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Laurina David: The thing is this idea is usually brought up by the girl, but the the guy is saying it in this case, you need to be scared, he might be hiding something

Haha. These days, anyone that says it raises suspicions from all quarters. So, would you stay and reason it out patiently?

Laurina David: My reaction ; i would be like,
Dude, are you sure there's nothing wrong with your instrument? Does it come on at all, or there's no liquid inside? Please tell me the truth don't hide your weakness in christianity

Ordinarily, that would be the instinctive response. Alas, if you find out that all is well down there and inside him, what would be your next action?

[quote author=Mazi_Omenuko]@bolded lies the crux of the matter. The best way to treat low libido is not to abstain from sex; why suffer your partner because of a deficiency in your system?

@topic; NO, I WON'T! No sex, no relationship.

QED[/quote]Hmm. Rightly pointed out if it were more a matter of low sex drive than quite possibly keeping himself for his wife. However, as you said, it is debatable and would take some reasoning out. Thanks for the comment.

okpara ugo: What is it all about? The money!!!

Of course she has to consider a lot. There could be numerous reasons behind that resolve and if it had come out of a lady (one who has been deflowered specifically), you can only marvel at the standpoint guys would take. True?

lertee: I won't have a problem with that,i only need to be sure he is fit.
1. Can he sustain an ere**ction?
2. Is he free from any STI?
3. Can he shoot out spe**rm successfully after a massage or mouth action?
4. Does he get moved when he sees me?
5. Does he have any other girl he's sleeping with?
Once he passes these four then we are good to go till anytime he is ready for it. Atleast it will help me too focus.

Hmm. I like that five point agenda! Hmm. But you know if you have your way and get to test some of these, esp the first 3, there is every chance that your man would forget about all he said and "go for broke!"
Nonetheless, I believe one has to know what's up with a partner physically and otherwise from the outset and also uncover all there is to know/test when things are indeed getting serious. Thanks miss. I fancy your man is . . .

drnoel: had this discussion with my partner once and she threatened to rape me

Haha. Now that's the kinda lady I fancy: straight to the point! So, how did it go? Did you come to an agreement with her?

*Now Your Success Commences*
I had high hopes for Youth Service year: wanted to work and live in a place that made sense, and one which was far from home (the West). I got my wish and was posted to Akwa Ibom State. Then, it happened. . .

¤ I was a teacher, Mathematics, of SS1 in a remote school (the stereotypical primary assignment)
¤ I got another teaching job at a Private Missionary school, Maths & Physics, practically all senior classes
¤ Involved in tutoring adults for WAEC twice-a-week
¤ Amateur landscape and miscellaneous Photography (this started right from the Nsit-Atai Orientation Camp)
¤ Traveling and sampling delicacies, very important! (not quite sure how odd it was but I did).
As time passed, I enjoyed teaching despite praying against it prior to deployment, it turned out to be an awesome experience especially in the South-South. Still keep contact with some of the students I taught (the most hilarious and unforgettable things happened there).
NYSC still remains a useful tool for cultural integration in Nigeria.

Ini LGA, AK/12C

dBard: Wat am saying is, from onset, doubts may linger abt d guys virility due t it bin an aberration I.e 'y would a normal guy make such a request if dres nothing wrong'..emphasis on normal. Besides, most times, as d relationship progresses, a time will cum wen she'll demand f it which if turned down will b interpreted negatively, an indication she don't turn u on physically.
Not saying it's near impossible or such but that eventually, d onus will lie on d guy t kip it that way if really it is his intention.

**strolls on*

Haha. You must be one drama king (with all these strolls!) Anyway, I'm totally understanding that and truly, it won't be easy for a warm-blooded pair to steer clear of such.
Thanks for expounding. I am indeed wiser now.

*double-clicks*

dBard: Hmmm
A large % age of girls will say No Thanks.. Truth.
Females ve dis notion every guy is a sex freak, always wanting/demanding sex..that t dem is d norm. Anything outside that is regarded as an aberration n treated with suspicion.

Besides, a lot of girls jst Luv d sex n most equate sex t love .

**strolls out..*

Hah, you've said it from a male with-knowledge-about-the-female-psyche perspective. More often than not, I reckon it's exactly as you said but the ladies do not easily own up to being that sensually-driven. The stereotypical way out is that men are freaks.
Anyway, before you stroll too far, are you saying it'd take some convincing to keep the lady in question to stay in the relationship and that it simply is near impossible?

Blakjewelry: It is ok for a girl to say no sex until marriage but for a guy? i go expect every girl to test the thing abi e dey work well or na dey 1munite own o! Becos after marriage no going back o!

That is a solid point: marriage is it, no bend or curve but one way. Nonetheless, there are ways, methods and schemes to employ that would give a detailed report on the state of things down there and elsewhere. Savvy?
As a matter of fact, that is a salient step for would-be couples to take. Thanks man.

oyinbogirl: It might be hard sometimes if esp if I felt romantic! i can always respect wishes if there is a sound reasoning behind it. And as long as hes not getting it somewhere else - cant stand that. And he must truly love me too. And still needs to show me affection & make me still feel loved of course, that dosnt change. If this is all in place I am cool with it cos I am accepting of other means of love n affection cos love is a daily thing u can show so many ways who will care even abt d sex ? lol ok some will! but as for me, I look beyond to the bigger picture, I guess cant put an actual time on it...but months or even years . I will wait till he is ready

Wow. And I so admire your stand on it. Beautiful! He surely has to be faithful, committed and affectionate to compensate for that. Hmm. I hope she sees it this way though.
Thank you very much. In fact, 3 cheers to you!!!

