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delkuf:
Good Nairaland I don't normally do this, bringing my family issue here but this issue is pissing me off.

Here is the story. I got married last year, and I thought I have known her enough that was why I married her. But to my surprise I started discovering that she is too stiff. She is too hard. When she says she is not doing something, that is it, she won't do it.

Sometimes if am broke, and I ask for Small amount of money, most time I want to use that money to get means for bigger money, she won't give.

She gives me time for sex. Presently am down with fever and the only thing she has ever asked me is how is your body. No what will you take or something. Am starting to think of quitting the marriage. The only issue is that she is pregnant and this is my first child.

Please read the 'Rational Male's by Rollo Tomassi, thank me later

Hadampson:
Sex to a man is more than physical pleasure.

Sex is conquest, it is an achievement of a sort; it is the affirmation of manhood.

This may sound stupid and senseless to a woman but to a man it is not.

Withholding sex from a man makes you mysterious and strangely attractive.

A man likes to overcome a challenge and CONQUER.

Having sex with you is conquering you.

If he does so before marriage, he loses the passion to pursue and chase you further because you do not give him anymore challenge.

If you pressure him and he continues with the relationship, he does so with less enthusiasm and respect for you.

Delaying sex till marriage has its numerous benefits.

Apart from avoiding unwanted pregnancy, infections, syphilis and AIDS, you develop a very healthy self esteem.

Your face glows with pride and you help your man develop SELF CONTROL.

Women who give men sex in courtship do not know they are helping their men commit adultery in marriage.

You have trained him to always get sex improperly at the wrong time because you feel he cannot hold it.

So when you marry and are heavily pregnant or just deliver your baby please don't be angry if hubby runs after a mistress or caught making out with the maid.

Because you have already gotten him used to the system and cannot wait any longer.

The best place to be "conquered" is in marriage.

Saving sex till the wedding night makes the man sees you as a highly valuable jewel worth having and keeping.

This may not just be referring to virgins.

Even if you have had a terrible past, abortions or a child out of wedlock.

FORGET THE PAST and save sex for the wedding night.

Let the man know the past was a mistake but now you know better.

He may say why only him but let him know that only a fool makes mistake twice.

You are not going to CHEAPEN yourself before any man anymore.

If he accepts it fine, if not he is free to go.

You are not a sexual machine. Any man who will marry you must accept your person not just your private part.

You are not a intimacy gadget. You are a woman he needs to appreciate, love and value you with all due respect.

When you give your man sex on the wedding night, he has "conquered" you and there is a look of pride in his eyes.

That pride spread over to you and the result is a loving, trusting, peaceful and blissful marriage.

He no longer sees you as a cheap person. This is not a joke.

You are happy that your man owns you completely and he is happy to be the one in charge of you.

This is very crucial and basic in marriage.

It is the foundation for trust, faithfulness and commitment for life.

Learn to control your sexual urge and teach your man to control his as well.

There is time for everything under the sun.

The more you sell yourself cheap and quick, the more you will be bought cheap and depreciate in value quick.

You all know that cheap product doesn't last long on market. That's how your relationship might be.

Many women are many on the street today because they were so quick to give themselves cheap.

They are the cause of their very problems today.

The faster their backs were knocked on the bed, the faster their relationships were broken.

And lots of them complaining today that their days are changing into darkness.

Dear ladies, tell him to wait and have patient until the wedding night.

If he doesn't have patient, let him go.

For those of you who rushed yourself and now living with the pains, don't get frustrated.

God bless you all!!

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Please Sir, we are expecting a new thread on Germany. And can you open a community for German speakers to know each other and interact more?

True love doesn't exist

Auladimeji:
Please I have questions to ask

Why is Israel in possession of nuclear weapons while the USA don't want the Iran to have it
Remember that the way Israel is hated in the middle East is the way Iran is extremely hated in the middle East too because of shiite
If you call Iran terrorists remember, Israel is also killing Palestinians every week
Please don't tell me Israel is a Christian nation because there are more Muslims in Israel than christians while Palestinians also have Christians

So,if you are answering my questions, please be intelligent

Almost everything Israel does is in self defense. Israel don't want to Islamize the world unlike most Arab countries.
If it were possible, most Arab countries would have wiped out Israel long ago. So self defense.
Israel is an ally. Some countries would use their weapons to force a religion on the world.

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It seems girls love abusive men, scratch that off the list

Won't they have sex when they marry?

jellybabee:
yeah you maybe right but most time I keep thinking of how lonely he might be feeling..... Only God knows if he does or not. Thanks for caring� t means a lot.

