₦airaland Forum

Kccheechy:
women are weaker vessles.

Fussion1000:
The way you reason sickened, in fact I salute your wife, she is the one making your marriage workable.


Because I haven't be in UK, does that mean I won't say happenings in UK?

So many great footballers struggle to make impact as coaches, ask of Viera, Nevile, Henry even Maradona etc. While people who never played football or not great during their time as players are making waves...

Going by ur illustration, since Mourhino never played football he won't knw how to coach players and win trophies.


So many singles are giving far better opinions on this post than you do.

You keep emphasising on spiritual, no practical clue on how to succeed on marriages, when marital issue is pure practical.

Gamesmart:
Just give am middle finger, that is the simple favour I asked of you.

He has not done well in your life, he deserves it!

Gamesmart:
AAAAAHHHH!

Una dey see how women bring unnecessary arguments into ones life?

So it has moved from "anything" to "barely a sentence"?

God dey!

CAPSLOCKED:
I DON'T HAVE TO FINGER MAD44 BECAUSE I'VE FIGURED IT'S NOT THE ONLY MODERATOR ACTING ON THE INFLUENCE OF CHEAP THRILLS.
YOU DON'T HAVE TO BREAK ANY RULES TO BE SILENCED. YOU JUST HAVE TO SPEAK THE "TRUTH".
LOOK AT THE FRONTPAGE. RULE BREAKERS AND SPAMMERS LEFT AND RIGHT. BUT IT IS YOUR OWN HONEST AND IMPORTANT OPINION THAT AN ADMIN DOESN'T WANT TO SEE SIMPLY BECAUSE IT MAKES HIM/HER UNCOMFORTABLE.
THE PLAN IS TO KEEP SCREENSHOTS OF EVERY POST. OR SAVE PAGES ON SIMPLE BROWSERS SO WE ALWAYS REPLACE ANYTHING THEY DELETE, INSTANTLY.

Jodha:
Unmarried people have no say about marriages ...got it...

Mind yhu... even if I've not gone yhu the spiritual and counseling and whatever yhure talking about...

I have experience...experiences I've witnessed from first hand from married couples... it's only a fool that wouldn't learn from the mistakes of others....

I don't have to be married...to know what marriage is all about..

GLYCOLYSISS:
They were just being mischievous !
Trying to prevent TRP from reaching other men ? Dead on arrival !
Do you really think Mr seun is going to do anything about that ? I appreciate his is open minded, but I'm hugely skeptical on these (him calling his mods to order ,let alone sacking them ).
Things like these, I just wave them off and move on, man, especially when I get that feeling my complains will barely yield anything tangible.

Gamesmart:
So high quality physical appearance is not part of what the man should find in the "right" woman.

Men are supposed to have erections based on your personality?

And when fine girl walks pass, then he should not even give her a second looking because his wife has a nice personality.



You women and your self-delusions/wishful thinking.

That is one of the major causes of marriage failures.

Working based on delusions, not reality, is a perfect recipe for failure. And most women have a PhD in this.

Martinez39s:
In that post to bouncing04, I recommended Ubunja's miseducations, my meme threads and your thread. I told him to digest the meme threads and your thread first, and I supplied links. Before I could say Jack Robinson, the post was deleted by a moderator.

Shortly before that post, I told the OP to save himself the trouble and forget marriage and that post wasn't deleted. A moderator was trying to hide OP from the red pill, or a female reported to the moderator who simply simped out. Seun Osewa needs to sack some of his moderators. I violated no rule yet that post was deleted.

