I bet you don’t have any framework for good behavior for her. Do you go to church? Do you practice the Christian walk Only the spirit of God can change a human. And you better give her that opportunity before sad things happen.

No. Don’t force her. Model the life yourself.

I recommend Christ Embassy. Lots of youth serving God and loving it. Thats the environment she needs. Plus good parents who are not hypocrites.

Mrperfecto:
I will just be brief without writing too much.

We are based we have 4 children, my first child is 13 from my previous relationship, she has become very terrible, she doesn't listen to me or my wife. She tells her that she is not her biological mother and she cannot control her. She had threatened to call the police on my wife telling her if she touch her she will fight her back and call the police. She goes to school and closes at 3.45 her school is 10 mins walk from home, but she is always late for home.

She comes home around 6 sometimes 7pm , as I am writing now every friday she closes at 12.30 but she is still hasn't come back home yet.

I am on my way to work. I start at 6.30pm till 2.30am so I rarely get to see her and she only misbehaving when I am not around. So far we have seized her phone because we had found so many inappropriate messages exchanges between her and boys. We had also removed the TV from her room and her behaviour has gotten worse. She is behaving like she's possessed.

My wife and I are fed up. Even her siblings are tired of her. We want to send her back to Nigeria maybe in a boarding school until she is 18 in order to protect her younger ones. If we keep her and she continues with her terrible behaviour I may beat her badly and we may end up loosing all 4 children to the authorities.

Please what advice will you give to me concerning this issue?

immortalcrown:
If you depend on click baits on Nairaland, hunger go finish you.

AmotekunSW:


Remember what he said about 5G?

Dreadlock69:
There is this girl/lady of mine , dark tall and good looking, how we started talking and dating was a coincidence ,she was speaking rudely or not fairly to my cousin and I interrupt and cautioned her never to try that or repeat it again cause me get “gbana" for head i know dey take disrespect/nonsense.
she later calm down and became gentle like pikin wey Dem shout for ,after advising her and her later gra gra like I do am bad thing but me know send , how we start dating is a history I don't know how it happened.

Now she got this problem she get very sharp mouth how do I go about it ?
It only when I'm around she tries not to do anything stupid and talk pass herself because I do give her this stare warning eyes and she go respect herself ,like the one wey “ my mama go give me if I wan collect sweet from stranger or person she no like when I dey small".
She always feels she can get away with anything cause I'm around and no one will/dare to touch her .“ she get this kind mindset like nah cultist she dey date nobody got touch am".

My cousin bro and sis sometimes are like I know blame you anytime your husband dey you dey get wings.

She sweet and all to me and everyone but her mouth to sharp and ee dey off me sometimes , how do I manage her behavior I'm a cool / mind my business kind of person.

Spaxon:







Hello Sir, first and foremost I'm not an Oga.
Secondly I'm not poor.
I don't need to exploit people to gain wealth.

Suing Peak for The "Something Hoooge" advert is senseless, yes suing Gala is quite reasonable;they used his picture.
And listen I'm not one of those you can run your mouth against anyhow and get away with it, Learn to be respectful to people.
Manage your little #100mb and stay away from my mention..
I never recall quoting or having tagged you anywhere.

I've been on NL since 2014 and I stay on my lane. Mind your words.

Coldshisha:




Agbaya mumu man

His family would have held similar prestige like the Dantata, Adelekes, as 3rd Generation big man but drug abuse, betrayer , hungry attitude, pettiness ruined their name


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uyimen:
Good day,
Pls help me with ur advice , i know u wont be shy to tell me if am wrong.
now its me my wife blames.

Friends what do i do now, my wife insists that because of 18yrs of living with them so i should let go and pretend nothing ever went wrong.
Pls advise me.

azadus18:
The future is black

NwaAmaikpe:





T.K.O for another Daddy G.O.

I wonder why they're dying younger than their seniors who are not even as holy as them yet gearing up for the next Presidential election in 2023.