My pleasure
Be your best self, you'll surely overcome

jellybabee:
in life some children get to truly know what their mum passed through, while some know part of the whole story....
To start with my own dad....I do miss him a lot almost every day....I have tried to call him several times... His response z always who z speaking? When I tell him am d one...he start raining insult.... N t hurts me more n more everyday of my life. My dad never really cared for my Mum n we his children.. both emotionally,psychologically n financially. During my childhood we hardly av visitors at home because my dad comes home late from work including weekends, he was never at home. We barely eat twice in a day,we were always sent home for nonpayment of school fees but we lived in a well furnished apartment...while my dad was not paying house rent oo because d house belonged to his uncle based in another state then n we lived there for 14years plus ,with d fact that my dad's company was one of the leading companies in the state we were then. Through out my years of staying with my parents... I never saw my dad do anything by himself... Z either he ask my Mum or d any of his kids to do t....when my dad z eating one of d kids will av to stay close to b refilling his glass of water from d jug in his front ....practically right from childhood till date...I never saw my dad lifting anything up on his on....except glass of cup directly to his mouth ,food n drugs. He didn't allow my Mum to work because he thinks she z too beautiful to go outside. I can still remember how I cried hell begging my dad to give me waec registration fee a day before d registration close.... He laughed at me telling to wait for him to receive the 3million balance for the payment of the contract he was doing at that time n the same day was my 17th years birthday... I cried that night.... Eventually he gave me part of the money the next day n I borrowed d rest from my teacher at school..... The week I finished my exam ,I started working as a salesgirl... enrolled myself in night classes lesson n wrote jamb (medicine at OAU) ...n passed... I took my result to my dad ....he told me plainly.. that he z not ready to sponsor any child to school... I had to go back to my work n saved money till d following year n at the same time help to buy foodstuffs at home for my Mum n other siblings.... So a year after my secondary school, I decided to go for NCE since t cost less .....During that period my Mum moved out which we d kids supported because my dad was promiscuous together with his non caring attitude... but that period he always come home with a particular woman that tries to beat our mum if not for the intervention of my elder brothers.....my dad then called a meeting with us(kids) begging us not to associate no visit our mum n he z ready to sponsor our education to any level n he was making funny jokes as if he z a different man from d one DAT can slap u for a little mistake.... I finished school n got married quietly without any party because I feel tz not necessary....sometimes I wish to further my studies soon...Most people look at u wen u say u av NCE as if u r not serious... What if I had decided to work more after my NCE n then further instead of getting married? ....maybe I would av dated several men in d name of searching for Mr right huh? N t wouldn't av guaranteed govt job as well. There was a time I went for neco script marking interview..,... And the Interviewer were interrogating n looking at me like .....despite your good result you only av NCE They asked me y...n I told them my parents were not able to send me to university ooo...n d man z looking at me lyk am not serious at all oo... Back to the story... I don't hate my dad but he has refused to communicate with any of his kids... He doesn't have our phone number sef....we once had our dad arguing with our mum DAT he never wanted kids but just her alone. He has been married on n off since then, but I heard from my Mum that dad got married again recently n his wife just gave birth to a baby boy....well he still calls our Mum to come back to him....so please what do you think we the kids should do?

Sad story I will suggest you keep to your lane and paddle your own canoe and help your mom to the best of your ability and never victimize yourself. Hold your head high and you can make it.
Your dad will surely reap more than he has sown. That's the law of nature. Plant a seed reap hundreds.
He is not getting any younger. When he is old and lonely he will look for his children to stay at his side but he will have none then reality will dawn on him.
If something happens and he loses his job he will know that the new wife he has is just squatting in his place until things go wrong.
Anyway do your best. Pray for him.
Let the sleeping dogs lie

Bro huzzle o, first class graduates day Street
First Class is not the ultimate. Which of our senators or even Baba Buhari graduate with first class

The world is going digital so is he

Don't know about you but most Dads never listen. They feel they are always right. They never listen to their wives and even their children. Their wives must vent to someone who is likely to be the children. The children are not blind to they see and notice everything. I'm from a house where my dad feels he is doing well in his career and he is sending his children to school so he won't listen to anyone. He doesn't want to learn and when you question what he tells you he paints you black in the face of the other siblings. He wants you to take everything he tells you without question.
Sometimes I blame my mom for being so tolerant with him from the start making him feel what he is doing is OK.
He will sit in the sitting room watching TV and complaining how things are not done well in the house or how slowly food is cooked.
The whole family will leave the house early in the morning for an event, Mom will wake up earlier than everyone to put bathing water and stuff. We'll come back in the evening he will sit down in front of TV while mom won't even sit small, she will be in the kitchen working, trying to prepare food, he will start complaining saying that she cannot plan ahead. Early morning? If you can plan better why not be preparing food.
For the other siblings they're self righteous and pretentious. The apple does not fall far from the tree.
I'm in a state of discomfort in that house and I'm trying all my best as an undergraduate to move out.
Respect to my mom all the time for keeping the house together. If she was half as my dad I'll probably grow up in a broken home.

