₦airaland Forum

kkonyeji:
You wouldn't have wrote all these trash if his visa wasn't revoked.

Not a fight bro. Visa to the USA is nothing to me even if it is a big deal to you.

There is nothing at all special about the USA for sophisticated human beings whose talent and industrious endeavours, as is the case with Woke Soyinka, has allowed them to be exposed citizens of the world.

truthera:
Wow! what an epistle! where did I claim Yoruba as enemy? You can see now that you are the one that's emotional. I observe and read comments not just on this platform but other social media platforms to know that most of those behind hatdful comments, viciously condemning and attacking Nnamdi Kanu are Y-oruba people just like you are doing now on this thread and other threads about Kanu. What I said in my post and will remind you here is that it will not be a surprise that you and other Y-orubas supporting all that is been done unjustly to Kanu, will pick up placards once Tinubu is out of office to start protesting, agitating for Oduduwa republic. This is the only point I made in my post that referenced your tribe. I am not privy to any info regarding what gidgiddy, mr.vitalist and others you mentioned did to you here to warrant such vitriol from you. It is obvious that you've deep hatred for Nnamdi Kanu hence your emotional outbursts.

Keep fooling yourself. I have read enough of your post to understand who you are. You, like most Igbos, are brainwashed and not ready to step up and see the problem is with you and not others.

Yorubas are not perfect but we will always fare better than you because all laudable qualities that make humanity great we have in decent amount.

This is not an unverified claim I make. It is one the entire world, beyond Africa, celebrate us for such as the legendary religious tolerance of Yorubas where adherents of several faiths can cohabitate peacefully in the same household.

I thank God for that. Keep seeing yourselves as supreme, without fault and victims of "evil outsiders" always. Good luck to you.

truthera:
All lies, who are the "You people" that you are refering, you speak as if igbos are sub-humans, prisoners that must remain in Nigeria by force. The right to self-determination is recognized internationally as it is not a crime. The only issue here is that Kanu made some hateful statements and had to urge IPOB members to defend themselves by retaliating when the government started killing them. The charges filed against Kanu borders on terrorism and Kanu will win the case because there is no evidence to prove that he is a terrorist as his cause has always been centered on liberating his people through a peaceful referendum.

There is ample evidence Kanu is a terrorist. I won't belabour that fact with you because you are unobjective, biased and emotional. Therefore incapable of being pragmatically honest and logical.

Also, stop seeing hate where there is non. You cannot accuse me of seeing Igbos as "sub-humans" because I criticise people like you, Gidgiddy, Owobokiri, Mr.Vitalis, Kettykin, Aminda etal appropriately .

The one thing you and those names above have in common is a hatred of Yorubas you blame for your ills whereas we are a people who mind our own business, are decent, progressive, tolerant and have never, not even once, being involved in the most fractious issues that has gotten Nigeria where she is today.

That ruinous hands of Nigeria tag, factually, is for you and Northerners to own. With issues like Azikiwe truncation of inclusion of secession clause in our constitution, Igbo coup and the Northern Counter coup that woke the North to the reality that, despite their educational handicap, they can use military might, guna and death to hijack power and wealth of Nigeria whenever they wanted etc.

Worst of all the Civil war that lawless Ojukwu and his acolytes precipitated you actually claim you are victims of till today while blaming Yorubas the most for your heavy loss whereas we had no stake in a war we did not start and would have preferred to have remained out of as peaceful, rational and law-abiding people who respect the sanctity of human life yet you lot see all those laudable qualities as "cowardice".

Even today you and Northerners are the ones destroying the potentials of Nigeria to be a cohesive nation making optimal socio-economic progress with how the SE and core North is terrorised beyond worth and practically zones the world ignores as destinations of FDI.

Yet you claim Yorubas, one of the greatest assets to Nigeria today because of their moderate and peacefully law-abiding nature, are your enemies and haters.

You think proud Yorubas like myself will then refrain from telling you the truth about how misguided you are?

Is it right a people who have always done right by Nigeria get to be gaslighted by you and core Northerners who are the two regions that have practically destroyed Nigeria with your bloodthirsty lawlessness and Machiavellian scheming over time and till today?

The formally recognised terrorist groups bringing infamy and death to Nigeria today are IPOB, Boko Haram, ISWAP, Fulani bandits. Yet you and those people continue to operate with a sense of entitlement with no though for Nigerians in the SW, SS, NC etal still doing the right things and preventing Nigeria from descending into worse than Somalia and Afghanistan.

