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True. The girls are mostly fat, lazy, excessively tattooed...and smoke weed like it’s going out of fashion.

And then they say “I want a man that’ll love me for who I YAM”.

And to make matters worse, they have no qualms walking out at the slightest irritation, taking the man’s wealth with them. It’s a business sef.

Don’t quote me. I know what I know.

You just make sisters look stupid.

Stand with her at all costs”. Yet you will still open your mouth to chant BLM.

If white folk stand with their own, you’re gonna cry �

Your headline is misleading.

Anyway, I’ll advice you.

I watched a movie last night titled SPEED KILLS, and starring John Travolta.

The title is enough to chew on. Most of you want to blow overnight. And that’s a problem.

Y’all don’t know how to stick to things.

Secondly...I also learnt that...

It doesn’t matter how much you’ve lost.

I’d doesn’t matter how hard a thing is.

Success stories are not for quitters.

99.9999% of the time, victory is for those who see it through. Who stay in the game.

Took me 7 years to learn this in my online game.

I used to do free marketing. That is, I never wanted to pay for services or renew them. Like web hosting or autoresponder services.

If you ain’t paying, you ain’t winning. If you like be there for 10 years.

Pay for services.

Get a coach.

Bring your a game.

And get the “fvgck” back up if you fall.

That’s how to win at ANYTHING.

Oh and by the way, I finally got serious in 2016.

3 years later, I hit my first $100,000 month.

It’s not hard.

But the finish line is only for those who stay in the game.

Doesn’t matter how much you’ve “lost”.

Your story doesn’t matter until you win.

My name is Waju Abraham.

Google me.

You need to forgive yourself.

You can’t move forward thinking like a loser. Or seeing yourself as one.

Only you can fix this. And it begins with respecting yourself again, reminding yourself who you truly are and speaking to yourself.

I’ve been there.

Spent 10 years in the university. Smh. Nothing changed until I KINGED MYSELF.

Nothing changed.

The same will be your case.

Forget who doesn’t check on you. Nobody checks on a loser.

They will return when you KING yourself.

Start to see yourself in a new light.

Nothing will work. Losers are losers.

Your life will not emerge beyond the image that you hold of yourself.

I hope this helps.

I’ll prolly do a full article on this later.

But keep in mind, it is the only way.

No idea...no matter how brilliant...will change your life if you don’t stop feeling sorry for yourself and seeing yourself as a loser or disappointment.

That’s where the problem is.

That’s what the devil wants.

There are no losers in heaven.

Smile.

Well at least you have an idea that you have no idea.

That’s a good place to start from, worthy of celebrating.

Many are not even aware.

You’re doing well, my dear bro/sis.

I don’t quite agree. It isn’t prosperity that gives white folks the passion for these things. It is courage. The people who do these jobs don’t necessarily get paid top dollar. They just follow their passion.

Blacks on the other hand, are more fearful. Remember it is the same water they worshiped that brought their slave masters.

Shukusheka:
It is not even a blackman thing, it is a reflection of races still battling with poverty. White people can afford to shift their interest into wildlife because they have attained a certain level of self actualization, they have lesser fundamental things to worry about.

Good job with this video. Needs circulation.

Good music. Good lyrics. Great directing.

God bless you. Mightily.

GodisWealth:
There is obviously something wrong with the Nigerian Army most especially its leadership. Buhari should do a total overhauling .

Meanwhile pls i solicit all Nigerian Youths to desist from drug abuse.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K3rxFmftbho

If you’re so passionate about grammar, why not create a course on the subject. It’s better to get paid than to to be seen as an unpaid alaseju.

Dotherightthing:
21. Please spell words correctly when you post, and try to use perfect grammar and punctuation.

proxillin:
I jokingly said to her “You dey whine me abi”. She just went off, started ranting, she said I should say whatever I want to say now infront of everyone..infront of her friends. “Why do you want me to come and sit with you?” say it now “let the whole world hear”. It was so embarrasing for me. I just said to myself “whats there..are they not aldult?..dem never toast all of them before”.
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In a dilema seriously and its giving me headache.

Dude! Forgiveness is not the problem. In fact, it is irrelevant.

