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intelligen:
i love this,tnx.

U're welcome. Hope u're doing good now.

rokiatu:
Best advice I have seen on NL this year. Truly well said.

Wow. Thanx dear. Am honored.

Cute? Well thank you! Lol. Now why would a gentleman like u say he doesn't believe in God. Huh??

sexkillz:
[size=18pt]THIS THREAD HAS OFFICIALLY BEEN DERAILED!!! [/size]

By you.

careytommy:
abeg, make una no vex
wheo i said JW are like the BH of Christianity, i meant they are a group that falsify interpretation of their holy book.i'm sure of you agree that just like BH, JW beliefs are totally out of line with the bible.

@ o.p, u say u are in RCCG.most of the JW beliefs that have been posted here are just a tip of the iceberg
just ask your girl to tell u 1 or 2 things about their belief
do you know they belief  Jesus Christ is an angel?
you two can continue to date.but marriage?
, i reserve my comments

Angel? I reserve my comment.

MyJoe:
Well, for education purposes, let's break it down and get the facts.
Partially true. They will remain your family, but your relationship is likely to change since you think they are of Satan's world and will not participate in many family activities. But how effect this has will depend largely on the wisdom of the Witness in handling things and how tolerant the family are.
False. What you say is not their current teaching.
Mostly false. You can "participate" in most kind of sports but you are not normally expected to aspire to "the glory of Satan's world" or "this system of things".
Mostly false. They church leadership has since toned down its diatribes against university education. You are still expected to "put kingdom interest" before such "worldly" things as university education but it is no longer condemned. Young Nigerian Witnesses and their parents never took the diatribes much seriously when they were flowing anyway.
True. The problem with "bush meat" is that they are usually caught in traps or shot and not bled like farm animals. For that reason most Witnesses simply avoid any "bush meat" dressed in their absence. But once bled a Witness may eat "bush meat".
False.
If I say true to this one, I will need a few paragraphs to explain. So I pass.

Deep.

cloud7:
[b]MYJOE,Thanks for your Insight,

TO FLAMMINGUN & SEXKIILZ, Truth is not afraid of error, nor the devil. Only the devil runs from the truth, I am gonna educate you more on what you dont know about Nigerian Jehovah Witness and am sure you are one of them.

It is rare to find a Nigerian Jehovah Witness who has not seen or heard information exposing the dishonesty of the organisation. Why, then, do they not see a problem? Evidently, something else has prevented them from objectively analyzing factual information. Their minds are trained to stop short of doubting the organization - a wall has been erected in their mind.

What kind of powerful motivation prevents the Witness from entering the "dangerous" waters of critical investigation and analysis?
The motivation is simply fear and I dont blame them for that,cos they cant join any other church in Nigeria if they are no longer a Witness.
In addressing some the issues I raised earlier on,The Witness learns that serving the organization is the same as serving God. The organization is the mother, God is the father, and the Witness is to obey his "parents." Since the Witness cannot see nor experience real interaction with God, his only tie with God is through the visible organization. The Organisation here referers here is the Governing Council,those that publishes Watchtower Literatures, It is, in effect, "God" to them (though they would not admit to or recognize it).

Convincing the Witness that the organization is deceptive is like trying to convince a 5-year-old child who loves his parents that his father is in jail for armed robbery - he simply doesn't believe his father is dishonest. In fact, he can't tolerate the thought, since he has placed all of his security and trust in his father and mother. The truth is too fearful and devastating to consider. Therefore, to protect his source of security, he rejects the factual information as being a lie.

Now back to some of the secret that will not tell you before conversion,I mentioned earlier on about roasted bush meat,their reason is that Bush Meat is trapped with blood before being roasted and u know their stand on BLOOD, Back in the days,they shun taking yogurt reason being its equivalent of drinking bood.
A core witness that belives that the Kingdom of God is at hand wont encourage you to pursue higher education,

Ever wonders why some Jehovah Witness you know suffers amnesia? Will tell you later[/b][color=#000099][/color]

Amazing.

@OP, MY DEAR, THERE'S NO POINT GIVING YOURSELF HIGH BLOOD PRESSURE OVER THIS. IF SHE, AS A WOMAN, WON'T 'SUBMIT' TO YOU BECAUSE OF RELIGION - IT'S NOT AS IF YOU GUYS ARE OF OPPOSITE FAITHS (U BELIEVE IN THE SAME GOD!), THEN YOU NEED TO CHECK THIS ''LOVE'' YOU'RE TALKING ABOUT. Is it really 'love?'. Religion is blinding a lot of people. You believe in God and His son, yet u have a wide berth between you. Believe me, You don't want to have a home where hearts are divided with your children in the middle of the fracas.