Would you and and Fulanis not have done worse to each other than what was witnessed during the Rwanda genocide if both of you, minus Yorubas and others ethnic groups, are the two ethnic groups of Nigeria?

I have no hatred for Igbos and certainly do not view them sub-humans. If anything, I am just disappointed at how a people who get it right in some areas that matters also get it very wrong in areas that matters even more because you are completely and irredeemably egotistic, lack humility, have nil respect or consideration for others, have near zero emotional intelligence, cannot ever think critically or pragmatically and lack impulse control.

Kanu is a criminal and terrorist. You should all have convinced him to show contrition for his wrongdoing and then negotiated for a soft landing for him under Buhari rather than embracing the arrogant path of portraying him as innocent and "victimised" by "evil and Igbo-hating" Buhari and Tinubu to then insist "must be set free".

DIVINEEVIDENCE:
Why was only his shop demolished?

Why can't you answer that simple question?

You'd see that I have if you pay attention. Look at an excerpt from my post you quoted shown below.

Igbos are masters of victimhood and gaslighting. They make claims of marginalisation, unfair targeting etc that are discredited once others speak to give their own version of events.

Only when others respond will this guy be vindicated because making automatic victimhood claim, akin to crying wolf always, has become the automatic response of Igbos when things go against them.

truthera:
I've read all your comments in this thread, I already know how you operate on this platform. Your stock in trade is to go on cheap blackmail by lauching personal attacks when you fall short what to say. You hardly react objectively to any post so I won't bother with you. I've made my opinion on Kanu's case using demonstrable facts, feel free to read again your empty comment below.

Am I the one guilty of the bolded or you?

Atlantis585:
To God be the glory for the permanent suspension.

You can’t be supporting evil when it favours you and be a rabble rouser when the shoe is on the foot.

Lol. Look at this unexposed individual. What is special about the US in today's world for folks who are exposed and successful enough to be citizens of the world like Wole Soyinka?

There are literally scores of nation any individual can visit or relocate to permanently today that are far, far, far better than the USA .

Only unexposed, vindictive and bigoted folks like you think it is some kind of punishment Soyinka cannot visit the USA.

Blakjewelry:
The internet done make a lot of people mad, who are you before him. It is only in Nigeria you see people wants you to share same idealogy else you automatically becomes their enemy.

Don't mind that character. He has no respect for anything or anyone.

Much like most Nigerians today who fail because they don't understand they can learn from everyone , to include those they do not share "same ideology" with, and grow to be the best and most successful they can be .

Given the achievement of Prof Soyinka and the immense pride he has brought to Nigeria and Africa, is he someone any normal and balanced person should insult and denigrate casually because he is against the antics of Obi and his Obidient touts?

AndroBlaze:
Baba sef to de explain!

Let them enjoy their Trump made bullet riddled paradise in peace

Though I guess the reason why he is explaining is to encourage this generation and give them some sense of pride....but alas, he is unaware of the materialistic, unserious and defeatist generation we have nowadays.

Fully agree with you. Ask them to see and seek to control the vast opportunities that belongs to them, as owners of a promising land, in a world of dwindling opportunities and resources, they will begin insulting you and insisting even the worst foreign nation is better than Nigeria.

Me, I have stopped doing it. I now simply enjoy utilising the vast opportunities Nigeria presents with like-minded friends and associates.

Bro, who devil don blind go remain blind. That is the case with most Nigerians

shivisee:
Baba you are old already, you have achieved what everything needed to be achieved, stay put in our lovely country and let trump eats his card !

Well-said. We love and value Prof in Nigeria and Africa. The rest of the world is his Oyster anyway bar US that is going through a lunatic period under Trump right now.

In any case, the future is Africa and Africans need to wake up to this to stop going to Sokoto (japa) to find what is in Sokoto trouser i.e success, wealth, fulfilment and sense of purpose.

Walahi, if we Africans do not wake up, open our eyes to seize the day and command what belongs to us then second slavery, from a western world now depleted of new wealth and eyeing Africa's vast mineral and natural resources, will be our fate in the near future.

Mrchippychappy:
I am not against this bro, hunger too much so if I see affordable food me sef go buy, I am only stating the obvious, this is not sustainable and we need to reclaim our farmlands and enforce security with brute force and ruthlessness our farmlands

Celebrate today's gain and hope/pray for the bolded to happen. Afterall, an overhaul of Armed forces chiefs has just happened which should positively impact insecurity affecting farming across the North.

