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Gerrad59, you are entitled to your opinion but I think you should have found a way of expressing it without sounding derogatory to some set of people.

Too many unneccesary statements and words in my opinion.

People with low IQ should not get married

Anyway, there will always be poor people.

It depends on how you see it.

I will protect my child for as long as I can, there are mistakes one will make that will change the course of that life for ever and the person wont be able to retrace his/her steps. I don't believe in this "make your mistakes and learn from them " statement I have seen that phrase twice today. I would rather ensure that my child doesn't make that mistake.

Its not even in this current situation of the country one won't protect his/her child, with what someone is reading on NL front page.


Most of the things we call over protectiveness now was normal some times ago.

Watched all.

Nice movies to learn from.

Fireproof and warroom are quite nice.- Godly principles.
Temptations is also another good one - The grass is not always greener on that other side. That movie is a powerful one sha. That guy just used sweetmouth charms and attention to capture the girl, One shouldn't listen to advice from people that are like Kim kardashian in that movie.



I also think "why did I get married"," why did I get married too" "The family that preys" all by Tyler perry are good .

One thing is certain they have accepted you and they are they thinking this is the man for our daughter

Provisions is not to much to give to a corper going to Camp especially one dating your daughter and as for the apartment are you living there permanently? Is it not for a while, won't you hustle and make your own money?

If it was your family doing same for your girlfriend would she question it, If a neutral family helped you with an apartment/gave provisions wont you accept it or is it because its her family doing it. Its not likr after camp they were bringing the provisions on a monthly basis, I guess they just felt provions is something you need while in camp. After Nysc if they offer to use their influence to get you a good job won't you accept?

I have not seen anything in your writeup that you need to be concerned about, except your intentions towards the lady are not pure.

This your vain glory thinking won't help you at all.

By the way I think your posting and PPA were influenced.

People learn these points the very hard way.

If you talk about it they say what's your own, somethings are not necessary at all. Nairaland is even better you can be anonymous if you want and post the story of your life nobody will notice, you will just be another random poster but on Facebook its not so in fact I feel its the worst place to post things about yourself.

I saw a Facebook friend making posts on her timeline with pictures about every stage of her relationship, right from how he wooed her till their engagement with details and I was so surprised, too much details for the public in my opinion.

People even post their movement schedule on FB with how security is in this country. You see posts likr "just arrived at XYZ", " just left ABC", "On my way to osogbo" and they cant even think that people can trace their movement . You land somewhere, you update on your timeline, you enter plane you update, eat chicken you update, get pregnant you update, achieve something you update, everything about some peoples life is on Facebook and Instagram.

You create unneccessary enemies for yourself, expose yourself to robbers and those who are just looking for people to envy.


Why should someone know everything about you from the social media.

All these exposure is not necessary

5minsmadness:
What does orishirishi mean?

Hmm it doesn't really have a defined meaning I think.


Its like an exclamation, in this context it sort of means " seeing different things everyday" but literarily it means different things.

Orishirishi

Loveprotocol:
God bless you my sister, I appreciate you. I have actually surprisingly showed up at her church one Sunday morning and I make bold to say that was one of the turning point in our 'relationship' so far. She was surprised to see me and because she was the Head of the Hospitality unit, she was the one that attended to first timers. She just smiled and asked me who invited me in a sarcastic manner and I said she's the one. That was the day I broke the ice cos she became more free with me, tried to give me her IV to enter a state function later in the evening when we met there (cos my IV was with someone coming late) and she surrendered her BlackBerry PIN to me that evening. As for dates, she is begging me to be patient with her on that. Maybe she's scared of what might happen when people must have seen us a couple of times on a date and then we are no longer an item. Just my thought.
I am no longer rushing her, in fact I've stopped calling and texting, she is the one doing that now even if it's not everyday.

If she's saying you should be patient be patient , I do think you should call her too. But not bombardment with calls oo.

