MamiTer:
Hello good people of nairaland, I have a pressing issue and I really need your help.

A couple of years back I broke up with my boyfriend whom I really loved due to distance barriers. Getting over him was difficult for me so I had to go into a relationship with one of my toasters in order to get him off my mind.

I achieved my aim after a couple of months but the current guy was unwilling to let go, I didn't love him and couldn't get myself to love him despite trying to. I know I was selfish and opened up to him but he insisted that I would warm up to him with time and grow to love him.

The relationship was far from perfect, I was in it solely for what I benefited but we weren't compatible and it was from one issue to another. We were always at logger heads all the time. He insults me and my family at any given opportunity and talks down on me using secrets I shared with him as leverage each time we quarrel. He shredded my self-esteem.

He was insecure and attacked my male friends at any given opportunity including my lecturers, he would access my social media accounts and send derogatory message to any male contact he feels is making a pass at me.
All these attitudes made me fed up with him and I decided to breakup for good.

Early this year I met a guy online and somehow we vibed together quickly, we met physically for the first time and it felt like we've known for ages. Everything moved so quickly with this new guy that I started developing serious feelings for him. I was scared because I never knew I would feel something like that again after I broke up with my other ex.

This new guy makes me happy and treats me like a woman, anytime spent with him is always memorable and I don't feel like leaving. The chemistry that we share is super strong and everything seems so perfect.

Now to my issue, this new guy is a fresh graduate and not yet stable, I don't have issues with his financial status because he made me realize a Lady can actually be happy without money being thrown at her. But I'm still scared of going all full into the relationship he might go for service and never come back to me. I don't just want a repeat of my previous relationship that got shattered after my ex relocated.

On the other hand, the other guy is hell bent on getting me back, he's been pleading and sending people to beg me even though I told him I've moved on and has even had sex with the new guy but he still wants me back.

I'm confused and don't know what to do, my heart is with the new guy but the other guy is making things so difficult for me and almost driving me insane. Can I still grow to love him?? Though I've been unable to after almost a year.

Should move on with the new guy?? I've known him for barely two months but it seems I've known him for ages, my feelings are exploding and I can hardly control them which is making me scared.

I'm sorry for the long epistle but I had to let it all out.
Please advice me.

move on with the new guy .

Omo ti wa fun ni blow lenu

Jackson105:
Money don change hand

it's not even a case of money. It's a case of the strong protecting each other. They don't even need to pay a dime

Handsnigga:
Those living in Lagos should please advise, will it be worth it? I know transport and expenses in Lagos is higher than Ibadan but is it still a decision good enough?

Thanks

I currently live in Ibadan and I can confidently tell you that the difference in the cost of living is very small. Rent in Ibadan nowadays is almost like Lagos and transport is just marginally different

Dagger111:



Autocorrection bad oo

lol. I swear.

you will think body count does not matter until to ba do OBO to fe bi weyrey

WillyWonda1:
Right now I don’t even know what to think anymore.

My girlfriend of 2 years just got back from Ukraine after her master’s degree program and since then, she’s been frequently coming to stay with me since I’ve been on land and working from my office.

Last week, I was billed to go to our Portharcourt office because our vessel berthed there. So immediately I got the mail, I decided to quickly dash home, pick a few things I’d be needing and then move. So it happened that the electric current in the neighborhood was relatively low and couldn’t pump water and my generator isn’t in good shape. So she made arrangements for a generating set to pump water( she told me over the phone).

When I got home, I decided to park outside the gate since I was moving almost immediately. On entering the gate, I saw her and a certain boy carrying the generator to return cos the tank was already filled (she said she called the guy to help with the gen. They know each other before she traveled out).

So I just greeted them casually and they put the gem in my car and went to return it. So I decided to have a quick bath before embarking on my journey. To my greatest surprise, I saw a used condom wrapper in the bathroom. At that point, my whole body system changed and I couldn’t even bathe again. I just wore my clothes, and waited for her to return with my car so I could move. Not long after, she came back and I just told her to call me and explain what’s in the bathroom then I zoomed off.
She claims she doesn’t know anything about the condom, then later told me it was the guy that came with his girlfriend.