Note too that things would be much better had Governors, getting more allocations than ever, keyed into Tinubu's pleas for them all to engage in or aggressively support commercial farming in their States to ease dependence on food from terrorised States and region of Nigeria.

Barking at the FG alone, over food affordability and sufficiency, is extremely myopic for anyone who understands we have so many leaders who have the power and duty to do much more than they are currently.

Spandy:
What do they really want? Price of food goes up they complain, price of food crashed they still complain.

Below, the utterances of ADC, reveals the reason for their unhappiness. After some of its members had sponsored banditry and terrorism that has grossly impacted agricultural yield for years now, they are terribly upset Tinubu is still finding ways and means to try and ensure food security and affordability for Nigerian.

What is shown below is ADC indicting itself as a party filled with enemies of Nigeria's progress. They are shocked the displacement of farmers, they have first hand information of, appears circumvented.

The African Democratic Congress (ADC) has accused the federal government of dishonesty over its claims of increased local food production, arguing that widespread insecurity and the displacement of farmers—especially in northern Nigeria—make such assertions untrue.

kettykin:
There’s a peculiar kind of arrogance that infects institutions and regions that believe they are too big, too powerful, or too indispensable to ever fail. History has shown how swiftly that illusion collapses , it happened to NITEL, Nokia, BlackBerry, and even Microsoft, which had to scramble at enormous cost to stay relevant. Yahoo and Intel learned the same painful lesson too late.

That same tragic overconfidence once consumed the Northern Nigeria establishment between 2000 and 2009, when it was assumed the Igbo nation could not survive without them. Today, that very brand of arrogant bravado has found a new home in Lagos State, where the political and social tone increasingly seeks to remind Igbos that they are “outsiders” at every trivial provocation.

But here’s how the script may unfold: the silent exodus eastward will begin to gather momentum. That momentum will spark a chain reaction of relocations and reinvestments. In a recent business survey I concluded in Aba, I discovered something astonishing ,99.99% of Igbos are unaware of the quiet revolution happening there: the infrastructural renewal, the industrial revival, and the near-uninterrupted power supply transforming the city.

When this reality begins to spread , as it surely will by December, when our people return home from across the globe ,,expect a massive awakening, a surge of confidence, and a decisive shift of focus. The Igbo renaissance is already underway; soon, it will no longer be a silent hushed discussion or rumor it will be a movement.

No doubt the Yorubas are not perfect and may indeed encounter trying times ahead in Lagos or wherever else across the SW.

Yet what you do not account for is the fact Yorubas are a moderate, decent and essentially balanced people always close to the centre whereas others like you guys , and Fulanis, are to the extreme and self-destructive end of left or right wing.

That characteristic of Yorubas will always see them land on their feet regardless of challenges they encounter. We won't be destroying ourselves and our land, like you and the Fulanis are doing, anytime soon.

If I were you, I'd worry more about you and your folks with extreme tendencies that made many millions follow a glorified failed London Yahoo boy and megalomaniac with a messiah complex, yet lacking even an iota of leadership credentials, to cosign on the dotted line for Igbo self-destruction of the SE.

Your ill will and negative omen predictions for Yorubas and Lagos, which you have made obsessively for years now, is akin to a a man having no arms or hands mocking a man with hands that he cannot catch a gold nugget falling from the sky.

Yet logic tells us the man with arms and hands will eventually catch the nugget because he is equipped to do so whereas the man with no hands never will.

LottiOk:
When you tell them the undiluted,bitter Truth/reality, they call it trash‼️😔
Please understand that he knows that what you are saying is the reality, but his coping mechanism caused by his ipob cult induced shallow reasoning mentality,refuses to accept it and keeps imagining and believing illogical fantasies that'll never happen. Cognitive Disonace

Precisely Sir. This is why I call them "projector" people after the term in psychology termed "projection". Clearly they are all lying and making up stories to make Kanu appear innocent and blameless.

kettykin:
Very well, this is welcome as igbos are more than willing not just to leave Lagos but uproot anything yoruba in every inch of soil igbo is spoken from parts of edo state to parts of cross river

Lol. Sir, I find you one of the most amusing Nairalanders as it distinctly appears you live in a cave somewhere totally disconnected from reality.

How many Igbos exactly are willing to "leave Lagos" they consider the most opportuned, accommodating and safest place facilitating the best lives they can ever have?

Maybe you should pay attention more to the likes of Cubana Chief Priest, instead of listening to lowly and illiterate thugs like Ikonso and Gentle De Yahoo, who openly confessed wealthy and successful Igbos now prefer to live away from Igbo land where they are targets of their fellow envious and murderous Igbos.