Ladykiss:
My MD asked me today what exactly is wrong with me, i can't just hid it. I burst to tears and explained everything from A to Z why am not concentrating at work and Xeexeex what u posted here was exactly what he said. He said lola cry, take a break and move on, u deserve better. Finally i was given a week break from today to go and calm myself.

Sincerely i deserved a better man and not a cheat, i dated him for 6years without cheating on him not even once. I know it won't be easy but i will follow my MD advice by crying, taking a break and moving on.

Thanks to everyone of you who supported me with your one or two advice.

I'm glad you now know what to do. Although it may not be easy at first but in the long run it will be worth while. I really hope you find someone who is good for you and loyal to you.
Somewhere someone is searching for you in every person they meet. Never forget that and don't settle for less.
Thanks

Probably if you had married him he would now be disturbing his current wife to be his side chick or even second wife like he is disturbing you. Cry a little and move on.
No loss there.

ZaOzaRoom:
If I want sex then I should initiate it. Hers is just to lie down and open her legs wide for me to fvck.
If I don't initiate it, she can go months without requesting for it or making any move for it. It makes me hate her. I need a woman that makes sex interesting for me.

Could she be a lesbian?

He who is without sin should cast the first stone

partnerbizn5:
I will call her on phone to come back home from wherever she is, hug and kiss her, reassure her of my love for her; prepare her favourite meal, and make the bed for her to sleep. We will look for the way forward afterwards ranging from sending her abroad to counselling.

You know why?

She needs me now more than ever. The whole world is against her. The hypocrites.

I will be with her now!

Another option is to disown her, let her go into depression and may be suicide.

I choose the former, first option.

Wisdom is profitable to direct!

I love you
Will you marry me?

Marvieduke:
Nice one. Am getting one for my boo

In case you'll need one someday don't hesitate to call

Take it from me, I'm an undergraduate of Mechanical engineering.
When you first get the admission the thrill will be there but take it slow it won't be long before you start singing the national anthem which is 'last last school na scam'. I don't regret studying engineering it taught me a lot about life and that everything ain't about school. Some win in school some win in life. Don't let anyone use CGPA to disturb you. Give in your best but if you can't do that give in the minimum that you won't have to carry over any course.
Learn and unlearn.
Don't be close minded. Learn as much as possible. I'm an Engineer by God's grace but I'm currently writing a film script. Nothing correlates between the two. I'm also learning German now, after it I'lI take French, Spanish, Mandarin Chinese and so on. It's a journey I hope never ends. I'm also working on a Tech startup. My advice is that give school the minimum and your life and personal growth the maximum.
Starting a business now may attract mockery but in the next 5 years when you're about to graduate you'll be surprised if by then you haven't dropped out of school to focus on your business.
There are other things to learn web design, animation using blender, cinema 4d and so on Alison.com Should help. Just begin something of your own while schooling no matter how small.
Two men were trapped on a river during a storm. They asked themselves what should we do, row or pray? They rowed and prayed at the same time. That's How you should roll. Pray
Danke

wittyt98:
$20 million? if this is true then their government lack vision or maybe the construction is just another way to steal public funds cus investing $20million dollars on something that won't generate revenue is definitely the biggest form of foolishness

What of the money Nigeria have invested in projects that went to their stomachs?
Better they do what we can see than nothing

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$20 million and was built for six months. It’s built in
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Nigeria: Am I a joke to you?

Mr100Dollars:
If this people can borrow me half of the money that will be used to invite Cardi B, I will use it to start up a business that will increase the economy of my community, and i will also give them 24/7 power supply even create employment for some jobless youth. Bringing Cardi B to Nigeria is just a waste of resources, and some politicians will use money meant to develop their constituencies just to fvck this Cardi B, and she will go back home to Add this money to the United States economy, and this people will still deny us visas. Why not invite Omawumi or waje.

This is where yahoo boys come in (:

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It's saying that it's not supported on my device

ojonugway:
Minna isn't too far from where I school, I'm schooling in kogi state uni. I have tones of guys at futminna. It's nice adding you to that list. My childhood bestie is studying an engineering course there too

That's nice o

ojonugway:
Lol...I like you already. It seems like we share same sentiment. We should get to know each other better.
I'm currently studying geography in one the state uni. Hopefully i will get my master in Germany by 2022 inshallah

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