@OP, In your religion and even in hers, what you two are doing is forbidden. Don't incur the wrath of God by ur actions. Be careful. Since she is not willing to admit she is married, Sever all communications with her. Forget about wat u feel/felt for her and go find your own wife. Be wise.

Oh Nairaland!! Where people punch the air, fight with their computers (wonder how many keypads have been disabled), shout only to themselves, threaten the thin air, strain their veins for that 'unseen', 'deaf' person who refuses to acknowledge they are of the inferior class. Where you find the trader, average businessman, bike rider, banker, etc claiming to be a god. LOL. Girls fighting with none willing to back out/quit for fear of being seen as the weaker party. Nigerian men feeling like demi-gods to foreign women, struggling for top position with their own women. Emerging comedians: 190, mobo444, Mr cork,etc. Hahahaha. Classic.

Oh Nairaland!! Where people punch the air, fight with their computers (wonder how many keypads have been disabled), shout only to themselves, threaten the thin air, strain their veins for that 'unseen', 'deaf' person who refuses to acknowledge they are of the inferior class. Where you find the trader, average businessman, bike rider, banker, etc claiming to be a god. LOL. Girls fighting with none willing to back out/quit for fear of being seen as the weaker party. Nigerian men feeling like demi-gods to foreign women, struggling for top position with their own women. Emerging comedians: 190, mobo444, Mr cork,etc. Hahahaha. Classic.

I bet a lot of personalities we may not know about visit this site to consider the opinions of Nigerians on certain issues. Since it's an anonymous site, they wouldn't want to be known too! Nairaland banters has also been a sort of therapy to those that need it- relieving stress, tension, and the arguments give people the opportunity to express themselves, vent their emotions on issues like they might not have the courage to do outside of here. So, it's a good one. The funniest part being that even in the seeming disunity, it's beautiful, as well as hilarious seeing Nigerians come together as one to defend any of their own/the country when challenged by outsiders, though we berate any bad behaviours privately. Plus the most absurd of topics & comments that leave you almost speechless. This is a place to be recommended to high blood pressure patients everywhere, i tell you. It helps in keeping Nigerians sane even in the wake of absurdities in the country.

Hey what's ur question? A lady leaving & returning later OR being unable to completely forget a relationship of which she was a victim?

@OP, Oya drop ur details. Re u tall/short? Fat/slim? Poor/okay? Wer u from? Age- 17? 20? Above 20? Below 15? Secondary sch/jambite? Christian/muslim? Ok! Waiting! :-D

Pls where in the story did it say he called his children a lavish allowance Some people can't take time to read but they can write. Smh.

190:
^then edit it - dont spoil my sunday for me  

Hahahahaha!!! Happy sunday :-D

Clownland. Lol

U don't believe in God? Not surprised wen majority in Europe don't. I pray the Holy Spirit arrests u before it's too late.

Well my dear, blood covenant was never funny. In as much as i feel for u, this is de punishment for ur few minutes carelessness. ,,. Ok. She still loves u/is attracted to u cos of de bond, but u don't love her anymore. Well, u have to get in touch with her. Stop avoiding her. Talk gently but convincingly to her on the importance of you two moving on. Let her understand u don't love her. Even if u guys get together, u will not value ur togetherness. No self-respecting woman will want a 'beg beg' relationship/settle for less. She must understand the need to free herself and future and move on. Above all, seek God's face. Talk to Him like a son to a father. Ask for His forgiveness and mercy, and grace. Tell Him to touch her heart to listen to u.

btyfulmnd:
Honestly Wislet i understand your stand on this and what i meant by avoiding her is, she has just gotten out of a relationship with so much disappointment and now that she was able to locate me, she is bent on having me back. Well to give you a summary,we broke up about four yrs ago and it was when she was in the States while i was back home,she just felt she needed to carry on after i was denied a visa to the states. we had no issues and i also moved on. I decided of late to get into facebook and behold she was there asking all our classmates of my whereabout, they told her i was in Germany i had no idea that she was still looking for me becós i had moved on with my life. i had to deactivate my account with facebook because of her but the blood oath is aactuallymy worry.

I see. Hmmmmmm. Where breaking off is easier is when both parties don't want each other anymore. But when one of them still does, it could be difficult to get them to agree. This is why it must never be an option to do blood oath! I hope others are learning!
OP, my dear, from wat u wrote, it's glaring she still wants u back. But whether it's from the blood link still connecting you two or from true love is another matter. But the question is: Do U STILL LOVE HER?

btyfulmnd:
Is it possible to do it separately? I am asking because i have tried avoiding her but she keeps insisting and i am sure she would resist any attempt if i bring up this issue. Cant i just meet a pastor and get it over with.

what do u mean by u tried avoiding her but she insisted? Insisted on what?,,, And NO. You cannot do it separately. It was an AGREEMENT. One person alone cannot negotiate wit himself. Two or more parties are needed for it to be called an agreement(covenant). ,, The two of you spoke words TOGETHER in AGREEMENT. You MUST therefore come TOGETHER to CANCEL IT. U have to contact her and convince her of de importance of doing that. Even if she is angry wit you (maybe u were the one that caused the breakup), she cannot be blind or foolish enough to play with her future. It is affecting her too. Tell her of the consequences of not undoing dat. She needs to be free to be able to move ahead successfully- so no amount of anger against you should make her jeopardize that (if she is reasonable).