What your like will never accept, because you are indoctrinated to blame others for everything, is that Igbo land will never be the Singapore you delusionally claim it has the automatic and divine right to be without total mindset and attitudinal change of the average Igbo.

Bridges, roads and malls can't help you if your people still possess character flaws anathema to the progressive evolution of a geographical space.

AndroBlaze:
I feel sorry for him but this victimisation thing is getting tiring and repulsive.

He clearly states that they want to do road and gutter and he definitely isn't the only Igbo man who has a shop on the street, so why must we always get this tribal card played??

Now I'm begging to understand how some whites feel when blacks make everything about race...which is sad thing for me as a blackman who has experienced "actual" racism to even say!!

Precisely. Did the alaba Rago demolishing elicit responses of "unjust targeting" from Northerners who were the main victims?

It is only these people, even when in the wrong, who continue to play victims anywhere they are in the world be it Lagos, Accra, Cape Town or Nairobi.

Beremx:
He asked a simple question. Why was only his shop demolished? Is that a difficult question?

Yes he did and I'd like to give him the benefit of the doubt. Yet, have Igbos not being known to make false claims of "unjust victimisation" only for those they accuse to respond and discredit them?

Remember the Igbo lawyer who accused Tokunbo Wahab of demolishing only Igbo Property in Lagos? He claimed to have document to show the demolished properties had valid ratification yet were still demolished.

What happened when Wahab asked him to present those documents and the Igbo lawyer accepted the challenge? No one heard from him again.

What of Obi who ran to Ikeja to accuse Nigeria of "lawlessness" over a land dispute that went against him? Why has Obi not spoken about the incident again till today if he has legal locus standi?

Only when others respond will this guy be vindicated because making automatic victimhood claim, akin to crying wolf always, has become the automatic response of Igbos when things go against them.

chiagozien:
Tras!h

Lol. No wahala. May God preserve our lives so we all see the end of the Kanu Saga. 😎

Lanretoye:
His blind supporters will hail anything untill he he convicted then they will be shouting tirbalism

Indeed. It is obvious this guy has lost it mentally and is drowning. Yet his selfish and hateful affiliates continue to insist on using him as a martyr for "Igbo oppression" when it is crystal clear this is a very confused, overwhelmed and flawed human being who now needs help, deradicalisation and balance.

Imagine when a mere man, not even part of Government we know is the ultimate authority in a sovereign nation, brags he is a "very powerful man who can decide who lives or who dies".

Yet his selfish and hateful people, instead of accepting he needs urgent intervention , continue to use him as an arrowhead of their hateful and Vendetta-driven fight against others?

chiagozien:
God bless Mazi Nnamdi kanu

Okay na. Continue praying. This is one event that will show you people, even as you have had many examples in Nigerian history to learn from , that issues of national security of a sovereign nation is sacrosanct and overrides every other consideration

You people have decades-long history of futile attempts to defy a sovereign nation i.e Nigeria or the "Zoo" as you call our nation.

Yet I challenge you to cite one example where your ethnic group and her many lawless and secessionist elements (from Nzeogwu to Ojukwu and now Nwazurike, Kanu, Ekpa etal) have ever recorded permanent victories against Nigeria.

What defines you lot today is the well-documented obsession with exercises in futility and a historical penchant, over nearly 100 years now, for fighting lost battles.

RenoOkriTheGoat:
Another bunch of propaganda to massage the ego of APC online donkeys.

Really? Keep basking in ignorance and bitterness while progressive, patriotic, solutions-driven and optimistic folks leave you behind. Your choice.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h-NYlU1ylR8?si=hcBeTzic_RRqwWLB

truthera:
I've shared the link with you. There was no time Nnamdi Kanu was in support of Simon Ekpa's violent campaign in the south east. He clearly condemned it, you can read the article I shared as it happened before Simon Ekpa was jailed. I guess you won't acknowledge this fact because of your biased sentiments towards Kanu.

Lol. Always amusing, because such shows very powerful and potent brainwashing, how you people casually deny reality.

Today, Ekpa is "an FG agent" or "Buhari paid agent" and even "Tinubu plant to destroy Igbos and the SE".