^{CAPSLOCKED, MJBOLT, Ubunja, Luminouz, JONNYSPUTE}

Kccheechy:
So many people are here voicing rubbish!! Who are we to blame for the bad marriages being talked about?? Parents train your children in the way of the lord so when they are old they won't depart from it!!! How many women still groom their girls to be respectful and a prospective wife material?? How many women still teach their girl child to dress and cover up properly as a woman? How many men teach their sons how good to treat and respect women and see them as humans instead of sex objects?? How many men teach their sons to stand up and protect women and treat them like princesses starting with their sisters? How many women still teach their female children in this age to preserve their body till they get married?? HOW MANY RESPONSIBLE AND REASONABLE PARENTS ARE OUT THERE SEF?? We live in a world where mothers are encouraging their girl child in the slay queen trend and go after material things instead of instilling core values and virtues into them. We live in a world where fathers Take pride in their sons having girlfriends and start smashing pussy at a very young age, instead of teaching them the realities of life, teach them to be hardworking and to see women as people to be loved, respected and defended!! A child that grows up in a family where he can see display of love is visible between his parents, how his father cherishes and take care of his wife and how his mother respect and adores her husband as the head of the house, will definitely desire to get married and be like them one day. But what do we have today?? You see parents taking their children to the club, even giving their children shisha to smoke just for social media frenzy... Mothers today are sexualizing their girl child, dressing them up as prostitutes in the name of western fashion!!! Bleaching their skin, fixing Brazilian or Peruvian hair on them, applying makeup on girls who are not even up to 10yrs old, introducing them to social media at an age where they should be learning about the values of life. How can such girl grow up to become reasonable and responsible with that kind of mother?? If parent trained their children well, all this problems would be very minimal..

Gamesmart:
I know the difference between something that works and something that does not work.

Anything that people do not allow to work falls under the category of "something that does not work".

Anything that mostly fail and is below success expectation rates falls under the category of "something that does not work".

E.g. NEPA is supposed to give us 24 hours light 365 days a year but is only giving us 6 hours of light a day (even if it gives 5% of Nigerians 24 hours a day) means NEPA does not work, it is a failed arrangement.

Marriage does not work, it is a failed arrangement. Even if you can find some "blissful" marriage.

Martinez39s:
I sent you links to my two meme threads and GLYCOLYSISS'S red-pill thread but a moderator deleted the post. There is a deliberate attempt to hide the red pill about female nature from you. Please check the threads. Forget about marriage and swallow the red pill.

showafrica:
Marriage is like every other business, just make sure you are the boss all the way. The aim of business is to make profit and the aim of marriage is to make legal babies. Which ever one, make sure you are the boss. During dating, sack anyone who is likely to challenge your captainship and marry the best subordinate. Na men dey bring wahala to themselves not screening the lady before marriage.

tonididdy:
My gf is originally 80% boring.
I always have to push to start a conversation or a joke.
At this point, I am almost run out on efforts.



... Me I can't marry oh.

emkz:
Look at your moniker and ask yourself if you are qualified to discuss matters of love. For your information, read my submission I made on another thread some months ago:



And please, don't tell me to pay attention to God. I find that insulting. If you are truly a Christian, you'd understand that every Christian's relationship with God is personal. My relationship with God is between me and Him and you must never mention it in your discussion because it is not your business.

lekki1444:
as a seasoned veteran the truth of the matter is that many african women will make marriage a nightmare because they dont have other passions in ther life. if a woman does not have a passion do not marry her because she will be waiting on you all the time to bring joy into her life and you are not capable of that.. and if she has no passion she will spend her time with vanity such as wasting money on clothes nails and hair. Look for a woman who has a strong passion be it Yoga, reading novels, exercising, coding, sewing, painting, making arts and crafts etc etc. women like this will leave you with enough space to breath and you will enjoy each others company as you both indulge in your own seperate passions. THE MAN MUST HAVE A PASSION TOO. because truth be told LIVING ALONE CAN GET OLD AND BORING ESPECIALLY AS YOU START GETTING TO 50. YOU DONT WANT TO BE THE 50 YEAR OLD GUY IN THE CLUB LOOKING FOR TEENAGERS WHILE ALL THE YOUNG BOYS ARE LAUGING AT YOU BEHIND YOUR BACK

Also part of both of your passion should involve some kind of spirituality and some kind of body improvement regime like exercise

fireprince14:
I think the reason why marriage is so messed up nowadays is because of our reasons for doing it. Marriage at its core is a partnership not a fairy tale or a constant booty call. You both come together to combine resources to build something bigger than either of you. If you love each other, no wahala but love is not a requirement. Like any other partnership though, you must be friends or at least tolerate one another well enough. You set the rules for your marriage based on what you can both deal with not what society dictates.