She was “being childish”. I laugh in ibiobio. If it’s in her, it will manifest again when she feels settled.

Secondly, she likely did that because one of her sponsors was at the party. She embarrassed you to make an Intended impression...protect a relationship.

That girl will break you’re heart when she finally has it in her possession.

Take it to the bank.

Girls don’t change. They have no new behavior. That’s why broken men always remember the red flags a little too late.

My peace I leave with you.

Selah.

Un-have her, silly!

wwwihy:
Reno ,the envious speak from the heart about morality; they are consumed by hunger and begrudging. They tolerate, when no one else listens; and with the spur of spite, they applaud another's prosperity.

All envy is proportionate to desire; we are uneasy at the attainments of another, according as we think our own happiness would be advanced by the addition of that which he withholds from us.

Wwwihy are you incapable of analytical thinking like this?

Wwwihy is anything that criticizes those you worship always seen as an attack.

I’ll answer.

Because you are not supposed to worship any other but God who alone is faultless. And you can never go wrong worshipping Him.

A man brings facts to correct a damaging position by an influential organization, and you call it envy.

I can almost bet you’re Yoruba.

Na dem dey always find fault in truth. Especially when it hits home.

Nonsense.

Look at the male beside her. Looking all tough because he knows that people know he’s not the man in the arrangement.

He’s just an inseminator.

He’s not the man of the house. Otherwise why would you bow to the culture of celebrity and allow your woman dress like this for the world to see?

These are the men being produced these days. Weak as fuxk. Now the weaker flesh. She married him. He didn’t marry her.

She pays the bills. She calls the shots.

That is not a man.

Anyway, asolayo oooo, Nicki darling.

It takes a basic man to submit like that. Somebody has to do the dirty work sha

Originally from Ekiti State, born to two University Professors, Yomi Fapas himself graduated from UCH, Ibadan.

On migrating to the USA, and touched by the plight of immigrants, he ventured further to study Law, at the same time getting a PhD in public health from John Hopkins University.

Below information from his website. fapas4senate.com

MEET: YOMI FAPAS
Yomi “Fapas” Faparusi, grew up on a university campus. He learned the value of education and hard work from his parents who had a poultry business in addition to being college professors.

At a young age, Fapas tended chickens at the family business. Thus, Fapas understands the importance of small businesses, especially in Tennessee.


Yomi attended medical school and eventually graduated with a PHD from John Hopkins School of Public Health.

Today, we face a public health crisis with the COVID-19 pandemic. As a licensed physician, Fapas would bring the requisite knowledge to the US Senate to formulate policies that would address current and future health care issues.

Finally, as a practicing immigration attorney, Fapas will put partisan politics aside to resolve our immigration crisis.

cc: lalasticlala Mynd44

I wish I could like this a million times.

streetzdreamz:
so many babies on this forum parading as men,she gave an advice, you told your mum who didn't buy the idea,then you automatically lost confidence in her, do you even have confidence in yourself to start with?I know how lonely my mum is whenever I'm not home, we've all told her to remarry a couple years after dad's death but she wouldn't, so if my girlfriend gives me such a suggestion,I'll never ever use it against her,and to think some people here are spewing rubbish about it all is appalling, a saying goes "lucky is the spouse that dies first, who never gets to know what their partner endures" your choice,your mum,your girl but it's foolish bringing it up here as though the lady did or said anything wrong,when a man loses his wife it only takes a lil while before he remarries,but when it's a woman reverse is the case,Lord knows if I end up marrying,and go early I wouldn't want my wife to go through half of what my mum went through..... traditions or cultures me ass!

Na this one off me.

1992 “pikin”. You were 20 years old 8 years ago, and you still consider yourself a child.

My dear, face your book. You have no business with a mature girl.

When (hopefully) you get wise, you will realize she was telling you because she was planning for her marital home. No wife wants a mother in law who will be squatting 24/7 with her husband.

If you miss this, you could miss heaven. Because wisdom is the true heaven.

Mvici:
1992 pikin still be child maybe na the way I take reason the matter.

Thanks anyway.