Yet what do you want us to do with the truth regarding Ekpa's anointing and rise from 2021, after Kanu was arrested, no Igbo opposed back then till it was convenient for you lot to start denying Ekpa after he had begun damaging the SE seriously?

https://saharareporters.com/2021/07/09/finland-based-nigerian-finnish-citizen-simon-ekpa-takes-over-nnamdi-kanu-radio-biafra#google_vignette

"Our Leader, Mazi Nnamdi on this day, 8th of July 2021 directed that I, Simon Ekpa should start broadcasting from Radio Biafra with immediate effect.

"On this note, it is honour, and at the same time, a call to service, a call to serve Biafra nation, and a call to serve lovers of freedom.

"This task, I will do with everything in me to see that we maintain the momentum and the legacy of our leader, Mazi Nnamdi Kanu, and IPOB.

"I will serve with everything in me and I will double my effort in media, diplomacy, and otherwise to the best interest of Biafra people.

"I am just a servant and I will serve. Our leader will continue to lead this struggle from wherever he is.

"I am Simon Ekpa, Mazi Nnamdi Kanu's disciple on Biafra restoration."

duro4chang:
Continue to receive yourself. Have you gotten how you people were praising ikonso when Kanu ignited him to kill people. Have you forgotten how Kanu said 200 people should be killed in order to avenge the death of ikonso? Do you think we don't listen to kanu's devilish radio biafla? I can put it to you that you don't have the fear of God to come here and defend that criminal called Nnamdi Kanu. Let me show you some of the evil statements he made.
I am surprised that you asked a question about the offence kanu committed. We are all in Nigeria when this man stayed in England and caused harvoc in the east. Below are some of what he said. Read and tell me how palatable those speeches are to an individual and the nation at large

Cambridge Dictionary defined hate speech as public speech that expresses hate or encourages violence towards a person or group based on something such as race, religion, sex, or sexual orientation.

Below are the violence inciting statements nnamdi Kanu allegedly made;[b]

1. "...When we speak, the Zoo trembles, that is what happens when a cattle rearing terrorist and paedophile is your ruler."

2. "If you find anybody in your village asking after Radio Biafra kill the baboon Awusa Fulani or Yoruba bastard. Let them keep searching as we keep tweeting for #Biafra."

3. "Buhari is a shameless Paedophile and rapist."

4. "Buhari is a Terrorist he should be killed."

5. "Nigeria is a zoo and everybody living in that
Godforsaken zoo deserves to die."

6. "Kumuyi should be stoned and dealt with thoroughly if he comes to Aba for his planned crusade."

7. "The imbecilic Goodluck Jonathan is a disgrace to humanity and deserves to be skinned alive for handing over to an Hausa goat."

8. "By the time we finish dealing with the animals in the zoo, there'll be none left to tell the story."

9. "We are assembling weapons and we need some more money to thoroughly equip our military to enable us unleash mayhem on Nigeria."

10. "Niger Deltans are cowards; we know what to do to them. Akwa Ibom, Bayelsa, Delta, Rivers, Edo and Cross Rivers State are our territory and anybody who tries to oppose us will be crushed."

11. "Buhari married his wife after raping her several times, the records are there."

12. "No Ibo man should attend any Church where the pastor is a Yoruba man, they are criminals and fools."

13. "Nigeria should prepare for war, we are coming to annihilate you, my secret service are already studying the zoo and strategising."

14. "Its either Biafra or death..."
15. Kill Sanwo olu and Tinubu 2020 during End SARS

16. Igbos are pigs and idiots

17 Igbos women are prostitute

18. Sit at home declaration.

Now do this, where he mentioned Nigeria change it to the name of your village and where he mentioned names of people, change it to your name or your brother and see how comfortable and happy you will feel.

Don't mind them. They really are unbelievable human beings who want to do wrong and get aways with such by claiming it is others who did wrong after repercussion for their wrongdoing arrives.

Take the Civil War. Secession is expressly outlawed by the Nigerian constitution and declared an act of treason Nigeria is duty bound to crush and repel.

Yet they all backed Ojukwu's lawless declaration of Biafra when they know that the Nigerian constitution means the only option is for Nigeria to crush Ojukwu and his Biafra Army that chose to defy and fight the nation they are part of and duty-bound to respect her laws. I.e Nigeria.

After their self-destructiveness and loss in the civil war, they continued, till today, to blame Awolowo Benjamin Adekunle, Yorubas and everyone else for the repercussion of their own lawlessness.

Is it then not obvious to most Nigerians that we are dealing with the mose lawless and unreasonable people in the world?