Corky Joe: ...then u r 300,000,0000,000% ga,y!!!

Haha. That's your response...only an effeminate man would choose not to have sex before marriage? Really?
Well, let's not even get to how lascivious and degenerate the state of man has gotten to.

Where the shawties at?
Ladies, how would y'all react to this? I want your views please. Let them roll in>>

lipsyliscious: welcomed ni welcomed ko! English is hard oh! Btw with all d gifts flying around, I should probably get myself a bf, bt guys always run, cos it's nt just 25th dey hv 2 tink of, my bday is 24th

Wow. You seem to be an advanced sales rep...I likey. And happy birthday to you (in a week's time anyway).

USbabe: If i had a guy i would get him the cologne "Creed" so he can smell good for me all the time..but guys some of you have nice ideas..but don't do the ordinary pleasee..love is in the air

Aww. There are great guys here you know. If you're in the least bit interested, you could the brother a holla. Seriously.

eunisam: i wil discontinue!

Hmm. Funnily, that is a very ubiquitous theme on Nairaland. Every man claims to have such disposition. However, isn't it possible to maintain a true and deep relationship without sex?

oyinbogirl: would depend on how he is in the other aspects of the relationship .....its not always all abt sex

Interesting and well said. So how long would be willing to go without it with a great guy who really has you twirling?

49cents: Deep down your a guud dude it so happens tha NL only helps you escape into fantasy..... Remember the son of who you are

You got that right. We are all in the world but not everyone has to bend to every whim and desire. That's just pitiful.

BigBlackDick: Healthy Relationship Requires good Sex

I see. Depends on the kind of relationship you mean: an amorous one, committed kind or simply a tryst?

Enegod: This question makes no sense. A relationship starts
when you have sex the first time.

Is that right? Well, this relationship started from friendship into companionship and now romance. However, there is a no sex clause. Still unreasonable to you?

Corky Joe: ..No to punny?

Yes sir. Apologies for my timing. No sex initiated by the man. How do you see it?

Y'ello everyone!

So I am sharing this experience where a guy who is an item with a lady asked her if she would be okay with their relationship having no form of sexual intercourse indefinitely. They are adults, have been dating for a few months and neither is a "V" but the guy supposedly has some serious shackles on his libido.
Now, the question goes thus: how would you honestly react to a guy that says such? For one, say you are accustomed to having forms of gratification in the past, especially when you and your partner had intense chemistry. So, how would you approach this?

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baralatie: Go and read d book of proverbs d solution is there!

Guess I know where you're coming from with this. As if growing up with an impertinent sibling wasn't enough, I wonder how bad it'd be building a home with a contentious partner.
Thanks for the view.

[quote author=imsu.boi] I have.




[/quote]And what did you do? How bad was it? Did you overcome it?

kokoA: Bros, you are not giving her that "thing" well enough.. When I had a babe, I usually get excited when she starts getting angry because I know its going to end joyfully for two of us.

And by that, you mean gratification. Let's just say we ain't getting into that on this side of the coin. However, there are other ways to show affection and I doubt that's the cause. Thanks man.

Please, your contributions are welcomed people. Please I need opinions, it's an usual spot for me but not unheard of, is it?

Flashaldrin: Buy a good haier thermocool fridge. Put her head inside. Allow to cool for 18hrs.

Aye, aye sir. What's next after that - make a milkshake or just ice cubes? *Funny*
On a serious note, how would you react to such a partner? And one you really care about.

Castos: Good, find the reason/s for her misbehaviours. If you want to make her your partner for life, investigate this problem from her family members to know the root of this problem if it had a cause. Seek professional advice, and find the best way to deal with this problem as calm as ever. If you don't plan to make her your wife, and if you don't really want to go extra miles bothering yourself with remedy findings and diagnoses, then please break every bond you have with her. Am not so good at this but I believe I've tried for you. Please always keep your composure and don't ever lay your hands on her!

I appreciate it sir. And yes, she is quite special to me that's why I want us to overcome this glitch. She amazes me with the attitude but no, I won't and can't touch her. No. I was not raised and I am not that kind of man. Thank you again.

Leo Adewale: Brother, if I were in your shoes eh, I won't think twice before I leave that babe. But before that, I'll find out why the hell she's behaving like that.....

Yes man, you have a point there. I am of the mind that either this is her way of handling our relationship or this is who she really is. Now, the 1st option could be managed but the 2nd is not quite great.
Another could be that . . . she has not got a lot of respect for me (which is the worst however).

On a deeper note, I tend to see it as her way of being in a relationship and reacting to one. Maybe, just maybe her past experience with guys has made her produce this supposed skin and/or behaviour. Or is this just who she is?? **Hot-tempered persons ain't much fun oh** The level of instability in them freaks me.

[quote author=imsu.boi] seriously? [/quote]Yes, really. Haven't you had/heard a similar experience?

Castos: I have this female neighbour who always like to pick offences with me. After each face off, she'll not talk to me till I do and whenever I do, she talks and talks and talks, it will just seem as if nothing ever happened. It might be the same with your girlfriend. I found out that she loves me so much but I never knew it till I was told by another female neighbour. You see, most girls don't know how to be romantic, either they cover it up with it's opposite and might sometimes cost them their desired man. It might be something you did or always do. Try talk to her, I sincerely believe that she'll open up. At first she might deny or say nothing is wrong but something is wrong but don't take it to be similar to my case.

Wow. Thank you very much. You made an excellent point there: she might not be doing it on purpose rather instinctively. Hmm.