You’re not flying high enough for her. She’s seen men. And you don’t match the men she’s seen or who have toasted (or tasted) her.

Walk away, brother. Don’t look for them.

Face your life and make it enviable.

Don’t do it to revenge. Do it because it is your #1 priority on this life.

I wish o could say more here, but there’s no time.

Check out my signature for additional help.

Peace.

simplexity:
Firstly I will like to apologize for any errors made while typing, and I am seriously in need of ur advice and criticism.

My name is Stanley(not real names) married for 4years with two Lovely kids both female with d eldest at age 4. Trust me I cherish and love my family. I am a graduate while my wife dropout from the university cause of some money issues her single mother had while she was sick. After our first child I made sure she got admitted to a polytechnic and thankful she just rounded up her N.D all expenses paid by me, with high hopes of Getting admitted for her HND.

The problem started after our first child, my wife attitude towards sex changed totally, she would never let me touch her or play with her, calling her pet names will usually end in quarrel, I spoke with her her severally, pleaded and beg her most times but her attitude never changed, she made me feel like I met nothing to her, yet she will always fight with me whenever ever she suspects I have a girlfriend, fights with any female that comes close to me through calls or chats, she even went as far as beating up a lady that needed my help thinking I was dating her.

Fast forward to recently, her mom who is a single mother relocated to stay with us, and during her stay we had some misunderstanding about money issues, (note both me and wifey are gainfully employed in the ratio of 10:4, but 60% of wifey salary goes to her mom while she spends the rest 40% anyhow she likes) during d money issues a frd of hers came and told both of them that she see saw me flirting with a lady. And without hearing my own side of the coin my mother in-law rained curses on me , reported my to all her family members and left my house angrily, two days later my wife took our children and left my house while I was in d office, I called about her where about and she said she won't tell me and she said I will hear from her family soon, her mom called a family friend saying she will sue me.

It's been one week now and I don't know the whereabouts of my kids.

Should I report to the police or what?
Note I have apologized to wife for the crime I didn't commit yet it seems they want a bigger pound of flesh.

Please kindly advise me caused am depressed and confused

I don’t write for junkies or cotton brains. They’ll never get it.

WeedSeller:
Very terrible write-up.

read your lengthy crap twice and I still couldn't decipher what you are really saying.

We get the headline about women not being gold diggers but what you wrote up there deviated off to meaningless cited examples and unrelated stories to vindicate women from the generalized ideology of them not being gold diggers.

Kindly review the short report on your website too.
Hopefully, it doesn't look like this.

They met a maga. If you can’t accept that, then you will soon encounter season 2.

Leskobet.

paulolee:
my guy u never jam abeg...the one wey knack me na special brand...she and her sister run me street well back to back like say them come with 2 sharp hoes because they both digged me well....i pray say u no jam dm

Actually this is not an essay competition. Sorry to disappoint on that.

A woman follows who she respects more.

Men who keep blaming women are called SIMPS. They don’t want to bear responsibility for anything.

They deserve to lose their gold.

Gentle0wavez:
What you wrote makes sense but comparing it to your topic, you failed woefully. The topic is of noun, you are explaining verb, you are not wrong in what you are saying but u have gone off. explain to us how no woman is a gold digger, including the ones that would dump a millionaire they love for a billionaire, the ones that marry you so that they can divorce with half of ur money, the ones that are experts in leeching, come and defend them.

You do deserve a beer, my friend.

Let’s see if this makes front page.

Iamundisputed:
The key is striking a balance between attraction and control I believe. If a woman likes you, even if it's just 10%, the other 90% will come from the way you relate with her.

Women may not admit, but the always prefer a man who is in control, as long as he isn't ignorant of their emotional needs and remains caring when it matters most.

Lol. It’s always good to cook meat well before chewing.

Iamundisputed:
The highlighted part was all you needed to write and it is 100% on point. Nice one...

Aka Male Feminists.

Iamundisputed:
Because some men (the so-called simps) have been conditioned to believe that being emotionally weak is the way to a woman's heart, which is quite the opposite.

Women are more intrigued by men with a strong personality and confidence and guys who chase less are who they end up appreciating. Once you reduce the attention you give a woman, your value goes up, even if you don't know it yet.