The trick is finding someone whose broken pieces fit your own. We dread fucking one pussy as if sex is food or "keeping my man" as if sex is currency.

To the OP, I won't tell you to ignore the naysayers here because they all have a point despite being misogynistic blokes. Read the positive and negative comments and then focus on the person you're with. Observe carefully and objectively every part of her. The good and the bad. Women can be absolutely crazy but they can also be incredibly divine. You'll find both ends of the spectrum in one woman and your readiness for marriage depends on how you can handle both sides of her. Once you're sure you can deal with all her aspects, it's time for your own examination. Do you want marriage for sex, a status symbol, a daycare institution or a housekeeper arrangement? Are you being honest about your bad sides too? Can you marry yourself if you have to?

Once you have resolved all this, then hold on to your realisations in the years to come when she gains weight in the wrong places or when you lose your job. When you're tired of the sex or when the silences get longer. These are the things that will keep your partnership going.

Above all, don't ever forget to pray all the time.

Good luck.

onlinestaff2020:
Hello Nairalanders,

This post is actually coming at the right time. Marriage has really been a pain in the ass for me.

My madam has been giving me headache for more than 13 years and even up till now.

Can you believe that because of my work and cost of transport which I spend close to N1500, I have decided to stay at my working place for sometime and go back home during the weekends.

Last week when I was around, my wife has been brooding and she told me nothing is the matter with her after I tried to prompt her.

Fast forward to today, after some days, she called me and started calling me names that I have not changed that I have a wife and daughter outside. This is totally unfounded.

Me that have not slept and have been sleeping in the ICT room on bare floor, just because of transport matter, is being accused wrongly.

I felt seriously bad.

Marriage is indeed a scam.

It's better to remain single, have a child/children from a baby mamma and move on freely without a baggage called a wife.

A woman is a man's worst nightmare.

They can kill joy.

Ghostmode2two:
There is no perfect marriage and you shouldn't be scared of going into marriage. Just put it in your heart that nobody is perfect and anything can happen so you won't be disappointed and heart broken should the worst scenario happen. I have been married for over 17 years now, just this year my wife exhibited something tilting towards cheating, I called and told her that I didn't say she should not have sex outside but she should not do it under my roof, that if she finds a man she love more than me and she is ready to marry such a man, she should tell me and I will divorce her so she can marry whoever she want. Later she called me, saying she have a confession to make, I told her I am not interested in her confession because I am not God. If she has done something bad that warrants confession, she should confess to her God as she seems a Christian. Till date she is afraid of me, she told me she explained everything to someone outside and the person told her that I have very strong policies. I also told her that I don't trust her anymore also told her that whenever I get her caught in any funny situation as regards cheating, I will not be surprise at all!

foreveryoung1515:
Marry your friend. that's what I didn't do and I do regret it over and over again.

Missssii:
1. Marry a good hearted person.
2. Be a good husband. Don’t do to her what you wouldn’t want her to do to you.
3. Have some savings that can sufficiently take care of a family. Financial issues can ruin the best of people.
4. Do not have children for at least, the first year of marriage. Use that time to understand your partner and form a bond.
5. Do not have relatives or friends live with you for the first year of marriage. Visits shouldn’t be more than 3 days. Nosy family and friends are the number one cause of issues in young marriages.
6. Let God lead in all you do. As the head of the home, it is important you have a direct bond with God because even the Bible says the husband is the head of the home and the blessings flow from the husband to the wife. That’s why he opens his head in prayers while she covers her own. If the head is weak, the body is open to all sorts of attacks.
7. Do not start things you cannot finish. If you’re the type that doesn’t believe in cooking or cleaning, let her know during courtship so you both can plan your responsibilities. You cannot be Tony Umez in courtship then turn into Pete Edochie during marriage. It is a sure way to kill whatever love may exist between the two of you.
8. Avoid unnecessary interference from family, friends and most especially, religious people. Do what works for you both no matter how unconventional it may seem to others.
9. Be patient and honest but do not enable misbehavior in any form. In a calm and firm manner, let your partner know what they did to offend you and sort out all issues to avoid any form of lingering resentment.
10. Enjoy yourselves. Go on dates, knack in the sitting room, kitchen etc. You both are now one before God and should explore your bodies and minds to the fullest.