I’ve not picked her calls since then cos I don’t even know what to think anymore.
Please I need advice guys. I’ve not been home since last week cos I’m so disappointed in her.
A part of me wants to forgive her, but I’m being skeptical.

Guys please advise me cos I can’t trust her anymore. I’m devastated right now. I can’t even work well.

from that bucket, I think I know you and I think I’m the guy



Send the wh0re away

the problem is not this useless woman. The problem is we Nigerians don't have sense. Like I don't get why people still follow this satanic woman. For what exactly? If no one follows her or listen to her then she will fade away as she should

Golan007:
If it had been Kaduna or Abuja everyone would have blamed El-Rufai.

cos na eleribu him be

Prosperous111:
Snubs who for who?

I still don’t understand why they always make it looks like Messi and Ronaldo are sworn enemies.

People wey be say dem be Padi

Messi and Ronaldo are not 'padi' . Ronaldo is an immature lowlife who, despite being a great player is an immature crybaby

And what are we supposed to do about them being virgins?

Just as uncouth, loud and classless like her father.


The apple did not fall far from the tree

MITCHELL96:
If They don't give that Award to Lewandowski, then it's a BIG cheat!

lol. No be only lewandowski. For as long as Messi plays football he should win the Ballon D'or. No footballer, past or present is better than him

Mine was different. Few years ago I contacted someone who posted a phone ad and we agreed to meet at a popular restaurant. Called the Weyrey B4 I moved and he told me he was there. Got there and the SOB refused to pick call till I left lol



Wherever you are just know that you Will not die well

You deserve everything that happened to you

Very useless human being. Great musician but a thoroughly shitty person. Can't stand him . All that donation don't mean crap if all he does is fight people all year and his guys keep dropping dead like flies.

Rubbish

Yoruba men eating Yoruba food = news





Slow news day , eh?

This is just wickedness of the highest order. Sending people to lengthy jail terms cos of cannabis? Igbo that is everywhere like pure water? That is taken by everybody in government! Oh my God

This satanic govt wants to put us on collision course with their Islamic rival. We in the south don't give a crap about Sunni or Shia. Stop dragging us to your religious wars

Lilsameey:
,..Lmaoo,..Just accept your fate, me nah one yeye guy, Since I saw th guy, I warn this girl she no gree, The guy use am like toilet paper, he throway am for dustbin, She come dey use style come back myside, I do like sey, I never see am for my life. .

u no do well. If na me I go fxck am like 5 times then dump am

This life sha. A rat going about it's business ended up in the belly of the beast.

InTheCloudySky:
1. Get over your ex and accept that she's not coming back.

2. A relationship with your colleague + next-door neighbor = no-no. Find someone else.

why are you guys against office romance? It has worked out for thousands of other people. Also being in the same house or area should not deter you from doing someone.

IPIGSRSHALLOW:


If he had been a Christian with the same story, I bet you will be here praising jesus and posting rubbish about how he should go for thanksgiving at the church.
HYPOCRITE.
The level of hypocrisy in the Nigerian Christian community is pathetic.

alaye, I'm an Ijebu man. Ijebu no de get religion. We are Christian, Muslim and traditionalist all in one. I get pastors, Alfa and babalawo. So leave your religious bias aside.

Very foolish thing. Even if it's true, is th8s the right time for this? There are still people trapped under the rubbles and this low life and the fake muric interviewer are talking nonsense

EraseTheDot:
Bianca, my milf bitch.. Stop writing note to a dead cowardly cockloid. You never loved him than ffk. But i will use everything within my power to make sure i have a taste of your fairly used puffy pussy. My dream is taking you to Ibiza to go pipe your old yellow pussy with my thick dangling rod.


- erase the dot

People actually liked this bile you posted as comment? Lots of people here are sick

Lilsameey:
Exactly, this same stuff happened to me last month, The current passed through my hands straight to my brain, I thought I was dead

don't kill me ����

He overrates himself just like pogba

Foolish old man. As if he was perfect and never did anything stupid. It seem like these University egg heads are sadists. How about getting her punished or advised? Why expel her? The old fool even said he would prosecute her? Idiot

God please defeat my anger oo

oti bo sowo aiye

What are these idiots really feeling like? No talent, nothing. Just big head full of hot air

Correction: money to be embezzled just got increased