I’ve been reading a lot of sob stories from guys who got chomped by ladies they thought they were dating.

Usually, the story is about how she was cool until she started enjoying their money and then starting to be unbelievably absent. Something like that.

I’m not a player, nor do I support playerhood. I am a Christian and a follower of Christ. (E nor mean say I no get sense sha).

I am pushed to write this post because I’ve seen a lot of bad advice flying around and if we’re not careful, a lot of young, naive men seeking help may be pushed into harming women, and even worse, screwing up their own lives.

Let’s begin.

I’ve been played before. Not once. Not twice.

The last time it happened, I caught myself quickly but stayed in the parasitic relationship because I was curious to learn how this thing works. (It stops hurting when you know you’re being played, but the player doesn’t know that you know).

I began to take mental notes of her behavior. Sometimes, I played dead. Sometimes, I flexed my jambite machismo at the time.

Over time, I began to observe something very interesting. This is what has led me to make the bold statement that...

No woman is a gold digger

Women are not gold diggers. Not even the meanest Olosho is a gold digger.

A woman is a bird of prey (apology to heat-seeking feminists)

A predator kinda. That’s what a woman is, and it’s not a bad thing actually.

Because life itself is a jungle. Those who struggle to accept this will constantly find themselves victims of other humans, male or female.

Anyway, back to my topic.

Imagine a lioness going jejely on its way, and a lion crosses the road. Even if the lioness is hungry, will it attack the lion?

Not likely. Because man sabi man.

But if the lion is weak and stumbling, there’s a high chance that the lioness will thank God for daily bread.

How much more if madam lioness sees a goat, or zebra, or gazelle.

The point here is this....

A woman’s yahoo-yahoo instinct is only triggered by the man showing her attention. And I’m going to be very blunt here.

If a normal woman meets a guy who is stumbling through life with a load of mummy/daddy/entitlement issues, she will go for blood every single time.

It doesn’t matter if she just came out of 40 days of prayer. A weak male personality is the major trigger for gold diggers.

And it’s not just about money issues alone.

Look, they may not have told you, guys...but money/gifts/things cannot buy a woman’s loyalty. It doesn’t.

In fact, it only makes her more insecure.

”Is he buying me?

Will he now start thinking he owns me now??

I better show him I am my own person.

Every woman from the time of the first man will be like this.

That’s why it’s after giving her a mind blowing distin that she starts asking what are we.

Kindness makes them insecure.

“Will he now stop trying”

That’s why the time most couples fight the most is after the man thinks he has done something “great” for her -in his own mind.

A friend told me about his Dad’s friend. The poor man had just bought a late model Toyota for his wife. That very weekend, they attended an event together and Na dia wahala start.

What happened?

Madam was sweating, and she started showing her husband attitude.

”You see me sweating like this, and you can’t buy ordinary handkerchief for me. You’re so heartless”

That was the beginning of the end of that marriage ooo.

Baba felt bad. Very bad. After what he just “did for her”

“Women are useless!” is now his favorite statement. Sometimes, right out of nowhere.

Listen guys, I won’t expand on this but let me tell you something.

Right after your biggest show of love is when to EXPECT your woman to “malfunction”.

It’s not her fault.

You became expectant. You started to show maga behavior. You developed expectations.

That’s maga (aka prey) behavior, and she will always go for the jugular.

It doesn’t matter if she is a pastors daughter. A woman is a woman is a woman.

I’m talking too much already.

I published a short report on my website. It’s free to download.

The link is in my signature.

A man who knows the value of a wig from a picture is....

NOT A MAN.

Of all the things that matter in this life and this year

You must really loathe yourself.

Shame.

meobizy:
See her cheap wig. What a lokito.

NiCurious:
[This thread runs to 21 pages already and I didn't read all through, please forgive me if I'm asking something you've already answered.]
Setting aside any argument about whether ghosts exist or not. A 36 year old just died in her sleep? Of what? Let's run with this being the ghost of the young woman who surely had no plans to die any time soon. She must have had unfinished business, and is asking you to help. From what you know of her, what might that be? Where are her kids, are they with her sister, or are they grown up? Is there something left undone in her apartment? How did you and she relate? Is there unfinished business between you two? Next time she appears to you or makes a noise, get bold. Ask her what she wants from you. Be courageous and open to understanding her reply. It might not be in words.