I do understand the people seeing together and then if it doesn't work toungues will wag part especially church people

She knows your intention, you know your intention , You have done your part (the chasing/ expression of intention) just wait it out. Besides you can always talk to God about it since he's the one that led you.


Invite us to the wedding oo

Why is everybody thinking she is not interested?

Loveprotocol just be patient, shes probably thinking about the proposal and trying to be careful, that's all.


If she is not she won't have called you up, in fact she wouldn't have tuned to your program not to talk of noticing you were absent. She may actually be doing serious checks on you now at least she too would have to pray about it since shes a spiritual person or do you expect her to go ahead based on your own confirmation? A lot of ladies do not just say yes to proposals of people they have not known well.

Just be patient joor, its not a big issue and please this one you say you guys don't have time for dates its not a good thing too. Even if its someone's wedding invite her. You can also go observe her in her church on a sunday You know more about people when you see them interacting with others.


I have heard stranger/more difficult stories and they are married happily.This one is small now.

Don't rush her, just let it flow she will come around.

May God grant you your heart desire bro.

What is it with akwaibom and torturing small children.



I don't think its a coincidence that a step mum is involved again in this case , there was a step mum involved in that other one on FP.

So toturing removes witchcraft abi?
Herbalist is calling someone a witch

If you don't have phobia for water,rent at Ikorodu (somewhere close to the jetty) and ply speed boat/ferry everyday.
Alternatively Ijanikin-Agbara side for that 250k but stress oo.

Mile2 is also okay but you will add money too, like 300k

Best bet is add like 600k to the 250k and rent around Yaba, surulere,etc but if you really have just 250k Ikorodu is better you just have to be concerned about safety while on the boat. I would rather pass the road than ply through the lagoon anyway.

She's above 40
She's a widow
Her religion permits it.

I thought people would have reasoned she is not a young woman when they said she's the 2nd daughter of the president. Her mum is not Aisha now.

Why the huffing and puffing.


As for the first wife what she did there was very immature .

People forget that the church is both for the sinners and is also a place of sanctuary for the saved. The church is not for sinners alone. Its also for those who are trying to build up their christain life, its also for baby christains and mature christains. Why then will a Christain be tempted right in Gods house. If one can't differentiate between a church setting and a social gathering or even a club there is a big problem.

We deceive ourselves with the come as you are , and God sees the heart only doctrine, we forget that the Bible also says we should present our bodies as a living sacrifice holy and acceptable to God. Is dressing with your boobs on show holy? Is it acceptable to God, do you think you are presenting your body dressed like that acceptable to God.Who told you God is not interested in your outward appearance? Your appearance/dressing is a reflection of your heart.

There's also the gospel of grace we abuse a lot, we forget that the same bible that says his grace abounds for us also says shall we continue in sin that grace may abound God forbid.

Until we begin to balance scriptures and not take one part and forget the other part we will still have this issue.

Its a double edged sword

God is a God of mercy and also a God of judgement and a God of justice and a God of vengance, we seem to remember he is merciful and forget the other aspects of him.


If you are out there and you are still causing people to fall right in the church with your dressing under the pretext of God sees the heart only you are on a long thing , and there is a reward for making other people fall.

You dress indecently you go out and dress properly simple, don't be a stumbling block to others.

The most annoying part of it all is that it's not even new converts that dress like that most times its people who claim to have been christains for a while.Even new converts cover up the next time they are coming.

Thank God I am not an usher.

Bros, are you not the same person on this thread.

https://www.nairaland.com/3220004/how-stop-teenage-girl-falling#47457066


If you are I think you have been given enough advice already.

Babe, I advise that you run and don't look back. Please don't fall into the December marriage trap i.e all these abroad guys that will be looking for naija wife to marry and keep in naija after they have someone over there.

The truth of the matter is he will likely marry(if he hasn't already) her for papers. Thank God he is honest and has told you about her, most guys wont.