That’s all I know.

emkz:
I regretted mine, not necessarily for what she did but for my inability to follow my instincts about her which could have prevented the calamity. We were not married but things had been done towards that like introduction and trad before kasala burst. I was happy kasala burst before we went farther.

For anyone who wants to get married, by all means do so...but marry for the right reasons. You first need to understand yourself and your own limitations. If your aim is to have children, perhaps a contractual arrangement suffices. Unfortunately, many marriages today are not different from service contracts: I will provide shelter, food and security while you provide pussy when I want it and how I want it, and you must not provide it to someone else. Or I am marrying you because society expects and would respect me to be married as it shows I am responsible.

The Dutch Prime Minister is single.

Or I'd marry you only because I love you. These are wrong reasons to be married. For a potential spouse, look at compatibility, companionship, communication, character and charisma. Exude these qualities yourself and you shall find it in your potential partner. Love will fade, the butterflies in your stomach shall die, your partner shall irritate you, what then would hold your marriage?

The stories of wayward men and women are told everyday on this forum. Don't let them deter you. There are very good men and women from very good homes who are responsible to be wifed or husbanded. I know this because all my sisters have been married for years and no one has come to report that they have issues with them.

Don't go looking for a wife. Develop yourself and have the values of someone husbandable, creation will link you to your spouse.

In closing, my question to you is:

Why exactly do you want to get married? Are you truly convinced of the answer you give yourself?

EagleNest:
Glorifying "bad boys" from sexual satisfying perspective is weak. From experience, one constant factor with nearly all women is "money". That's the confidence and security they want!

blacknp:
Why? The Bible can be interpreted in many versions by whoever is purporting to comprehend, your assertion doesn’t make it fact.

Janosky:
Bros, Genesis 1:27 "God created man in his own image,in the image of God He created him male and female" (Compare Matthew 19:4).

Bros, according to Genesis 1:27, quoted by Jesus Christ (Matthew 19:4), God is "He"/ His".

Bros , "He" (God) is how many spirits?
Is "His"/He" a reference to 3 (Triune)?

God, Yahweh "created the Universe THROUGH His Son" and "all the angels shouted for joy."

Yahweh created Man and the Universe THROUGH His Son, Jesus Christ in presence of heavenly angels.

"Let us make man" is a direct speech to all sons (angels) of God.
(Worthy of note: In the spirit realm, Jesus calls himself "Son", Paul calls him "Son" ,Rev 1:5-6. 3:5,12,21. Hebrew 1:1-2. Galatians 4:4)

Hebrews 1:1-2 and Job 38:4-7 throws away Trinitarian FRAUD of Genesis 1:26 into the dustbin.

sanity12:
Education is Important, I am not saying until u acquire PHD ...It gives u lot of opportunities

Amotolongbo:
How long shall this clueless and inept administration continue to mask the terrorism they unleashed on the people of this country?

The same way they acted to douse off the killing of farmers in Maiduguri by bribing some indigenes to tell a new story of the massacre to absolve the NA and government.

PDP as the major opposition party is so useless. I wonder how the media and press will be if APC with Lai Mohammed is still in the opposition.
Just imagine how APC took the Chibok girls incidence that time as an opposition party

LeeSantos:
after God, is money.

God hate lazy People.
if you can work to make $billion, do it, & spend it on whatever Ur eye lost for.
& let the poor ones keep shouting vanity.

congratulations to dem

Zzor:
coming from an unrepentant cheat and chronic womanizer smh