Heard somewhere dat why muslim parents allow their sons get married to christians is conquest related. The happiness dat they hav conquered & de girl of course will convert. Plus de kids wil be theirs. ,but they wil never allow their daughters marry outside.

Excelboi:
can u see the bolded u typed urself? Dis is serious, depending on how powerful the covenant is! Mahn,u must marry her

Don't advise wrongly. It is not a MUST for him to marry her. If they broke up, they couldn't have been compatible. Like i said OP, SEEK FOR A TRUE MAN OF GOD. Contact the girl. Convince her why u must, and Go together to break that covenant. I cannot overemphasize on 'TRUE'- someone that is truly an anointed child of God.

btyfulmnd:
She has tried getting married and honestly none has worked, i tried keeping a steady relationship that might lead to marriage but honestly the whole stuff backfired. I want to move on but i am scared of failing again.

OP, BLOOD IS SOMETHING U SHOULD NEVER JOKE WITH. You might have done it when u were starry-eyed and ignorant, but now you should know it is not ordinary. Get in touch with the girl, both of you should<must> visit a true man of God and undo(unsay) whatever it is you did or said together. Otherwise you will NEVER be free of her. Without that you cannot be free of her. Your spirits will always seek for each other. Even if you succeed in marrying de woman of your dreams, ur happiness will not last - cos u're still bound to someone else. Don't destroy ur future- act fast and free each other.

2010Idowu:
As an American "older" woman, who has come into contact with Nigerians as of late, and now see them on the Internet, with their forever sandals, hideous weaves, big belles, fake swag, and whatnot, let me tell you poster, you should take what you can get!!

Be it a 34 year old woman or a 45 year old woman!! Nigerian men are some of the ugliest ppl on this earth!! And this whole site is a big joke. I see you all on here condeming this or that in the name of being a Nigerian, and it just cracks me the f*&k up! Personally, it would suit me fine if all of yous would keep your tribal

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behinds over in Africa, and have boo coos of babies that desperate Americans will have to adopt and care for because the mums as you call them will be so fat, sick, and lazy and the fathers will get wrapped and tied up in that big Bottom dress he wears and choke to death, that the many poor dusty children will be orphans.

Stop, and I mean, PLEASE STOP! idolizing yourselves as you do! It's nonsense! You come to America with your orange feet and smelly food and turn into drunks and wannabes. You can't wait to get to America so you can live the "good life" and be pimped out by your parents who you have to send money and cars and phones and medicines back to until you're well into your freakin' fifties! Who wants to be bothered with that shyt??

With that being said, no woman of any age would want to be bothered with you, let alone marry your wierd looking azz. I can just see you all sitting in your huts with your lenolium floors and couches and chairs pushed together as a makeshift sectional, and your tiny bathrooms, and refurbished laptops that you've begged some American for, making accusations, pretending to be enlightened, and judging people left and right. You are only fooling yourselves! Believe me you.

As I said, I come here to this sight to freakin laugh! Your words are hilarious! Your false sense of self-esteem and culture is downright funny. Men are 25 years old and still in school. Men have to ask their mummies and pappys if they can get married, and to whom? WTF? Men are finding issues with women who wear weaves in their heads when just a few weeks ago, you didn't even have clean water to drink. No one on this site is thankful, but all you can hear is God this, and God that!!

To the poster, if you want to marry a woman 8 years older than you, do yourself a favor, and do it. I've seen your women, and the fat is just waiting to pile on. A woman at 34 looks now how she will look at 44, 54, and possibly 64; as long as she takes care of herself, and your country Bottom don't stress her out with your Nigerian nonsense and ridiculous family matters. Nine times out of ten, she will outlive you. Especially with all those crazy foods you all eat! Learn to evolve and move into the 21st Century. Stop acting like cave men and women! Grow the f&*k up! Stop all your damn whining!! Men who still wear dresses and lace in this day and time should not be judging anybody!!! Get a backbone, or shut the hell up! All this polygamy and other dirt you all do, don't let marriage to an older woman hinder you. Why?? [color=#990000][/color]

Diary of a mad white woman. Lol. . ,, @OP, I no know wetin to tel you. Weigh de advan ages and disadvantages. But remember, only you wil get to live wit her and take whatever comes if u marry her. So think well before making any decisions.