I have seen it happen several times and it follows the same pattern. Marry and keep her in naija- come home every December or once in 2 years-send money and clothes or items- Take care of the children alone if she gets pregnant- he comes impregnates her again and the cycle continues.Is that a marriage.

The funny part of it is most times plans are not made for the wife to join hubby because of the wifey over there.


Do you want to see your husband once in a year possibly December only? Can you live with the thought that your hubby is married to someone else.You see the loneliness I see you mentioning in your posts is what will most likely happen if you even consider his proposal.

Let me tell you the story of my ex-flat mate.
About 2 years ago she saw a guy she used to date that was abroad during December celebration in the village that had said he wanted to marry her, somehow they met again after like 5 years it was just a meeting of chance.

The guy told her just the way he is telling you that someone is helping him, he has a lady etc etc and that she even has a child for him. I don't know how it happend but between Dec 21st that we parted from our flat and mid January my friend was engaged to this guy and to make matters worse she slept with him during those 3 weeks. To now crown it all she became pregnant she discovered after he left so they were hurrying to see if the family could pay the bride price, somehow it just didn't happen then.

After he left his papers were already expiring he had to marry the British lady in March, So he married her and was still making arrangement for bride price here.My friend was all alone during pregnancy, childbirth, he's sending money for the baby too but will money buy companionship oh and No visit too. He didn't visit naija.

When she had the baby and I visited her she exclaimed and said she won't advise anyone to go through what she did, she did everything alone.

These are the kind of proposals you shouldn't even think about twice, there are too many horror stories of abroad wife and naija wife even on nairaland.

There was a particular thread this issue was seriously trashed out. Let me see if I can dig it.


PLEASE RUN

Nice thread, Shadeyinka following

dfrost:
Have you ever been in a situation that that you almost got lynched for trying to do the right thing in Nigeria?

Gosh! We're something else in this country.

Loool, I know that feeling

I had to take an elderly person to the general hospital recently, had some experiences(not necessarily scam-like in nature) but still terrible IMO and remembered this thread again. I did notice the payment system is now different which is better.

We still have a long way to go in naija when it comes to healthcare.

Yes

Besides how many people earn up to 50k monthly in naija except we want to deceive ourselves, Nairalanders are never realistic sha.

Alll the people/relatives I know that are successful today started small like this and they are okay today.

I don't advise men that have small income to keep postponing marriage, once you have something small and a lady that can start with you why not, you will go places together. I do know that two are better than one. You keep postponing , do you want to use your retirement benefits to train children.

All these can I get married with 50k /70k threads upsets me sometimes, go for it within your means , have a small ceremony and start your life together .

I didn't expect anything less.



The dress code here is even the standard for members so I don't expect the wedding to be different.

Like Dr Olukoya always says if you can't keep to the way things are done in MFM you can look for another church wherr those things are accepted. No wahala. You like MFM prayers and sermons but you don't want to keep to their doctrine.

Holiness within and without.

I wonder why people complain about some church doctrines when its not against the Bible. If its not biblically wrong why the hullabo.

Thank God for the church, a lot of destinies have been repositioned for greatness there.

chinanu123:
yetseyi, Pls don't disagree with me on this b'cos I am speaking from experience. I was sent back to Nigeria b'cos of the one I obtained at Isolo LGA, let me stop here.

Okay, do you mind expantiating further, what was the problem with the one from Isolo. Don't mind my questions its the first time I am seeing someone that was affected by this. Most people I know did theirs at LG(within Lagos and outside Lagos) and had no issues at all so I am always surprised with the No ikoyi cert no travelling statement that flies around.

chinanu123:
Yea, if you wana travel with your spouse pls go to fed court at Ikoyi.

This assertion that if you don't do your court wedding at ikoyi you won't be able to travel is wrong, very wrong. People have applied for visas and travelled with certificates gotten from local govt, people I know personally
Its the same certificate.