Putindbutt:
Which grey areas?. Bro, you think any baga can dare a US Govt if they bundled back home any individual they consider a threat to any part of America?. You think anyone has the guts to accuse the US of kidnapping illegally any terrorist suspect?, how about those languishing in the Guantanamo bay?.
Bro, the US won't even waste resources bringing back Kanu from Kenya, they would have walked into Kenya and nuked him right there. Trust Nentayahu to nuke him into ashes wherever he must be hiding in Kenya. They don't give a fck what anyone says. But Nigerian Govt is here trying to be politically correct just because some region are making it a tribal issue.

Bro, my point is that grey areas are only arguments not able to ever be enforced legally. They are more or less strong opinions that cannot be enforced in law against nations when the "national security" claim, that overrides everything else, is made.

This is why the UK is staying away from supporting Kanu who is a British citizen. They are respecting the right of a sovereign nation to handle her own national security affairs in relation to terrorism that is the biggest threat to the territorial integrity of any nation.

Your talk of America is especially valid. The USA locked up many in Guantanamo Bay without trial or access to lawyers or their family when they declared a "war on terror" against some nations after the 911 attack.

They labelled those they locked up "illegal combatants" so that Geneva convention agreement of fair treatment of POWs (prisoners of war) could not apply to those they picked up and decided to totally disenfranchise under the Umbrella of "national security".

I read up the whole thing because Britons were involved and noted even the UK had to chill after Tony Blair had compromised the nation standing "shoulder to shoulder" with the USA against the "axis of evil" i.e nations like Iraq, Libya etal the USA was obsessed with destroying after the 911 attack.

British human right lawyers, experts and advocates explained tire, on behalf of the Britons locked up at Guantanamo Bay, yet USA no send dem as na "national security" matter.

The Nigerian 'Jews' backed the USA then yet they are complaining today of "illegal rendition" of Kanu and even currently backing the lunatic antics of "Christian genoncide" USA wishes to justify for forceful intervention against Nigeria that the extreme right wing, white privilege and global christendom domination Trump Presidency is hellbent on achieving.

My point is that we understand the script. People will hold on to grey areas but Sovereign nations will have their ways over their own national security as the Nigerian Jews, to the point of even wishing USA invade Nigeria illegally, have always backed.

Nothing is saving Kanu so far Finland has forced the hands of Nigeria thanks to the brinkmanship of the IPOB leader and his lawyers that prolonged the case to now preclude option of softer landing for mastermind Kanu than Ekpa, a mere servant, received

Guestmale:
You make valid points here. Going into marriage have responsibilities attached to it which many today are not ready to carry.
Like cigarette smoker polygamist is liable to die untimely.

Precisely. Merged with how many Nigerian male refuses to man up and take responsibility for their actions, we then have excuses like "polygamy is better" etc.

Times have changed. Especially from the perspective of women whose status has been upgraded massively to make them more equal to men and therefore deserving of more respect than our grandmother's got.

The above means that most men who do not wish to modernise and moderate their views may not have good marriages.

Women too should not get carried away overdoing the feminist thing. They should respect and honour their men but the man too should accept that times have changed for good.

Men should be firm and assert themselves when needed but they should also be more sensitive and understanding and not chauvinistic throwbacks some men were 60 years ago.

You cannot keep a modern woman by insisting on being a throwback. Men who have that throwback mentality, and women overdoing the "we are equal to men" thing, is the reason many couples cannot compromise leading to why many marriages fail today.

Below is an excerpt from Toke Makinwa's experience, leading to her divorce, that captures modernity properly.

She decided to be strong and opt for better after being cheated on. Yet Nigerians, men and women, claimed she is supporting female infidelity whereas she was speaking about men taking responsibility for their wrongdoing after her Husband cheated and fathered a child outside.

Toke did not accept that to remain silent, miserable and unhappy as her mother or grandmother would. She appreciates her own worth to know she deserves better.

Yet society, including even women, will blame her for being single due to "difficult character". Ultimately everything desirable in life ( related to success, fulfilment, spiritual peace, family and marital happiness etc) is mindset.

Experience with infidelity:
Makinwa's own marriage to Maje Ayida ended due to his infidelity, which was a public and painful experience for her. She has stated that she was blamed for the failure of her marriage, even though her ex-husband was the one who cheated and fathered a child with another woman.

Obiedun:
If that of Simon ekpa is legal and just, then that of Kanu is even more legal. A leader of terrorist group. Ekpa was his disciple.

The OP is someone who sincerely needs the advice of "calm down". Dude is really hyper. The only issues with legally hazy areas are to do with the way Kanu was arrested and returned to Nigeria.