This is where you go off on a tangent. The people that invented Sango and Ayelala were talking to trees.

Somebody will always answer.

The dead are dead. This fellow watches too much tick tock videos. That’s where the seed was sown.

Stay off tick tock.

No woman said peem on page 1. Abi dem don sleep

My advice.

Pick your heart and mend it. Stay and start a fresh lane. This is life. Don’t react. But put your affection elsewhere.

Best place? In Christ. Nobody can break a heart that’s given to Christ already.

You’re only responsible for your actions. Not anybody else’s.

Gba

You’re broke, dependent and you act like a kid. Kill these 3 and see if things won’t IMPROVE.

There’s a whole lot more to this, but this is a start.

Oh. And very likely your seks is very bad.

Anyhoo...if you need more tips, see my signature.

Ire oooooooo!

I once loved a girl. Shapely, smart, and beautiful.

That was when I was still not manning up.

She didn’t want me. But she knew I liked her. A lot. Civil servant that I was.

She often took advantage of that.

I was her fall guy. I was so smitten by her that she once slept in my house and Kai. The lion was a cat that day.

Anyway, she kept using me when her player bf/crush let her down.

I told her one day...

“See, it’s not that I am stupid for loving you still. But I take it like keeping fit. I want to still be a loving man when I finally meet the one that’ll stay”

I later heard she started loving up, but she was scared I was gonna avenge her shakara.

It’s been 7 years now.

She married a yahoo boy. I am richer than the yahoo boy -legally.

No sir. I have no regrets doing anything “for love”. I would that I did everything on earth for love.

I believe love is a spirit. The spirit I want to be like.

The more it consumes me, the better humanity is blessed.

TRUE Love has no regrets.

For when love acts, it is always right. And whether people appreciate it or not, las las EVERY KNEE SHALL BOW

I’m surprised no one has done this.

From the few men I have met, getting an apology from her is harder than sex during period.

Are you married?

Maybe you should. Hahaha

Join me with this lockdown special formula.

crackkhaus:
@wjxavier, as much as there are valid points to be seen in your post, not failing to mention your beautiful introductory story about Major, I have to tell you that you still got one thing backwards.

Damn I still can't get over Major's suicide

Anyway, so hear goes...
There's something my mother told me, yes my mother, and I was just a teenager when she did. There are basically two things which a woman can use to manipulate/control/exercise some kind of power over a man - these are food and sex.
The moment a woman, your woman, your wife, discovers that you're not overly dependent on the pleasures her vagîna or cooking can provide for you, she has lost almost all the power she can use to hold you ransom. The only remaining source of her power becomes the children, but that's another story entirely.

You're absolutely on point when you state that an apology has to be made with words, not with sex and certainly not with food.
Now this is how the little wisdom from my momma ties into it: A woman who is already aware that her food or her sex does nothing extraordinary for you, will also know for a fact that she is wasting her time using them as a substitute for apology. She will definitely need to apologize with words even if she fights her nature to do it.

It all starts from the very beginning of a relationship. A man is supposed to lay down, whether overtly or covertly, his principles and exactly how conflict should be handled. It should preferably be overtly by simply telling his wife that an apology with words is the only way he can move on. He must let her know that he will never sweep things under the carpet like she does and she must understand this.

Not eating her food or not having sex, while advisable, is not really a definite solution. Yes you can decide to cook your own meals or eat out as a form of protest, but for how long? It's better that if you're even going to do this, you should inform her that you DEMAND an apology for the wrong she has done.
It is foolhardy to just give a woman the attitude without actually telling her what she can do to end it.

The overall point is to always let your wife know that you demand an apology from her, this is the best course of action. Even if you're going to refuse her food and her vagîna, it should go along with you demanding an apology and communicating your displeasure.


My hand is paining me...and Major's suicide has really messed up my morning.
I need to have a conversation with my good friend Jack Daniels.