Zaramdgreat if you want to use Ikoyi its okay I just had to state the above

Bollove:
she has just blocked her own influence over the government in the future, she just blocked her self respect among the cabals because, now, the president would be advised to cut her to sizes now!!!!

Exactly, This is one major ( or even the only) reason I will always respect Turai Yaradua although they said she stole money. She held a whole country to ransom during Yaradua saga and you will never hear pim. She wielded enormous influence without saying so much.
One should be able to balance it especially if your husband is a powerful man either politically, religiously,or even if he is holding just a top position at work.

Now everybody will be advising Mr president to cut her to size , People who ordinarily their opinion should not matter will start giving opinions.

I wouldn't do what she did if I were in her position.

My loyalty is to my husband FIRST, party affiliations ,appointments even the presidency itself are secondary, the marriage has been there before being a president and will still be there after he leaves office.I will just see the being the first family as another phase in our lives, why cause cracks in your marriage because of a phase.

People should never question your loyalty to your husband even if he's the president .


Even if Buhari is the worst leader out there, you shouldn't come out publicly to say he is being controlled/influenced by others even though everybody knows its true. Other people can say it, but not Aisha.
What she has said is true but it should not be from her mouth.

Every woman has influence power and for her to come out and say this shows it seems he has not been listening to her advice or they have not been spending quality time together.

She should have been diplomatic while granting that interview, she could have evaded some questions too. Now even the opposition will use it against the presidency.

I admire Dolapo Osinbajo a lot, now I don't blame her for being very low key.

May our loyalty never be tested.

TV01:
1. You get to decide whether you give or not, they get to decide how they wish to proceed. Rendering assistance doesn't give you "ownership", or even rights as such. Is that overly difficult to comprehend?

2. And her antecedents are not necessarily instructive to her future. And even if she cannot, her family - who by the way have been there until now - are next in the hierarchy - not those of us here.


3.Believe what you will, she asked for assistance, she didn’t agree to sign away her freewill, or sign up for a new god , and it says more about those who will think, write and justify that, than it does about her.


4.If she would simply humble and apply herself she’d have a decent chance to make a good go of things. The crusading effort here is mostly "gist and preening" and will serve mostly to enable her on her current path.


TV

Oga TV Nice points

thorpido:
You could have gone to a business center to charge your phone since.It is just N50.
Please charge your phone this night and let me know if I can meet you at 7am tomorrow at Igando bust stop.

please I am sending you a PM about this issue, very important





Somehow I found that her story though a bit disjointed is true,The battery issue too is true , I chatted and spoke with her on watsap before the phone "died" again and asked why has she not said anything since and she said its been dead since and she just charged it I even doubt she saw this recent post of thorpido about meeting at the bustop before the phone went off again.I have advised she put her sim in a small phone if she has one around when this one drains. She asked I should explain the battery issue to you which I just did. I also have her address but I am not chanced to go there .I dont think is proper to post here but I think I can give to some one who wants to verify She would be home.
If she can contact thorpido before tomorrow I believe she would meet him at Igando bustop but with this her phone issue I doubt that will be possible.

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I don't understand why people are rejoicing rice will be cheaper, the last time I checked rice was >12,000naira at Ceme (I understand that exchange rate may have affected) but rice is more expensive than before at Ceme.
The transportation and settling customs officers fee and of course profit was what drove the price to 18k and above.I was surprised when people were blaming the president for the price hike.

This will even make it more expensive , import duty 10%, levy 60% .
Is it the women smuggling the rice that will pay these fees, they will end up bribing more than normal and of course this will reflect on the price and the imported rice will be far more expensive I directly forcing us to eat our rice.

The only difference is they may no longer have to smuggle the rice but those levies will make it difficult for the price to come down, even if they smuggle and bribe its still the same.

Its very likely the price won't go down, I won't be surprised if there is a hike in price.

iomoge2:


Error i guess.
Sowrie.... was just angry o jare.

issorait, apology accepted