Richvkunt:
On this forum the moderators appear to have people they favour and turn a blind eye to their antics.
However if you are in their bad books,you get hit with a ban or have your thread closed if you go against the rules.
I feel the same rules should apply to everybody.

[quote author=Mynd_44 link=topic=699824.msg8598259#msg8598259 date=1309158487]Seconded!!![/quote]A third. Favouritism MUST be done away with. Everyone makes nairaland what it is. Else let only the few run it-we'll see how far it goes.

@Godwin, If u have been warned not to,. . .then don't. I don't know wat other advice u're looking for. Wisdom is key. Don't act foolishly. Some people claim such ignorance it's amazing. Only you know ur own family and all u've passed through. So be wise. Might be good to listen to wise counsel from real men of God, and not ignorant words from some people on here.

Cuddlemii:
Arrangee never works.

What if you are hooked up with half woman-half goat or the guy wears a permanent smile as in he cant close his mouth . Sturvs just alwayz go wrong cos the parties did nt like eachother naturally or were not physically attracted to eachother but were just merged together. The intermediary would just be catching trips on them.

And when sturvs go missing, the intermediary is going to be blamed.

Exactly

pDude:
women can be divided into two
other women: they want love, care, attention, good sex, communication,etc

nigerian women: they want money, blackberry, Mr Biggs, prado jeep, expensive flat in vgc, upkeep money for brazillian hair, nails and shopping. greedy leaches naija women are. *spits*

Yet u can't do without them. Lol

Cuddlemii:
What I want: Im tired of the battle for Supremacy between men and women (games and rules). Men always play so many games and want to be the boss and in order for babes to keep up, they have to do the same.

If the guy doesn't call, babe too won't call then both of them would be waiting for who will be the weak one. If he is trying to make babe jealous, the babe too would do the same.

You would feel like kissing your man but would have to wait for 6 months so he wont think you are cheap. The guy would see a nice shoe but won't get it for his babe so that she wont think he is a maga or someone who buys affection with money or so that he won't open her eye.

They both get scared to even tell the truth or tell their past experiences cos the other partner might capitalize on it or use it against them in future.

Then friends would be teaching couples what to do and in order to remain relevant oe feel among, they would start copy-cat work, [b]"That your mumu bf go drop d kishi jor, call him and tell him its over jor, he would come and beg then give him those conditions, omo soji yourself oh or else na u go loose out". "when the babe comes, we go take style comot for house for una, that 501 go work, just shakara am small and enter jor, which one you dey pity the babe, your investment must yield dividend abi how you see am, abeg shark something make your eye dirty small"[/b]Can't two people just love themselves without having to out compete eachother or be ahead of the game or play their cards to win. Can't we just have a peaceful understanding free from external influence. My head is even paining me sef cos of all the methods, strategies and defence mechanism I have to put in place just to make sure I'm not played.

I just want peace and maturity.

Luv ur personality.

Cuddlemii:
Mrs Chima,

Are you male or female? I think u need 2 take a look at your profile again.

@op

If I were Tunde, after everything, I will go seperate ways far away from all you bad eggs (Tosin, the love-vendor; Dupe, the LovePeddler and op that didnt warn Tosin about the hook up or discourage Tunde about dating her). Its now, you want to offer a solution to the problem that you could have prevented from the very beginning.

Tunde better hide his future wife from you guys. Terrible friends. If she didnt get pregnant thats how you guys would have allowed him to marry her. Now that there is a complication, you want to spill the truth. Medicine after death.

How are we not sure that you and Tosin were not sleeping with her too thats why you concealed everything. What happened to the term "bros before hoes".

Im sure if Tosin had put his foot down, lambasted her, threatened and tortured her she would have stopped all her waka.

Woes of having friends 'arrange' anyone for you.

[quote author=$tunna link=topic=697375.msg8592600#msg8592600 date=1309074783]lolz, i like to be of topic, but actually dont think i was here.
a guy is getting hooked up with a lady whoring herslf around and having bad abortions and im afraid im going to get hooked up with someone similar by my folks, and my doc warns me to not go there to marry - how is that off topic  hmmm[/quote]Ur doctor told u not to go 'there'. And where is 'there' if i may ask? The whole of Africa/Nigeria? When did your doctor become an authority on judging a whole people? When did he/she become superhuman to know everyone on the planet? U seem to have resigned yourself to thinking every of ur girls has had abortions/whatever. Well for ur knowledge, a good number have not! Honestly, Sometimes u men can be so myopic. Anyways pls marry whoever u want-maybe ur doc wanna marry u. Doesn't remove any sweat from african ladies.