Divinehealer:
if you talk now, the "including your father and male relatives" Gang will jump out
Women listen and listen good, naija men and self control are as wide appart as Alpha and Omega. They will Bleep their own mothers talkless of daughters. Keep your children faaar from them. Don't look at how they pretend on social media forming and shouting ahh, na wa ooo, God forbid ó, all na wash. Until you catch them, they will keep forming better and holler. Read through and see how men will only see the problem to be that he slept with his daughter. They will almost wave this aside as one of those mistakes which shouldn't have happened. Read through and see how men will make excuses for him. That should tell you how normal these kinds of acts are in the minds of naija men.
The wife is stupid for being confused. When she is fucking, does she confuse the hole a dick should enter? The daughter.. May God heal her. The poster is mad for being confused too. The man,..... He needs clean beating and castration

Lamasta:
Are you sure this is not sapphire

FutureIsFemale:
Dear women, invest in yourselves. Forget these chameleons who keep changing every second. They don't worth it.

Please permit me to say this. Men are very wicked. They are ready to waste your life. Imagine marrying a lady just for clout. You care not about her emotions and her biological clock. Very selfish lots.
A man would date a lady for years.. Pinning her down with fake marriage promises. Deep down he knows he won't marry her yet he will chose to tie her down.
My God will continue to punish every male child that has ever promised a lady marriage and dump her for another woman.

Time is the only resource that can't be recovered. Men know this. And they are fully aware of a woman's clock. Yet they chose to waste women's time. My God will judge them.
If not for Biblical purpose, I see no reason I should get married. These men don't deserve it.

It's different if you are planning on marrying a girl and something serious like health challenge happens and you later cancel your plans.
Why keep a woman in your custody for years when you know you won't marry her? What's the sense in it?
God will punish you all marriage-promise-breakers. It will not be well with you all.

I am not even reacting to the thread base on the subject matter. I am reacting to the thread base on how men waste women's time all in the name of marriage. God will punish them.
And point of correction. I am not on NL for likes. If I wanted likes I would say sweet words about men. To hell with NL likes. I am here as a voice for women.

It seem you don't know who men are. The worst pretenders I have ever seen. Some would go as far as introducing you to their family members and coming to see your family for introduction. Deep down they know they won't marry you. They will leave you to public disgrace.
Forget it. If I tell you my story you will weep.
I don't wish any woman what I've gone through in the hands of men.

They key word here is "MARRIAGE FOR CLOUT". Meaning that no matter how good this girl is, he will still dump her after his clout chasing days are over.

Marriage is not a choice. It is a command.
Genesis 2:24
Genesis 9:7
Deuteronomy 23:2

PENNYSWAP:
Greetings guys ..

I’m in an emotional trauma right now. This girl I have been dating , I want to marry and I have gone to her place and did a few of things my hand could afford traditionally .. I’m hoping to do the rest by Xmas .

She is a new graduate and she told me to open a side business for her to make small small change instead of being idle.

I told her to give me small time to save up money .

There is this guy she always talks about that is a yahoo boy and has plenty money , long story short , she came to my house last weekend , we were discussing, I wanted to use her phone and play 9ja ludo but she insisted on not giving me the phone .. she held the phone , turned her back after pressing it for long she gave it to me .

I angrily seized the phone , told her I bought the phone and sim that I’m seizing it.

We later settle and she slept early hours of the nxt day , I woke up brought her phone and it was on plane mood , I removed it from plane mood and a text msg came in from some guy .

I went to her WhatsApp to check the guy out and behold , she blocked the number on WhatsApp.

I unblocked the number and sent him message first , we started chatting , the guy was saying how he loves her and all that shit and the money he sent her to open up a side business.

I woke her up , confronted her and she said she did it for me since I was wasting time to raise money for her , she had to take it from her class mate , the said yahoo guy .

That she’s sorry not to tell me about it since .

She said I should allow her answer the guys calls so that she can get more money from the guy. I agreed and gave her the go ahead but she promised that she won’t allow any man see her unclothedness aside me her husband to be.

My mind has been heating up , why she lied to me and hid something of this nature to me .

The other mind is telling me to impregnate her then dump her when she’s 6 months pregnant that if I leave her now , the guy might take over and I will be the mugu here .

Guys what do I do , I need to wicked this girl I swear , my mind is boiling

Some one I have done 45% of her dowry is doing this to me . Kai I be mugu Oooooo

I need advise from real niggaz