Yet, that cannot invalidate the premises of the serious criminal charges against him. The UK would be involved, since Kanu is a British Citizen, if it can be established by law Kanu's trial in Nigeria is "unjust and illegal".

These are the facts and realities fantasists and 'projector' people don't want to deal with.

This emotional dude has come with another emotional thread. What is the problem bro? Is it that that you never step outside your house/fantasies and therefore remain incapable of accepting/doing reality?

It is one thing to be opinionated but entirely another, as in the case of you lot, to be uncompromisingly opinionated about things you are not expert at.

Go and ask the many lawyers who were defending Kanu why they continued with his trial, till he sacked them, since they were all too stupid to understand Kanu's trial is "unjust and illegal" unlike legal supremo Truthera of Nairaland.

You can't come here daily projecting your fantasies as realities. That's not how life works. You'll only agitate yourself doing that.

There are grey areas related to how Kanu was arrested and returned to Nigeria but nothing "unjust and illegal" about his trial.

DiarisGodoo:
Even those who grew up in clear dysfunction but succeeded will tell you the dysfunction was part of why they succeeded. So you can't go by that.

I can assure you NOBODY who grew up monogamous will tell you they wished pa had more wives!

But psychologists have thoroughly researched these things as you can see below

Absolutely. This is the dark and condemnable aspect of social media psychologists and lifestyle expert reject.

I.e the fact it attracts a lot of people who are frustrated, unhappy and feel social media is an avenue they can use to vent.

If we do real right now, how many commenting here have even been in a long term cohabitation relationship with one woman, with no kids involved, let alone have experience of maintaining several wives and their different kids under one roof?

Bro, most commenting here in favour of polygamy are adults with no experience of being in committed relationships. They are only seeing the attractive aspect of polygamy I.e legally having sex with different women in a household.

Men living life properly and responsibly understand modern women to know even those who fell into polygamy, when naive and inexperienced , wish to depart from it.

Like Regina Daniels, ironically the wife of throwback Ned Nwoko, and Queen Naomi Silekunola who divorced Ooni of Ife.

Let's make Regina Daniels and Queen Naomi Silekunola our experiment study. We can observe both from this point on to see if either move into another polygamous relationship in future. Simple.

You can't cheat human evolution. Specifically that of women. Meaning men who think they can keep a harem of women and children happily in this day and age will be miserable.

Guestmale:
With this number of likes and shares you got for this your comment,shows clearly many people especially men are passing through hell in their marriage and what could have responsible for this.

First, marriage built on faulty foundation of infatuation called love will not and can't last long.

Secondly,any man going into marriage because of outside beauty alone without inside beauty will later be disappointed and pissed off when she started showing her true colour.

Above all Christ is the sure foundation of most successful marriage, allow Christ into your life and family,He is the prince of peace and you will experience peace, love and joy in your family which no religion can give you.

Bro, you give social media too much credit. Many of the likes belong to guys who are patently prejudiced and misogynistic (women haters) and have not even been in a long term relation let alone married with kids.

They believe women should be treated as property to pleasure men when that is now no longer possible decades after women's liberation became a natural part of human existence.

I am 100% sure most of the likes the poster you addressed received are from adults that are kids, in terms of life experience, who fantasize their best life is having loads of diffrent women in a house to service as they please. Teenage fantasy sort of thing.

Men aren't passing through hell in marriages because they are in monogamous relatioships. Most men in marriages they are unhappy in is because dynamics has changed.

Women today are not their mothers. They don't compromise when problem arise or feel the need the need to sacrifice to maintain the union or stay for the sake of the children.

Women now prioritise their happiness and are more demanding. Meaning they will walk away if unhappy in a marriage while past generations stayed and made sacrifices for family

Polygamy is way worse. Most children brought up in it don't repeat it when older and seeking partners except if in strict Islamic nations. I am Yoruba. Christian by birth. I have seen the future choices of many adults raised in polygamous home from countless examples to include those in my own direct family. Majority reject it because it was not a good experience for them. Fact.

I have loads of Moslem Yoruba friends my age who have shunned polygamy, despite their religion allowing it, talk less of our Yoruba Moslem elders like Tinubu, Fashola etal and literally thousands others who have wealth, status and prominence yet reject polygamy.

Imagine when religion allows it yet most modern, exposed, wealthy and well-educated Yoruba Moslems still reject polygamy. What is that telling you?

Ask even the guy who made the comment, that you are taking seriously, if he is married, has opinionated kids (male and female) above 14 and his answer will be no.

