? He was NEVER a friend in the first place. Because a FRIEND will not see a lodgemate sick, and the only thing that comes to his mind is to use her as a one-night stand. HE WAS NEVER INTERESTED IN YOUR WELFARE/HEALTH, only in sleeping with you! Did he call the next day to find out how his sick ''friend'' was faring? No. Cos he was after one purpose which he failed to achieve. THE EARLIER YOU CLEAR YOUR HEAD, STOP CALLING HIM AND REGAIN YOUR SELF-RESPECT, the better for you. Cos you might soon be an interesting topic for discussion in your compound and among his friends.

No. He will not dump his girl. He only told her his girlfriend has a boyfriend just so she'll put her defences down, and he'll have his way with her. If she gives in, he's achieve his purpose and dump her after a while. This lady is very weak, and still behaves like a teenager. Just hope she grows up fast before she finds herself being used by men as football. She's even lucky the guy did not ra.pe her. She might not be so fortunate next time.

serubawon:
. Who is this?

As the name goes, it's NEMESIS. Like, ''ur worst nightmare''. She claims to know you. Probably does, so wat does she wanna achieve? To catch ur attention and probably get to meet her? Lol. Women. Someone will always know someone. Just move on wit ur life dear.

[quote author=190_@ link=topic=734349.msg8914762#msg8914762 date=1313239937]I hate all these nigerian girls that forms wen they have notin 2 offer .mtschewww. [/quote]How u take know she got nothing to offer? Lol

[quote author=190_@ link=topic=734349.msg8914168#msg8914168 date=1313231149]^you and your bf - are complete NAMA!!

I hope you know the meaning of NAMA -

It means MELU - COW MEAT [/quote]Hahahahahaha! 190 u be complete clown. Why de hate? Abi she jilt u? Lol lol

lol

yeye4live:
igbos girls re d easiest n so so so simple to catch,show them money n dey re urs 4 eva, abi i lie here

false.

sexkillz:
^^^Igbo SLUTS you mean!

morelike.

Start by NOT going over to see her. Avoid any close contact with her. Flee temptation my friend. U're a guy. Dont play such games with ur buddy.

[quote author=Ileke-IdI link=topic=724588.msg8826884#msg8826884 date=1312130002]We're still waiting for MASSOBs to do something. Dem don fear run comot?

Spineless things. Would this not have been the best time to do their own thing and fight for secession? Chineke me! Ojukwu will be disappointed at the spineless freaks he left behind   Once he's resurrected from his vegetable position, that is.[/quote]Is this girl obsessed with Igbos or what? Why are some people so s.tupid they've actually lost all reason? It would do some people a lot of good to actually force their mouths closed or tie it up with a rope instead of vomiting dung.

U know wat? Tell ur friend say if he is caught, he will be in prison ALONE. His sweet Ngozi wont even remember his name. Plus, by de time he comes out-if he does-she would be way out of his reach & forgotten him. Tell him he can continue drinking, Dat ur friend cannot be an Igbo boy. If he is, he is de adulterated version. U dont kill urself for someone dat gives no d*** if u exist.

pereze:
How are u doing?
Imere kpo lee?
Iri kwa nu kpo lee?
Ikpa kwa ahu?
Igbo I hail thee, i di mighty, ndi obi akpo can go makuo transformer! Ogba sakwara nu onye?

LOL. Nwanne, kedu ka i mere?

Pls, as a matter of concern, I do not know the criteria for barring anyone on this site. I do not know you guys, but with the recent happening, I do not think I want to, ,,, A topic was posted here https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-719012.0.html . Two individuals made derogatory remarks- Mynd_44 and sexkillz. To my dismay, the next day I got a barring from you moderators which goes thus : YOU HAVE BEEN BARRED FROM POSTING.,,, REASON: GIBBERISH. . . .NEXT! > 48 hrs. A statement that was made by sexkillz, who I saw freely posting even as I remained barred. Pls guys, next time you feel like barring anyone, you will do good to look well and be sure you are barring the right people, Una no do well at all. Seun take note o!

Trust Nairaland. Someone comes on here with a serious issue, and all they get is st.upid replies from ignorant minds thinking everything must be black and white. You guys should quit behaving like kids.
@OP, honestly i dont know wat to tell u. But u should probably consult true men of God and also use your head. God have mercy.

Goldieluks:
Am sure the OP,must have grown some quick balls(to change his mind) seeing all these comments from NLanders.

hahahahahahaha