Does he even have a teenage daughter, as some of us do, he can ask if she'd be interested in going into a polygamous home? Yet he is speaking as if he is experienced and has a tale to tell.

He is just fantasising about what he believes he wants without the experience that teaches a man what works best in life 100%.

Same way communism died, so too will polygamy. Only a question of time and that is why polygamy is still popular in mainly Africa and Asia that other continents have evolved beyond.

Omoboricash:
With all the chest beat , the guy that claimed to be God. He said he can decide who lives and who died . He can play god. He has supreme power according to him. He was picked like a snail in Kenya hotel. Coward

The worst part is their self-destructive arrogance, uncompromising idiocy and naive sense of invincibility as a people.

Let's not run around the Houses. Kanu did wrong 100%. Tonnes of evidence establishing criminal guilt against him exist.

Everything is negotiable in Nigeria and most people realize this bar those who feel they must arrogantly, self-destructively and uncompromisingly fight everyone to a standstill at all times when they could simply chill and go on a charm offensive towards Buhari to give Kanu a soft landing for his 100% wrongdoing and guilt.

Instead they continue to insist on his "100% innocence" while insulting the "Zoo and her Igbo-hating lawless leaders" for "wrongful detention" of Kanu. They kept labelling Buhari "paedophile" and all manner of horrible tags that only made Kanu's situation more difficult.

One of them today, on NL, was still arrogantly declaring Kanu is innocent and did no wrong so far as his hate speech, against non-Igbos and our nation, was launched from the UK and not in Nigeria.

The whole thing is just hard to watch as I have never seen a people like them. I.e educated but emotional to the point even stark illiterate are wiser than them over issues needing critical thinking.

It is now too late. Kanu will be found guilty and he is finished .

Amumaigwe:
You and all your family members are all in jail alongside everyone currently living in this forsaken country. Nigeria is a big prison and all everyday citizens are inmates. If you live in this present Nigeria and consider yourself free, then you must be a privileged dependant.

I live in "forsaken" Nigeria. It has it's challenges but the future is bright if everyone, leaders and followers, commit to playing their part.

Nowhere in the world is entirely easy today or with street paved with gold. Even the traditional developed nations are struggling today because they have no source of new wealth whereas Africa and Nigeria has tonnes that just needs to be managed well and for the benefit of Nigeria and Africans.

You can sit around complaining and cursing Nigeria daily, hating on her leaders and those who still believe in her as a nation, but I can tell you that in the next 20 years Nigeria will be a wealthy nation and fairly developed nation.

This will happen if we take charge of our resources and manage them well given that we live in an age where mineral and resources-rich nation will define the future of the world if they have smart leaders and patriotic citizens to profit from the position God has now put Nigeria and Africa in.

Keep whining and predicting doom and gloom for Nigeria, because you did not get Igbo Presidency, while events bypass you so that Nigerians who love their nation, are patriotic and have seen the future become rich, successful and fulfilled helping our nation develop optimally.

kettykin:
I don't really support Nnamdi Kanu, but sending him to jail will be the biggest mistake Nigeria will make.

If the judge doesn't know what to do, he should simply order the DSS to return him to Kenya amd wash his hands off the case.

Can't happen, won't happen. Kanu and Igbos forced tha hand of the Government by engaging in a campaign of calumny against Tinubu, who had nothing to do with Kanu's case, for "unjust imprisonment ".

Kanu's and his pathetic lawyers then ensured case lingered till Ekpa was jailed meaning Nigeria's hand has been forced publicly to the extent no option of soft landing is now available to Kanu if his underling copped 5 years jail term in Finland.

This whole thing again highlights how Igbos do not understand how to be level-headed, bridge-building, pragmatic and diplomatic to gain what they want.

DiarisGodoo:
It is rare to come accross an adult from a polygamous family who'd tell you polygamy was great. (Not impossible but rare). Equally rare to see one from monogamy who wishes dad was polygamous.
Guy below summarizes it well.

Precisely. A fellow Nigerian course mate of mine at Uni in the UK hated his dad passionately because of what he claimed was neglect of himself and his mother when he was growing up.

Second year, when we moved out of dorms, we rented a house near uni with another coursemate. That was when I saw how close to his mom this dude was and how much he looked after her because he credited his progress and success to her alone.

He resented his dad. No love there at all and was not cool with his other siblings from other wives of his dad. He moved to the US after we graduated and is well-adjusted today after marrying same lady he had been dating at Uni .He has four kids and they are all USA citizens.